Category
📺
TVTranscript
00:00:00I need you to listen, I need you to answer, I need you to listen, I need you to answer.
00:00:20Oh God, I need you too, I want to see your face, it is this love I have, it makes me search
00:00:34for you, I need you to listen, I need you to answer, I need you to listen, I need you
00:00:50to access, do not avoid my eyes, or let me anger you, do not toss me aside, oh God,
00:01:04do not drop me, I need you to listen, I need you to answer.
00:01:15I need you to listen, I need you to answer.
00:01:22You are the only hope I have, I have all night, they can be free for me.
00:01:33All of that is, can I help you again, can I help you warm you up side by yourself,
00:01:40that I can help you warm my eyes and get scared.
00:02:14All right, you two.
00:02:35That's enough.
00:02:42I don't like her.
00:02:43I think she loves you.
00:02:45Did you tell her that, Mom?
00:02:49Here you go, Mom.
00:02:57This is such a nice day.
00:03:01Who knows this?
00:03:02May those who love you be like the sun when it rises in its strength.
00:03:07Corinthians.
00:03:08Judges 531.
00:03:09Show off.
00:03:10Show off.
00:03:11So, Grandma, how old are you again?
00:03:13Never mind.
00:03:15That's very nice.
00:03:16Save some for me, will you?
00:03:22That's very nice.
00:03:23Who's that from?
00:03:25From you and Mary.
00:03:26You are correct.
00:03:27I was just testing.
00:03:28Remember, Mom?
00:03:29We were at the mall and you said you liked that.
00:03:30So, I went back and I got it for you.
00:03:31Auntie Honey, you give them that purse.
00:03:32I am always the one who has to get the purse.
00:03:36That's the rite of passage.
00:03:37That's the rite of passage.
00:03:38It's the rite of passage.
00:03:39The youngest Griffith girl is the purse mule.
00:03:40That's true.
00:03:41Oh, Grandma, open mine.
00:03:42I don't always have to be the purse mule.
00:03:43Okay, fine.
00:03:44Mm-hmm.
00:03:45Yes, I think it suits me.
00:03:46Yeah, I think it suits me.
00:03:47How old are you?
00:03:48How old are you?
00:03:49Oh?
00:03:50Your old are?
00:03:51Yes, when you have had a picture, the whole Deal, you have a purse.
00:03:52I don't know you're not a purse mule.
00:03:53What is it?
00:03:54I am a purse mule.
00:03:55You have to be a purse mule.
00:03:56I don't.
00:03:57Can you have a purse mule?
00:03:58What is it?
00:03:59Okay, fine.
00:04:03Mm-hmm. Yes, I think it suits me.
00:04:06What do you guys think?
00:04:08Grandma, that is a lovely shade of lipstick.
00:04:10Beautiful!
00:04:11Oh, Ed, stop it.
00:04:13Why? What's wrong, Mom?
00:04:14It's disgusting.
00:04:16You asked me, you queers should all be lined up and shot.
00:04:20Didn't you say that last year about the Giants?
00:04:23What did you say?
00:04:26Never mind.
00:04:28What is this?
00:04:30It's a journal, like a diary.
00:04:32I don't need any more stuff.
00:04:39Mom?
00:04:40What?
00:04:41I'll go.
00:04:42It's a good thing we didn't get you the pen.
00:04:44We can't take it personally.
00:04:46It's Grandma.
00:04:48You know the rule, she's mean sometimes and then we get a free pass to make fun of her.
00:04:51Bobby, she picks on me.
00:04:53Nobody ever picks on you, you're the favorite.
00:04:57So what's it like to be perfect?
00:05:00I'm perfect?
00:05:02You think I'm perfect?
00:05:04Have you looked in a mirror lately?
00:05:05You're Charlie's next angel, okay?
00:05:07Can I have it?
00:05:11You don't want it.
00:05:13Well, I'm taking it.
00:05:15I can fill this up in a week.
00:05:16Come on, let's go celebrate Grandma's 39th, 39th birthday.
00:05:21Bobby, I'm ready.
00:05:22What?
