#455. Why I love my protective bubble! Being liked by people is overrated!

Alesha Peterson

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00:00Hey y'all before we get started I'm always gonna put this little warning clip in here I do curse

00:20in this so if you don't want to hear me curse go ahead and skip this video I appreciate your

00:26time either way thank you for watching hi my name is Alicia if this is your first time visiting

00:36my channel welcome so this is why I love my protective bubble in fact I got my notes this

00:44time so this is gonna be one of my longer videos I think but I have a lot of things to discuss

00:49I've been getting like a lot of them horoscopes and tarot readings and stuff like that and one

00:55of the things they keep talking about is I'm a chosen one I'm a catch and first of all let's

01:01just take ten steps back I don't consider myself to be a catch of a month day year I just consider

01:06myself to be Alicia Alicia that likes to be a good auntie a good friend a good cousin that's it I

01:12like food I like to have fun I like to be a source of positive energy but let's not take it that far

01:18you know I'm saying yes I have cut back from people significantly I'm in a different mode right

01:26now I'm more creative than I've ever been and I'll talk more about this later number two why I love my

01:34protective bubble I don't understand it like why some people think they deserve access when they

01:40haven't earned it I work on projects businesses I don't discuss and I've had people say hey Alicia you

01:45disappeared off Facebook and snapchat yeah because it's kind of one of my ways of like disciplining

01:50myself hey you'll get back on Facebook after you get your goals and stuff done that's just how I do

01:56things see I'm also the only child and I have no problem disappearing into hermit mode like it's just

02:03my comfort zone and now that I've gone incognito people have noticed I even had like neighbors say

02:09hey mrs incognito I say hey what's up and if you went to school with me like you know

02:15that you have your fair share of party member you have your fair share of party memories and tequila

02:24shots with me but I pulled back significantly number one I just don't feel that great number

02:32two I've been distancing myself in my hometown for a multitude of reasons and number three I'm just in

02:39the place where I don't care if I miss out or not I just really don't care you know what I mean you

02:44know how you're just in that stage in your life where you just don't care number four I don't look

02:51for help or desire it and don't care if it ever comes because when I needed it wanted it and could

02:56have used it it didn't come and I ended up getting burned and hurt in ways that to this day I still

03:01can't describe now that I'm kind of like a take matters into your own hands type of person if I

03:08don't do it it won't get done type person for my own good based on what I've been shown most people

03:15don't care since I've been like taken on that mantra I've kind of been doing things on my own and I sort

03:25of like it you know it's kind of like one of those things where if I'm not looking for it I'm not missing

03:31it you know what I mean I've even had friends and cousins and horoscopes and terrorists are just I

03:37soften up but let's just be for real though look what happened when I did soften up and when I did

03:44it literally felt like an invitation for her and now that I'm kind of like in a place where I'm taking

03:51responsibility owning everything meaning my shortcomings facing that side of your face facing that side of

03:57yourself you don't want to face and now that I've been through all that and I'm doing well on my

04:02own I keep getting this like vibe to soften my shell let folks in and when they hurt you we got therapy

04:09over here no how about this realizing that everyone is going to hurt you you just need to figure out who

04:19are the ones worth suffering for walking away when a situation or person or thing no longer serves you

04:25having better boundaries and instead of giving people a multitude of chances when they keep showing

04:31you who they are cut them up instead of being a fucking doormat excuse my French and let me just put

04:39like an edited version in here just in case like some of my friends and younger cousins are watching

04:44instead of being a doormat just learn how to walk away I'm a giver and I will do anything for the

04:52people I love and that's why I have to watch out for the people I love let me repeat that I will do

05:00anything for the people I love that's why I have to really watch who I love because I do feel like

05:06on some level people have taken advantage of this they don't appreciate me lied on me when all I had

05:11was genuine intentions said things said that I did things I didn't do and after all these life experiences

05:19I said you know what I have drastically cut back to the point where people have noticed I'm more quiet

05:25and to the people I do give to like I just ask that you keep it on download because I've always felt

05:33like if you have pure intentions you're not looking for intention or when I give to people I'm not

05:41looking for anything in return or I'm not having strings attached or you have to do things for me you

05:46gotta do this you gotta do that I just want you to be happy I'm not looking to get anything in return

05:50and I just like to be on the download I do something for you it stays between us I'm not

05:58gonna sit here and talk about it all the time oh my god look what I did for you and hold it against

06:02you for years once I do it that's it hey I just want you to be happy I'm living my life and I don't

06:10post every move I make but I'm living my life and I know some people check in on Facebook or post on

06:17Instagram all the time but I don't I don't overshare especially when it comes to my medical issues

06:27um I started sharing a little bit in recent months because I just want some people to know what's going

06:32on but to keep some privacy as I've been saying in multiple videos I don't talk about my conditions

06:42or talk about everything that's going on but I do have a small group of people that I do say hey this

