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00:00The house is a nice thing.
00:02We all need to have a house.
00:03I'm not asking you to bulldoze your house, please.
00:06But there needs to be a sense of perspective.
00:09And house is the camp we return to in the evenings.
00:12Just so that we can resume the battle the next day.
00:16We are not born to decorate the house.
00:18Just as a warrior is not born to decorate the camp.
00:21The camp should be just basic enough, simple enough,
00:25so that it recharges us, revitalizes us.
00:28That's all.
00:28We don't need anything more from the camp.
00:31We don't have to put flowers here and then, you know,
00:33lilies here and lotuses there and all the time is going into that.
00:38And if you can't do that, you feel guilty.
00:41You are born to fight.
00:42You are not born for housekeeping.
00:44House is okay.
00:45We all need a place to return to and relax and eat and sleep.
00:49That's all.
00:53Namaste, Aja Raji.
00:55Myself and my husband, it is a personal question.
00:57Myself and my husband, we both are working and working hours are almost same for us.
01:04When I come home, I feel responsible that I want to do this, that and I don't have time
01:09to do that.
01:10Even my husband, he doesn't have time to do that.
01:12But I, during the work also, I keep in mind that I have that to do at home.
01:19Means household work keep me like pushing back from my work also that I have that to do at home.
01:26Even at home, nobody is there except myself and my husband that who will pick me that you are not doing this.
01:33But still, because I come from Haryana where everything should be done by a woman.
01:40And I am not blaming my husband in this, that he is not doing.
01:44I am asking a question that why the thing is triggering me all the time that I should do this and I am not able to do this.
01:52I am failing in becoming a woman.
01:54And this is my particular question.
01:56Why am I, I am mentally not able to come out of this guilt?
01:59It's a, it's a very common situation.
02:05And thank you for raising this question because a lot of working women face this guilt.
02:13They remain working, but they also feel keeping, but they also keep feeling guilty that there is an important duty that they are neglecting,
02:25that there is, there is some, there is some kind of morality they are violating.
02:32Hmm?
02:33Hmm?
02:34Hmm?
02:35Yeah.
02:36Hmm.
02:37It's, it's, it's simple to see.
02:41We may move out of a place, but it doesn't easily happen that the place moves out of us.
02:50Yes.
02:51You may move out of a place, but the place doesn't move out of you.
02:57The place remains within you.
03:01And we have been told, I too come from a place, not very far from Haryana, so that's fine.
03:11We have been told, especially in North India, in South India as well.
03:20Most of the Orient, actually in the entire world, only, only the degree varies, the, the dictum
03:33is much the same.
03:35At some places it has been enforced with a greater intensity, to a greater degree.
03:42At other places, it has not really been enforced that much.
03:48But the centerpiece of the conditioning remains the same, the woman belongs to the home.
03:56The woman belongs to the home, next one.
04:03And, the roots are in the jungle, where is this perception, this piece of conditioning coming
04:20from, the jungle.
04:27In the jungle, it often did happen, that especially during long periods of pregnancy, the woman
04:38couldn't really gather for herself.
04:45We were a gathering species.
04:47We call ourselves hunter-gatherers, we were not even so much hunters, we were gatherers.
04:53Even if you were hunters, a pregnant woman would find it much more difficult to hunt down an animal.
05:02So, she would become kind of immobile.
05:08And obviously, there was no protection against pregnancies.
05:12So, she was almost continuously pregnant.
05:17And the child mortality rate was extremely high.
05:21Obviously, there is no vaccination, there is no care during childbirth.
05:29So, extremely high child mortality rates, kids were taking birth and kids were dying.
05:36And that would incentivize the next birth, because the previous kid has passed away.
05:42So, the woman, even if she was young and strong of build, but she was immobilized because of pregnancy.
05:52So, the man became the provider.
05:56The roots of the whole story are in the jungle.
06:01The only difference is, where is the jungle today?
06:05Why are we still behaving as if we are in the jungle?
06:10And then from the jungle, from being the gatherers, we became the farmers.
06:21Right?
06:22We cleared land and we had gained some knowledge.
06:26Oh, this grain, this seed, this crop, this weather, these conditions, this much of water.
06:34Some knowledge we had gained.
06:36So, with that knowledge, we started growing our food for the first time.
06:42And that's pretty recent, just around eight, ten thousand years back.
06:47And now, the role of the woman became even more confined to the household.
06:53Because now, first time, because there was farmland, there was also a house next to the farmland.
07:03When you are a gatherer, you don't need to have a house because you can go anywhere to gather.
07:10In fact, you want to go anywhere to gather.
07:12This particular area, this season, we don't have much fruit.
