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00:00Okay, now I'm getting bugs.
00:08Thanks!
00:10En route to the unique retreat are Lauren and Tom from Exeter.
00:15It kind of feels like, you know when you go on a really, really scary roller coaster right before you're about to drop?
00:21Their relationship goes back to when they were teenagers.
00:25We've known each other for 16 years.
00:27Lauren's brother is one of my best mates and now I can't talk about women issues with him.
00:34Just three months ago, Tom's dreams came true when he proposed.
00:39Look at that rock on your finger.
00:41She just makes me basically. She keeps me on my feet, definitely.
00:45The couple's passion for one another extends to their sex lives.
00:50I'm a huge adrenaline junkie and when it comes to sex life, the same.
00:55Tom fully understands what I'm like and to be honest, joins me.
01:00Yeah, if I could, I'd have sex all the time. I love it.
01:04The frisky couple have already attempted to open up their relationship, but with disastrous consequences.
01:11I really, really wanted to be able to explore whether that's a couple swap or just get a woman.
01:17We kind of explored it a little bit, but Tom really struggled.
01:22Yeah.
01:24I feel like I'm chomping at the bit to be open because I don't want to be with just the one person for the rest of my life.
01:31Here they go.
01:41With its non-monogamy coach and experienced residents, Lauren and Tom are hoping the retreat is the answer to their problems.
01:49How you guys doing, alright?
01:51Hey.
01:52They're a good-looking couple.
01:53Yeah.
01:54You look lovely.
01:55Very lovely.
01:56Hi, guys.
01:57You alright?
01:58Hey.
01:59Come on, lock your shirt.
02:00We're almost matching.
02:01Yeah, these guys look fit.
02:04One girl, a bit of you.
02:06I'm excited, but nervous.
02:07Oh, I'm nervous now.
02:08Yeah.
02:09Definitely nervous now.
02:10I'm so excited to be here.
02:11I really am.
02:12I am like, come on.
02:13Yes, it's throwing Tom in at the deep end, but sometimes I think that's what people need.
02:26It's just a real big push.
02:28Guiding couples on their journey.
02:31Hello, come in.
02:33Is the retreat's non-monogamy coach, Effie Blue.
02:37Take a seat.
02:38I would love to know what brings you to this retreat.
02:41So, me and Tom had been together for about a year.
02:44I was terrified, but brought up the conversation with him about going open.
02:49Mm-hmm.
02:50I've tried in my life to be with a woman, to be with a man, and always felt if I was with one or the other, that I wasn't complete.
02:56We have tried opening up the relationship and had issues, which is obviously why we're here today.
03:06Okay.
03:07Do you want to tell me a little bit about that?
03:09I panic when it comes to actual performing.
03:12Mm-hmm.
03:13I've basically got hard midway having sex, and then it has just gone soft.
03:20When your penis doesn't work, it doesn't work.
03:24If it's with another female, like, she thinks she's done something wrong, and it's not that at all, and then that's, for me, game over.
03:34I'm stuck in a rut on the fact that I can't get him up, I can't perform, and it's like, shit, again, I'm feeling a bit, I'm feeling like crap.
03:47I'm curious, does this impact sex with Lauren?
03:51There's been a couple of times, there's been in the past even with Lauren herself, but not multiple times.
03:56I'm more relaxed, I'm more chilled, and I can perform.
03:59Party.
04:00When you've attempted to open up for other women, what is the story in your head?
04:05I can't take the top off. I absolutely hate looking at myself in the way.
04:10I think what's really bad is I don't love myself.
04:14When I first met Tom, he was a really cheeky chappy.
04:18Then Tom got his heart diagnosis, and, yeah, it had a huge impact, mainly on Tom.
04:24It was terrifying.
04:26The doctors basically told me that I had sudden death syndrome, so that means I can drop down and die at any point.
04:33It was so, so scary.
04:35He got really down, he obviously put on a lot of weight because he wasn't allowed to work out.
04:40Because of being such an energetic person, going to the gym all the time, looking after myself, and doing all of that is basically, well, it just went down the drain.
04:51You have a terrible relationship with your body.
04:54Yeah, definitely, definitely.
