PLEASE DON'T GIVE UP!

Stefan Molyneux

Wednesday Night Live 2 July 2025  In this episode, I explore the struggles young men face in dating and relationships, shaped by two decades of personal interactions. I challenge contemporary narratives that discourage romantic pursuits and promote a narrative of despair. By confronting myths about the dangers of dating, I encourage resilience and optimism, emphasizing the importance of courage and directness in forming connections. Through personal anecdotes, I highlight dating as an opportunity for growth and legacy. The episode serves as a call to action for young men to confront their fears, embrace meaningful connections, and take control of their romantic futures.  FOLLOW ME ON X! https://x.com/StefanMolyneux  GET MY NEW BOOK 'PEACEFUL PARENTING', THE INTERACTIVE PEACEFUL PARENTING AI, AND THE FULL AUDIOBOOK! https://peacefulparenting.com/  Join the PREMIUM philosophy community on the web for free!  Subscribers get 12 HOURS on the "Truth About the French Revolution," multiple interactive multi-lingual philosophy AIs trained on thousands of hours of my material - as well as AIs for Real-Time Relationships, Bitcoin, Peaceful Parenting, and Call-In Shows!  You also receive private livestreams, HUNDREDS of exclusive premium shows, early release podcasts, the 22 Part History of Philosophers series and much more!  See you soon! https://freedomain.locals.com/support/promo/UPB2025

Transcript

00:00:00All right. Hello, hello. We are starting with great subtlety and soft tones to not startle the

00:00:09people I've been in grim combat with all day on Twitter. So much fun. Thank you. Thank you. Thank

00:00:15you for joining me tonight. Stefan Molyneux from Freedomain at freedomain.com. Not to be

00:00:23confused with FritoLays.com. Freedomain.com. I am in fact showing on Rumble. I am in fact showing on

00:00:36Rumble. You are incorrect. And in general, if people are live streaming, it's probably quite

00:00:44helpful if you check before saying things aren't working. But anyway. All right. Let me just get to

00:00:52the various places and things that we can talk about on X. Working out with Steph this evening.

00:01:02Oh, look at that micro muscle. Good enough for opening jam jars that have already been loosened

00:01:09by my wife, who is all of five foot 1.8. But that's tall for a Greek woman, I suppose.

00:01:15Hi. How are you guys doing tonight? How are you guys doing tonight? Hope you're having a glorious and

00:01:23gorgeous evening. I am, of course, thrilled beyond words to get your questions, comments, issues,

00:01:32challenges, and problems. And somebody says, what have we got here?

00:01:40All right. So glad to finally catch a live stream live. Usually listen to them after they get posted

00:01:48to locals. Thank you for your commitment to truth and philosophy. I appreciate that. Good evening,

00:01:53good evening, everyone. Bring your challenges, your questions, your problems, whatever is on your

00:01:58noggin. I will put my log in. No, that's a little sinister and probably this close. Sorry. I mean,

00:02:05this close to me too. All right. So topic of the day, I suppose one of the things that seems to have

00:02:15changed just a tiny smidge since I was last front and center on the old social media bandwagon is the

00:02:23level of despair among young men about getting married, settling down in heaven. The wee bairns,

00:02:31the wee bairns, the little kids, is really quite something. And this, of course, was a little bit

00:02:39around when I was working on sort of men's rights stuff. And for those of you who don't know, and

00:02:45there's no reason why you would in any particular way, I'd be doing a lot of stuff around the men's

00:02:50rights movement. I remember giving a speech in Detroit at a men's rights conference when there

00:02:56were bombing death threats. I've interviewed a lot of fairly prominent men's rights activists,

00:03:01and I've written an entire book where the hero is a men's rights activist. How common is that?

00:03:10The answer is not, it's not common. And

00:03:15do I have massive bona fides? You know, I mean, I gave entire speeches at Orlando, ran entire

00:03:26Q&A sessions in Orlando a few years ago about men's rights issues. So I think I think I should

00:03:35have a smidge of credibility with this stuff. But let me sort of just push back on some of the

00:03:40things that people are pushing on me, which again, I could be wrong, and I'm totally happy to be

00:03:44corrected, of course. Yeah, Detroit. Yeah, it was Detroit, right? And so, first and foremost,

00:03:51saying I'm out of touch, again, I completely understand where you're coming from. I'm a

00:03:56little older. Say it to my good ear. I'm a little older. And so I get that people are like, you know,

00:04:04out of touch, boomer, uber cuck, or whatever it is, right? Simp. I get that. And I understand where

00:04:13that's coming from. Thank you for the tip, Dorbans, freedomain.com slash donate. I really,

00:04:18really appreciate that, freedomain.com slash donate. So I understand that. I do, you know,

00:04:25there's not a law that's passed when you get close to 60 that you're not allowed to have any younger

00:04:29people in your life. Most of my friends are younger, because I'm an old, I was an older parent. So

00:04:36to have kids around my daughter's age when she was growing up, my friends are mostly younger. So I

00:04:42get a big view into that. My daughter's going to be 17 in the not too distant future. And what is it?

00:04:50Oh, yeah. Now, do you know that given that we're past midway point of 2025, we're actually closer to

00:04:552050 than 2000. He was hoping to make it to 2050. I should make it to 2050. No problem. 25 years from

00:05:03where I am. That's only 84. I can do that in my sleep. So I do talk to younger people. And of course,

00:05:10I've been running this call-in show for 20 years. I've talked to thousands of people about the sort

00:05:14of deepest personal issues. And one of the things that happens when I talk in particular to young

00:05:21men, though also to young women, but one of the things that happens is they're single,

00:05:24and they haven't asked women out.

00:05:26And if they can get you to not ask women out, they've won. Like the bad guys have just won.

00:05:36They've just won. And of course, there's a lot of psyops out there. Don't listen to anyone older

00:05:40than you. That's one, right? Which means you don't get the wisdom stuff. And there's this weird thing

00:05:48where people believe that the Me Too movement criminalized talking to women. Like, oh, you go and

00:05:54talk to a woman, you'll go to jail. It's like, defudge? Defudge on a stick? What does that even mean?

00:06:01I mean, the Me Too movement was around, you know, creepy, tubby, half-bald men in Hollywood who

00:06:10demanded that young, hot actresses have sex with them in order to advance their careers and punish

00:06:16them when they didn't. That's not talking to a girl in a coffee shop, bro. It's not the thing.

00:06:22It's not the thing. And I, like, I get there's resentment towards women. I understand there's

00:06:26frustration towards women. I get that. And you can definitely turn on your women folk. You can do

00:06:33that, and the bad guys win. And so I do have a lot of exposure to younger people. I do have a,

00:06:42I have a fairly unique view on the world. I'm the only philosopher in history that has had these

00:06:48kinds of thousands of in-depth philosophical and personal discussions with people across two

00:06:56decades. Thousands and thousands of these conversations. It is a completely unique view.

00:07:02Of course, you know, I mean, I guess Dr. Phil talks to people all the time, but he's,

00:07:05he's not a philosopher. He's a, uh, a cuck with a mustache, but that's a topic for another time.

