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When you meet beauty, pay attention || Acharya Prashant, on Vedanta (2021)
Acharya Prashant
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2/19/2025
Video Information: 31.07.2021, Greater Noida
Context:
~ What is spiritual love?
~ What is the definition of beauty?
~ On what merits choose a life partner?
~ What is attachment?
~ What is the difference between love and attachment?
~ How to be free from attachment?
Music Credits: Milind Date
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00:00
When you come upon something beautiful, try to understand it.
00:08
That's what is meant by watching.
00:14
The worldly bird, the engaged bird would have surely glanced at her neighbor many a times.
00:25
That's not really called looking.
00:27
To look is to understand.
00:30
Do you really understand or do you just keep looking?
00:37
We said that if you are looking and not understanding, then something in you is just looking to avoid.
00:50
And it's very possible, be warned that you might keep just looking at something or someone
01:00
for years, for decades and yet be a total stranger to the reality of that person.
01:12
Just as several people keep reading holy books all their life and yet really understand nothing
01:18
because nothing shows up in their life.
01:27
Similarly, you could be looking at the person of the savior bird for months, years and decades
01:44
and yet gain not an inch of real closeness because you just keep kept looking and never
01:51
understood anything.
01:55
You never approached the secret.
01:59
You never had any love for the bird's core.
02:05
You kept looking at all the external actions, the birds, the words and all the fluff.
02:17
There is no bird without fluff.
02:23
You kept looking at all the fluff, golden-hued, big, small.
02:37
You kept noticing the Twitter.
02:48
You never knew the center.
02:55
And I'm repeating the warning, it is not merely possible, it is very, very probable.
03:09
You will be very, very close and unimaginably far, further than you can ever imagine.
03:30
As most people in the world are, you stand in front of a statue of Krishna.
03:42
How close are you to the essence of Krishna?
03:45
Are you getting it?
03:58
Everything in us does not want to acknowledge the truth because the truth is so poignant,
04:12
falseness will melt.
04:16
If not in heat, then in tears.
04:32
When you really look at the truth, there is not merely illumination, there is a deep pathos.
04:44
One is humiliated, almost ashamed.
04:55
There is a recognition of suffering.
05:17
Why did the savior bird even have to sit on the same branch as the worldly bird?
05:26
After all, she has nothing to do with fruit.
05:28
What's she doing on that branch?
05:31
Tell me please, why does she have to enjoy the company of a foolish flock?
05:48
The worldly bird we can understand, she has a purpose, what's the purpose?
05:53
The fruit is the purpose, but why is the other one sitting adjacent to her?
06:02
Think and that's where the pathos lies.
06:09
One is there to consume, the other is there just to oversee, with no purpose of her own.
06:23
That's witnessing.
06:28
The fruit is right next to her, all around her, she doesn't consume.
06:39
In the psychological sense, please, obviously if the bird exists as a mortal bird, she would
06:44
be taking in some nutrition, some food.
06:50
But in the psychological sense, she's not consuming anything, yet she's present.
07:00
Why?
07:04
When you really look at the truth, that's when you have an explosion of appreciation,
07:11
an explosion of recognition.
07:15
Something very, very important has been happening very, very close to you, and you have been
07:22
totally blind, insensitive, indifferent, and that's what breaks you down into pieces.
07:40
That internal explosion of recognition.
07:52
The ego needs a certain pride to survive, that pride is gone, and the ego has been humiliated
08:05
here, not by a display of power, but by a recognition of love.
08:26
I sit here to eat, she sits here for me.
08:47
I am here for the fruit.
08:54
She is here for me.
09:08
I'm calling it an explosion of recognition, and it is bound to happen if you look a bit
09:16
carefully, so you'll avoid looking.
09:44
Long back, almost a decade back, I wrote witnessing is love, and the so-called paths of knowledge
09:57
and devotion are not at all separate from each other.
10:07
It requires tremendous love to witness.
10:25
Parbraham is not even a witness, Parbraham, Nirguna Braham is Turiyatit, even beyond witnessing.
10:38
The one who is here to witness has taken upon herself a lot of suffering.
11:00
You may not have anything to do with what you know of in witnessing, but why would
11:20
you ever want to know of something you have nothing to do with, isn't it?
11:29
A kind of punishment to keep knowing of random stuff, useless garbage that you are anyway
11:41
not at all concerned with, that's the suffering the witness knowingly inflicts upon herself
11:51
for the sake of her sister bird.
12:00
You get this?
12:07
Ask yourself, why the hell must you be perched on a tree you have nothing to do with?
12:18
Why must you keep sitting next to a foolish bird tied to her greed?