04:56It's like you're not going to get a hard on, because you might be mentally aroused, but you're not physically aroused.
05:04Hey, you're okay?
05:05Yeah, I'm good.
05:06I wasn't expecting that.
05:07Do you want to tell me what's going through your mind right now?
05:19The fact that I'm just, I've stopped in my path and just let myself go.
05:25So, it feels like there's a lot riding on this, right?
05:31Because I feel like your anxiety is getting in the way of you potentially opening up, which is kind of what Lauren wants.
05:40And I imagine you feel the pressure of that.
05:42It's what I want as well.
05:46Lauren, what do you want to achieve? What would be your ideal situation?
05:51I would love to be able to, obviously, couple swap. And also, I've never had more than two men at once, and it's always been a fantasy of mine.
06:01And the same for women as well. But obviously, we need to get to the bottom of whatever this is.
06:08Sure, yeah, no, exactly. Hopefully, here is the place we can help you get over those things.
06:14Starting with a good old party.
06:16Tonight is about taking the lead.
06:18Why don't you kind of let your hair down and relaxed, right?
06:22I would love, Tom, for you to pick some people and invite them to somewhere cozy for a sensual group experience.
06:31This is about sensuality. That's about cuddles and touches.
06:37I want you to focus on one person, and I want you to focus on how the person that you're touching, how you're giving them pleasure through touch and through caressing.
06:47Because I want you to ease into that sexual space without it feeling like it's all about your dick getting hard.
06:55And then, be open to things escalating.
07:02That's the part that I get a bit, wow.
07:04When we say escalating, we don't always mean straight sex.
07:07Yeah.
07:08Right.
07:09It sounds really exciting.
07:10Yeah, okay.
07:11Beautiful.
07:12Yeah.
07:13Tom has a bit of work to do because his issues are mostly in his head.
07:25So, the exercise today is to get him into the present feeling what pleasure looks like and to be more embodied.
07:32If you could just think about that he doesn't need a hard penis, it's amazing how quickly one will appear.
07:41Oh, wow.
07:43Oh, wow.
07:44I do worry for me and Lauren, because if I can't do the whole open relationship, I feel like we go our separate ways.
07:55I'm hoping it won't get to that stage.
07:57Previously on Open House.
08:07Ultimately why we're here is to bring in another couple, but I've got to be okay with Alex being with another woman.
08:16I'm so scared.
08:19What's at stake is Alana's feelings and emotions.
08:22I've been cheated on quite a lot.
08:24Yeah, I've seen women as more of a threat.
08:27So, we kind of want you to face that threat.
08:31Would you be open to finding a woman for a little sexy threesome?
08:36That scenario wasn't in my head, I don't want to do it, like I want to live.
08:42If this is going to work, it has to be the right person.
08:47Who Alex is sitting with now is Georgie.
08:50He's gorgeous.
08:52Would you like to come and spend some time in what's up with us?
08:55Yeah.
08:56If it does go wrong, is it something I'd be able to get over?
09:06I did not think this is where we were going to be on like our first night.
09:12And here you are.
09:13This would have literally been my worst nightmare.
09:15Really?
09:16If someone was like, how would you feel about doing this?
09:18I'd be like, no.
09:19We didn't think that we would be in a hot tub if we were.
09:22And here you are.
09:24How would you feel if I gave Alex a little kiss?
09:33How do you feel?
09:35I'm okay.
09:36Yeah?
09:37Okay.
09:38In that moment, watching Alex and Georgie kiss, I thought, oh no.
10:05How did that make you feel?
10:06Like, fine.
10:07I was like, yeah.
10:08Like, almost a bit turned on by it.
10:09I really want you on me.
10:10Can I like, can I like, can I like, put you on me?
10:12I can't believe this.
10:13Are you proud of me?
10:14Yeah.
10:15Like, what the hell?
10:16Yay.
10:17Yeah.
10:18Yeah.
10:19I've never seen Alana kiss another woman.
10:20I knew it was part of her life, like long, long ago, but to see that like, reopen that door,
10:25was such a huge turn on for me to see that.
10:26It was like, really hot.
10:27It was like, really hot.
10:28Oh my God.
10:29I'm obsessed.
10:30I'm obsessed.
10:31Stop it.