00:07:12So I do have a pretty unique view. I do have a lot of knowledge. I do have a lot of experience,

00:07:20and I do have a lot of insight because of all the people that I've talked to. And most of the people

00:07:25who call into my show are not pushing 60 like I am. They are younger men and younger women. So I do

00:07:33have a pretty unique view with regards to that. Now I get family courts are pretty terrible. I get

00:07:43that there are false accusations. I've been talking about this for years and years and years. It's

00:07:47called SAID, Sexual Abuse Allegations in Divorce. It is absolutely appalling and terrifying and wrong.

00:07:55And again, I've been talking about it for years and years and years. And again, the people who are

00:08:00relatively new to me on Twitter, I get that. I just look like some weird out of touch guy

00:08:04who's just a, Hey, you should date like I did in the eighties. I get, I understand that. And I

00:08:10sympathize with that. I also sympathize with the fear and the danger. And I'm not saying the danger

00:08:14is zero. I'm not saying the danger is zero. But what's the difference genetically? What's the

00:08:30difference? Foundationally, what is genetically? What is the difference between being demoralized

00:08:37and being dead? Genetically, if you're not going to talk to girls, and you're not going to date,

00:08:41and you're too nervous or scared or jumpy or agitated or angry, then you're a dead end. I mean,

00:08:47genetically, you can have your life and you know, I'm sure it'll be an okay life. But I

00:08:52I guess I speak on behalf of your ancestors. And I know some of you feel that I'm old enough to have

00:09:00met them personally. I get that. But I suppose I speak on behalf of your ancestors. And false

00:09:08allegations. I mean, I mean, the the Salem witch trials, there were 25 men out of the 200 people who

00:09:17were accused and sometimes burnt at the stake or tortured to death. There were 25 men, which is

00:09:23more than 10% false accusations have occurred in the past. You say, Oh, but there's a lot of

00:09:27propaganda. Yeah, there's a lot of propaganda right now. And there was a lot of propaganda

00:09:30throughout. Do you not think that there was a lot of propaganda when I was a kid? Do you not think

00:09:33that at least now you've got some variety, you've got some possibility that you know, when I grew up,

00:09:38there was, there were three television stations. And it was all run by the government. I guess ITV

00:09:47maybe was more private, but BBC One and BBC Two were run by the government. So there's massive amounts

00:09:52of propaganda. Go back to the Middle Ages. What kind of propaganda were they subject to in the Middle

00:09:56Ages? Well, the king is appointed by God, and the priest is infallible. You know, but at least,

00:10:04and, and, and, oh, and by the way, the mass is in Latin and you're not allowed to learn how to

00:10:08read. Right. Or it's very unlikely that you will. So I get that every, every person,

00:10:16every person has, is susceptible to the idea that theirs is the worst age of all. Because

00:10:28we see a lot of the benefits of prior ages. We don't go through their same suffering. You know,

00:10:33what's left of the cathedrals and the works of art and, and all of that, and the great works of

00:10:37literature, the everyday suffering of the people is not really visible to us. It's sort of like,

00:10:45if you look, man, you know, in the 60s, there were all these great songs. And it's like,

00:10:51well, of course we don't, all that we get are the songs that lasted the test of time.

00:10:56I mean, I was a, a DJ in university and the library of albums that the university had was

00:11:06staggering. And I remember thumbing through it and playing some stuff from the 60s that

00:11:10hadn't lasted the test of the time. It was terrible. And, you know, in general, the things

00:11:14that don't last the test of time, that's a pretty good reason for them, which is that they're not

00:11:18pretty good. Not very good. So those who don't want you to have children, sort of the, I don't

00:11:27know, the enemies of the West or like, they're those who don't want you to have children will

00:11:33lure in, for men, they will lure women into making bad decisions. They will propagandize them.

00:11:42They will try to turn them against men. And then when the women are turned against men, then the

00:11:49men attempted to turn against the women. But women score much higher than men in the trait

00:11:56agreeableness, which has its pluses and its minuses, like all the big five personality traits, it has

00:12:00its pluses and its minuses. So women are more susceptible, a little bit, to propaganda. And what is

00:12:08the one common theme in fairy tales? Well, the young maiden gets taken away by some beast, and the

00:12:21young man has to go and rescue her. And the sort of hive mind that women are a little bit more

00:12:26susceptible to, that's the dragon, that's the grendel, that's the monster, that's the whatever, right? And

00:12:32the young prince, or the young knight, or the young whoever is a squire, has to go and rescue the woman

00:12:39from the dragon. And that's from the hive mind, to some degree, right? So this is an age-old thing that

00:12:46women want to be agreeable to other women, but they can't reproduce unless they please men. And finding this

00:12:52balance between conformity with the collective and the joys of individual thinking is a big tension in

00:13:00society, it always has been, it won't always be, because at some point reason and evidence is

00:13:04going to win, or there's just a smoking crater where the planet used to be. But people who are

00:13:10saying now, well, you know, women are kind of crazy, and so on, it's like, you know, men came home from

00:13:15the Second World War after their fathers had been blown up in the First World War, they came home from

00:13:19the Second World War, and they started reproducing, even though, even though, you know, 50, 60 million

00:13:28people had been wiped out in two world wars, there'd been a massive boom and bust, a 14-year Great

00:13:34Depression, and then relatively quickly after the end of the Second World War, the communists bled

00:13:41the secrets to making the bomb to communist Russia, and then there was the Cold War, and there was the

00:13:47threat of immediate vaporization. That's the threat that I grew up under, was the threat of nuclear war,

00:13:55of immediate vaporization, yet repersisted. Yet repersisted. So, you can give up. You can give

00:14:16up. I just don't want you to feel that it's inevitable, or that it is a wise decision. I mean, if you want

00:14:23to give up, I mean, what am I going to do, come over and drag you off on dates? Nope. I am not going

00:14:29to do that at all. So, if you don't want to continue your line, if you are too nervous, too anxious,

00:14:44and listen, being nervous and anxious or scared is not always irrational. I get that. I mean, if I'm

00:14:47being chased by a bear, I'm scared, right? But if you choose not to continue your line,

00:14:52then that's your choice. I'm just not going to let you believe that these times are somehow uniquely

00:15:01terrible, and even though for thousands, tens of thousands, hundreds of thousands of years,

00:15:09or billions, if you want to count all the way back, that your ancestors for epochs, millennia,

00:15:17and time immemorial managed to struggle and fight through to give you the gift of life,

00:15:22and you say, well, there's a lot of feminism, so it all ends with me.

00:15:28I just think that's sad. I really, I think that's sad. Are there risks out there? Well, yeah,

00:15:33no shit, Sherlock. There are risks out there. I get that. And the risks in the past, of course,

00:15:37were famine, war, your beloved wife dying in childbirth, half your children dying before the

00:15:47age of five. Disease, plagues, almost no political freedom, no free speech of any kind,

00:15:57no real access to books or learning for the vast majority of men and women.