00:05:23I want to go further.
00:05:28Is something wrong?
00:05:30I thought you'd want to.
00:05:31Here?
00:05:32I mean, this isn't really what I had in mind.
00:05:33Well, it doesn't have to be here.
00:05:34I should go.
00:05:35I have to get up early tomorrow.
00:05:36Is something wrong?
00:05:37I don't think this is going to work.
00:05:38I think we should break up.
00:05:39I thought you liked me.
00:05:40I can't.
00:05:41I can't.
00:05:42I can't.
00:05:43I can't.
00:05:44I can't.
00:05:45I can't.
00:05:46I can't.
00:05:47I can't.
00:05:48I can't.
00:05:49I can't.
00:05:50I can't.
00:05:51I can't.
00:05:52I can't.
00:05:53I can't.
00:05:54I can't.
00:05:55I can't.
00:05:56I can't.
00:05:57I can't.
00:05:58I can't.
00:05:59I can't.
00:06:00I should go.
00:06:01I have to get up early tomorrow.
00:06:02Is something wrong?
00:06:03I don't think this is going to work.
00:06:04I think we should break up.
00:06:05I thought you liked me.
00:06:06I came to meet your family.
00:06:07I just don't want to get that serious.
00:06:08Well, it doesn't have to be serious, okay?
00:06:11It's not you.
00:06:12It's me.
00:06:13Okay, I'm sorry.
00:06:20I just don't want to get up.
00:06:21I feel like I can't.
00:06:22I feel like I got a little water, it's not going to work.
00:06:24I just don't want to get up.
00:06:26I can't.
00:06:27I'm sorry.
00:06:28I can't.
00:06:29I'm sorry.
00:06:30Hi.
00:06:31Hi.
00:06:32Hi.
00:06:33Hi.
00:06:34Hi.
00:06:35Hi.
00:06:36Hi.
00:06:37Hi.
00:06:38Hi.
00:06:39Hi.
00:06:40Hi.
00:06:41Hi.
00:06:42Hi.
00:06:43Hi.
00:06:44Hi.
00:06:45Hi.
00:06:46Hi.
00:06:47Hi.
00:06:48Hi.
00:06:49Hi.
00:06:50Hey, you want to watch with me?
00:06:54I'm tired.
00:06:55Oh, come on.
00:06:56Who else can I get to watch an old black and white movie?
00:06:59You know, if it's not John Wayne, your dad's not interested.
00:07:03It's really scary.
00:07:08You know, the scene's famous.
00:07:10Really?
00:07:11You know how they got that glass of milk to glow?
00:07:13How?
00:07:14Well, Hitchcock put a light bulb inside the glass
00:07:16so the audience would know the milk is poisonous.
00:07:19No kidding.
00:07:21That's clever.
00:07:22How'd you know that?
00:07:24Because I'm brilliant.
00:07:26You are brilliant.
00:07:28Take it away, I've eaten too much.
00:07:30I think there's something wrong with me.
00:07:33That's for sure.
00:07:37What do you think Mom would do if she found out one of us was a psychopath?
00:07:40What do you mean, if?
00:07:44You know how she's always saying
00:07:46the whole family's gonna be together in the afterlife?
00:07:48Well, one of one of us is a sinner.
00:07:53If you sinned with Michelle, I promise I won't tell.
00:07:56It's not that.
00:07:58I'm just thinking about stuff, you know?
00:08:01Think too much.
00:08:03It's dangerous.
00:08:05Which is why I avoid it at all costs.
00:08:07Yeah?
00:08:08Yeah?
00:08:11I'm glad we talked.
00:08:14Seriously, is something wrong?
00:08:16No.
00:08:19All right, because I'm your big bro.
00:08:21I'm just looking out for you.
00:08:23What's up, buddy?
00:08:24You ready to go?
00:08:25Who's up, buddy?
00:08:26You ready to go?
00:08:27What's up, Bobby?
00:08:51You ready to go?
00:08:55Hey, Bobby.
00:08:56Cheryl.
00:08:59Who's not your type?
00:09:01Too much eye shadow.