07:17So, let's go away to that place and the entire tribe would walk to a place thirty miles to the north,
07:25where there is still some better picking to be had.
07:31But now, you have land and you cannot parcel land and take it with you.
07:36So, land is a fixed asset.
07:38Because land is fixed here, so you also fixed your house.
07:42For the first time, we became householders.
07:45And once you become householder, the house needs to be taken care of.
07:50And we now got into a means of production that was more energy intensive.
07:58Please tell me, what requires more energy?
08:02Gathering fruits and leaves and veggies, those things or tilling, harvesting, cultivating, those things.
08:13What requires more energy?
08:16Farming requires more energy.
08:18And we didn't have nuclear fusion as fuel then.
08:23The industrial revolution is just so recent.
08:30Yes?
08:32We didn't know where we could get our energy from.
08:35Yes?
08:37So, the only source of energy was muscular energy.
08:40This thing that is happening in your cells and in the cells of animals.
08:45Yes?
08:46But even animals are not machines.
08:48They too need to be caught and then the animal husbandry has to be taken care of and then those animals have to be grazed and raised and fed.
09:01And even all that requires muscular energy.
09:05And first of all, as our physical build goes, muscular energy is more with the man.
09:14And secondly, again the woman is always pregnant.
09:19She gives birth, the kid usually dies and the husband is always ready to have sex.
09:28And there is no protection of any kind.
09:31In fact, the whole process of reproduction, even that is not very well medically understood.
09:37We did not even exactly know how reproduction happens.
09:40So, continuous pregnancy.
09:42Now, what can she do?
09:44She is sitting at home taking care of this one, that one is not well, that one is crying for food.
09:51Some elder kid has run away and has to be brought back and all the random nonsense of the...
10:04And the man goes out and works on the fields and when he returns, he is even hungrier for sex.
10:11Because the entire day he has been sweating away on the fields.
10:15So, he comes back and says, you know, some entertainment I need.
10:18And the woman happens to be the only entertainment, there was no Netflix.
10:23So, that was how it was happening, please understand.
10:29And she has tender fingers.
10:32So, when it comes to doing works that require some delicate movement, she does it better.
10:42So, you say, you know, she is the expert in the house.
10:45She knows how to stitch.
10:48She also chops vegetables really well.
10:51And obviously the kids.
10:54She has to take care of their needs.
10:57And the man is so irritable.
10:59If the kid comes to him, he simply just slaps him and go away.
11:04But the woman has more patience.
11:06And she cares better.
11:09So, she takes care of them.
11:11So, that's where we are coming from.
11:13Please understand.
11:15It's thousands of years of past sitting inside you.
11:19And that's what makes you feel guilty.
11:23The only question is today, is muscular energy the dominant energy available to mankind?
11:32How much is your daily energy consumption?
11:34Have you seen or calculated or read?
11:38Every day, how much energy do we consume?
11:40Please figure that out.
11:41And then try to estimate how much of that is muscular?
11:50We are consuming energy even right now.
11:53Right?
11:54Energy, energy, energy, everything is energy.
11:57How much of this energy is coming from a muscular origin?
12:01How much?
12:02Negligible.
12:03Negligible.
12:04Negligible.
12:05So, the energy advantage that the male had, has been neutralized long back since the steam engine.
12:21And forget about coal and steam being the source of energy and later on fossil fuels and the nuclear energy.
12:30And now we have all kinds of green energy.
12:35Forget about these.
12:40Zero comes from muscular energy.
12:42So, how is the man now superior when it comes to commanding energy?
12:47And today, the origin of energy lies in intellect.
12:57And the intellect of the woman is much the same as that of man.
13:03So, there is no disadvantage that she has there.
13:09None at all.
13:12You don't fight your wars with a mace and a sword today.
13:16Right?
13:17You fight through guns and missiles.
13:27And you don't require terribly big biceps to fire a missile.
13:32Or first of all, design and build a missile.
13:34What do you require?
13:36So, there is no disadvantage that the woman has today.
13:40So, there is no need for her to feel that her primary commitment is at the home.
13:51Are you getting it?
13:53But the past, it never becomes the past.
13:57We say, gone by.
14:00But it never goes by.
14:02The past is such a living thing.
14:05It doesn't allow the present to be fully alive.
14:10The past suffocates the present.
14:16Are you getting it?
14:22And that's all.
14:23There are no complications in the story.
14:26This is it.
14:27But millions of women are continuously carrying this guilt.
14:44Even if they go out, they feel we have to…
14:46Somebody told me, in Mumbai it often happens when women are returning from work in the Mumbai locals.
14:52Because they know it will take an hour to reach their place.