00:16:03And it was bad back then, too. And all the people who were like, yeah, but my ancestors,

00:16:06at least they had this, at least they had that. It was better off they could do this. Okay, then,

00:16:10you know, the Mennonites are taking applications, man. You can go and live your quasi-medieval life

00:16:14with the Mennonites, but people don't do that. So you don't really want that. So you don't really

00:16:17believe it. So let's stop talking about it.

00:16:23All I want is black bean soup, and you to make it with me. Okay, here's some black bean soup. Oh,

00:16:29I don't want that. Ah, in the Middle Ages, in the oldie times, where the shops were with a P.E. at

00:16:38the end, things were just so much better. Okay, well, you can go and join the Mennonites. The

00:16:43Amish, you can't really, because you've got to be invited in, like only a hundred people have done

00:16:46that, but more than that have joined the Mennonites. Oh, I don't want that. Okay.

00:16:54But then you're stuck with modernity and have to make a go of it.

00:16:56Oh, well, our ancestors, they had to choose some scar, scarred up, smallpox-faced woman who never

00:17:07bathed her. Hoo-hoo. Never brushed her teeth. He could do it. But I'm afraid of the course and

00:17:17rejection. And here's the thing, too, because people, this is my concern. And obviously, I do

00:17:22want to take your questions and comments. I'm very happy to get your questions and comments.

00:17:27But let me just sort of finish at this point, and then I'll get back to you. Yeah, the risk of your

00:17:32kids turning into wokeies. Well, then homeschool. Yeah, and in the past, I mean, men were regularly

00:17:38conscripted to fight wars. They had reasons to not reproduce either, yet still here we are.

00:17:44So here's my concern. Because I know everybody's just so fascinated by my concerns.

00:17:53Here's my concern.

00:17:58It is scary. It is scary to ask girls out. I've told this story before that the first girl,

00:18:05I started at the very top, like the queen bee of the junior high school. I started at the top and

00:18:09just worked my way down until a girl said yes, which is a reasonable strategy. And I asked the

00:18:14first girl out. I said, would you like to go swimming with me? And she said, oh, no, I said,

00:18:18would you like to go swim? And she's like, with who? You and some guy I might like. And

00:18:24I said, well, with me. And she said, I'll be busy. I didn't even say the day. No, I said

00:18:30Friday. Anyway, so, and that's fine. You know, she obviously free to say no. So then I licked

00:18:35my wounds, felt bad. And you get back on the horse. Don't you? Is that not a thing

00:18:41anymore? You get rejected and you, you get back on the horse? Isn't that, is that not

00:18:49a thing anymore? Like you get rejected and that's it? Like one rejection? One woman said

00:18:54no. Oh, one girl said no. And that's the end of my line. I, I, I'm glad you're not

00:19:01a hunter. Well, my first arrow missed. So I guess we're all going to starve to death

00:19:07now. It seems a little passive aggressive, bro. And I should have said to her, you know,

00:19:18hindsight is easy, right? Oh yeah, you won't go out with me because, because you have to

00:19:24wash your hair. Hey ma'am, in a couple of years, I won't have any hair to wash.

00:19:34So, is that a thing now? That, that you, you get rejected or you fail or you fear failure

00:19:45and you just don't try? So my concern is that, you know what the devil does? The devil

00:19:51says, I'm going to turn your fears into a virtue. I'm going to turn your fears rational.

00:19:59I'm going to turn avoiding what you're most afraid of into a sensible and rational virtue.

00:20:07That's what the devil himself will do. I don't do that. I'm going to battle people's nihilism

00:20:12and I'm going to battle people's despair and resignation and I'm just going to battle it.

00:20:15And if you don't want to be battled and challenged on these things, I strongly invite you to go

00:20:22elsewhere on X and on Twitter. I'm just telling you straight up, I am not going to stop. Yeah. If

00:20:27you could repost the stream, I'd really, really appreciate that. Yeah. I'm not going to stop.

00:20:32I'm not going to stop. So just be aware of that so that you're not shocked if it continues. Doesn't

00:20:39mean that's all I'm going to post about, of course, but when it comes up. So the devil says,

00:20:47it's not that you're scared of talking to girls. That's not it, man. You know what really is it?

00:20:54What really is going on, man, is that it's rational. It is too dangerous. You know,

00:21:00there are family courts. There's the Me Too movement. There are false accusations. There's

00:21:04mockery. Some girl might secretly record your approach to her and post it and you could get

00:21:11burned up. And so it's totally rational, man. It's not that you're afraid of a bunny. You're afraid

00:21:24of a bear. And it's sensible to be afraid of a bear. And the devil will just hand you excuses.

00:21:29He will just hand you excuses. And what happens is that you then say, well, no, I'm not,

00:21:44I'm not avoiding a necessary challenge in life. I'm being cautious and sensible and it's everyone

00:21:49else's fault. That's my concern. My concern is not that people have sort of rationally evaluated

00:22:06things. My concern is that talking to girls is scary. Rejection is painful. And finding out where

00:22:12you are in the sexual market value pecking order is humbling. It's humbling. Thank you for the tip,

00:22:21Dusty. I will get to your question. Freedomain.com slash donate to help out the show.

00:22:27Hugely appreciate it.

00:22:30So my concern is that the devil is basically just whispering in everyone's ears saying,

00:22:36yeah, yeah, it is too scary out there. Yeah, you shouldn't talk to girls. Yeah,

00:22:38it's girls' fault. Yeah, they vote in self-destructive ways. Yeah, repeal the 19th,

00:22:43you know, whatever it is, right? And you'll just get ginned up. And there's a lot of people

00:22:46out there on the internet who are going to sell you comfort

00:22:49with weakness. And this, I'm not shaming. I have things that I'm weak about too. I mean,

00:22:58just being honest, right? What they're going to do is they're going to say, you know,

00:23:02avoiding that, which frightens you rather than embracing it and walking towards the fire.

00:23:07It makes sense. I mean, who wants to walk towards a fire? You're just going to get burned to the

00:23:10ground, right? So the people who tell you to just use women, have sex with women, avoid women,

00:23:14men going their own way and so on. It's like, yeah, just you should step out of the arena. It's too

00:23:19dangerous. It's too bad. Even though I know dozens of families with a bunch of kids and they're all

00:23:25pretty happily married. It's the old thing that like, don't get online-itis. Don't get, oh my God,

00:23:33all these OnlyFans girls, all these Instagram girls just posting nude, semi-nude pictures or

00:23:38whatever. It's like, that's online, bro. It's not the real world. I mean, I'm not saying it's the

00:23:45opposite because those people are in the world and there's a lot more than there used to be,

00:23:49of course, right? But it's not the real world. I have talked to parents who are frustrated at the

00:24:02situation. I've talked to people, even strangers that I just chat with randomly, who are like,

00:24:07yeah, I want my son to ask out girls, but he won't. Or yeah, my daughter's upset because guys

00:24:12aren't asking her out, even though she's, you know, chatting around, she smiles at boys and they're like,

00:24:20and even if, okay, so the 50% divorce rate is the total psyop. It's a lie. It's put forward by

00:24:28bitter, shitty people. It's not true. It's not true. Absolutely not true. It includes remarriages

00:24:34and it's just the divorce rate and the marriage rate and divided and it's all absolutely false.