00:09:02What's going on with Michelle, huh?
00:09:06We broke up.
00:09:07Talk to you guys later.
00:09:12Not telling the truth?
00:09:15Sometimes I feel like I'm at the edge of a cliff looking down at the crashing surf with nowhere to go but down.
00:09:21I used to have these flying dreams, and I was so free.
00:09:24But now as I fly, I'm afraid.
00:09:29There are telephone lines and electrical wires.
00:09:32How painful it would be to run into one.
00:09:34I wonder if I'll ever be free again.
00:09:39Do you eat oysters?
00:09:41When I have them, Master, do you consider the eating of oysters to be moral and the eating of stairs to be immoral?
00:09:47No, man.
00:09:48It's just something I was like, oh.
00:09:50Yeah.
00:09:50No.
00:09:51Like, I said, oh.
00:09:51Oh.
00:09:53Yeah.
00:09:54Okay, baby.
00:09:56Can you kill me?
00:10:01Oh.
00:10:02I want you to come back to your own kind.
00:10:28I beg you to.
00:10:29Is it me or whatever is in the gas?
00:10:34Hello?
00:10:35Bobby?
00:10:36Bobby?
00:10:37Bobby?
00:10:38Hey, Bobby.
00:10:39What did you do?
00:10:40Huh?
00:10:41What did you do?
00:10:42Did you take these?
00:10:43Answer me!
00:10:44No!
00:10:45Is that the truth?
00:10:46I couldn't do it, okay?
00:10:47Get out of here.
00:10:48What did you do?
00:10:49Huh?
00:10:50What did you do?
00:10:51Did you take these?
00:10:52Answer me!
00:10:53No!
00:10:54Is that the truth?
00:10:55I couldn't do it, okay?
00:10:56Get out of here.
00:10:57I wanted to, but I couldn't.
00:10:58What's wrong with you?
00:10:59You know why I couldn't do it?
00:11:00Because it's a sin.
00:11:02Bobby, what are you talking about?
00:11:04I didn't want to go to hell, but I am.
00:11:05Because this is worse.
00:11:06Bobby, you're scaring me.
00:11:07What's going on?
00:11:08You're scaring me.
00:11:09What's going on?
00:11:11You'd all hate me.
00:11:12I know it.
00:11:13I know it.
00:11:14I know that if you guys knew the truth, he wouldn't do it.
00:11:15And she's just like, oh no one way.
00:11:16I can't do it.
00:11:17What's wrong with you?
00:11:18What's wrong with you?
00:11:19Why couldn't do it?
00:11:20Why couldn't do it?
00:11:21Because it's a sin.
00:11:22Bobby, what are you talking about?
00:11:23I didn't want to go to hell, but I am.
00:11:26I'm talking about...
00:11:27Because this is worse.
00:11:28Bobby, you're scaring me.
00:11:29What's going on?
00:11:32You'd all hate me
00:11:35I know it
00:11:37I know that if you guys knew the truth
00:11:38You'd hate me
00:11:39Whatever it is
00:11:41We'll tell mom
00:11:43No
00:11:43No
00:11:45Mom wouldn't understand
00:11:46Okay?
00:11:46She can't know
00:11:47Then you have to tell me right now
00:11:49I'm not like you, Ed
00:11:55So what?
00:11:57I keep trying
00:11:58I keep telling myself
00:12:00That one day I'm gonna wake up
00:12:01And it's gonna be different
00:12:02But it's not
00:12:03I don't dream
00:12:06About girls like you do
00:12:09I dream about guys
00:12:13You're gay?
00:12:18See?
00:12:19You even say it like you hate me
00:12:20Give me a break
00:12:22I don't know what to do
00:12:24Well, tell mom and dad
00:12:26No!
00:12:27No
00:12:27They can help, Bobby
00:12:28They always want us to come to them
00:12:30They can help
00:12:31I can't
00:12:32Okay?
00:12:34And you're not gonna say anything either
00:12:36Promise me
00:12:37Promise me you're not gonna say anything
00:12:40Ed, promise
00:12:44Okay
00:12:45I promise
00:12:48Mom, if there was something wrong with one of your kids
00:12:55You always said that we should come to you, right?
