My mum your dad - Roger Hawes and Janey Smith - video Dailymotion

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My mum your dad - Roger Hawes and Janey Smith tallk to Gay Bolton

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00:00 What's this last year been like for you?

00:02 Mental.

00:03 That's it?

00:03 Yeah.

00:04 It's not real.

00:04 It's only mental.

00:05 Yeah.

00:05 This, yeah, it's been mental.

00:07 Really?

00:08 It's been a year, hasn't it?

00:09 And we did sit quietly the other day and thought, what was that?

00:13 Then you, oh, we did this.

00:14 Yeah.

00:15 And then we went in there and, oh, what about that?

00:18 What about when we did this?

00:19 What's been the high spot for you both?

00:23 I think it sounds corny, but for me, it's just having a boyfriend.

00:26 And then like--

00:26 What about you, Roger?

00:27 Having a girlfriend.

00:28 Oh, he always, yeah, he's taking my lines.

00:33 I bet you get asked this all the time, though, don't you?

00:37 We do, but I think--

00:38 I do, but I don't mind.

00:39 --like, traveling's been wonderful,

00:40 but I'd much prefer to travel with Roger than on my own, you know?

00:44 So yeah, that's what's been lovely.

00:47 Roger, do you live in Stavely or Chesterfield?

00:50 Stavely.

00:50 You're going to stay there, are you?

00:53 Well, we just move in between, but I'm spending more time in West Sussex.

00:59 When I left there this morning, it was 19 degrees.

01:02 And a messy house.

01:04 But I looked on the weather.

01:06 It's going to be like that for the next four days.

01:08 And then you get on the motor, M25, sunshine, opening windows,

01:12 because it's too warm, air conditioning.

01:14 It's not just the weather.

01:15 And then we got on the M1, then you hit Leicester,

01:19 and clouds moved in, and oh, getting near Rome.

01:23 Do you miss being a postman?

01:26 I miss all my mates.

01:28 Yeah, 30 years or more.

01:32 Really?

01:32 Yeah.

01:33 Yeah.

01:33 So yeah, I almost know what we're doing sometimes towards the end.

01:39 No, I've got a lot of good friends, which being just the difference

01:45 of where Jadie lives and I live and seeing each other.

01:48 So I don't get to see a lot of my friends.

01:51 I don't even see enough of my family, to be honest.

01:53 You spend more time down in West Sussex than you do out of Chanel.

01:56 At the moment, yes.

01:57 Only the past couple of weeks out of a year.

02:02 We've been away, so yeah.

02:04 Are you still doing all your travel stuff for the television then?

02:07 Yeah, we've just-- you have to respond to when they talk to you about--

02:15 Where are you going next?

02:16 We don't know.

02:17 We don't know.

02:18 But we are available.

02:20 Very spur of the moment thing, is it?

02:22 It is, yeah.

02:23 Always, yeah.

02:24 You must get exhausted by all the demands on your time, though.

02:28 You do get tired of it, but I'm not-- I'm sure somebody--

02:31 I don't want to hear somebody say, oh, listen to Tim.

02:34 No, yeah, it does get tiring.

02:36 But yeah, like Jadie says, just being together.

02:40 Would you have ever dreamed how much your lives have changed?

02:43 No.

02:44 No, no.

02:45 It's just unreal.

02:47 Is it?

02:47 Yeah.

02:49 Even something as simple as that, when we walked in this morning's juveniles,

02:55 I walked past, like, it's Dr. Hillary.

02:57 I was like this.

02:59 And it-- just sit, and you're like, oh my.

03:03 Do you find people recognize you wherever you go now?

03:06 Yeah, we do get recognized a lot.

03:08 Yeah.

03:09 Everyone's lovely, and it's not a bad thing.

03:12 It's just nice.

03:14 To be fair, we've never really had a bad situation, have we, where somebody is--

03:20 Not in person.

03:21 No.

03:21 Online trolling's a whole new world, but--

03:23 You always get that.

03:25 Just envious people, aren't they?

03:26 Yeah, it's a ghastly world, that side.

03:28 But I think in person--

03:30 Do you get to respond sometimes?

03:32 Yeah, but I tell him not to.

03:35 No, people are just generally nice, so it's not a problem to talk about it.

03:40 And if you had your time again, would you go back on the program?

03:44 Can't say no.

03:45 It was-- I would say to anybody when they asked--

03:48 they were asking us, what would you say about the new program?

03:52 Yeah, you're going to meet people.

03:54 You're in a safe environment.

03:56 It's in a lovely spot.

03:57 And what you make of it, it's up to you.

04:00 And obviously, we were lucky that we just hit it off, and we just--

04:06 really, we're at that stage now that we're just saying the same thing,

04:11 we're laughing at the same thing.

04:12 Like an old married couple.

04:14 I said that last night.

04:16 I said, why are you laughing?

04:17 What are you laughing at?

