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Seeking a good looking partner || Acharya Prashant (2020)
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Video Information: Myth Demolition tour, 14.02.2020, Rishikesh, Uttarakhand, India
Context:
~ What is spiritual love?
~ What is definition of beauty?
~ On what merits choose life partner?
Music Credits: Milind Date
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So you just said about the different planes of love that are possible, like mental, spiritual,
00:14
physical, but somehow when you explained it, they were seeming different to me, but they
00:22
are maybe because I have been raised that way that I intertwine these two things, mental
00:27
and the physical plane, and that's how I come to see the world itself as well.
00:32
I don't know, just because it's my upbringing, I don't feel like, let's say I've been made
00:37
to feel that I'm not that beautiful or something like that, and I still want someone beautiful,
00:43
and that won't just happen because they also have the same definition of beauty, and that's
00:47
where the mental thing comes in somehow, that you are mentally well enough, so maybe that
00:52
person likes you mentally, and then she wants to be with you physically as well, and then
00:58
that just…
00:59
That too depends on your definition of yourself.
01:07
If you take yourself as primarily physical, then beauty too for you would be something
01:14
just physical, right?
01:17
You look at the woman most capable of successfully reproducing, that's the prakritic definition
01:36
of beauty, do you understand this?
01:42
What is the prakritic definition of beauty, what is prakriti?
01:47
Physical nature, this that we see all around us.
01:51
Here don't we have beautiful stuff, tell me beautiful stuff that you find in physical
01:58
nature, and you will be astonished that in physical nature most of that which you call
02:05
as beautiful is nothing but that which leads to procreation.
02:14
The first thing that comes to mind is flowers, what are flowers?
02:21
Flowers are the reproductive organs of the plant or the tree, aren't they?
02:33
In physical nature, in prakriti, stuff that directly corresponds to reproduction appears
02:45
attractive.
02:48
Now you know why you are attracted to particular physical parts of a woman.
03:00
Those parts are most likely to be the ones that are related to her capacity to reproduce,
03:11
right?
03:14
And it's common knowledge that in general most women would feel attracted to a male
03:24
who has a certain built and other stuff and therefore can offer protection to the offspring.
03:37
So all this talk of beauty at the physical level is just DNA trying to carry itself forward
03:51
to the next human being.
03:56
If you think that you are just a body, then all that you will care for is height and such
04:09
stuff and complexion.
04:14
If you take yourself as more mental, then you will be attracted to things like knowledge,
04:25
like prestige, like money that are not directly related to reproduction or the body but indirectly
04:36
even these things are just agents that facilitate successful cohabitation and the production
04:46
of offspring.
04:51
The definition of beauty totally changes if you look at yourself in the spiritual way.
05:01
When the one that you are calling as beautiful, two would be different, then it is quite possible
05:10
that you may find an utterly physically attractive woman quite ugly and equally it is possible
05:21
that you may find somebody physically very ordinary or even repulsive to most people
05:33
quite attractive to you.
05:37
So it's not so much about attracting somebody beautiful to yourself or obtaining a beautiful
05:43
mate in your life, it's more about knowing what beauty really is.
05:54
Depending on your definition of beauty, you will choose your relationships, you will choose
06:00
everything in life because life in one way is just a search for beauty.
06:06
If the very definition of beauty is flawed, then all that you will gather and all that
06:12
you will go through, all that you will bring towards yourself will be flawed as well.
06:19
Don't let that happen.
06:25
Just in this scenario, so I might feel like let's say I do not even need to go to the
06:30
other sex for that spiritual connection or spiritual up going ahead, I might feel that
06:36
someone of my friend is more helpful to me in those regards, but I still somehow have
06:43
those, let's say animal urges, which just take…
06:48
They must not be killed, but they must be subservient to the spiritual objective.
06:59
One day I had called all that as the tail of the elephant.
07:05
I had said that the real thing must be like the body of the elephant and then let the
07:13
sexual part follow the body of the elephant like the tail.
07:16
How big is the tail of the elephant?
07:18
Fine, so obviously sexuality is a part of one's physical existence.
07:25
There is no need to try to smother it.
07:29
Let it be there, but then let it not occupy the commanding position in your psyche.
07:37
Choose a person for his or her spiritual or actual merit and then if sex follows, alright.
07:48
Who said that you have to never enter into the sexual activity?
07:55
That's not a mandate.
07:59
Spirituality does not forbid sex.
08:03
It only forbids foolishness and most of our sexual activity is quite foolish.
08:12
Therefore, by association, sex is talked of in spiritual circles in a lowly way, but that
08:25
kind of lowliness that is accorded to sex is not because sex in itself is lowly.
08:31
Sex is neither high nor low, it is just a physical thing, but it becomes lowly when
08:39
it tries to occupy the place of the highest.
08:46
In your mind, you have a throne, alright.
08:52
In your mind, you have a hierarchy and that hierarchy should be right and clear.
08:59
As a young person, if in your mental hierarchy, sex comes to occupy a very high position,
09:07
then you will have problems.
09:10
That does not mean that you have to give no place to sex in this hierarchical system.
09:17
Give a place to sex that sex deserves and for sure it does not deserve the topmost place.
09:28
So we talked of three levels of association, physical, mental, spiritual.
09:37
They are not mutually exclusive, thanks for pointing that out.
09:40
They are not mutually exclusive.
09:43
I didn't say that if you are spiritually related to someone, you will have no emotional
09:48
connect and no physical connect.
09:53
That was not the objective.
09:56
A spiritual relationship means that you are related for spiritual reasons.
10:05
Now the body is secondary.
10:09
Now it does not matter whether sex happens or not, either way it does not matter.
10:15
If it doesn't happen, fine.
10:17
If it happens, you don't have to feel guilty.
10:23
But you surely are guilty if sex itself becomes central.
10:29
Then you have insulted yourself by bringing yourself down and the other person down to
10:35
merely the level of animal existence.
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