14:57In the bus itself, they start chopping vegetables.
15:02Which is cute.
15:05But for the point that men never do it.
15:12And this is a working woman.
15:15Probably earning as much as the man does.
15:17Contributing as much to the household economy as the man does.
15:25But she necessarily has to undertake two jobs.
15:32She works two shifts.
15:34When the office shift is over, then the second shift starts.
15:42Because that inner thing is there.
15:43First responsibility is obviously the husband and the kids and the house.
15:49Other things come later.
15:52You know what the result of carrying this obsolete piece of conditioning is?
16:02So many organizations hesitate giving roles of responsibility and seniority and leadership to women.
16:10Because they know that for the women the primary responsibility is the home.
16:19They know, we know, alright, basic, junior level, beginner, operations, jobs, women are very good.
16:30More disciplined than men, committed, loyal, everything.
16:35And they are seen to not create as much trouble as men do.
16:39So, organizations like to employ women at those levels, at the lower levels.
16:49But when it comes to leadership, they say,
16:50They will not put that in writing because that's not taken fashionable to be said.
17:05But that's the concern of everybody who is responsible for the performance of an organization.
17:14They will say, here is this individual and this work is not her first love.
17:20Her first love is the house.
17:21How do we then rely on her?
17:26How do we rely on her?
17:28Because,
17:32and you would have heard of the term, the glass ceiling.
17:36That's the reason, fewer women rise to leadership positions in organizations.
17:42Because they keep displaying that the husband and the kid and the household is their first love.
17:50And if it is your first love, so it be.
17:54The companies say, fine, then you take care of your first love.
17:57On one hand, we talk of the Bhagavad Gita.
18:08And Shri Krishna says, action should emanate from your deep clarity.
18:14On the other hand, we find that our action, as women, is emanating from centuries old conditioning.
18:24Forget morality.
18:30Religion is the big bap of morality.
18:35That which you are doing is not even religious.
18:38Even Shri Krishna would not agree with the mindset most women carry.
18:45What is the Bhagavad Gita saying?
18:47Your action must come from your deepest self-knowledge.
18:49Whereas, as women, our action is not coming from deep self-knowledge.
18:55Instead, it is coming from primitive conditioning.
19:01Would Krishna be happy looking at the way we think and behave as women?
19:07No. He'll disapprove.
19:19The house is a nice thing. We all need to have a house.
19:30I'm not asking you to bulldoze your house, please.
19:35But there needs to be a sense of perspective.
19:39What is important is important. What is less important is less important.
19:42And what is equally important for both husband and wife is equally important.
19:47And then there are women, pardon me for saying something a little harsh, then there are women who want to justify their continuous presence within the four walls of the house.
20:13They say, you see, meals take eight hours a day.
20:19Why must my breakfast and lunch and dinner should take eight hours, lady, please?
20:26No, you know. Dinner itself takes four hours.
20:30I start preparing at 4 pm and then I put food on the table at 9 pm.
20:35But why such elaborate arrangement lady?
20:40Or is it so that you are trying to invert the whole process?
20:45Because you have loads of time.
20:48That's the reason you have invented a long process.
20:53Why do you want to cook meals that take four hours or four weeks to cook?
20:57Such cumbersome recipes, long drawn recipes.
21:11Take special chickpeas sourced from Namibia.
21:17Only through the Afghan route.
21:19Then soak them in water for 32 days.
21:26Then add special spices sourced from the Vijayanagara Empire.
21:32Why?
21:34Just to justify the fact that you really aren't being true to life?
21:44That you are missing out on life?
21:49So, you want to fill up the hollow with recipes?
21:53Come on!
21:55And I know I'll be hated for saying this, but that's fine.
21:59I've already hit the saturation level, sir.
22:03Any more hit, doesn't really count.
22:10Already trending here?
22:14Or this fetish with having a zero bacteria house.
22:19With the most advanced electronic microscope, I'll hunt for the last speck of dust.
22:35And clean it.
22:36And say then, you know, dusting consumes 26 hours a day, what can I do?
22:55Why do you need to be so particular about dusting?
23:00It's a commode, not the stove.
23:13It will have bacteria, let them be.
23:18They too have a fundamental right to exist somewhere.
23:21I'm not asking you to not flush or not clean.
23:30But please understand, there are limits to everything.
23:34And then, you know,
23:36You have to do the work, right? It takes 8 hours.
23:40Why does it take?
23:41And then the common expression is, this fellow has no respect for household work.
23:55If that's how you want to see or put it, I mean, fine.
23:59The house is a place we come to take rest, so that we can again work.
24:14We talked of Shri Krishna.
24:16It's Yuddha Kshetra, Rana Kshetra, Kuru Kshetra.