12:33
Love compassion, the essence of witnessing.
12:40
Acharya ji, what is the meaning of looking a bit more carefully, you told that when you
12:52
look a bit more carefully then you will have that explosion of recognition, so how to look
13:05
a bit more carefully, we are constantly looking, but how to look a bit more carefully?
13:11
Do not allow your logic to run amok.
13:15
What does the logic of the first bird say?
13:19
She looks at the other bird, she does not need to inquire carefully because the second
13:26
bird looks so much like herself.
13:30
So she very quickly comes to a conclusion, she looks like me, so she behaves like me,
13:40
she looks like me, so she desires like me.
13:45
So do not allow your mind to come to quick and cheap conclusions.
13:54
Do not think that the place you operate from is the place the other one also operates from,
14:10
otherwise you will not only miss but come to horrendous conclusions.
14:18
You see, I am the worldly bird, I am here to eat and this one, obviously she is so much
14:27
like me, same color, same breed, she too is here to eat, but she is such a loser, she
14:33
cannot even get to eat.
14:37
So forget adulation, what you will raise within is humiliation for the savior bird, are you getting it?
14:52
She is here to eat, that's her intention, but she is failing to eat, she is such a loser.
15:02
Will you now have adulation for her or humiliation?
15:10
What's the fundamental flaw?
15:13
You looked at her and you said because she is like me in appearance, in mortal form,
15:24
therefore she is internally too like me.
15:31
Do not allow yourself to extrapolate a lot, do not posit, assume, imagine, ask, seek to
15:48
know, that's called looking, seek to know.
15:55
Your assumptions are no good and you have a lot of assumptions, that's why a conversation
16:11
become between the knower and the seeker is often quite difficult.
16:30
The seeker has assumptions not only about himself but also about the knower and then
16:41
the knower finds it very difficult to reach the seeker.
16:53
You don't have to assume that the knower is a knower, you just have to not assume that
17:04
you know the knower.
17:08
I'm not asking you to start worshipping any bird that appears like a witness, I'm asking
17:20
you to check your tendency, to assume that you know about even those birds who behave
17:33
differently compared to you, but you will keep positing, why, because the ego does not
17:44
love uncertainty, the ego is so fragile, it wants to come to quick and cheap conclusions.
17:59
I know what that bird is here for, don't I, I know what you are doing, you know nothing,
18:13
you know nothing about that bird, nothing at all, it's horrible and therefore when this
18:26
massive ignorance ends, I said there is an explosion of appreciation, in that explosion
18:35
you are reduced to pieces and that's the reason why you will not allow yourself to know the
18:43
reality of the witnessing bird, it will not allow you to remain intact.
19:06
You would rather cocoon yourself in cozy stories, oh this bird is my cousin, just one
19:18
month elder to me, I know the name of her father, I know, you know nothing, had you
19:47
really known anything, you wouldn't have been yourself till now.
20:14
Get into the shoes of our, you know, shopaholic bird, the worldly one, what's he thinking,
20:44
the weather is nice, the fruit is ripe, and what's this one doing here, tell me what's
20:54
the other bird doing here, oh maybe she is melancholy, missing her mate, she just doesn't
21:08
know how to live, I can very well imagine her telling the witness, mate go get a life,
21:21
I know you are not eating because depression reduces one's appetite, I know that's why
21:32
you are not eating, you are just depressed, and in between you can also visualize her
21:42
sermonizing, dude one life is all we have, come on, why are you wasting it, fruit is
21:55
ripe, juicy, succulent, don't miss this one grand festival called life, she is trying
22:06
to motivate the witness.
22:16
Coming from a wrong center, our relationship with the truth too is very wrong, not that
22:26
the truth isn't available, our relationship with it is very flawed, look at what we have
22:44
done with the lives and stories of our saints, sages, avatars, prophets, see what we have
22:52
done, we haven't tried to look at their truth, instead we have narrated them as some kinds
23:07
of decorated shadows of our own lives, you take your own picture and then you dress it
23:29
up and you start calling it the avatar, that's how we have related to the truth, we ask for
23:58
their intentions, their motivations, but why did Ram do this, why did Krishna do that,
24:03
we don't even ask actually, we assume that we already know, I know why Ram went after
24:13
the deer, I know, I know why Krishna wanted Arjun to kill Duryodhana, I know, who else
24:25
will know, after all Krishna was so much like me, because there is no truth except
24:33
my ego, so even the truth has to be like my ego, when there is no truth for you except
24:42
your ego, then even the truth has to be like your ego, that's our operating principle,
24:57
so we miss.
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