10:32Can I just take you home with that?
10:33Can I just take you home with that?
10:34Oh my God.
10:35What the hell?
10:36What the hell?
10:37Yay.
10:38Yeah.
10:39I've never seen Alana kiss another woman.
10:42I knew it was part of her life, like, long, long ago, but to see that like, reopen that
10:47door, was such a huge turn on for me to see that.
10:50It was like, really hot.
10:52Oh my God.
10:53I'm obsessed.
10:54Stop it.
10:55Can I just take you home with that?
10:59Well, it all flows very naturally.
11:02A little freeway.
11:03Yeah.
11:04Who the fuck would have thought we'd have been here?
11:05I honestly don't know what's happening right now.
11:06I feel like this is normal.
11:23I think, like, things are feeling good.
11:27Mm-hmm.
11:28Do you know when I come back to our room?
11:30I would love that.
11:31Yeah.
11:32I'd just like swore fingers a little bit more.
11:34Yeah.
11:35Let's take the next step.
11:36We'll do baby steps.
11:37Let's do it.
11:38I didn't think that was going to be a thing at all to bring in, like, a single female.
11:44I thought that would be way too intimidating.
11:47I was really glad I was below water because I was really turned up.
11:50Yeah.
11:53Yeah, like, this has been insane.
11:55Honestly, I can't believe what, like, it's such a change.
11:58You can do anything and now we're inviting...
12:01I asked them to come back to our room.
12:03I asked them to come back to our room.
12:04I asked them to come back to our room.
12:19Oh, my God, they're short, short.
12:20I know, I did say my ass, like, eats them.
12:23New arrivals Lauren and Tom are preparing for a big night.
12:27Oh, that's fun.
12:33They'll be attending a sexy barn dance where they hope to meet residents who could help Tom overcome his physical stumbling block when it comes to opening up.
12:46Whenever we've dipped our toes into being open, Tom felt he just couldn't perform, felt really uncomfortable.
12:52They've been tasked with finding residents interested in joining them for a group experience where the focus is only on foreplay.
13:03Hey, babe.
13:04What?
13:05I look fucking ridiculous.
13:07With no pressure to perform, the hope is Tom will relax and rise to the occasion.
13:13I do foresee hurdles.
13:15The residents are all very beautiful.
13:17The problem with that is obviously Tom being body conscious.
13:20If I went in there on my own, I think I'd probably walk straight back out.
13:33How are you guys feeling?
13:35Yeah, great.
13:37Shit's good.
13:38This is out of my comfort zone. The heart palpitations I've got right now are through the room.
13:56So what we're going to do is we're going to go around and we're going to talk to them.
14:06I feel sick inside. I don't think I can.
14:08Okay, so listen, there's no pressure. That's what we're saying.
14:10Like, let's just give it a really good go. This is what we're here for.
14:15First to meet them are married couple Jem and Daz.
14:19What are you looking for then?
14:21That's the question. So for me, I need that conversation.
14:24Yeah.
14:26And for you, it's obviously just about feeling body confident around.
14:29Yeah, I'm a bit, yeah.
14:31Just lacking in confidence a little bit. That's understandable.
14:34You know, it's really nerve-cracking.
14:36If there's any environment where personality matters more than looks, it's this environment.
14:41We'd love to chat to them and try and help them with their journey.
14:45Hello, you all right? I'm Tom.
14:47How you doing me? All right? How you doing?
14:48I'm Gaze. This is my wife, Olivia.
14:50What's your dynamic?
14:52That's a big word, that is.
14:54That's a very big word, isn't it?
14:56Dynamic!
14:58Like I said, we've babbled in it before.
15:00We're really good at reading people's body language and kind of like how they're feeling.
15:04You know when someone's nervous and you know when someone's a little bit scared.
15:07But when you have that, you know, responsibility to kind of give them that first good impression of the lifestyle,
15:13you want to make it the best.
15:15I used to be like really like outgoing, going gym seven days.
15:18I used to have like the abs and I basically comfort eat and drink and of course I put on the weight now, so.
15:24You can just like kiss and you can like, you can go down on them and you can touch.
15:29And you don't necessarily just have the build-up, but I think it is the poor mentality.
