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Speak with Kids Intelligently - Nouman Ali Khan

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00:00Tell me a good joke.

00:10This is the difference between boys and girls by the way.

00:13Let's go.

00:14Why did the bee get married?

00:15Why did the bee get married?

00:17I don't know.

00:18Why did the bee get married?

00:19Because he found his new honey.

00:27You got a future child.

00:28You got a future.

00:30What's your name?

00:31Noman.

00:32What's this?

00:33Nose.

00:34What's in my hand?

00:35Nothing.

00:36Noman knows nothing.

00:43What is the greatest thing ever invented?

00:47Xbox.

00:50Some parent is going.

00:53You notice for a lot of the kids that were here, when I was asking them questions, they

00:56didn't have answers.

00:57That means there's not enough conversation at home.

01:00That we don't actually engage our children as much, and they don't articulate themselves

01:04very much.

01:05And a lot of times our children speak to us and we give them one word answers.

01:08Baba, look at this, look at this, look at this, and we're like, uh-huh, yeah, okay,

01:13that's great.

01:14But no real conversation, fluff.

01:16You can actually spend your entire childhood just asking the same questions.

01:19Did you eat?

01:20Did you finish your homework?

01:21Yes, no, yes, no, yes, no, yes, no, yes, no.

01:24Instead, learn to ask questions that maybe they'll give you more.

01:27But we have to facilitate.

01:29Kids won't necessarily open up conversation on their own.

01:32We have to teach them to do that to the point where they want to come and tell you.

01:36You don't even have to go ask them.

01:38That's kind of what we're learning in Surah Yusuf when Yusuf himself came.

01:42The dad didn't say, did you have good sleep?

01:44Did you see a dream?

01:45No, the child himself came and said, I saw a dream.

01:48That's the kind of communication we want to facilitate with our kids.

01:51And so when we talk to kids and they're not giving us much of an answer, that's not their

01:55fault.

01:57We're not teaching them how to have conversation enough.

01:59We're not facilitating that for them enough.

02:01We're not making it safe enough, comforting enough for them to open up more and more and

02:05more.

02:06Don't talk to them like they're babies.

02:07Talk to them like they're intelligent.

02:09Even when they're 3, 4 years old, 2, 3 years old, speak with them like they're intelligent.

02:13And even if they don't know how to respond, you know, some kids are more primitive than

02:17others, right?

02:18That's just how Allah made children.

02:19You know, sometimes our kids are even 4, 5 years old and we speak to them like this,

02:24That's how they think normal speech works now.

02:30So even when they talk to you like, that's not because they talk like that, because they

02:35think that's how you talk.

02:37So they're talking to you in your language.

02:40Speak with kids intelligently and you'll be surprised how quickly they learn to communicate

02:44intelligently.

Speak with Kids Intelligently - Nouman Ali Khan

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