06:48is going on this is going also just in case something happens you'll know because I felt

06:53like for many years I was judged you're called lazy you're stupid you're making it up you know

07:01you're just you just don't want to work and after being judged like that um I just don't think

07:06you're entitled to know you know why the hell should I tell you when you did nothing but kick me down

07:12call me stupid call me names I just don't think you deserve to know after saying all that so yeah I am

07:19very picky about who I tell stuff to and then I also noticed when I was going through hard times people

07:27disappeared and I understand like you know health issues death and grief like people just don't know

07:35how to handle it and sometimes they'll just disappear they don't just don't know what to say

07:39but they disappeared but then when I disappear people start to notice

07:46um since people disappeared on me so much I was like huh why don't I start disappearing

07:53because people seem to be doing it to me a lot and so when I started disappearing and actually

07:58enjoying it and actually finding successes with it that's when I started to notice my breakthroughs

08:03and in fact you know what I think I'm going to take a little break right here I love this wind like

08:09I just feel like I just want to sit here and embrace this wind for a second

08:12so give me one second and I will be right back

08:17hey again I'm back

08:31so I don't know if I officially have a number four yet so I'm going to make this point number four

08:36for my own good I literally had to stop caring

08:40I cared for too many people for too long

08:42now they will notice I am different

08:43I literally stopped making an effort

08:45it's just kind of one of those situations where like

08:48when I care I care but when I don't I don't and that's the worst place you can get with me

08:55because literally I will cold turkey not care

08:57people showed me their true colors too many times and people are not stupid

09:02they know what they're doing

09:03it may be coming from a place of jealousy insecurities but they know what the hell they're doing

09:08they're not stupid

09:09and I always feel like at the end of the day you can always choose to treat people how you want to be treated

09:14and I remember there's one quote that said if you keep tolerating toxic people

09:19toxicity is what you'll keep attracting

09:23so let me repeat this one more time because I do

09:25I've been doing that a lot lady

09:27if you keep tolerating toxic people toxicity is what you'll keep attracting

09:34so I had to really start getting better at cutting people off

09:39and so when people choose to treat me a certain way

09:44I was like I'm done

09:47I'm not going to even like keep trying to figure this out

09:49I'm done

09:50and I will have a lot of people who will vouch for me and say

09:54hey like she gives without expectation

09:56and I will give people multiple chances

09:58because I understand like stuff happens

10:00sometimes you have bad things happen in your life

10:03but at the same time if you keep doing shit

10:06and you're not sorry

10:08and you keep doing stuff over and over and over again

10:10you're just saying sorry just to have another chance to take advantage again