15:33You think you've got to go through that natural process.
15:34Olivia and Gage, they made me feel so, like, it just felt, it just felt natural just talking to her.
15:41After a confidence boost from Gage, Tom moves on to single resident Aaron,
15:47who's no stranger to open conversation.
15:50Do you have an idea of kind of what you want from the experience?
15:53Basically, have fun, relax and try and let my hair down.
15:58To a couple that's coming into the retreat that are looking to open up.
16:02I think the best thing they can do is talk to, talk to us.
16:06You know, you've come here for the sex, but don't forget that the sex comes from a person.
16:11I'm a single guy. I've literally just come out of a relationship with two women.
16:14Oh, wow. At the same time for two years.
16:17Oh, wow. That's crazy.
16:18Split 50-50.
16:19Yeah.
16:20There'll be days and weeks and months where I don't feel like I have the confidence.
16:24Yeah.
16:25And I'll go and play, and I won't even get hard.
16:27But that's okay, because if you're around people you're comfortable around.
16:31Wow. That's, that's what I'm, that's it.
16:32This is what we're trying to get through to talk.
16:34It's tough.
16:36Speaking to Aaron, he made it easy for me to basically say, I don't need my penis, basically.
16:42I've got my hands and I've got my tongue.
16:44And I think Lauren really likes them as well.
16:48Aaron has given me fanny photos.
16:53So I've never had more than two men at once.
16:55So my ideal situation would obviously be more men.
16:57Yeah.
17:02Fresh from meeting Aaron, Lauren feels it's time for Tom to start deciding who to invite to their sensual soiree.
17:10Aaron, because he was on the same page as you.
17:12Even he doesn't get hard.
17:13Yeah, yeah.
17:14Because I feel like he would understand you as well.
17:17Yeah.
17:19Aaron made me feel really at ease.
17:21He, yeah, he was absolutely brilliant.
17:23I'm so scared of the rejection.
17:27Mainly for Tom, rather than for me.
17:29Because is he then going to be really nervous going forward?
17:33That little bit inside that if they say no, it'll feel like shit, yeah, but, you know.
17:39You just have to wait and see and see what happens.
17:42We just want to know if you want to come back to him basically just...
17:46Maybe some games, some teasing, some fuddling.
17:49If it escalates, it escalates.
17:50Yeah, sure.
17:51If it doesn't, it doesn't.
17:52And that doesn't run.
17:53Yeah.
17:57Okay, guys, I'm not going to say that I'm going to play.
18:02It's, for me at the moment, I take a lot more to get to that point.
18:08I was surprised by Aaron, because he said he didn't want to play.
18:13Aaron, without being rude, obviously we have to move along with being honest.
18:16Not everyone is everyone's cup of tea, but for me, I don't obviously want to put Tom off even more with this process.
18:24It's like rejection.
18:26I'm just, yeah, I'm shocked.
18:27Yeah, I'm shocked.
18:34Right, move all the things of the beds.
18:36Put them all on the here.
18:39In their bedroom, Alana and Alex are preparing to be joined by resident Georgie.
18:44Are we going to be weird and go, are you okay if we get protection just in case?
18:49Or just have it on the side?
18:52They're hoping that tonight they can take their first steps towards their ultimate dream of a couple swap, by having a threesome.
19:01I don't know how this is going to go.
19:04Seeing Alex being with another woman.
19:07With where we are now, look, I'm definitely open to just the entire coast.
19:16But as much as this is a really big step for me, it's also a really big step for him, because he's going to potentially be with another woman.
19:25This is all new and it's starting to feel very real.
19:29So my worries going into this is me being with another woman and how that might make Alana feel.
19:36I hope that it's the most amazing experience that we could have, but equally it could not be.
19:44Hello, come here, come here.
19:47Oh, it's so nice.
19:49Please.
19:50It would be, it would be devastating if anything went wrong here, for sure.
19:57So much better.
19:58Okay, cool.
19:59This is a bit more chill.
20:01Don't mind.
20:02I'm just going to pick up the momentum.
20:04No, I like that.
20:05Let's just pick up when we're left off.
20:10The sexual chemistry was insane.
20:12The fact that I could, like, just let go of everything and just really enjoy it, like,
20:26I never thought that would have happened in this experience.