00:24:40If you do just a couple of things, just a couple of things, you can virtually eliminate your chance

00:24:45of getting divorced. A couple of things, nothing major, nothing major. So you have to have shared

00:24:54values or at least a shared methodology of resolving disputes, right? We don't scream at each other.

00:24:59We don't yell. We don't call each other names. Marriage is a game and the game has rules. And

00:25:04I don't play chess with people who make up, oh, I think this knight can go diagonal. I think that

00:25:10this bishop can go straight and I think the queen can only move three spaces. Like I don't play

00:25:14games with people who don't respect the rules. Why would I? It's not a game. That's just a

00:25:22manipulation. So when you date and how are we going to, we're going to have disputes. How are

00:25:26we going to resolve disputes? And you've got to, you've got to play by the rules. Doesn't mean you

00:25:30don't need to be reminded of the rules from time to time, but yeah, you don't yell, you don't

00:25:33intimidate, you don't storm out, you don't gossip, you don't bully, you don't, right? Just treat each

00:25:38other reasonably and you can test that all out in the dating world. Share shared values, shared

00:25:44methodologies of resolving disputes. The shared values include a similar approach to money.

00:25:50So, and don't get married super young.

00:25:58You put these things together, your chances of divorce are virtually zero.

00:26:07Because the divorce statistics include all the idiots who marry just for lust or who marry because

00:26:12someone told them to, or who panic marry, or who marry despite obvious red flags. I mean,

00:26:19it's like

00:26:24taking five people, two of whom are drunk drivers, and then saying, wow, you know, driving is really

00:26:32dangerous. It's like, you don't think that the drunk drivers might be skewing that danger a little

00:26:38bit. I mean, I mean, I've been, I came from a broken home. All my friends, most of my friends had

00:26:46no, no dads, broken homes. And I've been married now 23 years. We're going to stay together forever.

00:26:53It's perfect. Because I did some, I mean, I did therapy and all of that. But I did some,

00:26:58some wise things. And she did some wise things in our conversations ahead of time. You have some control

00:27:03of these things. It's not like a crapshoot. It's not like, wow, you know, there are two guys in a

00:27:09room, man, the bullet of divorce is going to hit one of them. I hope, like, that's, that's passive,

00:27:13and that's bullshit. It's bullshit. It's bullshit. Life is not a dice roll. Life is not random.

00:27:21I didn't get randomly de-platformed. But I did have a random salad and have a little something

00:27:34stuck in my teeth. It's better. It's better now. So life is not random. And of course, I'm sort of

00:27:45here to try and give you some tips and tools that will help you not fall prey to randomness.

00:27:52It's like taking five people, two of whom are chain smokers, and saying, ooh, you mix all those

00:27:58statistics in together. Oh, man, lung cancer is super common. It's like, yeah, but you mix the

00:28:04smokers in with the people who don't smoke. So it's really not very accurate. Take the idiots out of the

00:28:12marriage pool and put in sensible people who talk about values and virtues. And the risk of divorce,

00:28:225% or less. And of that 5%, I don't know. I mean, who knows, right? I don't know what the answer is

00:28:31to that, but it doesn't really matter. 95% success rate. Yeah, thinking that life is random diminishes

00:28:42or removes one's self-agency. Sure. And here's the thing, too. I gotta tell you, I'm sure this is true

00:28:49to some degree with single fathers, but it really is true of single mothers, which is this. People who've

00:29:00made really, really bad decisions in their life are addicted to telling you that life is random.

00:29:11There was no way I could have known that your father was going to be unfaithful. I mean, it's true. I

00:29:21stole him from his last girlfriend who stole him from his last girlfriend, and he was dating four

00:29:24people over the course of our early dating relationship, but there was no way, right? So

00:29:29people who've made bad decisions will constantly tell you that life is random and they had no control

00:29:33over the variables. So I'm concerned that people are getting infected, infected by people's shitty

00:29:41justifications for shitty decisions and calling it some kind of rational approach to philosophy

00:29:45or life or choices. There was no way to tell. It just happened, is what people who've made bad choices

00:29:55always say. Always will say that, right?

00:30:09So there's a lot of people out there who've made bad decisions. They've married the wrong person. They

00:30:13raised their children wrong. They have lacked ambition. They have lacked drive. They've lacked

00:30:19concentration. They've procrastinated. They've laced around. They've dated for

00:30:25pure hedonistic reasons, and they fail. And then they say, it's not me. It's the system. Now,

00:30:32does the system suck? Like a vacuum. And yes, the system sucks. I get that. But the system has

00:30:39always sucked, and it sucks in many ways less now than it ever has before. You can meet a lot more

00:30:44women now than you ever could in the past, which means that you can be more selective. Also, the fact

00:30:50that there are fewer good men and women out there also means that there are fewer good men and women

00:30:53looking, which means the ratio of people looking and good people is pretty much the same. So let's say

00:31:00that half the people have been demoralized, but half the people are also bad people to date. They're

00:31:05probably similar. So the good people to good people ratio may not be as bad as you think it is.

00:31:11And also, it's funny because the men say, well, the women are just looking for the top five or 10% of

00:31:21guys. Well, I mean, if you're getting rejected a lot, you may be aiming higher than you can get

00:31:29in terms of looks, right? And so you can looks max, I guess, to some degree, but that only

00:31:36goes so far. But

00:31:39the grim reality of life, if you want to know how attractive you are,

00:31:47look at the person you're married to. That's pretty much it.

00:31:51And I know the whole math arguments that looks matching used to work. Now it doesn't. I get all

00:31:57of that for sure. But

00:31:59if people of average looks didn't get together with people average looks, there would be no people

00:32:06with average looks. If people with below average looks didn't get together with people below average

00:32:11looks, there would be no people below average looks. Like women are willing to have sex with men

00:32:17who go bald, men are not willing to have sex with women who go bald as a whole, which is why there

00:32:23are bald men, but not bald women. So

00:32:28yeah, female rejection is supposed to be horrible. Yes, of course. In the short run, right? This is,

00:32:43this is my big sort of argument to people or regarding people as a whole at the moment in the

00:32:49short run. Like in the short run, not asking a girl out is safer and easier than asking a girl out.

00:32:57It is. And I understand that. I sympathize with that. I appreciate that. We've all been there.

00:33:01We've all been there.

00:33:10But what about the long run? You know, at least a good portion of the first half of your life

00:33:14needs to be planning for the second half of your life. This is something I got from Carl Jung many

00:33:20years ago, right? And the first half of the first quarter of your life when you're a kid,

00:33:25you know, to 20 or whatever, right? Can't really do much planning as a whole.

00:33:27So you've got from 20 to 40 to plan from 40 to 80 or 90 these days, 85, 90, right?