00:12:58What'd you do?
00:13:00It's not me, it's Bobby
00:13:01What is it?
00:13:06I didn't want to tell you
00:13:07But he was in such bad shape
00:13:09I'm really worried about him
00:13:10He thinks
00:13:13He might be homosexual
00:13:16He's not
00:13:18He didn't want me to tell you
00:13:22He was gonna take a bunch of aspirin
00:13:24Okay, and you know
00:13:27He trusted me, you can't go too hard on him
00:13:30Okay, okay, good
00:13:30It's good
00:13:31I'm glad you told me
00:13:33There's no doubt in my mind
00:13:36That God can handle this
00:13:37He'll help us
00:13:38He'll heal Bobby
00:13:40In order for all of us
00:13:43To be together in the kingdom of heaven
00:13:44We cannot stray
00:13:46We can't sin like that
00:13:47And that is a terrible sin
00:13:49The Bible calls it an abomination
00:13:51In Leviticus
00:13:52If a man lies with another man
00:13:54They shall both be put to death
00:13:55I will not risk my family
00:13:57Not being together in the next life
00:13:59Mary, could we please worry about this life
00:14:00Before we worry about the next life?
00:14:03Hey
00:14:03What's going on?
00:14:05Isn't there a problem
00:14:06You need to tell us about?
00:14:09No
00:14:10Bobby
00:14:11If there is something wrong
00:14:13You need to share it with your family
00:14:15How could you?
00:14:17Bobby
00:14:18I'm gonna kill you!
00:14:19I'm gonna kill you!
00:14:20I'm gonna kill you!
00:14:20All right, okay
00:14:21It's enough!
00:14:22I was worried about you
00:14:23I trusted you!
00:14:25No, no, no
00:14:25No, no, no
00:14:26No, no, no, no
00:14:27Go find some homework
00:14:28Okay
00:14:28Bobby, we're your family
00:14:32We can get through this
00:14:33I know if we trust in God
00:14:35We can get through this
00:14:36It's curable with his help
00:14:37I'm sorry
00:14:38I can't help it
00:14:40I don't even want it, Mom
00:14:41What do I do?
00:14:43Bobby, you're not gay
00:14:44You're probably just
00:14:47You haven't met a girl
00:14:48That you're really attracted to
00:14:50Please
00:14:52Mom, please don't tell anyone
00:14:54Please
00:14:54Mom, please don't tell anyone
00:14:56It's gonna be all right
00:14:56Okay
00:14:57It's gonna be fine
00:14:59Shh
00:15:00I was worried about you
00:15:09What was I supposed to do?
00:15:13I'm out of here
00:15:14Thank you again for joining us
00:15:19I'm Pastor Raymond Zip
00:15:21We'll take another call
00:15:22This is from Melissa
00:15:23In Concord
00:15:25Thank you, Reverend
00:15:26I'm a little nervous
00:15:27My sister made a terrible mistake
00:15:29She sinned and then died in a tragic car accident
00:15:33I advise you to live according to your new life
00:15:36In the Holy Spirit
00:15:37Then you won't be doing
00:15:39What your sinful nature craves
00:15:41When the Holy Spirit controls your life
00:15:45He will produce love, joy, kindness, goodness
00:15:49And self-control
00:15:51Does everyone have to know?
00:15:52We're your family
00:15:53We love you
00:15:55Mom, have you seen my curling iron?
00:16:02We still love you, Bobby
00:16:16Yeah, thanks
00:16:18Can I get some privacy?
00:16:27Hi, Mary
00:16:28Hi
00:16:29If a homosexual
00:16:40Who wants to renounce homosexuality
00:16:43Finds a psychiatrist
00:16:45Who knows how to cure homosexuality
00:16:47He has every chance
00:16:49Of becoming a happy
00:16:50Well-adjusted heterosexual
00:16:52Do you ever hear any voices?
00:17:07No
00:17:07Do you ever hear any ringing sounds?
00:17:13No
00:17:14Is that the phone?
