Inside Kalki's Goa Bungalow

Brut India

How was motherhood an introduction to human psychology for Kalki? The actor spoke about sustainable living, being a mom, and disconnecting, over a game of TT in her easy, breezy Goa home.

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00:00Hi.

00:01Hi.

00:02Come in, come in.

00:03We have a table tennis right at the entrance.

00:14Are you a player?

00:15Here we go.

00:16Here we go.

00:17Okay, ready?

00:18I'm a little nervous.

00:19There we go.

00:20That's one zero.

00:21Oh my God.

00:22You're doing it without even looking.

00:23I hate you.

00:24What the hell?

00:25I would love to go inside, see more of the house, and then I'm going to come back and

00:35finish this business, yes.

00:39This is the living room.

00:41I feel like it's...

00:42I live in a church, you know, with all the stained glass windows and it's like, I mean,

00:47it's a basketball court.

00:49This is a size of a basketball court.

00:50For sure, for sure.

00:51So is this where you're spending most of your time at home?

00:54Yeah, on this sofa.

00:55Okay.

00:56I usually sit here, read games, you know, movies, whatever.

01:02What drew you to want to shift to Goa?

01:04Lifestyle, especially with a young kid.

01:07I feel like you need a little garden, you need space, you need outdoor activities, otherwise

01:11they get stuck to the screen.

01:12Got you.

01:13And I felt like I was at a ready point.

01:15It makes sense.

01:16Are you a chess player?

01:18I am.

01:19I am.

01:20Wow.

01:21Are you really good?

01:23I'm better than my TT did.

01:24Does your daughter play chess?

01:26Oh, she's learning.

01:27She started to understand what are the pieces and how they move.

01:32But you know, she's not quite got the concentration to play a game yet.

01:37I love this.

01:38This table always makes me think of a surgery table.

01:41You know, with the lights going down, I imagine one big body and we're just the cannibals

01:47and we're eating.

01:48Okay.

01:49That got real.

01:50Okay.

01:51I love this little window.

01:52It feels like a diner.

01:53This hatchet is very useful when we have lots of people.

01:56So this is our little kitchen.

01:59I mean, it's just amazing how much space you have in Goa.

02:02So tell us a little bit about your diet.

02:05What are you usually eating?

02:06What does it look like?

02:07Me and my partner make breakfast and then lunch is Indian.

02:12My cook, she makes very good, she's Bengali, so she makes great fish.

02:16And dinner is very like salad based and like light.

02:20That's so healthy.

02:21I love a burger.

02:22Yeah.

02:23Like I'll get a good burger from Burger Factory in Goa.

02:26Okay.

02:27But I don't like the ones, these like fast food ones.

02:30Fair enough.

02:31I just don't like them.

02:32It's not about being healthy.

02:33Like we have french fries, we have pasta.

02:35Okay.

02:36We eat all those, like my daughter's favorite food is pasta bolognese.

02:39Okay.

02:40So like once a week, at least she needs to have more pasta bolognese, right?

02:44You're very vocal about your eco-friendly lifestyle.

02:48Yes.

02:49That's what I noticed, right?

02:50All the shopping bags, there's no plastic over there.

02:53Even the very colorful soaps over there.

02:56All the household products, pretty much floor cleaners and laundry and, you know, toilet

03:02paper, all of that is like recycled or natural non-chemical products.

03:07What's the origin story?

03:09Why did you, you know?

03:10Why did I get into it?

03:11I think I've, it's just a reminder of what I was anyway doing, growing up with.

03:16Do you want a cup of coffee?

03:17No, I'm good with my water.

03:19I might get myself a cup of coffee instead of you.

03:20Oh, please help yourself.

03:21Yeah.

03:22So we are going to do a fun little rapid fire while you make your coffee.

03:29Okay.

03:30What is your go-to karaoke song?

03:31Probably a Joni Mitchell song, like Paved Paradise.

03:36Okay.

03:37Put up a parking lot.

03:39You know that one?

03:40Nope.

03:41Hey, paved paradise, put up a parking lot.

03:44There it is.

03:45There it is.

03:46If you could have any superpower, what would it be?

03:50I think being invisible would be a great superpower because you could go anywhere into anybody's

03:56place and find out lots of little secrets and run the world.

04:01Interesting.

04:02Yeah.

04:03So what would yours be?

04:04I would, ooh, no one's ever asked me.

04:05I'd like to fly.

04:06Oh, really?

04:07Just fly about.

04:08Fly would be nice.

04:09Yeah.

04:10Yeah.

04:11Just all the world problems, I'll just go somewhere.

04:12Look at that.

04:13You don't even want to like change the world or anything.

04:15Just like chill.

04:16Philosophically, I think saving the world is still like, you're trying to, you think

04:22that you have the power to do, it's arrogance, you know?

04:24Yeah.

04:25I get what you're saying.

04:26Whereas getting to the next level where you're just at peace.

04:28Yeah.

04:29It's pretty good.

04:30What can I say?

04:31Well done, Nihal.

04:38So Kalki, we do this segment on our show where we quiz our guests on Gen Z lingo.

