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00:00 We have a problem every week.

00:02 We need you every day, not every week.

00:04 Mr. Alidia Gadalla, the psychological expert, how are you?

00:07 I'm fine, how are you?

00:08 All good?

00:09 All good.

00:10 Okay, let me read you the problem we have today.

00:12 And of course, this doesn't prevent us from taking your calls if anyone has a problem.

00:16 She's the only one.

00:18 She says, "I'm the mother of the boy and the daughter.

00:20 I've been married for 18 years.

00:22 My husband was a depressed patient before the marriage,

00:25 and his family didn't shout at him about his illness.

00:27 I tried a lot, but he would suddenly stop taking his medication to get better.

00:32 As a result, he lost his job, and I'm responsible for everything.

00:37 It was hard for me to leave him, but now it's very hard for the kids,

00:42 especially because he sometimes goes to the hospital,

00:47 and he's very violent, especially with the boy.

00:50 I'm thinking about separating, but I know this will make him more depressed.

00:54 I thought I'd get him to get better, but I'm afraid of the kids.

00:57 She's going in several directions, her brain is like a jigsaw puzzle.

01:01 She can't settle down, she can't take the decision to separate or not.

01:06 She's getting him to get better, but they didn't.

01:08 Should I tolerate it or not?

01:10 She's in a situation where she can't be blamed.

01:13 But 18 years is a long time, isn't it?

01:16 Yes, depending on the symptoms.

01:22 She says he was depressed before marriage.

01:25 After 18 years, it doesn't matter, his family lied to her.

01:28 If they didn't, it's over.

01:30 Let's stop at this point and say, is it morally and humanly permissible

01:37 for a family member who knows their son is depressed and taking medication,

01:41 shouldn't the bride who's getting married be less likely?

01:44 It's the same idea, Iman, that I want to get him to get better,

01:47 but I'm afraid of the kids.

01:49 She thinks like Yumi.

01:52 Exactly. It's the same idea that this is a disaster, a black tragedy,

01:58 and it's not good to know about someone else.

02:02 Just like she protects her son's reputation, her family protects their son's reputation.

02:07 Unfortunately, in this society, we still treat it as a shame.

02:16 Do you advise a bride who's getting married to a husband who's depressed?

02:23 Of course, but she should know.

02:25 Of course, it's normal.

02:26 Yes, it's normal. Like we say, he's a diabetic.

02:29 It's your choice.

02:31 As we said before, this is not his title.

02:34 He has many titles or many characteristics.

02:39 According to the characteristics, he's a respectful, committed man,

02:43 a son of people, he does a good job, he has a reasonable income,

02:46 he's good to his family, he's a good host.

02:49 He's kind.

02:50 He's kind. He's kind.

02:52 No matter what I look for in him, there's no one perfect.

02:56 He might have a problem with his heart, he might have diabetes,

03:00 he might be depressed, he might be under pressure.

03:03 I'll treat him, but I need to know.

03:06 I have the freedom to choose.

03:08 Is he a genetic depression?

03:10 Part of it is genetic, of course.

03:12 As a woman, she should know.

03:14 It's important that she knows.

03:18 But now, at this stage, you know that he might be a burden to your children.

03:25 You need to treat him like you would treat your son's wife.

03:33 I'll ask you a question.

03:35 Let's say that this man is on a wheelchair.

03:40 You'll leave him?

03:42 You'll get rid of him?

03:45 The problem is that depression is a disease.

03:50 It's a psychological disease.

03:53 It's a disease that makes you sick.

03:55 You're saying that he's a retard.

03:59 He's lazy.

04:01 He's a negative.

04:03 He's not blessed.

04:05 What happens when a person has a heart disease?

04:09 You can see the disease.

04:11 We differentiate between the disease and the person.

04:14 If he's on a wheelchair, I won't leave him.

04:17 You know, especially when he's on a wheelchair,

04:21 before he gets married, when he comes to me and says,

04:24 "Dad, I don't want to get married."

04:27 He says, "What's wrong with him?"

04:29 I say, "Anyone who offers me a job,

04:31 I imagine that if God decided,

04:33 he would have a job and he would be on a wheelchair.

04:35 Would I serve him and be kind to him?

04:38 Or would I be like, "Oh, what happened to me?

04:41 I'm so unlucky."

04:42 Was this the limitation that made me agree to this?

04:45 Or no?

04:46 This is a different kind of depression.

04:48 Yes, I want to be poor.

04:51 The point is that this was before.

04:55 I understand what you mean, but what happened?

04:57 You got married.

04:58 Exactly. I got married.

05:00 I raised this man for 18 years and I raised him with two children.

05:04 I think there are some missing points.

05:08 His health wasn't all bad.

05:10 He wasn't depressed.

05:12 All 18 years, when he took his medication, he was fine.

05:16 Does a depressed patient stay like this for years?

05:18 If the depression doesn't heal, it goes away.

05:21 If you stop the medication, if there is a prescription,

05:25 if you stop the medication, it will go away.

05:27 It will go away as he gets better.

05:28 Yes, it will go away.

05:29 There is also a missing information.

05:32 He stops the medication not because he gets better.

05:35 He stops the medication because it is expensive.

05:37 He stops the medication because he has a bad side effect.

05:41 He sleeps a little more, he gets a little more anxiety.

05:44 He doesn't know how to say things like that.

05:47 He might stop the medication because of the hearing.

05:51 He doesn't get better.

05:52 If your work isn't going well, it's over.

05:55 We also have a problem.

05:57 We, as a people, have this side effect.

05:59 We get upset with each other.

06:01 What are you upset about?

06:04 What did I do?

06:05 My father used to hit my mother.

06:07 We always have that we are worse.

06:09 [SPEAKING ARABIC]

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