A father's heartwarming gesture at gay son's wedding

Brut India

From struggling to find a priest to dedicating a special song at the wedding… This is how a dad made his gay son’s wedding special.

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00:00I thought getting a pundit was an easy thing.

00:02When I talked about gay wedding, they were totally freaked out.

00:05Vijaybhai, are you out of your mind?

00:07Hindu tradition has nothing about gay wedding.

00:09Dharma means to live an authentic life.

00:12It would be wrong for Parag to fake that he's normal

00:16and marry a woman. That would be adharma.

00:19So if they are joining in a holy matrimony

00:22and a committed relationship,

00:24there is nothing wrong.

00:30This is my first gay wedding, by the way.

00:53And for many of you, this might be your first gay wedding to attend.

00:57I thought getting a pundit was an easy thing.

00:59I knew so many pundits.

01:01I said, OK, we can manipulate this here and there and we'll do it.

01:05There are three types of priests I met.

01:07Some of them are good friends of mine.

01:09Category one, when I talked about gay wedding,

01:12they were totally freaked out.

01:13Vijaybhai, are you out of your mind?

01:15Hindu tradition has nothing about gay wedding.

01:17And this would be absolutely this and that.

01:20And I didn't even have guts to tell that I am trying to plan a gay wedding.

01:23So category one was eliminated.

01:26Category two, they were good people.

01:29They kind of understood that what I was trying to say.

01:32I said, but Vijaybhai, this is a problem.

01:34Everything we speak is about Vishnu and Lakshmi and procreation

01:38and producing the babies and these guys can't do that.

01:42So it would be wrong for me to do the Vedic mantra

01:45to unite these two people in a Hindu tradition.

01:48And then the third type was very practical.

01:51They said, listen, I don't mind doing it, but if I did your job,

01:54maybe the other people, my customer base will go down

01:56because they think I am weird and trying to bless this thing.

02:00So they were chickened out.

02:02So finally, when I couldn't find anything, I called Swami Sivatmananda

02:07and he completely cleared it up.

02:09He said, listen, dharma means to living authentic life.

02:14It would be wrong for Parag to fake that he's normal and marry a woman.

02:19That would be adharma.

02:21The fact that he chose Vaibhav on his own voluntary desire

02:27and Vaibhav chose Parag is actually a dharmic thing.

02:30So if they are joining in a holy matrimony and a committed relationship,

02:36there is nothing wrong.

02:37As I went through all this thing, Parag and Vaibhav, I realized one thing.

02:42That even after having Parag for 20 years,

02:45I had no idea that even for the simplest thing,

02:50I want my wedding in my tradition.

02:53I want my wedding in Jain religion.

02:55These people have to struggle.

02:58We don't realize this.

03:00And I suddenly, it dawned on me that this is the thing.

03:03So then, while I want to wish you two a very long and happy wedded life,

03:09and on your name, we are going to donate $10,000 to Ekal Vidyalay.

03:16I want to quote a song that says,

03:21Pighala de janjeerai, you have shackles, you melt it.

03:26And bana de samseerai, means make the sword out of that.

03:30And you try to fight every challenge that comes your way.

03:34And then it goes, supposing the kismat is not against you,

03:39your luck rootjaye, then if your luck is not with you or your samseerai breaks,

03:45you have halved the sword, you keep on fighting for the right thing.

03:49And the last one is, kar har meydan fateh,

03:52means may you win every challenge.

03:55And that's my blessing to you.

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