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“‘You’re So Old-Fashioned!’  How to Handle That with Grace & Wisdom”

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00:00Has a young person ever looked at you and said,

00:02you're so old-fashioned?

00:05Maybe it's over the way you write a letter instead of sending a text,

00:08or the fact that you still enjoy holding a good paperback book.

00:12Sometimes the comment comes with a laugh,

00:15sometimes with an eye roll,

00:17and sometimes, if you're honest, it stings just a little.

00:21But before you take it to heart,

00:23let's explore what's really happening,

00:25and how you can respond with both grace and wisdom.

00:31When a young person calls you old-fashioned,

00:33what are they really saying?

00:35In most cases, it isn't about disrespect.

00:38It's a sign that your way of doing things is unfamiliar to them.

00:43Their world is a whirlwind of instant messages,

00:45viral trends, and ever-evolving technology.

00:49For them, change is the norm, and speed is everything.

00:52For those who grew up in earlier generations,

00:55traditions, patience, and craftsmanship were valued.

01:00Letters took days to arrive.

01:02Photographs were printed and cherished.

01:04And music came from records or radios,

01:06not streams and downloads.

01:08So when these two worlds collide,

01:10the differences can feel glaring.

01:13But rather than seeing their comment as criticism,

01:16consider it a doorway.

01:17It's an opportunity to connect, not to compete.

01:20Often, when a child or teenager says,

01:24that's so old-fashioned,

01:26they're expressing curiosity, confusion,

01:29or even admiration, not contempt.

01:32They're trying to make sense of how your experiences

01:35fit into their rapidly changing world.

01:37How you respond in that moment matters.

01:40It can either shut down the conversation,

01:43or open it up to something meaningful.

01:45Defensiveness is a natural instinct.

01:47Maybe you want to say,

01:49Well, in my day, we did things better.

01:53But this usually stops the conversation cold.

01:58Instead, try approaching the moment

02:00with emotional intelligence.

02:02First, stay curious rather than furious.

02:05Ask them,

02:06What makes you feel that way?

02:08This simple question invites explanation

02:13and turns a potential argument into a conversation.

02:18Maybe you'll learn something new

02:19about the apps they use

02:20or the shortcuts they take.

02:22Second, remember that their opinion's not an attack.

02:26Kids and teens are exploring,

02:28stretching boundaries,

02:29and figuring out their own identity.

02:31They're not trying to erase your experiences

02:33or belittle your values.

02:35Most of the time,

02:36they're just trying to be understood.

02:38Finally,

02:39see this as a chance to both teach and learn.

02:42Your traditions and values are still relevant.

02:45You just need to share them in a way that connects.

02:48Here are three practical strategies

02:50for staying open without feeling disrespected.

02:53First, replace judgment with curiosity.

02:56If someone calls your approach outdated,

02:58try responding with,

02:59Interesting.

03:00What's the new way of doing it?

03:02This keeps the conversation going

03:04and shows genuine interest in their perspective.

03:07Second, share the reasons behind your habits.

03:10For example,

03:11if you still write thank you notes,

03:12explain why.

03:14We wrote these because expressing gratitude

03:16mattered deeply.

03:18It was a way to make someone's day.

03:20When you share the why,

03:21you give your actions meaning,

03:23not just nostalgia.

03:25Third, bridge the gap

03:26rather than building a wall.

03:28Invite them to swap stories.

03:30We did things differently back then.

03:33Want to hear what it was like?

03:34This creates mutual respect

03:36and helps both sides see the value

03:38in each other's experiences.

03:40In the end,

03:41you don't have to change who you are.

03:43Just stay open to who they're becoming.

03:45Every generation has its strengths.

03:48Yours is wisdom earned through experience.

03:51Theirs is adaptability and innovation.

03:54Together, you can build a bridge

03:55that honors both the past and the future.

03:57So, what's the most old-fashioned thing

04:00you're still proud of?

04:02Maybe it's handwriting,

04:03gardening,

04:04baking from scratch,

04:05or simply taking time to listen.

04:08Whatever it is,

04:09celebrate it.

04:10And remember,

04:11connection is always in style.

“‘You’re So Old-Fashioned!’ How to Handle That with Grace & Wisdom”

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