Celeb Moms Kajol & Kareena Talk About Parenting

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When Kajol was schooled by her son. This, from Kareena Kapoor Khan’s 104.8 Ishq FM show What Women Want.

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00:00You know, I honestly think children, the relationships they have with their parents are pretty much like all other relationships.

00:06Start as you mean to go on.

00:08So she looks at my Instagram and she's like, you know, what is this nonsense?

00:11Have you seen Sonam Kapoor's Instagram?

00:13It was such a... I felt like, oh my God, that was such an...

00:19My son slapped me with his left hand.

00:23Are you a controlling parent?

00:24I'm not actually. I'm not that much of a controlling parent.

00:27I actually don't believe that it is conducive to a healthy relationship.

00:31And my mother was the complete opposite of it.

00:33I mean, you've met my mom, right?

00:35Yeah, so my mom literally gave the name rebel upbringing to me.

00:41So yeah, I was a very, very differently brought up child.

00:45So no, I don't believe in controlling at all.

00:48And you're not controlling when they sign you at all.

00:50Let me just say, I strike a healthy balance.

00:53Yeah, because as far as I would think,

00:56Ajay is obsessed with the kids.

00:58Completely and totally and obviously, but that doesn't mean...

01:00There's a fine line.

01:02There's a fine line between being, between giving children a grid to grow up with

01:08and between overwhelming them to the point that they can't grow.

01:11And how involved is Ajay with the kids?

01:13Very much so. Very much so.

01:15He, if he had his way, would be the overwhelming presence

01:19who would, you know, kind of completely like, what are you doing?

01:22Five minutes here, five minutes there, all that.

01:24Very much so. Very much so.

01:26Well, I think our listeners wouldn't believe that because he comes across as so...

01:30Chilled and cool.

01:31Completely a lie.

01:32It's a complete lie.

01:34There is no chill and no cool where his kids are concerned.

01:37He wants to know everything about everything.

01:40And do you believe in this good cop, bad cop parenting?

01:43You know, I honestly think children,

01:46the relationships they have with their parents are pretty much like all other relationships.

01:50Start as you mean to go on.

01:51So, I mean, wherever you, whatever you're planning to do with your kids

01:55or however you want your relation to eventually be with your kids,

01:59I'm not saying you can't, you know, fire them.

02:01I'm not saying that you can't correct them for, you know, doing something wrong

02:04or, you know, show them the right path.

02:06But yeah, you will have to start at one point.

02:08If you're going to correct them, don't wait till they're five years old

02:11to just say that,

02:12Abhi beta, maine bola na, chaar saal se bol rahi hoon abhi na.

02:15Paanchve saal mein abhi padegi.

02:17Yeah, exactly.

02:18And both of y'all kind of like reprimand them or will tell them off.

02:23Yeah, we're both on that same level, yeah.

02:24Would people generally expect you to feel guilty when women go back to work?

02:29You know, after having your babies?

02:32I think it's because of the responsibility factor.

02:35I think in societies generally,

02:38the responsibility is always the mother's to bring up the child.

02:41And that's where the guilt factor comes in.

02:44And, you know, the first thing that you think of when you see a badly,

02:47you know, kuch battameezi dekhte hoon toh,

02:48pehli cheez dimaag mein aate hain, maa ne theek se nahi sikhaaya kya?

02:51So, you know, it's the first thing that comes to anybody's mind.

02:54I mean, we're not talking about a different era or anything like that.

02:57The first thing that comes to your mind is like, you know,

02:59battameezi kar raha hai, maa ne theek se nahi sikhaaya,

03:01maa ne thappad maara hota ho toh yeh nahi karta aaj.

03:03Kuch cheezein hum apni mom se seekte hain

03:05and aur kuch cheezein hum apni bachon se bhi seekte hain.

03:07Bilkul, bilkul.

03:08I think in today's time, we're learning everything, I think, from our kids.

03:11Like, Lolo is also.

03:12Instagram toh main apni beti se seekha hai.

03:14Yeah, so what are you learning from Nisa and you?

03:17I'm definitely picking up their habits in music.

03:20No two ways about it.

03:20Music.

03:21Haan, bilkul.

03:22Also the selfies.

03:23Yes, selfies and what looks good on Instagram and what's cool on Instagram.

03:28You can't put everything up and all that.

03:30Aacha, you can't.

03:31You can't.

03:31So, she looks at my Instagram and she's like, you know,

03:33what is this nonsense?

03:34You know, have you seen Sonam Kapoor's Instagram?

03:37I was like, what do you mean, have you seen Sonam Kapoor's Instagram?

03:41Just look at how symmetrical everything is.

03:43Look at how aesthetic everything is.

03:45So, yeah, so she gives me tips on social media.

03:47She'll talk about, you know.

03:49The lingo?

03:50Yeah, very much so, of course.

03:51But I'm really bad at that.

03:52So, I'm not even getting there.

03:54I'm not even trying.

03:55I'm like, just stop there only.

03:56I'll just make do with the Webster's Dictionary English.

03:59But my son is amazing.

04:01And like you said, you learn things from your kids all the time.

04:06This one thing really stuck with me because I was firing Nisa for not sitting with us.

04:10There was a Mata Ki Chowki at home and I was like, Nisa, come and sit with us.

04:13We are sitting here and, you know, why are you sitting on the table?

04:16She's like, Mama, I really don't want to.

04:18I said, just come and sit with us.

04:19So, I just got angry.

04:20Come on, sit down.

04:21So, after she came and she sat and he left.

04:23She left and my son turned around and told me, you know.

04:25He just sat in my lap quietly and he's like, you know, Mom,

04:28you shouldn't fire her for telling the truth.

04:30Wow.

04:31He gave me such, it was such a...

04:34I felt like, oh my God, that was such an...

04:37He slapped me with his own hands.

04:40Yes, absolutely.

04:41So, it just felt like, it was amazing, but...

04:44Yeah, but what a wonderful advice.

04:47Yeah, he gave it to me like he's seven years old.

04:49You know, he's telling me, I lie sometimes to you.

04:51When you tell me to come and I don't come and I lie.

04:56But she's not telling the truth.

04:57She's not lying to you.

04:58You should not fire her for telling the truth.

05:01I was like, oh my God.

05:02That's a big one, what you've learned from him.

05:04Huge.

05:05Yeah.

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