Divorce Coaching: A Guiding Light Through SEPARATION

RESO RESEARCH SOCIOLOGY Dr Surender Kumar

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00:00so thank you so much for joining us Varyanji from London at this point of time and it's a

00:15wonderful possibility for our platform for audience also to see your perceptions and

00:20it's a wonderful topic we're gonna be covering today it says like divorce coaching a guiding

00:27light through speculations or through separations so a wonderful topic and once again thank you so

00:34much joining us appearing on this platform and doing your precious time and this was a platform

00:41where we try to sort of you know introspectively and kind of you know with analysis looking to

00:47certain sociological issues and challenges that come across in our society global society I'm

00:53talking about that's the reason we should have keep conducting different national and international

00:59interviews and you're one of that participants thanks a lot joining from England ma'am so I would

01:04like to start with my first question also your brief introduction and you've been practicing your divorce

01:11coach practice in London and you also have a wonderful research and academic background which is

01:17very well reflected on your online data and accounts and your work is highly appreciative

01:25in scientific and research-based work that's the reason and thank you so much once again ma'am joining

01:30we would like to uh I'm going to ask you first question which is certainly a very important question

01:35says what exactly is a divorce coach and how do they differ from lawyers and therapists dr sarinder for

01:42having me on and to allow me to talk about this uh because a lot of people don't even know that

01:47uh divorce coaches exist actually so my name is ferial parvez i'm a cdc certified divorce coach and i am

01:55licensed to practice internationally i have clients primarily in the uk us and canada now you're probably

02:03wondering what a divorce coach is i'm basically a part strategist part emotional anchor and i guide individuals

02:10through the divorce process whether you're contemplating divorce you're in divorce or life

02:15after divorce so i'm your supportive ally you know a lot of people think divorce first thing

02:20lawyer of course everyone needs a very good lawyer and the second thing people think oh i need a

02:25therapist and yes a therapist is very crucial i think everyone should have a therapist however when

02:31it comes to the actual divorce process the therapist cannot give you the help that you need they're

02:36more interested in maybe what happened to you as a child why you chose a certain partner and you know

02:42so that you don't make those mistakes going to a new relationship so i basically help you know a lawyer

02:49deals with the legal strategies the court proceedings a therapist will focus on your mental health and

02:54emotional healing as a divorce coach i bridge the gap between the two right and i help you get very

03:00organized and make sure that you use your experts properly so that the system and process is more

03:06efficient and effective and you save money um i'm basically like a project manager for your divorce

03:13so i keep you on track i clarify your priorities and ensure you're mentally prepared for each step

03:18and i'm a big believer in collaboration so i have a great network of family lawyers mediators

03:24therapists and financial advisors so that i can create a holistic support system for my clients

03:30so which is responding this important uh question like bridging the gap between the two communities

03:35being divorce coach and then lawyers and therapist and what's the difference and your important role

03:41in that would like to move on to my second question again one question says why do people

03:47going through a divorce need a coach and what key benefits can they provide that's a great question

03:55uh a lot of people will ask well why do i need a divorce coach i'm already paying a lawyer so much

04:01money however people forget the lawyers are good at the law that you know i see so many times clients

04:08spending an hour two hours with their clients as you know seeking that validation that emotional

04:13validation maybe financial advice but the lawyer is not equipped to do that you know and it's very

04:18costly to sit down and talk to your lawyer so you could sit and talk to your lawyer for an hour and a

04:21half and have a huge bill at the end of the day and not really get what you need out of that

04:25conversation so divorce is like it's it's the most traumatic event anyone can go through and i think

04:32what happens is in today's society it's still framed as a very negative connotation that oh you got

04:37divorced you know it's an end but it's not we need to reframe divorce and you know as a divorce coach

04:44one of the key benefits i provide is letting people validate their feelings and emotional trauma

04:51you know it's not an easy decision to say i want a divorce and leave a toxic marriage and i as a

04:57divorce coach i validate those feelings and it's totally normal because you do feel anger you feel

05:02resentment you feel anxiety and these are all normal things but if you don't process them when you're

05:08actually going through divorce process you're so emotionally charged that you're not making the right

05:13decisions for yourself and these decisions impact your future life they impact your relationship

05:18with your ex who you might have to co-parent with and most importantly it affects your children so

05:23having a divorce coach on your side really helps you learn to not be reactive but make the right

05:29decisions so that you can you know transfer into your life after divorce and be more successful and

05:37more happy with the decisions you've made thank you so much important comments from your side like

05:42you used a negative connotation bad stigma which is attached to a divorce process and how do societies and

05:52different you know sociological perceptions around this problem or around this disconnect happens to be

06:00that's one of the area you've thrown good lights would like to move on to my third question again one

06:05question says what's some common emotional and logistical challenges that a divorce coach helps

06:11clients navigate like i said previously emotionally is i think the largest benefit i help provide clients

06:18because often because of how society and the world sees divorce there's a lot of guilt attached to going

06:24through a divorce so you're grappling with grief anxiety um just fear of the unknown like what is my future

06:31going to look like now so as a coach i help you process his feelings constructively rather than reactively

06:38and prevent emotions from derailing your you know uh negotiations and so that you make the right

06:44informed decisions logistically i help you deal with your lawyers so i make sure that you're using your

06:51professional expertise more efficiently and more cost effectively so i can help you draft you know an email to