00:17:22That was a joke
00:17:23So you think you're a homosexual
00:17:30Bobby, how many girls have you been with?
00:17:36I don't know
00:17:37Two
00:17:38Had sexual relations with?
00:17:46Then how do you know for sure?
00:17:49I just
00:17:50Have these feelings, you know?
00:17:53I don't mean you know
00:17:54I mean
00:17:55I have these feelings
00:17:58Do you want to be homosexual?
00:18:06I just want to be close with my family again
00:18:11I feel like I slipped up
00:18:12And now I can't
00:18:13Get back
00:18:15I'm not going to be able to help you
00:18:17If you don't answer my questions
00:18:20No, I don't want to be this way
00:18:24I'm going to talk with your mother alone
00:18:28For a minute, okay?
00:18:34She wants to talk to you
00:18:35He can be cured
00:18:42Right?
00:18:46He has to be willing to really put the work in
00:18:48Oh, he is
00:18:49I know he is
00:18:51And I think it would be good
00:18:52It would be important
00:18:53To have your husband come join this in therapy
00:18:55Right
00:18:58Gotta go
00:19:01She said we should spend some more time together
00:19:06Maybe the two of you could
00:19:09Spend some quality time together
00:19:11Yeah, sure
00:19:13That's all she said for 60 bucks an hour
00:19:21She also wants the three of us
00:19:23To go to a few sessions together
00:19:24Oh, so it's our fault?
00:19:27I don't know
00:19:27I don't know about all that
00:19:28It's fine if he goes
00:19:29Bob, I want you to be a part of this
00:19:31I can't do it alone, okay?
00:19:33I read that homosexuals
00:19:34Have sex in public bathrooms
00:19:36And that they recruit children
00:19:38What are you saying?
00:19:41Do you think Bobby was recruited?
00:19:43Come on, Mary
00:19:44You're going overboard
00:19:45You've got to do something about this
00:19:47I won't lose him
00:19:48Dear Lord, we ask that you keep Bobby safe from temptation
00:19:56Please help him return to a pure heart
00:19:59Do you think this will heal me?
00:20:01You have to trust that God will heal you
00:20:03And that Satan will try to discourage you
00:20:05Do you trust in God?
00:20:09Yeah
00:20:09Phil, let me go to sleep
00:20:12When temptation is all around you
00:20:20Faith is not enough
00:20:22It requires discipline
00:20:24Not just mental, but physical
00:20:26Who would like to share their story?
00:20:28I used to be so unhappy
00:20:32I stayed out all night
00:20:34I talked back to my mother
00:20:36Since coming here and accepting Jesus as my savior
00:20:38I've changed
00:20:40My mom and I are like best friends now
00:20:43That's great, Terry
00:20:44Yeah
00:20:45The power of prayer and hard work
00:20:48Bobby, what about you?
00:20:49How are you coming along?
00:20:50Good
00:20:54Well, you feel better, don't you?
00:20:56I can see it in your eyes
00:20:58Your hard work has paid off, hasn't it?
00:21:01Yeah
00:21:02Let's sing, shall we?
00:21:04Amazing grace
00:21:09How sweet the sound
00:21:13That saved the rest like me
00:21:20Nothing I do seems to make a difference
00:21:40I try and act like them
00:21:43But it feels impossible
00:21:44It's an awful feeling to believe
00:21:47You could be headed straight
00:21:48For the fires of hell
00:21:49Even worse is everyone telling you
00:21:52How simple the solution is
00:21:53They don't know what it is
00:21:55To be in my shoes
00:21:56I'm running
00:21:59I'm not eating junk food
00:22:00Good
00:22:00Good
00:22:01Yeah, it's good
00:22:03But
00:22:04I don't know the point of it
00:22:06I mean, my face is cleared up
00:22:07But everything else feels the same
00:22:09Well, you have to stick with it
00:22:11Do you like the people in your group?
00:22:14They're okay
00:22:14This one girl, she...
