#27. What To Do If You're Not Invited To A Friend's Wedding?
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Originally uploaded: August 2nd, 2020
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Well my friends.
I come across this and wanted to address the question thrown at me.
You wasn't invited. Let me be blunt.
1. You weren't invited because they didn't want you there. Period. This is a tough pill to swallow.
1a. Every once in a while I had a family member or friend tell me that their wedding was for family only or they only had their mom and dad there, small budget or some other scenario. But I'm not fooling myself lol. Most of time they didn't want me there lol. I didn't take it personally. There's plenty more that I won't be invited to, life goes on. I appreciate the weddings I am invited to.
2. They tell us ladies to be truest selves, girl empowerment, etc. But when you have the guts to be yourself and let go of that need to be liked, you face penalties from society: My punishments? Not being included or invited to outings and weddings. In the perfect world, differences are respected, but sometimes it doesn't pan out that way. When you want to take the road less traveled you find yourself on the outside looking in. ( For example: Being around people who want to marry but you don't want to marry yourself). People misunderstand you and you don't fit in. Because I choose to take a different path in life, I got the boot from a lot of friend groups and it's ok. Stay the course. Eventually you will find your people that like you, include you and love you.
Today Show Link: https://www.today.com/video/how-to-break-free-from-the-need-to-be-liked-76703301804
3. Maybe you thought you were a close friend, but they didn't see you the same way. Maybe they are closer to some of your friends, but not you.
4. With some of my friendships, I can pick up right where we left off or reconnect. I'm flexible. Sometimes people are only in your life for a season. Just because you go out with them/work with them/whatever doesn't mean they will invite you to their big day.
5. Keep this in mind, it's their day. They can invite who they want. If you feel bad for being left out, pamper yourself on that day. Hang out with other people.
6. Stay the course. Eventually you will find your people that like you, include you and love you.
7. I still congratulate them. I'm not ever mad at anyone.
8. If I decide to marry (which is a 0.00000000000000000000000000005 chance) I'll send a live link for friends and family that can't come for some reason or damn just don't want to. I couldn't make it to a close friend's wedding because of a surgery and she told me not to worry about it, no big deal. My non existent wedding is no big deal.
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Originally uploaded: August 2nd, 2020
https://linktr.ee/aleshapeterson
Well my friends.
I come across this and wanted to address the question thrown at me.
You wasn't invited. Let me be blunt.
1. You weren't invited because they didn't want you there. Period. This is a tough pill to swallow.
1a. Every once in a while I had a family member or friend tell me that their wedding was for family only or they only had their mom and dad there, small budget or some other scenario. But I'm not fooling myself lol. Most of time they didn't want me there lol. I didn't take it personally. There's plenty more that I won't be invited to, life goes on. I appreciate the weddings I am invited to.
2. They tell us ladies to be truest selves, girl empowerment, etc. But when you have the guts to be yourself and let go of that need to be liked, you face penalties from society: My punishments? Not being included or invited to outings and weddings. In the perfect world, differences are respected, but sometimes it doesn't pan out that way. When you want to take the road less traveled you find yourself on the outside looking in. ( For example: Being around people who want to marry but you don't want to marry yourself). People misunderstand you and you don't fit in. Because I choose to take a different path in life, I got the boot from a lot of friend groups and it's ok. Stay the course. Eventually you will find your people that like you, include you and love you.
Today Show Link: https://www.today.com/video/how-to-break-free-from-the-need-to-be-liked-76703301804
3. Maybe you thought you were a close friend, but they didn't see you the same way. Maybe they are closer to some of your friends, but not you.
4. With some of my friendships, I can pick up right where we left off or reconnect. I'm flexible. Sometimes people are only in your life for a season. Just because you go out with them/work with them/whatever doesn't mean they will invite you to their big day.
5. Keep this in mind, it's their day. They can invite who they want. If you feel bad for being left out, pamper yourself on that day. Hang out with other people.
6. Stay the course. Eventually you will find your people that like you, include you and love you.
7. I still congratulate them. I'm not ever mad at anyone.
8. If I decide to marry (which is a 0.00000000000000000000000000005 chance) I'll send a live link for friends and family that can't come for some reason or damn just don't want to. I couldn't make it to a close friend's wedding because of a surgery and she told me not to worry about it, no big deal. My non existent wedding is no big deal.
Connect With Me:
Facebook: Alesha "Silky Slick" Peterson
Twitter: aleshapeterson
Instagram: aleshampeterson
Medium: https://medium.com/@aleshapeterson
Snap:silky.slick
https://patreon.com/silkyslick