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EMILY, Trell and Allie are a polyamorous triad living with their children in Las Vegas. Emily and Trell met through mutual friends and have been together 12 years, and married for five. Emily is bisexual so the couple decided to open up their relationship to other women. However, these encounters didn't tend to move beyond the bedroom - that was until they met Allie. Now finding themselves in a throuple, the three also had to quickly adjust when Allie fell pregnant. Now a year old, baby Reign is being brought up with two mums. And Trell also has a 12-year-old daughter from a previous relationship who has had to get used to classmates asking questions about her family's extended setup.

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00:00We are a polyamorous triad.

00:02Me and Emily, we met in 2010.

00:05Almost three years ago, we met Ally,

00:07and we've been together now for two years.

00:09She is the stepmother to my oldest daughter,

00:12and then now we have our new baby.

00:14Ally is her biological mother.

00:16She got pregnant so fast.

00:18It was a shock.

00:20I don't want them to add this part in.

00:22It's okay. It's real.

00:24It's so nice out here today.

00:30We are a polyamorous triad.

00:34Me and Emily, we met in 2010.

00:37We've been together ever since.

00:39We've been married for five years.

00:40We had already, I guess you could say,

00:42had encounters with other women,

00:44but they weren't looking for a relationship at that time.

00:47But we realized that we didn't want to keep inviting

00:50different people into our life like that.

00:52So we ended up, I guess you could say,

00:54trying it out with someone.

00:56And we like that dynamic better.

00:58About two years ago, we met Ally.

01:01It was the 4th of July, I guess you could say, cookout.

01:03We started to, like, really hang out a lot after that.

01:07And then it kind of just gradually turned into something.

01:09It wasn't something planned.

01:11We kind of just all came together.

01:13Here we are now, over two years later.

01:15I biologically don't have any children.

01:19When I first met Trell, I knew that he already had Lele.

01:22We call her Lele.

01:23But Aaliyah is her name.

01:25We met about a year after she was born.

01:27And then now we have our new baby, Rain.

01:30Oh, yeah.

01:31Emily had, you know, her issues with it at first.

01:35It happened so abruptly.

01:37It was so fast.

01:38It was a shock.

01:39It was like, we're with Ally, and it's like,

01:41here's Rain.

01:42Like, you know.

01:43Yeah, it was quick.

01:44It was quick.

01:45It was, like, very fast.

01:46We had some people, like, contacting her, like,

01:49did they just get with you so you can have a baby for them?

01:52Or are you a surrogate?

01:54Yeah, they thought I was a surrogate.

01:56Yeah, and it was like, yo, like, no.

01:59That's one of the worst things you could say as far as to her,

02:02because, you know what I'm saying?

02:04It's like, she deals with, you know, issues in that area.

02:08So we've all been working on that.

02:11I don't want them to add this part.

02:13It's okay.

02:14It's real, you know, but at the end of the day,

02:16it just was very, it's insulting.

02:19I even have to explain to friends, like, you know,

02:21when they're like, when are you going to have a kid?

02:22It's such a, like, common question,

02:24because we've been together so long.

02:25But it's like a jab, like, every time.

02:29Some people try to test our relationship

02:31and cause little triggers, but we're unbreakable, honestly.

02:36I eventually would like to have a child.

02:39So, eventually we'll get there.

02:42But it's just something that, it has to be planned, you know?

02:45Mmm, yummy!

02:47Baby Rain is being raised by me and Emily,

02:49so she has two mothers, which is pretty lucky of her.

02:52So, she already calls Emily mom and as well me.

02:57We'll definitely let her know that Ally is her biological mother

03:01as far as, you know, she gave birth to her.

03:03But we're raising her together and nobody loves her any less.

03:06Oh my God, I couldn't even believe that she was actually, like, there.

03:14She's just crazy now.

03:16Lily is very open about it.

03:18She's happy about it.

03:19She loves Ally.

03:20Ally loves her.

03:21I think it's because in the beginning,

03:22we didn't, like, sit her down, like,

03:23okay, this is what's going to happen.

03:25It was more so...

03:26She kind of just figured it out.

03:27Yeah, it was more so, like, we were living our life

03:29and it was just, like, this is Ally.

03:32She just saw that it was organic.

03:34How do you feel about all of us?

03:36I don't care.

03:39You told me somebody asked you something about it

03:42and you said, uh...

03:43It was the kid when we went to that one pool party

03:46on 4th of July.

03:47Oh yeah, what happened?

03:48She's like, she's like, oh, is that your mom?

03:52I was like, yeah.

03:54She's like, well, is that your dad?

03:57He was like, yeah.

03:58And he was like, why is your dad hugging her?

04:01I was like, because they're all dating.

04:04She was like, how?

04:05I was like, you asked your mom.

04:07I don't want to talk about this.

04:12Did you lose any friends

04:13when you became part of their relationship?

04:15I did.

04:16I lost a handful of friends when I came into the relationship.

04:21I didn't lose any friends at all.

04:23I guess that's the thing about being a guy

04:26is, like, they always assume something is cool,

04:29but they don't even want to really know why you're the way you are.

04:32They just assume, like, oh, you're a dude.

04:34You got multiple girls. You're cool.

04:35Yeah.

04:36It's like, yeah, it's cool, but it's also a challenge.

04:40Some people just assume that we're just an open relationship.

04:45Yo.

04:46What up, bro?

04:47What up, bro?

04:48All right, man.

04:49What's going on?

04:50I have friends that don't understand.

04:52It's not like they're against it.

04:53They just still don't quite understand the dynamic.

04:56Like, we're all together, not just there with me.

04:59What did you think the first time Terrell told you about being in a poly relationship?

05:03I was impressed.

05:04I was like, man, I don't know how you do it.

05:06One is enough.

05:07People don't understand what our lifestyle is.

05:09They just see two women and one man, they think it's just party, party, lit, turn up.

05:13Right.

05:14And that's part of it, but that's not the whole thing.

05:16Right, right.

05:17That's a small fraction of what it really is, man.

05:18Yeah.

05:19It's an actual relationship.

05:20It's work, man.

05:21A lot of it, too.

05:22If your friends and your spouses enjoy each other as far as, like, friendship, brotherhood,

05:28sisterhood, you can go far with that, man.

05:30You got your squad.

05:31You know what I'm saying?

05:32What's the best thing about the poly relationship?

05:35That we all get to be together.

05:38That's true.

05:40There's so many different personalities, you know, and then on top of that, we're three

05:44different ethnicities, so we get to share our cultures together.

05:47Oh, yeah.

05:48Food is the best.

05:49The food is crazy, right?

05:50Finance, too.

05:51I mean, three incomes.

05:52Oh, that, too.

05:53Three incomes.

05:54That doesn't hurt.

05:55You still have to go through, like, trials and tribulations.

05:58Putting your emotions in things can wear you out, so don't give up.

06:02In these dynamics, they do take longer to really find—it's easier to find one person,

06:08but it's harder to have two, so definitely patience is a big thing, for sure.

06:14We have a family to raise.

06:16We have bigger things to focus on.

06:17It's deeper than just us being together at this point.

06:20All right, y'all.

06:24Yeah.

06:25That's a good one.

06:26Yeah.

06:27Those are nice.

06:28All right, y'all.

06:29It is a wrap.

06:30It is a wrap.

06:30How can we work?

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