00:22:16You know, I hope you're taking this seriously
00:22:18I mean it
00:22:19I hope you are trying with all your might
00:22:21I cannot lose you to this
00:22:24You won't
00:22:24Have faith
00:22:30Well, this is going to be fun
00:22:37When was the last time
00:22:38All the Griffith men went hiking together?
00:22:41Uh, here
00:22:43Thank you
00:22:44Oh
00:22:45So how's school?
00:22:58Good
00:22:59You thought about your plans?
00:23:04Well, college
00:23:05No, I mean, you know, life plans
00:23:08Well, I'm still thinking of becoming a writer.
00:23:11Listen, Bobby, you've always had a strong imagination
00:23:13and we've always been to write with that,
00:23:15but you're getting to the age where you're gonna have to get practical.
00:23:18Like pipe dreams, they're great when you're young,
00:23:21but they don't really have a place in the real world.
00:23:29Yeah.
00:23:30Do you hear what I'm saying, Ian?
00:23:32Yeah.
00:23:33All right, all right, let's go, let's move.
00:23:35All right.
00:23:38How'd it go?
00:23:46I'm healed.
00:23:51It was fine.
00:23:53Did you two talk?
00:23:55Yeah, we talked.
00:23:57Well, what'd you talk about?
00:24:00Mary was fine.
00:24:02No, but this is important.
00:24:04This could make him or break him.
00:24:06I did the best I could.
00:24:08Is that all right with you?
00:24:15A lot of times confusion like Bobby's can be caused by a distant father or an overbearing mother.
00:24:22Well, I had both and I'm fine.
00:24:26Yeah.
00:24:28Bob.
00:24:29Yeah?
00:24:30You need to participate in this.
00:24:31I'm right here, Mary.
00:24:33I'm in the room.
00:24:35You know?
00:24:36I think I've been a very good father.
00:24:39Maybe you don't know this, but Bobby, I mean, he was never into the stuff that his brother or other boys were into.
00:24:45You know, he's just not interested.
00:24:46Mm-hmm.
00:24:47So I'm not going to force him.
00:24:48You know?
00:24:54Hi, Bobby.
00:24:55I'm Sheila.
00:25:02Mom, who's that?
00:25:05Sheila is a student in my Sunday school class.
00:25:09You got me a date?
00:25:11You need to go up with lots of girls.
00:25:12Your dad thinks so, too.
00:25:14Can I at least pick my own?
00:25:19Don't do that thing with your arm.
00:25:21Have fun.
00:25:23You look nifty.
00:25:24Do you want a brownie for energy?
00:25:25Take them out.
00:25:26No.
00:25:27Hello.
00:25:32Who's this?
00:25:33This is my brother, Ed.
00:25:34Hi.
00:25:35Hi, I'm Sheila.
00:25:36Nice to meet you.
00:25:37Nice to meet you, too.
00:25:38Hi.
00:25:39Oh, hi.
00:25:40You want to come and make some of my friends?
00:25:41Yeah.
00:25:47Are you ever going to talk to me again?
00:25:50Look at where it got me.
00:25:54What if she wants me to kiss her goodnight?
00:25:55Goodnight.
00:25:56Until you're gay.
00:26:20Watch out, fag.
00:26:25I'm sorry.
00:26:26I'm sorry.
00:26:27I'm sorry.
00:26:28I'm sorry.
00:26:29I'm sorry.
00:26:30I'm sorry.
00:26:31I'm sorry.
00:26:32I'm sorry.
00:26:33I'm sorry.
00:26:34I'm sorry.
00:26:35I'm sorry.
00:26:36I'm sorry.
00:26:37I'm sorry.
00:26:38I'm sorry.
00:26:39I'm sorry.
00:26:40Did you tell your friends?
00:26:42Bobby, those aren't my friends.
00:26:43You tell everyone I'm dating?
00:26:44I haven't told anyone.
00:26:46Stop being so paranoid.
00:26:47You all hate me for it.
00:26:48I know you don't think I see it, but I do.
00:26:51I gotta go.
00:26:53Bobby.
00:26:54It's three in the morning.
00:26:55Sorry, I lost track of time.
00:26:56Well, where were you?
00:26:57Bobby.