00:33:36So you've got 20 years. You got, you got a plan for that second half of your life. This is one of

00:33:39the things that annoyed people in the past is talking to women, right? Oh, you can have fun

00:33:43dating around when you're younger, but what are you going to do from 40 to 85, right? It's almost a

00:33:47half century. And I've recently, I've sort of mentioned this earlier. I've recently sort of passed over

00:33:53that threshold of girls don't, women don't check me out anymore, right? Because I understand that

00:33:58because I'm sort of biologically at that point where it would be unlikely that I would see a

00:34:02newborn through to adulthood, right? So there's just this kind of instinct that I'm a little

00:34:06grizzled, I'm a little weathered, and I just sort of noticed this after the last year or two.

00:34:14But that happens to women a lot younger, and it's tough, right? They used to call this women of a

00:34:19certain age, right? Yeah. It's supposed to be really upsetting when you get rejected.

00:34:27And this is why lust was turned up so high. So you lust to get a woman to have sex with you,

00:34:33you have to marry her. So I mean, all of that's changed. I get that, right? But

00:34:36it's not pretty for the people who stay single. And I was saying this on X today.

00:34:45that if you get early mid-20s without a girlfriend, what do you signal to a woman?

00:35:02What is it like to be? Because what are women looking for? What is it like to be on the receiving

00:35:05end of a guy who's 24, 25, never had a girlfriend? Well, first of all, she's going to assume that

00:35:11you're a pornography addict, right? And she probably is right. Not always, but probably.

00:35:17But she's also going to say, okay, so bro has had like seven, eight, nine years to get a girlfriend.

00:35:24He's been unable to get a girlfriend. Either all the women are saying no, and if all the girls and

00:35:28women say no, well, there's probably a reason. Or he lacks that elemental courage to just ask girls out,

00:35:37get knocked down, get back up again, ask some other girl out, get knocked down. I mean, gosh,

00:35:42go learn from our Arab friends, right?

00:35:48So it's really tough. It's really tough to get, because women are looking for courage, right?

00:35:54They're looking for courage. I mean, instinctually, they're looking for courage, assertiveness.

00:35:57They're looking for directness. They're looking for maybe even a certain level of aggression,

00:36:01because you had to historically fight with other men for the resources. And she's not going to want

00:36:07to mate with a guy who doesn't display any particular signs of courage and directness. And

00:36:14I see something, I go for it. If I get it or not, it's not as important as the fact that I saw it and

00:36:18went for it. So you don't have a long time. You don't have a long time. The quality women are getting

00:36:27snapped up left, right and center, of course, right? And from, I don't know, when people start

00:36:34dating 16, 15, 16, 17, you've got eight years, nine years. And this is not an absolute rule,

00:36:41there's exceptions and so on. But you don't have as long as you think you do. And it's not a straight

00:36:47line and then a drop off, right? You have sort of fairly significant sexual market value when you're

00:36:52young, late teens, right? For men too, and women, right? And then it goes down. It doesn't just

00:36:57and then doesn't drop off a cliff. It goes down. Every day, you don't ask a girl out and get her

00:37:03to at least get on a date at some possibility. Every day you don't do that, your sexual market

00:37:09value declines. Every cigarette you smoke increases your risk of cancer. And every day you let go by

00:37:17without talking to a girl, asking a girl out, doing the manly business of continuing the line

00:37:23and falling in love and having children and a legacy and people to take care of you when you're

00:37:27old. Every day you don't do that, your sexual market value diminishes. I'm just being straight

00:37:36up with you. I want to help. I want you to panic a little bit. I want you to panic. And again,

00:37:42it's not an absolute hard and fast rule. There's exceptions, but don't count on being the exceptions.

00:37:47That's like not saving for your retirement, saying, I'll just play the lottery. There are

00:37:52exceptions, but don't plan on them. Grandma Moses became a famous artist later on.

00:38:11And it doesn't guarantee, of course, that you're going to get the love of your life,

00:38:14but it's guaranteed that you won't if you don't try anything. That I guarantee you. If you don't

00:38:19try anything, you get nothing. And I'll tell you the last thing the devil does, and I'll make sure

00:38:26I get your questions. So the last thing the devil does is when it's beyond fixing, he lifts the veil.

00:38:32This is called a midlife crisis or perpetual regret. When it is beyond fixing,

00:38:39the devil will lift the veil. And regret will come pouring in. Ah, shit, I should have. Come on.

00:38:53There's literally a meme for this or a trope for this, and it's way older than memes and tropes,

00:38:58but the one that got away. Don't you have? If you're a man, some girl, a woman. If you're a woman,

00:39:06some boy or man. I should have. Oh, I wonder if. I let her get away. Let's slip through my fingers.

00:39:15I mean, I've got tons of messages over the years from the guys who were like, man, she was flirting

00:39:19with me. I didn't even realize it. She kept hanging around and laughing and touching her hair. She

00:39:23touched me on the knee. She asked me to start a fire for her when we were camping. And I was just like,

00:39:27okay, I'll go get the wood. And I sympathize because, you know, we're not raised well.

00:39:35I sympathize. But don't be, you know, there's, it's a long life to have regret in, man. It is a

00:39:42long life to have regret in. And you may even curse the longevity of life if you have too much regret.

00:39:46I don't regret the things I've done. In general, people regret the things they don't do.

00:39:57Regret is not for what you've done. In general, regret is for what you haven't done.

00:40:06All right. So let me get to your questions and comments.

00:40:14All right.

00:40:18Hi, Steph. Dustine, thank you for your tip. Hi, Steph. Your tweet about men not dating in their

00:40:23early to mid-20s signaling to women that they lack courage, motivation, and self-worth.

00:40:27Does the same idea apply to women? If a girl hasn't dated or asked a man out yet in her late

00:40:31teens to early 20s, is that a red flag? I'm not sure why you would change the ages there.

00:40:39I say early to mid-20s, you change it to late teens to early 20s. I'm not sure why. I'm not

00:40:44sure why. But yeah, I mean, if I, every now and then in my many story dating life in my 20s,

00:40:5220s, and, well, teens, 20s, early 30s, every now and then you'd, I would meet a girl who's like,

00:40:59yeah, I've never dated. And if she was like 25, I'd be like,

00:41:02good luck with all that. All right. I wouldn't, I wouldn't date her. I don't,

00:41:07I never dated a woman with tattoos or facial piercings. I never dated a woman in substantial

00:41:12debt. I never dated a woman who didn't read books, particularly fiction. I never dated an

00:41:18overweight woman. I could, I know, oh, they don't exist anymore. Blah. Shut up. Of course they do.

00:41:24But yeah, I wouldn't date, I wouldn't date a woman in who was, you know, 24 or 25 or whatever,

00:41:31who'd never been on a date. Because there's almost always a really sad and terrible tale behind that.