10:13so I'm done

10:14after I give people multiple chances

10:18and they keep doing the same things over and over

10:20I'm done

10:21I cut them off that's it

10:23so for the last three points of part one

10:27I literally have nothing there

10:29so I'm going to sort of like say it off the top of my head

10:31I'm more creative than I've ever been

10:34this is point number five

10:36I have been learning a lot of skills that are obvious and not so obvious

10:40when I'm in my little protective bubble

10:42in several of my videos I sort of mentioned that

10:45I've learned how to mix and master songs

10:48I used to want to work with people in my hometown of Indianapolis

10:51but I kept having guys act weird and stuff like that

10:54and you want a boyfriend want to go out

10:56I'm here to be professional and I'm not here to like date

11:00so since you can't understand that

11:02I'm just going to separate myself from you

11:05and I've had a lot of this happen

11:06and so I started going to other places like LA, New York, Chicago

11:10even down south some

11:12and one of the things I started doing

11:14is learning how to mix and master my own songs

11:16so now that I know how to mix and master my own songs

11:18I've been putting out songs more often

11:20in fact I have four new projects out

11:23and I actually recorded a hundred tracks for each project

11:26because I just want to keep my worth ethic and discipline in check

11:30and this is ways

11:32and these are one of the many ways that I keep challenging myself

11:35because I have so many ways I challenge myself

11:37and that's one of them

11:38I have been creating content on multiple YouTube channels up to 2025

11:44I'm currently up to 2024 on three or four of them

11:50but one of them I have up to 2025

11:53so it's 2023 at the time of this video

11:55I have video content up to 2025 on multiple channels

12:00and it's my goal to get all my channels like this

12:03and I want to always be at least two years ahead

12:05because I have medical issues

12:08and I don't want to let my audience down

12:11when I don't feel great

12:13or when I'm out for three, four weeks

12:16or when I know I'm going to go in for a procedure

12:18I can have a little bit of a peace of mind

12:20knowing hey, I got my stuff together

12:21same thing with my blog posts

12:23like I've written articles up to 2030

12:25and the thing is like

12:27no one's paying me to be this way

12:30or put a gun behind my head

12:32it's just because I want to keep challenging myself

12:34and I want to keep disciplining myself

12:36hey, you get your goals done

12:39then you get to treat yourself

12:41and you accomplish your goals

12:43then you do this

12:44so for example

12:44I said hey, why don't I get this YouTube channel

12:49up to fall 2024

12:52and after I do that

12:53I'll look on Facebook

12:54so that's how I discipline myself

12:56if you want to get to do this

12:58do this

12:59and number six

13:02I really like my protective bubble

13:04to the point where I cut off my hometown

13:06I'm just going to be really honest

13:08like I've been really distant

13:09from my hometown

13:11like I was born in Atlanta

13:12but I grew up in Indianapolis

13:13and so I've been really

13:15keeping my distance from Indy

13:16like I've been cutting back on events

13:18that I've been going to

13:18and look, I'm supportive of all the creatives

13:21but I've been really holding back

13:23and I've found when I've held back

13:25I've had more success at other places

13:28so don't get me wrong

13:30I'm going to still show up sometimes

13:31every once in a while you'll see me

13:32and I'll be supportive of everybody

13:34as much as I can

13:35but I've significantly cut back

13:38and number seven

13:41I decided not to live for other people

13:42growing up

13:44I was given all this

13:45well-touching advice

13:45do this, do that

13:46and I ended up being

13:48in a really unhappy spot

13:49and I'm like

13:50damn, Leisha

13:51you are so crazy

13:52for listening to this stupid shit

13:53I ended up

13:54very, very unhappy

13:56you know

13:56go to college

13:57get good grades

13:58and exchange your time for money

14:00and do this and do that

14:00and I ended up being

14:02very unhappy

14:03and you have to understand

14:04like

14:04I haven't felt well

14:05for a long, long time

14:07on top of it

14:07so not only was I like

14:08listening to

14:10the well-intentioned advice

14:11that everybody was giving me

14:12growing up

14:13you know

14:13teachers, professors, peers

14:15but then I was also having

14:16some chronic illness stuff

14:18as early as 15

14:19I was unaware

14:19of

14:21all the stuff

14:22that was going on in my body

14:23I knew something was going on

14:24but I quite

14:24wasn't sure

14:25what was going on

14:26because I was just dismissed

14:27by doctors

14:28oh you're distressed

14:28you're just

14:29it's all in your head

14:30but now that I know

14:32that I have chronic illnesses

14:33and

14:34health issues

14:35and

14:35I need to do things differently

14:37and so

14:37I felt like

14:38entrepreneurship

14:39was kind of a way

14:40for me

14:41to not exchange

14:42my time for money

14:43but still

14:43you know

14:44earn

14:45earn a living

14:45you know

14:46I get to sleep

14:47when I want

14:48eat when I want

14:48not listen to some

14:50boss tell me

14:50when I gotta come in

14:51and I'm not saying

14:53like

14:53I'm not opposed

14:55to doing something

14:56sometimes

14:56because

14:56technically

14:57when I

14:58hit

14:58acting

14:59a film set

15:01when I

15:02into acting

15:02right

15:03that's

15:04exchanging my time

15:05for money

15:05and I'm being creative

15:06I'm actually

15:06physically somewhere

15:07and I don't mind

15:08doing it sometimes

15:08it's just

15:09depending on

15:11one source of income

15:12but

15:12depending on

15:13one source of income

15:14was always bothersome

15:16to me

15:16because

15:16whether somebody

15:17doesn't like me

15:18at a job

15:18or

15:18you know

15:19somebody spreads

15:19some nasty rumor

15:20or gossip

15:21or

15:21some daughter

15:22of some bigwig

15:23wants my spot

15:24and they do things

15:24to push me out

15:25just

15:25all kind of craziness

15:27that

15:27I

15:28did not want

15:30to tolerate

15:30I didn't want

15:31to tolerate

15:31the rat race

15:32and so

15:33I sort of

15:33knew at like

15:3425

15:36like okay

15:36I've been listening

15:38to some

15:38well intentioned

15:40but horrid advice

15:41and I'm just

15:41going to have to

15:42shove it all out

15:43and

15:44do things my way

15:45even if it means

15:46rebel against

15:47everything I knew

15:48and so that's

15:48basically what I did

15:49I left my religion

15:50I left my school

15:52I left a bunch of friends

15:53like I just literally

15:54just shredded my whole

15:55old identities

15:56and I think

15:57sometimes people

15:58don't even recognize

15:59me anymore

15:59like I'm not the same

16:01Alicia you want to know

16:02okay so I think

16:06I'm going to stop

16:07it right there

16:08I'm going to go ahead

16:10and make a part two

16:11maybe even a part three

16:13because I do have

16:14some readings

16:14along with this

16:15that I think

16:16ties into

16:17some of the points

16:18I've said really well

16:19so

16:20anywho

16:21thank you for watching

16:23and I will talk

16:25to you all later

16:25bye

16:31bye

16:31thanks for listening

16:41bye

16:42bye

16:44bye

16:45bye

16:46bye

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