20:32Oh, my goodness, yes.
20:33Oh, my goodness.
20:34Oh, my goodness.
20:35Yes.
20:36But as play between Alana and Georgie intensifies, Alex retreats to the sideline.
21:06I think like I was overwhelmed, it was like from zero to a hundred and it called me off guard.
21:22Although I was like turned on an idea, I wasn't like turned on.
21:34I can't quite match that right now.
21:46I've had like the best evening.
21:58I'll see you soon as well.
22:10I'll see you soon as well.
22:12Yeah, we'll see you soon.
22:18I love you so much.
22:20I loved it.
22:22I genuinely loved every minute of that.
22:24Any part where I thought I feel uncomfortable or like oh I don't know how I feel about this, like I literally loved every single second of that.
22:33Did you enjoy it?
22:36I loved seeing you like enjoy it.
22:39Yeah.
22:40I loved it.
22:46Do I always seem to get the wet patch?
22:48Maybe I could have done more, but I think I was a little bit like overwhelmed by how quickly it all went.
23:04At this moment I don't know if I can open up the relationship.
23:22It's the morning after Alana and Alex's first threesome with a female resident, Georgie.
23:36You're so quiet.
23:39I got up this morning feeling really good about what happened.
23:43But I could feel there was something a little bit off.
23:55What are you thinking about?
23:59I'm just thinking.
24:01Processing.
24:05Are you sure you're okay?
24:07Yeah.
24:11When we first came in here obviously our aim and our kind of end goal was to be able to do a full couple swap.
24:22I knew Alex was in his head a little bit.
24:25Even at home like he can go a bit quiet sometimes, but today I just knew there was something kind of underlying.
24:30Hello.
24:35Hello.
24:36Come in.
24:37Hi.
24:38Take a seat.
24:39Take a seat.
24:40Get comfy.
24:41Yeah, you're right.
24:42How was last night?
24:44Like I'm really happy.
24:45Yeah.
24:46It just, it felt right.
24:48Beautiful breakthrough.
24:50Absolutely.
24:51I think what I liked is it was actually Georgie that said like, would you be okay if I kissed Alex?
24:58Mm.
24:59She kind of like led it a little bit, which was nice.
25:02And I actually enjoyed watching it, which I never thought those words were going to come out of my mouth.
25:09What are you thinking Alex?
25:10I don't, I don't know.
25:13I don't want to take away because I loved last night.
25:16Sure.
25:17It was incredible.
25:18But I was a little bit like overwhelmed by the whole situation.
25:23Okay.
25:24Yeah.
25:25Tell me about that.
25:26I don't know.
25:27Like, I don't think I was, I wasn't like turned on physically like.
25:30Okay.
25:31So that's what I'm confused at the moment about.
25:32Okay.
25:33Okay.
25:34Okay.
25:35The couple thing I definitely want to do, but again, I don't know if I go all the way.
25:39So that's where I think that's why I've been quiet this morning.
25:42Cause I wasn't sure for me, there's like, like something missing.
25:45I don't know what it was.
25:46I feel like maybe I'm more of a connection based like when it comes to sex, like deep, deeper.
25:52Sure.
25:54Intimacy.
25:55Is that what you're seeking?
25:56Like intimacy to go with your sexual experience?
25:59I do find it better if there's a connection and that's where I am right now.
26:04Like I'm trying to figure that out.
26:06The thing that I want to understand is how do you feel about that?
26:15Um, I don't feel comfortable with that.
26:20Sure.
26:21Yeah.
26:22Now, like, I, I do see that as threatening.
26:24Like what if you build like this really great connection with someone else that you then feel is, like, better.
26:35That's never ever going to be the thing.
26:38You okay?
26:39Yeah.
26:40It's okay.
26:41You're really challenging some of the things that you're the most afraid of and stuff is coming up.
26:50Like that's all about that.
26:51So that's scary to you right now.
26:54So let's just look at it in the face.
26:56Tell me, what does, what do you mean by connection?
26:59I think it's definitely not like deep connection with what I have with you.
27:04It's, it's a lot less than that.
27:06Okay.
27:07It's more familiarization.
