The key to better communication? Become a student of your partner! In this video, we share tips on how to truly understand your loved one, improve communication, and build a deeper connection. Watch now and transform your relationship!
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00:00And so another challenge that is important for us to be aware of is that men are fixers.
00:06We love to solve problems.
00:09And sometimes when women communicate, they're not looking to have an issue fixed.
00:13They just want to be heard.
00:15They just want to be understood.
00:16They just want to have someone to share their thoughts and their day and their expressions
00:20with.
00:21And if we show up to a communication with different agendas and a different focus and
00:26a different interest, it can cause gridlock in the relationship and keep us from effectively
00:32communicating.
00:33So one of the things that we had to learn in our relationship is that we had to become
00:36students of one another.
00:39And so one of the principles we teach is become a student of your partner or get your PhD
00:44in your partner.
00:45See, the more I began to learn her, her wiring, her emotions, her feeling, the way she thinks,
00:51the way she communicates, the more effective our relationship was.
00:55And so what I got was a book called The Book of Danielle.
00:59And she got a journal called The Book of Hasani.
01:01And everything we learned about each other, we placed it in the book.
01:05So in instance, what she likes, I would write in the book.
01:08What she dislikes, I wrote in the book.
01:10What turns her on, I wrote in the book.
01:13What turns her off, I wrote in the book.
01:15When is the most effective time to communicate with her?
01:20When is the least effective time to communicate with her?
01:23What are the areas that I should engage in?
01:25What areas should I not?
01:27And the more I began to learn her and peel back the layers, in essence, I got an eyeshot
01:33into who she really is and how to effectively deal with her.
01:37And if we take the time to become students of our partner, it will enhance our ability
01:42to effectively communicate when issues arise in relationships.