04:18 I thought, what have I done?

04:19 And he says, I'm just laughing.

04:21 I said, please tell me what you're laughing at.

04:22 You know when you get married, you have to tell me now you've told me that.

04:25 He wouldn't say.

04:26 And then just before I went to bed, he said,

04:28 I was just laughing that we're like an old married couple, lying here.

04:32 How many of the other couples from the series are still together, then?

04:35 Do you keep in touch with them or not?

04:37 We're in touch with pretty much everyone, but no one's together.

04:42 Aren't they?

04:42 So you're the only ones?

04:44 Yeah.

04:45 Yeah.

04:45 There was two--

04:47 Two other couples.

04:48 Three of us, three couples that come out.

04:50 We're seeing each other at the time, but that was all out with distance.

04:54 Paul and Natalie, Sharon and Elliot.

04:57 Yeah.

04:57 It was a shame.

04:58 Yeah.

04:59 Because--

05:00 Yeah.

05:00 Always an average view of the program.

05:02 I loved every minute of it.

05:03 Yeah.

05:04 Fantastic.

05:05 I thought-- I think it's brilliant.

05:06 They're currently filming at the moment, I think, so for the next one.

05:11 But yeah.

05:12 So will they invite you back on, do you think, at the end of it to sort of--

05:15 I don't know.

05:16 This is how it can be for you.

05:18 Well, yeah, I think it's--

05:21 I've always said everyone should just go for it, because you never know what's around the corner in life.

05:26 Of course not.

05:27 And if-- I always-- if you just sit at home waiting to meet someone,

05:29 they're not going to knock on your door, are they, and ask you out for dinner.

05:32 So you've just got to get yourself out there.

05:35 The more you think about it, the more unnatural it seems to happen--

05:40 It's really tough.

05:41 --to actually meet somebody that you fit with, and we just-- we do fit.

05:46 Yeah.

05:47 It's just weird.

05:49 Just-- I don't know.

05:50 I'm just--

05:51 It's easy.

05:51 Yeah, look, I wouldn't-- so yeah, I wouldn't like to try and tell somebody else,

05:55 you've got to do this, you've got to do that.

05:56 I think you've just got to--

05:59 I think you have to be open to things, well, don't you, you know, like--

06:04 I think some-- when you get a bit older and you've had things happen to you throughout life,

06:08 and a bit of trauma, or, you know, mistrust issues, everything,

06:13 but I think you've just got to keep going and keep looking, you know, so.

06:18 And for the time being, are you going to stay in your sort of respective counties?

06:22 You're not going to move it together, or--

06:24 No, I mean, my son's back from uni in the summer, because he's at Cardiff.

06:29 My parents are in their 80s, and they're near me, so I still have to take them into account.

06:35 We're back this weekend, it's my daughter's-- she's 30--

06:39 Yeah.

06:40 --on Sunday, so we're back for a big party.

06:42 Is this Jess?

06:43 Jess, yeah, and we've got-- there's quite-- there's a few coming up from the show.

06:48 So there's seven of the kids from the show.

06:50 And Paul, Caroline, and Clayton are coming, yeah.

06:54 So a big family party, then.

06:56 Yeah, yeah, so I wouldn't miss any family, and Jadie travels back with me as well,

07:03 and I'll be there for her and my dad.

07:06 Don't you do miss your brother's birthday?

07:09 Miss my brother's birthday?

07:10 Oh, we do.

07:11 My mum's as well, next weekend.

07:12 Oh, bless you.

07:14 But it's just, you know, my family's very chill.

07:17 Like I say, it's just them and William and my brother,

07:22 but they just want me to be happy.

07:23 Of course, yeah.

07:24 And I think at the end of the day--

07:26 You just have to be a bit malleable and-- yeah, you've just got to--

07:31 It's different.

07:32 It takes on a whole new dynamic, and Roger, obviously, was married for a very long time,

07:35 whereas myself, I've never been married.

07:37 I've never had, like, a life partner, so to speak.

07:40 So for me, it's finding that balance of thinking, well, I still love my friends,

07:46 because they were always there for me.

07:48 They were my family, you know,

07:50 and now I have to take into account this family as well and my own.

07:55 It's a lot to juggle sometimes.

07:57 It is a lot.

07:58 Plus everyone knowing about it too.

08:01 Exactly.

08:02 So, I mean, your romance has sort of played out across and through the nation, isn't it?

08:06 So that must be a lot of--

08:08 Yeah, pressure's on.

08:09 I was going to say, there must be a lot of pressure with that.

08:12 Not really, no.

08:14 There's no pressure on us, but I think--

08:16 I don't think we've really ever fell out yet.

08:19 It's been a year.

08:20 That's fantastic.

08:21 I say I don't argue.

08:22 I don't do drama.

08:23 I'm not interested.

08:24 This lip don't bleed.

08:25 Yeah, yeah.

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