00:41:42People are so in love with being victims. I literally said men are more attractive if they

00:41:46stand up straight and look people in the eye. The amount of replies it got saying that was far

00:41:49too hard was incredible. When you're a child, you're as weak as you're told. When you're an

00:41:59adult, you're as weak as you let yourself be. There's your quote. A girlfriend I had broke up

00:42:07with me about two weeks ago. Instead of whimpering away, I see it as a challenge to continue to better

00:42:12myself and find a good woman I can marry. Yeah. The only failure is a failure to learn.

00:42:20So they are socially risk adverse, then how can they come to accept the risk?

00:42:26You just have to do it. There's no... So one of the things that people do is they say,

00:42:31well, I'm scared and nervous to do this, but I'm going to do X, Y, or Z. That's a magic ritual

00:42:38to make it less scary. When it's less scary, I'll do it. The only way to make it less scary is to do

00:42:46it. The only way to make it less scary is to do it. Don't, Joe says, don't marry a wokester. Avoid

00:42:52nose piercings and piercings in strange locations. No tattoos and you should be fine. No pink or non-natural

00:42:57hair colors. U.S. soon says, thank you for the tip. The point you've made repeatedly, Steph,

00:43:10that a man must address the value he gets from women and relationships to have motivation is

00:43:14really important. I think many young people treat relationships as merely a signifier of status.

00:43:21Well, if I said something that you find wise, I'm behind it 100%. The average lifespan of a traffic

00:43:29cop in Beijing is 40 years. Does that stat apply globally? Beware of statistics. Yeah.

00:43:37There was no way I could have known. They just had depression, anxiety, bipolar, schizophrenia,

00:43:41and they were a murderer. But apart from that, there were no signs. None. None.

00:43:45A 20-something guy probably does not find the 40 to 50s female attractive now after 35 to 40

00:43:53tastes change. Yes. Yes. Yeah. I mean, there was a whole sigh up when I was younger about how much

00:44:03older women just loved sex. Just, you know, you get that itch and the cougar and it was like,

00:44:07it's just a sigh up. It's all nonsense. All right. Great to see you back on XDEF. What are some good

00:44:13financial side hustles? I don't think you want to take advice from me on making money after what I did

00:44:20to my career? I think I will hold my peace regarding that. Small families, lack of older siblings to

00:44:32explain to the younger ones. She wants you to make a move. If I say a sister, hey, bro, try this to make

00:44:39a move. She wants you. Yeah, I think so. I think so. Oh, I changed it because I'm in my teens. My bad.

00:44:47Okay. No, so that's fine. Look, if a girl is 18 and has never been on a date, it's a mild caution,

00:44:53but she could just be selective, right? Hi, Steph. Why would a woman break the rules of hypergamy?

00:45:01If you have a Wiener Schnitzel that stretches to Prague. Hi, Steph. Why would a woman break the

00:45:07rules of hypergamy? My brother is a minimum wage unskilled worker and next year he's going to

00:45:11marry his high pay white collar manager girlfriend. This is suspicious and I'm skeptical about this

00:45:15marriage due to his inability to provide. I hate to say this about your brother, but maybe he's

00:45:24great in bed. That goes a long way. Hypergamy isn't entirely a financial issue. My wife is a doctor

00:45:31and I earn way less, says Troy. Your brother may have something more than money. Yeah. Could be a great

00:45:36conversation. Maybe he really makes her laugh. Maybe he de-stresses her. Women will put up with

00:45:40a lot in order to be de-stressed because, you know, women can be a little tightly wound from time to

00:45:46time. It's like that great line from Fawlty Towers. Oh, you'll have to excuse him. He's very high

00:45:52strung. Yes. Yes, he should be. But yeah, women will do a lot for a man who helps them relax because

00:46:01women can get... So, all right. Let me get to your... Oh, God. Where did I lose? Where did I... Where?

00:46:12Where? I had it somewhere. I really did. I really did. Okay, let me just do it this way. Let me do it this

00:46:20way. Loading. There we go. All right. By the numbers, says somebody on X, I shouldn't have

00:46:34never gotten married. I had kids, but it happened five kids and 20 years ago. Yeah. So, there's this

00:46:39other funny thing in life, which is I'll do it not just when I'm not scared. I'll do it when the time

00:46:44is right. I'll do it when the time is right. I'll do it when I'm ready. Yeah. That's a long way to

00:46:54spell procrastination. When the opportunity arises, just freaking do it. You know, when I was...

00:47:03An opportunity arose for me in the business world in my 20s. I was working as a programmer at a very

00:47:11major financial and stock trading institution, and the opportunity arose to be entrepreneurial.

00:47:21Was it the right time? I don't know. I got my first real professional gig after leaving university.

00:47:29Was it the right time? I don't know. But those opportunities don't come along very often. Like,

00:47:34the girl you really like, she may never come back. The girl you really like, she may never come back.

00:47:41I mean, I remember my wife and I met playing volleyball. And the volleyball team, we didn't

00:47:49really know each other. We were just all thrown together. I was there with one or two friends of

00:47:52mine. And so, we thought, well, let's get together. And so, we said, well, next week, we're all going to

00:47:56go across the street to a restaurant. We're going to sit down and get to know each other and blah,

00:48:00blah, blah, blah, blah. And I was like, yeah, sounds good. And anyway, the next week came, and only my

00:48:06wife and I went. Everyone else, oh, I forgot, I'm busy, right? So, only, and we were like, oh, it's kind

00:48:10of a drag. But she always seemed like a lot of fun and sort of very positive. And we went and just,

00:48:18we were there for like hours, just talking. The whole conversation was electric. I've never done this

00:48:23before, but I realized later, you know, the little bill fold that it comes in with the restaurant name

00:48:27and I kept it. I kept it. I just went home with it, which made no sense other than I wanted to take

00:48:32something home. And we basically spend every day together since. And 24 years ago, something like

00:48:42that, and we got engaged within a couple of months, got married within 11 months of meeting. I'm not,

00:48:50and I knew, I mean, I remember being on a hike with her, watching her climb a hill. We'd had a great

00:48:54conversation. And I was like, yeah, I can't do better than this. There's no, I can't do better.

00:49:00There's no upgrade from here. And I've never felt that there has been an upgrade from here.

00:49:07What I'm going to say, well, you know, she's a little short. And if I have a son,

00:49:12I don't want him to be short or whatever, whatever, whatever, right?

00:49:18I'll wait for the perfect person, whatever that is, right? Whatever that is. And the idea that I would

00:49:23have the arrogance to know what's perfect for me for the rest of my life, I just go on principles,

00:49:26right? And I remember that. I'm not going to do better than her. She's the top, she's the crowning

00:49:40glory. And if you get that feeling with someone, and just because she's perfect for me, it doesn't

00:49:47mean that she's perfect. I think she is in general, but, you know, it's like that old Grace Jones song,

00:49:52I'm not perfect, but I'm perfect for you. And when you hit that person you got that click

00:50:00with, strike now, close the deal, because the hour is getting late. And you don't get a whole

00:50:16bunch of turns at bat, my friends. It wasn't like, well, I've got 12 offers to become an

00:50:25entrepreneur. I guess I'll just pick and choose and later and this and that and the other. Nope.

