Navigating life as a mixed-race couple

Brut India

"Why are you race mixing?" When Megan and Savio first started dating, they didn't realise people would have so much to say about their relationship...  Savio Jose.

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00:00Savio, you are my life, you are my heart, and I need you a lot.

00:11We got comments like, he smells something about cows, and there's a lot of, you know,

00:32why are you race mixing?

00:46Even our first date, you know, we didn't even kiss, which is, for me and my culture, it's

00:54usually expected, I guess.

00:58I had been on a few dates before meeting her, and I had an insecurity, like, I still have

01:05an accent, I have an accent, and I was so insecure about myself, and she did not make

01:12me feel that way.

01:14No!

01:15Help!

01:16She's killing me!

01:26My dad, he is from Kerala, he had this orthodox thinking, and he was like, at that point of

01:36time, he was also aggressively searching for a Malayali girl for me.

01:42I didn't know how he would take the news that, you know, I'm in love with this Caucasian

01:47woman, and I was really, really worried that he would disown me.

01:52I tried to understand that, but it still was very hard for me to fully understand, because

01:58I just kind of felt like he was hiding me, you know, something like that.

02:12Are you happy?

02:13If you are happy, I'm happy.

02:14Testing.

02:15Testing.

02:16Testicles.

02:17Not funny anymore.

02:18Why don't you guys stick to your own cultures and your own race?

02:43She just assumes that, you know, I married her for getting green card.

02:47Yeah, we get that comment constantly.

02:48At the end of the day, like, we just know that we love each other, and our love is just

02:53stronger than those, like, hateful comments, you know?

03:04I absolutely had no idea.

03:07I was completely in the dark.

03:09I'm a dancer myself.

03:11Like, I like to dance a lot, so I just want to do it.

03:15I know, like, this is a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity, and this is my opportunity to

03:20do it.

03:40My heart just melted right away, so I just couldn't, like, hold back my feelings.

04:10She loves Indian food.

04:20I can't handle too much spice, though, so we do kind of need to tone it down a little

04:27bit.

04:28I think my tolerance is getting better.

04:32When I get sick, I do things that she doesn't understand, you know, and then she's like,

04:41what are you doing?

04:42And for example, like, the steam inhalation.

04:45Seeing how the household is run in India, we don't live with our parents, you know?

04:51Here, husbands and wives are pretty equal.

04:54They know I'm not doing the dishes.

04:56You're helping me with the dishes, you know?

04:57So we've kind of had to navigate through that as well, and we just work together.

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