Why They Pull Away After Getting Close – Dismissive Avoidant Attachment in Christian Dating - video Dailymotion

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Are you wondering why they pull away after getting close in your relationship? Especially in Christian dating, this can feel confusing and heartbreaking. In today’s video, we’re diving deep into dismissive avoidant attachment and how it affects Christian relationships.   Many Christian women and men struggle with emotionally unavailable partners. If you're in a push-pull dynamic, you're not alone. This video reveals the hidden signs of avoidant attachment in relationships and how fear of intimacy often drives their behavior.   If you're dating an avoidant partner, it can feel like a spiritual battle. How do you maintain Christian boundaries in dating while honoring your heart and your faith? We'll explore how faith and relationships intersect when you're dealing with dismissive avoidant attachment.   Often, Christian men pull away not because they don’t care, but because of unhealed wounds and unresolved fear of intimacy. Learn to spot the early signs of avoidant attachment, protect your peace, and grow in spiritual growth in dating.   We’ll also talk about how Godly dating advice can guide you through confusing moments when they suddenly pull away. This video is a must-watch for anyone navigating Christian dating with someone who shows dismissive avoidant attachment patterns.   Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and comment if you’ve experienced someone pulling away after getting close. You're not alone in your journey toward healing, truth, and love rooted in Christian dating and faith.  Have you ever been ghosted in a relationship, leaving you confused and hurt? This video addresses the pain of being going ghost, especially when the person seemed genuinely interested. It offers reassurance that it's not your fault and encourages emotional healing and understanding.   Timestamps:  00:00 - 00:03 Introduction to Sarah's Story  00:03 - 00:12 The Heartbreak of Disappearance  00:12 - 00:34 Understanding Dismissive Avoidance  00:34 - 01:19 Emotional Readiness vs. Worth  01:19 - 02:14 Protecting Your Heart  02:14 - 03:11 Distancing as a Revelation  03:11 - 04:40 Guarding Your Heart  04:40 - 05:41 Performing for Affection is Unnecessary  05:41 - 06:31 Choosing Peace Over Confusion  06:31 - 07:09 Affirming Your Identity in Christ  07:09 - 07:26 Conclusion and Call to Action   FOLLOW US:  Subscribe: https://youtube.com/@doveyhearts?sub_confirmation=1  Instagram: https://instagram.com/thedoveyhearts  Facebook: https://facebook.com/thedoveyhearts  Whatsapp: https://whatsapp.com/channel/0029VbAuojtFy7287xDWQx0O  Rumble: https://shorturl.at/c22FC  Daily Motion: https://www.dailymotion.com/doveyhearts  Etsy: https://www.etsy.com/shop/doveyhearts/?etsrc=sdt   For any enquirers, contact us: wajutope@gmail.com

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00:00Just weeks ago, Sarah was hopeful and excited about the future with Michael, but now she's

00:07staring at Rickles on her phone, wondering what went wrong. No replies, no explanations,

00:15no closure. Does that story sound familiar? If you've ever had someone pull you close

00:20with scripture and prayer, only to disappear like you never existed, listen closely.

00:26This isn't your fault. Stay with me to the end of this video, because I'm about to show you

00:33exactly what is going on and what you can do. Here is what few people are talking about in the

00:41Christian dating world. It's not always the obvious red flags that hurt you the most. Sometimes,

00:49the most confusing heartbreaks come from people who seem emotionally and spiritually ready.

00:56They quote the scripture, they pray with you, they talk about God's timing and seeking

01:02his will. But when the connection starts feeling real, they disappear and you're left wondering

01:10if you did something wrong or if you misheard God. But what you are actually dealing with might

01:17be a dismissive avoidance attachment style, not a spiritual feeling on your part. Dismissive avoidance

01:26partners love the idea of godly love. But when real intimacy shows up, they panic. They can quote

01:331 Corinthians chapter 13, but cannot leave out the patient and kind when it counts. They'll text you

01:43Psalms, but avoid real conversations. They'll pray with you, but won't plan a future with you. They'll share

01:51their testimonies, but stay silent about taking the next step with you. Why? Because to them, commitment feels

02:01like captivity, not connection. And the hardest part, they make you feel like you're asking for too much when all you

02:09are really asking for is clarity and direction. You are adults, not engaging in childish gains.

02:17So how do you protect your heart without shutting it down? Let's start here. Number one, their distance

02:26is a revelation of who they are. A dismissive avoidance partner's withdrawal isn't a reflection

02:32of your worth. It's a reflection of their readiness to commit. When someone pulls away, it is easy to think

02:40you are not enough or unworthy of love. But that's not the truth that God wants you to believe. Their distance

02:48reveals their emotional readiness, not your value. Some people are not emotionally or spiritually ready

02:56to stay connected. That reveals more about their journey than yours. Remember, you are made in God's image,

03:04loved unconditionally and precious to Him. Don't take their withdrawal from you as a rejection. Take it as a

03:13revelation about who they are spiritually, not about who you are. Two, guard your hearts. Your heart is the

03:22wellspring of life. When it is wounded, everything, decisions, relationships, faith can suffer. Be mindful

03:33of who you let into your emotional space. Don't let inconsistent love drain your spirit. Pray for wisdom

03:41to know when to open up and when to hold your heart safe. Guiding your heart doesn't mean shutting down.

03:51It means loving yourself enough to protect your space. Three, set clear boundaries around

03:57inconsistency. Love without boundaries leads to chaos. When someone sends mixed signals or disappears,

04:07time to say no more. You need to know when to cleave and when to withdraw. Know your worth. Don't chase

04:16inconsistency. Consistency. Consistency cannot be held. It's freely given. Trying to fix someone's

04:25inconsistency only leads to confusion and exhaustion. Get your peace by setting firm boundaries.

04:34Choose clarity over chaos and protect your peace. You deserve it. Four, stop performing for affection.

04:43Love is not a performance. You don't have to try harder or change yourself. Be authentic. Never trade

04:51your true self for someone's approval. Real love comes freely and it comes with freedom. Five, don't mistake

05:01words for action. Scripture prayers and testimonies can sound beautiful, but they don't guarantee emotional

05:10availability. As James chapter 2 verse 17 reminds us. Faith by itself, if it is not accompanied by

05:18action, is there. Look for actions that reflect patience, kindness, and reliability. Not just impressive

05:28display of spirituality. True spiritual maturity is shown in love lived out, not just in words spoken.

05:376. Choose God's peace over confusion. Chasing after silence or mixed signals in a relationship only brings

05:46confusion and anxiety. Philippians chapter 4 verse 7 says, And the God of peace, which transcends all

05:54understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Pause. Listen. Trust the peace

06:04peace. God's peace over confusion people cause. Let God's peace, not silence, be your guide.

06:127. Rest in your identity, not in your performance. Your word isn't measured by how much love or attention you get.

06:22We are God's endework, created in Christ Jesus to do good works. Ephesians chapter 2 verse 10.

06:32You are God's masterpiece, love beyond measure. Affirm your identity in Christ today. Rest in his love,

06:40not human approval. Hate. Make room for clarity, not confusion. God wants your relationships to bring peace

06:50and clarity, not constant uncertainty. If something feels unclear, give yourself permission to step back

06:59and protect your heart. Choose relationships that illuminate your past, not darkness. If you like

07:06this message, subscribe to Dovias so you don't miss the rest of this series. And comment below,

07:14what truths are you holding on to today instead of chasing someone who let go? Your story might be

07:21the breakthrough someone else needs. See you in the next video.

Why They Pull Away After Getting Close – Dismissive Avoidant Attachment in Christian Dating

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