00:50:29It's now or never. Come hold me tight. It's now or never. If it's the right thing at the right time,

00:50:42if you've got that opportunity, you've got that, the planets are aligned, things are possible, just

00:50:47do it. Just do it. And it doesn't matter if you fail. So when I was in, I originally went to

00:50:55the Glendon campus of York University. And I went because I love to write and read. And I went to do

00:51:02an English degree. And through the English degree, I started acting. And I was, I was always cast as

00:51:07the lead. And then there was never any auditions for anyone else. So because I was pretty good at it.

00:51:12Anyway, so then I decided to go to the net, I thought somebody said, Oh, you should look into the

00:51:15National Theatre School. So I went to the National Theatre School. I mean, they take 16 out of 1600

00:51:20applicants, a 1% acceptance rate. And I got in as a writer and as an actor, I did the first year as

00:51:27an actor, then I moved to writer. And first year was pretty good. I just hated it after that. It was

00:51:32really, once they found out about, you know, I'm a free market guy and all of that. I mean, they just

00:51:38hated me. And I hated them. And I just, it was a horrible experience for the end there. And I left

00:51:43before the end of the second year and went and finished my undergraduate at McGill in history,

00:51:48because I really didn't want to do any more English literature, because you can just make,

00:51:51it's all sophistry. You just make up whatever you want, at least with history. I was optimistic at

00:51:56the time to think, hey, there are some facts in history. I mean, there are some numerical facts,

00:52:00but that's about it. So the theatre school thing crashed out. You know, it was a mutual contempt and

00:52:12hatred. And I never really did any acting. I mean, I've done some in my, reading my novels as audiobooks,

00:52:19but I have no regrets about going, because the last thing I'd want to do is sit there and say,

00:52:26oh my God, I should have gone. And if I hadn't gone, I could have got an Oscar by now. It could be in

00:52:29the next Marlon Brando. I went, I found that the acting world is repulsive as a whole, and I had

00:52:37some pretty broad exposure to it. Or what Marlon Brando said, acting is an empty and useless

00:52:42profession. And the other thing too, which I think is reasonable to say, whether you agree with all of

00:52:46my words, they're pretty original. And I think it's fairly safe to say that I have too many of my own

00:52:51words to spend my life reciting other people's language. So you needed to hear this. Oh, I'm glad

00:53:04to, I'm glad to hear that. Fear. I was very scared of riding a bike with no training wheels as a kid.

00:53:13Fear of falling. Sure. I got over the fear. Loved biking. And yes, I fell hard a few times. Still

00:53:18rode my bike. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

00:53:26Been in a few serious car crashes. A few my fault. Learn to be more careful and patient. Love driving.

00:53:30Don't need to drive like a lunatic either. Good. Good. If the only thing that somebody says,

00:53:37if the only thing that makes you skeptical for the relationship is a perceived imbalance of value

00:53:41in the relationship, maybe there are some elements that you are not considering. Have you brought this

00:53:45up with your brother? Oh, this is with regards to the, uh, yeah, the other, sorry. You're not even

00:53:50talking to me. How rude. No, I'm just kidding. I'm glad you guys are talking to each other.

00:53:55Good, good, good.

00:53:56Good. All right. Any other questions, comments, issues? I did a couple hours today on a live

00:54:06stream. I did an hour or two of responding to people on X. So I don't believe if we, I don't

00:54:13mind if we don't have a super long show tonight, but I'm certainly happy to take questions and

00:54:16comments. I will try to do a stream tomorrow. I love you tomorrow. I've got music in my head

00:54:22all night today. I love you tomorrow. All right. After I belted out my guest on song. Can you

00:54:31check above? Yeah, the fun, let me just go back here. So I'm going to pop out the chat on

00:54:34X pump up the chat and let's see. Reload loading. Does it, if you can re put in your question,

00:54:52it's not, it's only showing me the last three posts. One from snow maiden, one from panzer,

00:54:59witch. It's quite vivid. And one from Jacob Smith, Jacob Smith, where's your edgy username?

00:55:08But yeah, if you can pop it back in, I'm happy to answer, but I don't know why X, maybe I need

00:55:13to bring something down here. That's like a tablet or something, because on windows, the chat is just

00:55:18not working with X repost, reposted the stream. Oh, okay. You can do that. That's cool. Just as we

00:55:29may be ending. Steph, your presence is extremely appreciated. I find it very motivating and

00:55:35inspirational. Right. Sorry. Right. I mean, thank you. I appreciate that. You know, there's a bit of

00:55:41tough love involved in coaching and, you know, unfortunately, particularly young men have been

00:55:47shielded from the, it's possible that you suck at something, but can get better. Right. You suck

00:55:54is, you don't say that to someone who's blind. You suck at catching balls. You have sympathy because

00:56:00he's blind. Right. So you suck is, you should do better. And there is a certain amount of tough love

00:56:06that is involved in coaching boys. But when you, well, coaching and coaching these sort of young

00:56:12men or trying to coach the young men on X, they respond as if I'm bullying them. In other words,

00:56:18they have a female response to male authority. They have a female response to male coaching. They have

00:56:24a female response to a male elder. And I sympathize with that. I really do. And I, I, I'm not saying

00:56:32they're female. I'm just saying that that, uh, stop shaming me. Uh, it's upsetting. Uh, you don't

00:56:37understand. And then sort of this lashing out, you're just an out of touch boomer. It's not 2015.

00:56:41Like all of that stuff is not like, okay, tell me more about what I could do better or tell me more

00:56:47about how you learned, you know, not saying that I'm right. I'm just saying that, that when you tell

00:56:52people they can achieve something and they shouldn't give up and they get really angry and manipulative

00:56:57and they insult you and they gaslight you and they, um, that they, they hurt and all of that.

00:57:03I mean, that's just, it's the price you pay for the sort of hyper-feminized way that we're raising

00:57:07boys these days. And I was raised the same way, I guess, with the exception that I hated it at the

00:57:12time, of course, but boarding school was at least a somewhat masculine environment that helped out a

00:57:16little bit that way, I suppose. But when people have given up hope and then you tell them there's

00:57:21still hope, they tend to get angry. And I understand that because it's like, why are you awakening

00:57:26hope in me when I've given up? Because if you awaken hope in me, I'm, I'm going to go through

00:57:35a lot of pain, right? And the only analogy that I can give is that if your, if your wife is dying

00:57:43and, you know, five charlatans have ripped you off by promising a cure, which never materializes,

00:57:51and someone else comes along and says, no, no, no, I can cure your wife. You're going to get angry

00:57:56because the awakening of hope is painful and you're concerned about being exploited, right? But

00:58:01I'm not telling these people on, on X or elsewhere, you can do it. And all you have to do is buy my

00:58:071499 infomercial book of Enos in order to learn how, right? I mean, I'm not selling anything,

00:58:15right? So there's no cynicism that, but what I am to is I'm reawakening hope or trying to,

00:58:21and the reawakening of hope comes with extreme pain because you have to deal with all the people

00:58:27who ground and crush the hope out of you. And then you have to try and get the muscles back

00:58:30that hope caused a lack of hope caused to atrophy.