24:22And house is the camp we return to in the evenings.
24:27Just so that we can resume the battle the next day.
24:31We are not born to decorate the house.
24:34Just as a warrior is not born to decorate the camp.
24:36The camp should be just basic enough, simple enough, so that it recharges us, revitalizes us.
24:45That's all.
24:46We don't need anything more from the camp.
24:51We don't have to put flowers here and then, you know, lilies here and lotuses there and yeah, yeah, nice.
24:59All the time is going into that.
25:00And if you can't do that, you feel guilty.
25:03Hubby loves fresh lilies.
25:08I couldn't put them at the right place.
25:11Now my love is at stake.
25:18On one hand, we venerate the Bhagavad Gita, right?
25:21On the other hand, we do not see where the Gita is coming from.
25:26Is Krishna teaching Arjuna to go and enjoy leisurely in a camp?
25:35Why would you tell him to fight?
25:36He'll say, you return to your palace.
25:39And it has been very nicely kept for you.
25:41It's a five-star palace.
25:43Go and enjoy there.
25:44No.
25:45Man is born to fight.
25:46And by man, I mean woman.
25:47Woman.
25:48You are born to fight.
25:49You are not born for housekeeping.
25:50House is okay.
25:51We all need a place to return to and relax and eat and sleep.
25:52That's all.
25:53You are born to fight.
25:54You are born to fight.
25:55You are not born for housekeeping.
25:56House is okay.
25:57We all need a place to return to and relax and eat and sleep.
25:58That's all.
25:59That's my description of hell.
26:00You are not born.
26:01You are not born for housekeeping.
26:02You are not born for housekeeping.
26:03House is okay.
26:04You are not born for housekeeping.
26:05House is okay.
26:06We all need a place to return to and relax and eat and sleep.
26:10That's all.
26:11That's my description of hell.
26:30A beautifully kept and well-maintained house, where you have all the time to relax and no
26:41purpose, great purpose to accomplish.
26:45Beautiful house, huge television, great amenities, all luxuries, everything to pamper you and comfort you.
27:02And no purpose, no real battle in life.
27:07That's my definition of hell.
27:10Not a place where you are deep fried in oil, but a place where you are offered all comforts and luxuries.
27:20Have you seen some of those luxury beds?
27:23I wonder, I mean, how much human effort has been wasted on this?
27:28Why does one need such an elaborate bed like this?
27:31You just have to sleep, right?
27:32After you sleep, will you remember what bed you have fallen asleep on?
27:38So, why not be sufficiently tired and just fall asleep anywhere?
27:43Because you are anyway not going to remember, right?
27:46And once you get up again, you have to rush to somewhere.
27:49So, you will again not remember where you slept.
27:51But such elaborate beds and they become people's ambitions.
27:57One day I'll earn so much that I'll have such a bed.
28:04The earth is going to be the final bed.
28:10And you will sleep for very long there.
28:12Nobody to wake you up.
28:16As long as you are alive, why care so much about beds and sleeping?
28:21Get up, rush, work, have a purpose.
28:25Tell me if you don't move out of four walls, any four walls, any four walls.
28:43Will that develop your knowledge or intellect or consciousness?
28:47Please tell me.
28:48Isn't it so obvious what it is doing to the mental status of our women?
28:56If they are continuously just confined in the household?
29:01And the only thing that they look at when it comes to gaining knowledge of the outer world is the television.
29:07And what kind of stupid material is streamed there, especially for women?
29:12Have you not seen that?
29:18As if we are still in the jungle.
29:25Yes, please.
29:39So, Namaste Achareji.
29:48I am Ravisha.
29:49I am Varun.
29:50So, we have been listening to you from last five months.
29:54And I started listening to you from YouTube last year.
29:58After listening to the Geesta community and your sessions, I could see that now I can differentiate between what is right and wrong.
30:06And you, from your teachings, you have told us not to bow down in front of the power and the money.
30:13So, what to pursue which is right in your life.
30:17I have started seeing the things objectively, ending all my superstitions and to inquire into the things.
30:23Many of the teachings Ravisha has mentioned that we have benefited a lot from the teachings of Achareji.
30:30And we are here in the US.
30:32Whenever we find time, we listen to him.
30:35And it has been a great journey so far.
30:38Thank you so much!
30:39This is what I learned with her at the end.
30:40And it has tenacity to begin to hang out there.
30:41I have one hour of everything.
30:43We do not have to enjoy joining us.
30:44This is what I learned with you before being taught me to make my dream.
30:46Which seems to me like that many mornings.
30:48You may work very hard.
30:49Which is great as a great businessM verder is.
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