06:57your lawyer or just talking points so that things are done more effectively uh for example like maybe

07:04you have a question about dividing assets or understanding legal jargon i can help with that maybe you need

07:12help with creating custody and parenting plans i can also guide you in that so we basically assist with

07:19paperwork getting you organizing organized for dealing with your experts the lawyers the financial advisors

07:25outlining outlining outlining the steps for financial planning and um you know this just helps a client

07:31strategize uh to calmly make the right decisions and prioritize their financial needs during settlement

07:38talks sure if you know understand that you help the process constructively not reactively that's very

07:46important in this process because it seems like emotional pain and a lot of others psychological and social

07:51pain is also it seems to seem to be existing here

07:55so i would like to move on to my fourth question and one question says how does the divorce coach

08:00empower individuals to make informed decisions during that process the divorce coach is basically to

08:06empower my clients to make sure that they have the right tools to evaluate all their options objectively

08:12so the more knowledge you have the better equipped you are to make the right decisions right

08:16um i use scenarios i help clients create pros and cons lists to just

08:21very objectively look at what they're dealing with what is it like they actually want what is not that

08:28important for them take the emotion out of the decision making um i have to make sure that the

08:33client is aligned with their core values so that their long long-term goals are more successful and

08:39they actually can stick to those goals um you know i can help a client articulate their non-negotiables when

08:45it comes to a custody agreement um and i really help cry uh clients to self-advocate for themselves

08:51and help them critically think so that empowers a client to make the right decisions and they feel

08:58empowered because they did things on their own terms um i have seen more and more uh through the

09:03practice that i'm in that a lot of people just want to get through divorce quickly sign the divorce papers

09:09and lots of times that happens and they think their life will just fall into place but they have a lot

09:14of remorse because they didn't negotiate properly they didn't focus on what they actually wanted they

09:19were so emotionally charged that it was becoming a fight and they didn't realize what kind of impact

09:25this would have once the divorce was finalized now a lot of times once the divorce is finalized

09:31everyone goes the professionals are gone and you're stuck now with your new life as a divorced person

09:37maybe a single parent now and you still have to deal with your ex and a lot of people don't think about

09:42these things so having a divorce coach on your side i really help you empower your journey through divorce

09:48and also post-divorce through the process when the divorce is happening you're assisting as divorce coach

09:56and even the post format you're helping candidates such a comprehensive support from your end

10:02very important and vital support would like to move on to my fifth question which is a wrap-up question

10:07also ma'am so it says like can you share a successful story where divorce coaching significantly

10:14changed someone's experience to decide to get a divorce because they were in a very toxic abusive

10:21relationship however this person was married for several years and they were used to this trauma and of

10:29their ex controlling every aspect of what they did so once the divorce was happening and she was in the

10:34process of divorce she wasn't able to let go of that relationship she was relying on her ex-spouse to

10:42tell her what to do because she was scared to deal with him so she would just take a step back and let him

10:48make the decisions which create a lot of problems while she was going through divorce luckily i was able to

10:54step in and i taught her how to create boundaries and made her realize that she left for a reason

11:02i let her validate all those fears she had and she realized that oh yes i am doing the right thing she

11:07had a lot of guilt on her that she left her husband and she has two small children and she's put you know

11:13her family in this very sensitive now stage of life however working together she realized that was the best

11:21thing because she wasn't being her best self and if you're not your best self you can't be a good

11:26parent you can't you can't be successful at anything you do so we really were able to create boundaries

11:32and i helped her deal with uh her high conflict ex and you know her co-parenting became much much

11:39more easier because instead of being felt feeling victimized she felt empowered a simple example i gave

11:46i'll give you is that a lot of times her ex would send very aggressive text messages or emails

11:51threatening her and everything and she would react now she knows let's take 24 hours let's take the

11:59emotion out of it and let's focus on the kids and that's the number one priority for my client is

12:05the well-being for her kids so i always tell her before you answer an email or text from your ex

12:11think about how does this impact your children and this will it have any benefit for them and just

12:17having that mind shift mind shift has worked wonders for her so create so we you know we helped establish

12:23boundaries that she's able to stick to and now she's not reactive when she deals with her ex and at the

12:28end of the day the priority is on the well-being of the children and she's doing really well uh she's

12:34transitioning really well and she feels much more empowered and not scared of her ex now they're

12:41actually working as a team so it's really nice to see that growth one questions ma'am and uh the

12:47topic was certainly very impalances like divorce coaching guiding light through separation really

12:53important and interactive topic and then you talked about divorce coach and their role and the

13:00differentiation between lawyers therapists and how do they differ and stand out and people going

13:06through divorce and their benefits and the challenges emotion problems logistical supports and

13:13you know responses and how to empower individuals they talked about the decision making that you

13:19talked about and how to keep emotion out of it making relevant in scientific diseases and success story

13:26you talked about thank you so much ma'am such a big and massive narrative that you put forward before

13:32our audience i'm sure they'll be drawing major chunk of information quantitative and qualitative it's

13:38really a scientific body of data for academics and research purposes as you're already familiar that

13:44liso is a platform where we try to step through the noise to cause you most relevant and reliable and

13:50accurate sociological narratives and explanations for the better betterment of our society from research

13:55point of view from academic point of view that's the reason you're on work thank you so much ma'am once

14:00again joining us from england

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