00:58:34So I do, I do understand why people are mad at me.

00:58:47They're saying, Steph, your hope is foolish. Your hope is out of touch. Your hope is unwise. The

00:58:52world has changed. It's unrecoverable. We're doomed. Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. I don't believe

00:58:58that. I don't believe that. I don't. I mean, if I believe that, why would I have kids, right? So I

00:59:05understand that telling people they have hope is really annoying to people. It's really annoying to

00:59:14people, which is why I get it. I understand it. I sympathize with it. I really do. I really do.

00:59:21But I'm still going to do it. I'm still going to do it because hope is the important thing. Look,

00:59:26if these men in particular, right, these young men have had precious little mentoring. They've

00:59:34been ground down by feminist teachers and the media their whole lives. They probably come from

00:59:39single mother households or something similar to, or at least very weak father households. And

00:59:44see, now that's another, that's another example of a feminine response. Why this fixation on male

00:59:50coaching? Saying that it's a really weird fixation to want to help your fellow man achieve that which

01:00:03has given you the greatest joy in life, which is love and family. See, that's a female response

01:00:08to impugn motives rather than to address arguments. It's not what you said, it's how you said it,

01:00:17right? What's with this fixation? Why are you so obsessed? You know, players, right? I mean,

01:00:23it's, it's a, it's a feminine and not even good feminine. There's some great feminine responses,

01:00:29but it's, and this is why I just have to, um, maybe I want to be coached, but you know nothing about

01:00:40women. That's a prob. See again, that is, that is the, the, the, the, the lash out, the gouge,

01:00:48the, the jab. It's passive aggressive. It's, it's, uh, I mean, the idea that I know, I mean,

01:00:53I've, I've lived with a wife whose decades history of mental health professional for, uh, you know,

01:01:02almost a quarter century. I've raised an entire whole female, uh, as a stay-at-home dad, but I

01:01:09know nothing. I've, I've talked to and given feedback on hundreds of women over the course,

01:01:14uh, in public. It's not even private, right? It's public shows for the most part. So, but I just know

01:01:19nothing, nothing. See, that is, um, I am actively aggressive. I sink my boots in your flaccid arse.

01:01:41Well, that's a, what's an odd specimen. What an odd specimen. All right. So, I will not engage

01:01:48any more with that. Uh, somebody says, I remember you did a really good presentation on R and K

01:01:53selection theory a long time ago. Is there anywhere I can rewatch that? Yes, you can.

01:01:57Yes, you can. Uh, you can go to fdrpodcasts.com. Uh, I think the title was Gene Wars, G-E-N-E Wars.

01:02:08And, uh, you can do a, you do a search for it and you click on the show at the bottom is a link to

01:02:14all the places where it's available on video. All right. Uh, I thought you didn't want people

01:02:23to have hope because it makes them lazy and wait for someone else to do what is necessary.

01:02:29Oh my God.

01:02:30Don't have hope. Only have hope, but don't act. It's a bit of a false dichotomy. You're smart enough

01:02:40to figure that out. Enjoyed chapter 10 of the new book, Seth. Thanks for sharing.

01:02:45Ooh, didn't like the listeners too much for that. Didn't like the listeners too much for that.

01:02:50You know, I don't ask for much. I mean, donations, yes, but I just, I asked for some feedback and I

01:02:54got like four people anyway. Uh, heavenly father's plan of happiness is to have men and women marry

01:03:00and have children to seal parents and children together forever. Well, of course. Oh, there's

01:03:08also a playlist for the Gene Wars presentation and didn't we put them all together and remastered

01:03:12them? I think I remember doing that at something, but you can go to fdrpodcasts.com slash feed

01:03:17slash RVK. Boy, that's user-friendly. FDRpodcasts slash feed slash RVK. I appreciate that. Thank

01:03:27you. Thank you. Thank you. I think, uh, thank you. I missed listening to your Truth About

01:03:34series. Well, I appreciate that. Thank you. Um, sorry, Jacob. Uh, I did ask you to repost

01:03:40the question. I'm not sure if you did. Let me just have a quick look here. If I missed

01:03:44it, my apologies. Uh, can you check above? I asked a question. Uh, Panzer, Morrigan,

01:03:53Kerry. Yeah. So, uh, maybe you, uh, didn't, uh, let me just put this in here. I don't know

01:04:01why. Uh, need a clue again. I'm going to type past my microphone stand. I'm normally not

01:04:10that bad. I think, I think, I think I put all the Gene Wars stuff together. I call four

01:04:16presentations, remastered them and all of that. So I, if we haven't, we will, because, uh,

01:04:22that remastering stuff is very, very cool. Uh, yes, I'm not going to talk about his teenage

01:04:34life. I understand. I understand the curiosity, but, um, obviously that's not my story to

01:04:38tell. All right. Uh, let me see here. Any other last, I don't know if Jacob's gonna, if Jacob's

01:04:51gonna get it to me again. Are you gonna get to me again? I don't think so. All right.

01:04:59So let me just check one last place for questions. I can relate to rejecting male coaching in

01:05:04the past. My father was quite passive and not assertive, not a good leader. Yes. There

01:05:09is must see, must see TV primetime entertainment. Gene Wars. Yes, that's right. Oh, um, my question

01:05:18is regarding men having multiple wives. The justification is the bell curve, which puts more men out of

01:05:23the dating market due to IQ and other issues. I mean, one-on-one monogamy is, uh,

01:05:29in general best for children. And the problem of course is, oh, yes, he's doing well. Thanks.

01:05:35Um, sorry, I meant to sound annoyed. Uh, yes, he's doing very well. Thank you. So, uh, the problem

01:05:40of course is that if you exclude a large number of men from the dating market, then you get people

01:05:46with no investment in the current or the future, the current status or future survivability of society

01:05:52as a whole. So I think it's not, I mean, in a, in a free society, I doubt it would go out that way.

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01:06:47Grok 4. Should I do it live? Hit me with a Y. If I should debate Grok 4 about me and my thoughts,

01:06:57my reputation, my ideas, should I debate with Grok 4 live? That would be edgy. That would be exciting,

01:07:05right? I think, uh, I think so. I think, yes. People saying yes. Okay. I think I will,

01:07:11I will set that up. When's Grok 4 coming out? I don't even know. I don't need to ask you. Sorry,

01:07:17that was lazy. Like I can't just look that up. So, all right. Thanks everyone so much. A beautiful,

01:07:24beautiful evening of conversation and questions. I really do appreciate that. If you could share the

01:07:30website, freedomain.com, I would really appreciate that too. And have yourself a blur, a glorious,

01:07:35a beautiful and glorious. It's now called glorious, a beautiful evening. I will talk to you Friday night.

01:07:42And, um, yeah, I'll, I'll do it this week. Debate Grok 4 live at a stadium. I would do that. I would

01:07:47absolutely do that. All right. Thanks everyone. That's a lot from up here. Bye.

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