00:26:58You weren't with homosexuals, were you?
00:27:01This is not you.
00:27:02This is temptation working its ways.
00:27:03You have to pray harder if you're going to get well.
00:27:07Good night, Mom.
00:27:08Pray for forgiveness right away.
00:27:09Good night, Mom.
00:27:10Pray for forgiveness right away.
00:27:11Good night, Mom.
00:27:12Good night, Mom.
00:27:13Pray for forgiveness right away.
00:27:14Good night, Mom.
00:27:16You did.
00:27:18Yeah.
00:27:19Yeah.
00:27:20This is not you this is temptation working its ways you have to pray harder if you're going to get well
00:27:30Night mom
00:27:50She had work so she asked me to pick you up
00:28:09You're welcome
00:28:11What's with you what you think I didn't notice that you didn't want your friends to see some people wouldn't understand and now it's so obvious
00:28:18Or did you tell them?
00:28:20Well look at what you're wearing
00:28:22And I've told you time after time not to do that thing with your arm
00:28:27Makes you look like a girl and you continue to do it
00:28:30I've always dressed this way you haven't it's gotten worse
00:28:34Why are you doing this? I'm trying to help you. No, you're not you're trying to help you
00:28:39It's not about me. It's about what people think about you imagine if they thought your son was some big queer. What's wrong with you? Stop that
00:28:46Nice mom great. Let's go home. I'm walking. No, where are you going?
00:29:16Yes
00:29:25No
00:29:27No
00:29:30No
00:29:32No
00:29:34No
00:29:35No
00:29:38No
00:29:41No
00:29:41I haven't seen you around here before.
00:30:04You are really beautiful.
00:30:11I got to go. Can I call you?
00:30:19No.
00:30:38Bobby.
00:30:38Don't worry. I was at church.
00:30:51Hi, cousin.
00:30:52I have a name. It's Gorgeous Cousin.
00:30:57So, how long are you here for?
00:30:59Just a day. I'm driving home tonight.
00:31:01I came in to see my dad, but I couldn't resist stopping by.
00:31:05Maybe it's not a choice. Maybe I just can't help it.
00:31:08It's like saying stealing is not a choice.
00:31:11What?
00:31:12Aunt Mary, lunch is delicious.
00:31:14Joy's right, Bobby.
00:31:16The Bible says men committed shameless acts with men
00:31:19and received in their own persons the due penalty for their error.
00:31:23You just won't change, will you?
00:31:24Well, I can't erase what's in the Bible.
00:31:26Personally, I think people should be able to love whoever they want.
00:31:29Did I mention how good lunch is?
00:31:37Even animals know who to do it with.
00:31:41Actually, our dog does it with a pillow.
00:31:43Can we please find something different to discuss?
00:31:45Yeah.
00:31:47Ed, you're up.
00:31:47What about, uh, why don't you tell us about college?
00:31:49I dropped out of school last week.
00:31:51You what?
00:31:56Well, what about college?
00:31:58I'm not going.
00:32:00Great.
00:32:02What's next?
00:32:04You're gonna ruin your life?
00:32:05Yeah, well, it's my life to ruin.
00:32:14Is it like this at every meal?
00:32:17Pretty much.
00:32:19You should come up and visit me in Portland.
00:32:21It's so great.
00:32:23I used to envy you.
00:32:25When I'd come here with Mom and Dad,
00:32:27I always wished your parents were my parents.
00:32:29You all seem so close.
00:32:31Well, that's over with.
00:32:34Hey, I think they love the sinners, not the sin.
00:32:36They should love the son no matter what the sin.
00:32:39Hey, that's good.
00:32:40I'm gonna start my own Bible.
00:32:50Think about coming to Portland?
00:32:55Hi, Mrs. Griffith.
00:32:57Is Bobby here?
00:33:01Bobby, you know, it's enough you go God knows where at night,
00:33:04but now you're bringing these deviants into my house.
00:33:07It's my house, too.
00:33:09And they're my friends.
00:33:10Is that what that boy is?
00:33:11Is it a sin to have friends now, too, Mom?