27:08Like you almost want to be friends with that person before it, okay.
27:11Yeah.
27:12I've never been like a one night guy, if you know what I mean.
27:16To be fair, like, yeah, even we didn't sleep together like straight away.
27:19Mm-hmm.
27:20So I, I get that.
27:21I know that's not necessarily like how you work.
27:25Mm-hmm.
27:26So what would that look for you in terms of you guys dating couples?
27:30Like do you want to have like one couple friend that you date and play with?
27:37Or do you sort of meet a bunch of couples?
27:40Like what does that look like for you?
27:42We did say like it would be nice to have like one couple that we're like best friends with.
27:47Mm-hmm.
27:48And we get on really well with them and like play together as well.
27:51Mm-hmm.
27:52So what I have in mind is I want you to have a taste of the couple experience that you want.
27:59But I feel like the next challenge for you is to navigate the connection piece.
28:03For you to actually go there and start making a connection.
28:06And for you to feel like, to figure out what it feels like when it's happening.
28:10And spend a bit of time connecting with the couple.
28:13And then, once you feel like you have a connection in place, then you can escalate things in your own time.
28:19And take it from there and you see how it goes for you.
28:22How does that sound?
28:23No, that sounds good.
28:24You happy?
28:25Good.
28:26I'm fine with that.
28:27Are you definitely fine?
28:28Yeah, I feel relaxed.
28:29Okay.
28:30I think that the biggest thing off my chest was what we've spoken about now.
28:33That was like just something I needed to understand.
28:38You're welcome.
28:39You're welcome.
28:40Enjoy.
28:41I'm excited to meet some couples today.
28:49But this moment, I don't know if I can go all the way.
28:55We'll have to see.
28:57We love each other, right?
28:58Yeah, we do.
28:59At the sexy barn dance, Lauren and Tom are coming to terms with being rejected by resident Aaron.
29:20Let your hair down.
29:21Let my hair down.
29:22I'm going to make you lie down.
29:23I'm not lying down.
29:24That is not happening.
29:25Oh, ah.
29:26Oh, my God.
29:27I used to do quite a lot of dancing with Lauren.
29:28It's what I used to really enjoy, so I feel a lot more comfortable, yeah.
29:53When I was around Tom, we had a little mini dance battle and like the fact that he was
30:05just busting out the robot and like just having so much fun with it and I was like,
30:08let's do this.
30:09Let's do that.
30:10And he was just like, yeah, let's do it.
30:11It's the last.
30:16I'm buzzing.
30:18I'm literally buzzing from how happy he is.
30:21He's so relaxed now.
30:28Rejection behind them, thoughts return to their objective, finding residence for a sensual
30:35after-party.
30:36I feel a lot more comfortable, yeah.
30:38So I think it's a lot more easier to invite people and to see if they say yes or no.
30:42Can you lead the way?
30:44Yeah.
30:45Hello, welcome to my friend.
30:46Hello.
30:47I'm your shirt for tonight.
30:48Have you guys been enjoying yourself?
30:49Yeah, you are.
30:50Yeah, you are.
30:51But it was basically, we're just wondering if you'd like to be, to like come back with us
31:07and just basically cuddle, kiss, touch.
31:08Well, I'm ready whenever you guys are.
31:09I'll be at the bar.
31:10I wasn't expecting that.
31:11I wasn't expecting the fact that I was actually waiting for a no.
31:22As Tom's confidence grows.
31:23And I was just wondering if you guys want to come back.
31:26Yeah.
31:27Yeah.
31:28Yeah.
31:29Oh wow.
31:30Yeah.
31:31So does the after-party.
31:33Wondering if you want to come.
31:35Yes.
31:36I love that.
31:37That's quick.
31:38That's so easy.
31:40And the guest list swells to five.
31:43We were pleasantly surprised.
31:45And it actually feels kind of like nice, like feeling, I know it sounds weird, but wanted.
31:51I would say I'm definitely attracted to him, for sure.
31:54They're a vibe, 100%.
31:56I'm just really excited just to get to know them a bit more.
32:01Lauren and Tom's next challenge will be their biggest yet, as the five residents will be
32:07joining them to attempt to help Tom overcome his performance anxiety and successfully open up.
