Polyamorous Family Don’t Even Know Who Their KIDS' DADS ARE

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Credit: SWNS  A polyamorous family of two mums and two dads are so close they don't even know who their kids' dads are.  Taya and Sean Hartless met Alysia and Tyler Rodgers online in 2019 with the intention of spicing up their sex life.  But the married couples became close and eventually they all began to admit having feelings for one another.  The family moved in together in 2020 and the parents went on to have two other children between them, to add to Tyler and Alysia's two youngsters.  Now, the 'quad' parent all four as their own.

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00:00 I think a lot of people equate polyamory to sex and that does not sum up polyamory.

00:05 It's so much more than that. We're just kind of a big crazy family.

00:08 So we're in a polyamorous quad. That polyamory in general, meaning we have multiple partners,

00:20 our quad is closed. So Sean is my husband and then Tyler is my partner as well. And then

00:27 Tyler and Alicia are married and Alicia is Sean's partner as well.

00:31 For Tay and I, we've been married since 2017. Had a really great marriage. Everything was going

00:36 great. Just felt the need to explore and have a little fun. Wasn't looking for anything

00:41 relationship-wise. Just wanted to explore certain things from a physical standpoint with other

00:46 people. Alicia and I were married since 2012 and we were just kind of seeking out some

00:51 extra-curricular fun. Like Sean said, it was just meant to be a physical thing for us to

00:56 kind of casual. Happened to match with these guys on a digital app. We had talked online for

01:01 you know a little while. Decided to meet at an event in Portland. Hung out and had pretty good

01:07 chemistry. It was pretty easy, pretty comfortable to be around each other. I think it was a lot of

01:12 what-if conversations in the beginning. Like what if there was feelings and then what if we wanted

01:16 to spend more time together and then what if we wanted to live together and those what-ifs just

01:20 turned into real life conversations really quickly. It was a really beautiful thing to

01:24 realize that it doesn't take away from our own relationship to have the other experimental

01:28 person just ask you. I mean I'd never heard the term polyamory before we were in a polyamorous

01:33 relationship. So the idea that you could love more than one person had never crossed my mind before.

01:37 Tyler and I had two previous children together before we met Sean and Taya and then after we

01:43 have been together I birthed Barrett and then Taya gave birth to Carver. So the little boys are only

01:49 seven months apart. From a biological standpoint you know the older two kids don't want to rain

01:53 out. We know that I'm the biological father. The younger two boys biologically, I'm not sure

02:00 because we didn't really make an effort to regulate that and determine beforehand who was

02:03 going to father the child. But moving on from that I would say that our children all have two fathers.

02:08 Not knowing the biology of the two younger kids is not important to us because we parent together.

02:14 It doesn't matter to us. It's never mattered to us. The kids see us all as parents and so it's

02:19 never been a, as of right now, has never been a thing. Not to say that it won't be when the kids

02:23 are older and we would never hide that from anyone. Most of the time that we spend together

02:27 is as a quad. All kids are in bed by about eight o'clock at night so it gives one hour for all the

02:32 adults to kind of unwind and watch a show together, the four of us as a quad. And then at nine we go

02:39 to our own separate bedrooms. So one night Tyler and I will be together, Sean and Taya will be

02:44 together, and then the next night Sean and I will be together and Taya and Tyler will be together.

02:48 It's been really fun to share our family and our family photos and honestly just how normal we are.

02:57 We're just kind of a big crazy family and I think a lot of people equate polyamory to sex and

03:02 it's not. That does not sum up polyamory. It's so much more than that and our relationships

03:09 physically aren't unlike anybody else's except for the fact that we have one additional partner

03:15 than most people do.

03:18 [silence]

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