04:44Oh, damn it.

04:45Here we go.

04:46So it's called OK Boomer.

04:48I give up.

04:49At least try.

04:51What does Riz mean?

04:53Charisma.

04:54What does ghosting mean?

04:58When you like stop calling somebody after dating them.

05:00Hmm.

05:01Yeah.

05:02Do you have any advice to like not get ghosted?

05:05Don't be an a**hole.

05:06But, okay.

05:07So you're saying that's always the case?

05:09You're saying only if you're an a**hole, you get ghosted?

05:12No, I'm saying the one ghosting is also an a**hole.

05:15What does addy mean?

05:16Addict?

05:17Address.

05:18Address.

05:19Send me the addy.

05:20Send me your addy.

05:21Yeah.

05:22Oh.

05:23Okay.

05:24I always send that song.

05:25Send me your location.

05:26Yeah, yeah, yeah.

05:27That's a good one.

05:28That's a good one.

05:29Shout out Khaled.

05:30This is the last one.

05:31It's a hard one.

05:32What is a clout chaser?

05:33A clout chaser?

05:35Is it like somebody who is a bully?

05:37So clout is essentially fame.

05:39So anybody who does things to just chase that, you're a clout chaser.

05:44If you would like to give some advice to the youth of the nation using some of the

05:50words you've learned here today, what would it be?

05:53Don't be a clout chaser, be a clout chaser.

05:58Wow.

05:59Find out where the clouds are going because that's the future.

06:03Hold up.

06:04Wise one.

06:05Nailed it.

06:06Nailed it.

06:07Everybody asks this, but what truly changed from once you became a mother?

06:14What sort of epiphanies or realizations did you have?

06:18Wow.

06:19Becoming a mother is many things.

06:23One is it's a huge lesson in psychology because you really see in minute detail how to handle

06:32a human being, which then leads to you going right back to your childhood.

06:37So everything you've achieved goes away.

06:39And that's why we usually have postpartum depression and we're just like lost.

06:44But because of that, you also re-find yourself in a new perspective because you can't go

06:48back to who you were before.

06:49You're never going to have the freedoms, you're never going to have the times.

06:53Everything else, everything has rescheduled and re-changed.

06:57So who are you in that?

06:59And it's exciting.

07:00I don't know if you have kids, if you're going to have kids.

07:03You think I have kids called kids?

07:06No, but you never know.

07:08Teenage pregnancies are a thing.

07:10Sometimes people become fathers super young.

07:13Anyway, I mean, you struggle up and down.

07:17I think sometimes I feel like I'm still in postpartum four years down the line, you know.

07:21I think my mother is still in postpartum.

07:25But you know, that really first few months is extremely trying and you do need all the

07:32help you can get.

07:33Going forward, if you had advice to the parents watching, what would that be?

07:37See, I'm not like a really woke, woke parent who's like, you can let your kid do whatever

07:41they want and be like a monster because that's what's happening a lot now with parents.

07:46I'm kind of in between.

07:48I think discipline and boundary making is very important.

07:52But I would just say, never lose the sense of like play and curiosity because it's when

07:58you're playing, really playing with your child that you find out the most serious stuff about

08:03them.

08:04Like you'll be playing puppets together and suddenly they'll mention their vagina, you

08:09know.

08:10And what about like iPad time?

08:12Does she get a lot of or are you trying to like?

08:14Now, thank God, we hardly have to worry about iPad time because we're here and there's just

08:20so much external activity.

08:22There's a cycle.

08:23She goes for cycles.

08:24So TV time, she usually gets between like five and six in the evening.

08:29But nowadays, she doesn't even, sometimes she doesn't even ask for it.

08:32So it's great.

08:33Okay.

08:34What about your screen time?

08:37My screen time is after I put her to bed, yeah.

08:39Because that's the time we get like as a couple as well.

08:44So yeah, I have an indulgence, like an unhealthy indulgence for serial killer shows and stalker

08:50shows.

08:51I think because I end up watching so much of this like child stuff that I need to counter

08:56it.

08:57Got you, got you.

08:58Otherwise, it's like, yeah.

08:59And are you on reels?

09:00Are you like scrolling?

09:01Ah, yeah, that's a problem.

09:03So now what I've started doing is at night, I keep my phone away.

09:07I keep it in a different room.

09:10And I also don't have it next to my bed in the mornings.

09:12So until after breakfast, I don't check my phone.

09:16Okay, so back to our table tennis match that we started.

09:19I feel like it is time for us.

09:21Score is 3-2.

09:22That's not how I remember it.

09:23No, it's 3-2.

09:24I'll take your word for it.

09:25Yeah.

09:26Okay.

09:27All right, guys.

09:28For Brute.

09:29Choke.

09:30Damn it, damn it, damn it.

09:31I'm out of here, bro.

09:32Damn it.

09:33Damn it.

09:34Damn it.

09:35Damn it.

09:36Damn it.

09:37Damn it.

09:38I'm out of here, bro.

09:39Damn it.

09:40I'm built different.

09:41Please just let me walk out of there.

09:43Get out of here.

09:44On that point.

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