32:15We're basically, we'll go back to the bedroom and basically see what happens.
32:21I'm not promising anything.
32:23I've still got them hurdles.
32:24I've still got them body confidence and all that.
32:27The worst thing that can happen is going into shock and walking out.
32:37Having been in two minds as to whether he's ready to open up, Alex has agreed to try to
32:49make connections with couples.
32:51Oh, this looks so cute.
32:56We're just looking for like, good vibes.
32:59Obviously, going into the couple scenario, it's slightly different because it's both of us
33:04have got to have an attraction to two different people then.
33:09We'll see, you know, if it's the right people, then it'll be there.
33:17Hello. Hello.
33:18How's it over? I'm Joe.
33:19Joe, lovely to meet you. How are you doing? You all right?
33:21How's it going? Just on the walk in.
33:23Literally on the walk in.
33:24Both Alex and Alana really want to get to know them, don't we?
33:28Yeah, they're definitely good looking.
33:29They're super hot.
33:30Who was the one who instigated sort of coming here and stuff then?
33:33I think coming here might have been more me.
33:36Did you guys come in initially looking to bring in a single lady?
33:41What were you initially looking for?
33:43Connections with couples is where we were looking at.
33:46The hardest part was obviously for me to kind of get over, like, insecurities with having another female.
33:52Like, being physical and, like, smash that on the first note.
33:57So we're like, yay!
34:01One thing I'd say is, oh, I'll do three things as easiest.
34:04You guys have actually done probably one of the harder things.
34:06Like, foursomes are sort of easier because everyone's got something to do.
34:09Hi, I'm Alana.
34:13Hi, Alana.
34:14Lovely to meet you.
34:16So, tonight?
34:18Today?
34:19Tonight?
34:20You're looking for a couple swap?
34:21Yeah.
34:22Just trying to, like, find our way into it, though.
34:24We definitely want to be in a space that's just finding our, like, place.
34:27Big thing, letting someone else into your relationship.
34:30But it's nice because, like you say, everyone's, like, scenarios are different.
34:35Well, it's about you guys, that's the thing.
34:37It's like, you're not here to please someone else.
34:39Yeah.
34:40It's what's best for you.
34:42I didn't know how I was going to feel about it.
34:44Yeah.
34:45But actually, like, I shocked everyone.
34:48Ended up being absolutely fine with it.
34:51Alex and Alana were quite attractive, actually.
34:54There was definitely a vibe there.
34:56I think we'd definitely be into them if they wanted to kind of spend a bit more time with us.
35:05Can I grab you a chat?
35:06Yes.
35:15How have you found it?
35:20Um, like, it's been nice to speak to couples today.
35:26Like, obviously, that was what we wanted to do.
35:29For me, I feel like, um, Jem and Daz.
35:32I just feel like they would be, like, a really great couple to get to know.
35:35I feel like they've got a similar vibe to us.
35:40How are you feeling?
35:41Is there anyone that you felt like might have had a connection with?
35:45I've, like, um, honestly, at the moment, I just don't know right now if I can go any further.
36:06Okay.
36:07How do you, how are you feeling about that?
36:10Um, yeah, like, I'm a little bit surprised.
36:15Um, what is it that's making you feel that way?
36:20Is it that you don't feel like you want to go any further at all?
36:25Or do you feel like it's just maybe been a little bit too much too soon?
36:29Like, it's just got a bit overwhelming.
36:35Mate, I don't know, like, it's more of a me thing this now.
36:43Like, for now, that's as far as I can go.
36:47You've hit, like, a bit of a wall with it.
36:49Yeah.
36:50Okay.
36:54I do want to revisit this.
36:55Okay.
36:56That makes me happy.
37:10With Alex unable to continue, the couple's stay at the retreat has come to an end.
37:17Going forward, I do think opening up the relationship is for me and Alana.
37:26But it's going to take time.
37:28It will take more time for me.
37:30Um, I don't know, I feel, like, emotional now.
37:45What just happened then?
37:46I don't know.
37:47I don't know.
37:48It's just the whole thing's, like, just very overwhelming, isn't it?
37:50Like...
37:51What's that?
37:52What's that?
37:53I don't know.
37:54I don't know.
37:55I don't know.
37:56I don't know.
37:57It's just the whole thing's, like, just very overwhelming, isn't it?
37:59Like...
38:00What's that?
38:01I don't know, because I don't know what to say.
38:03It's just, like, a very emotional few days, isn't it?
38:05The future will, at some point, be a full-open relationship, but at the moment, it's baby steps still.
38:26My house.
38:31It's just been a very overwhelming process, but, um...
38:36I don't want to keep crying, but, like, I'm actually really proud of myself.
38:43Opening up our relationship is a lot harder than I first thought.
38:47Like, I really thought it was going to be a straight line, but it's curves and angles and everything that goes with it.
38:52It's not easy.
38:54But, like, we've absolutely got the ability to do it.
39:00I absolutely love you to pieces, and I'm happy and glad, and I love you so much.
39:04I love you so much.
39:05It just goes to show that you're saying that you haven't got it.
39:19However, if you hadn't, then why is everyone saying yes?
39:24Lauren and Tom have invited a small group back for an intimate party in the residence playroom.
39:30Ooh!
39:31Even though they've said yes and all that kind of stuff, it doesn't mean, like, you know, they see me and go, actually, no, what the fuck is that?
39:38It's what goes to my head.
39:40I know.
39:41So that's why we're going to go take it one step at a time.
39:46Okay?
39:47Yeah.
39:48No pressure.
39:49They hope that by focusing on touch and foreplay, Tom will manage to get an erection, a stumbling block that's stopping the couple from opening up.
40:02I'm hoping to leave here knowing the fact that I don't have to worry about, um, for, for my dick not to hug.
40:18Oh!
40:19Oh!
40:20Oh!
40:21Oh!
40:22Oh!
40:23Oh!
40:24Oh!
40:25Oh!
40:26Oh!
40:27Oh!
40:28Oh!
40:29Oh!
40:30Oh!
40:31Oh!
40:33Yeah, I don't quite know how I'm feeling right now.
40:35Uh, I'm feeling shocked, to be fair.
40:38My biggest concern is obviously making sure Tom is comfortable because I will get naked and run around.
40:43Like, I am the opposite of Tom.
40:51I know I want to be open and I'm not planning on changing that.
40:54I'm not the person that struggles with this lifestyle and it's Tom that is.
40:58Should we make the lighting a little bit more sexy, guys?
41:01Oh, yeah, let's do it.
41:03Yeah.
41:04Put a blindfold on, man.
41:08Nice, nice, nice.
41:09Is there any areas that you genuinely want us to avoid?
41:12It's basically just taking the top off.
41:14It feels weird that I can't see you, but...
41:19I definitely want to make Lauren happy.
41:23We'll try anything.
41:25I jump this hurdle, basically.
41:28But once it's in my head, I can't perform.
41:31I freeze.
41:32Once I'm in that rut, I can't get out of the rut.
41:35How are you feeling, mate?
41:38It's weird, but...
41:39You're getting worshipped.
41:40You're getting all the attention.
41:42This is my favourite thing.
41:46Despite Effie's advice to actively engage in foreplay,
41:50Tom lets the ladies lead.
41:53You can just let us know if it gets a bit too overwhelming.
42:09It was putting shivers down my spine.
42:11I could feel everything.
42:21I feel absolutely petrified and sick.
42:29Next time on Open House...
42:31Are you ready for the next level?
42:33I feel absolutely petrified.
42:38Yeah.
42:39Is it okay to kiss?
42:42It's two guys.
42:43Back in the rut.
42:45I have identified as gay.
42:49Today, I don't know.
42:51I'm feeling very naughty.
42:55Never had any experience with gaming before.
43:00The worst case scenario would be reacting in a way which I'm not expecting.
43:05This is out of my comfort area, for sure.
43:07If you are a curious couple or single and interested in being part of the next Open House series,
43:32visit channel4.com forward slash take part.
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43:42Below Deck takes things to Australia,
43:45where Captain Jason is the man who will guide us through paradise.
43:48He can stream the whole series right now.
43:51And navigating love, addiction and sexuality.
43:54Mae Martin just wants to feel good.
43:56Part of our Pride collection, which is available to stream now on Channel 4.
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