00:33:14We have a good time, okay?
00:33:15We go to the Rocky Horror together.
00:33:17Does that mean we're all gonna get struck down?
00:33:18They're gay, aren't they?
00:33:20I thought you were getting better.
00:33:22When?
00:33:23When I was miserable?
00:33:24That looked like I was getting better?
00:33:26You're right, Mom.
00:33:26I'm doomed just to roast in hell.
00:33:28Don't say that.
00:33:29Well, that's what your Bible says.
00:33:30The Bible also says a person can change.
00:33:32I tried, Mom.
00:33:33I can't.
00:33:34Why do you keep choosing this?
00:33:37Why would I choose this?
00:33:38Why would I choose to have my entire family hate me?
00:33:41No, we love you.
00:33:41Can't you see that's why we're doing this?
00:33:44Really, Mom?
00:33:44This is what love feels like?
00:33:52Have fun in Portland.
00:33:53Here's a new shirt for your vacation.
00:33:57I hope you like it.
00:34:01Promise me you'll write and call all the time.
00:34:04It's two months.
00:34:08Drive carefully.
00:34:09Don't worry, man.
00:34:12You'll call me when you get to Portland.
00:34:14I had this engraved with your initials.
00:34:31I love you guys.
00:34:35Bye.
00:34:36Have fun.
00:34:37Bye.
00:34:37Have fun.
00:34:37Bye.
00:34:37Bye, Bobby.
00:34:40Already, I'm glad to be away from Walnut Creek.
00:34:55This feels like a new life, a new day.
00:34:58And I'm going to be a success in every way I can.
00:35:02It is my goal to achieve a sense of pride and worth as a human being.
00:35:06Welcome to ladies' house.
00:35:10To see it, it feels so nice.
00:35:17Gorgeous cousin.
00:35:19Come on.
00:35:24Welcome to Portland.
00:35:28Oh, boy, I've got news for you.
00:35:32Everyone here tonight is booed at.
00:35:44Trust me, you don't find clubs like this back home.
00:35:47I see.
00:35:49Woo!
00:35:50Welcome to Motherland, Kevin.
00:36:01This is amazing.
00:36:03Let's go, Boogie.
00:36:20This is my cousin, Bobby.
00:36:35Nice to finally meet you, Bobby.
00:36:50So Jeanette tells me your mom wants to cure you of your gayness.
00:37:14Yeah, well, my parents don't really understand it.
00:37:18Do yours?
00:37:19They didn't at first, but they eventually came around.
00:37:23How'd you get him to change?
00:37:26Well, one day, I told him, accept me as I am or forget.
00:37:33I know my mom means well, but I don't know if she'll ever accept me.
00:37:41Just don't stop trying.
00:37:47I'm sorry, I'm sorry.
00:37:51I'm sorry, I'm sorry.
00:37:53I'm sorry, I'm sorry.
00:37:55I don't know if I am.
00:37:57I know my mom is what I was saying.
00:37:59I don't know.
00:38:01I know my mom is what I was talking about.
00:38:03Have a great trip.
00:38:25Don't let her get to you.
00:38:28And don't be afraid to stand up to her.
00:38:33Two months flew by fast.
00:38:50I'll call you when I get home.
00:38:53You better.
00:38:59Oh, look who's home.
00:39:00Hey, Dad.
00:39:01Hey, come here.
00:39:02Come here.
00:39:03Just in time for dinner.
00:39:05Come on.
00:39:07That's funny.
00:39:08Nice.
00:39:09So how was Portland?
00:39:10Yeah.
00:39:12Portland is great.
00:39:13Good.
00:39:14I'm thinking of maybe moving there for a little bit.
00:39:17Wow.
00:39:17Moving there?
00:39:18I met someone.
00:39:21Okay.
00:39:25A guy.
00:39:25Girls, you know, give me a hand with this.
00:39:35Are we supposed to pretend we didn't hear that?
00:39:38Yes.
00:39:39Bobby, this might not have been the right time.
00:39:43I know.
00:39:44I'm sorry.
00:39:45You should start thinking about college for next fall.
00:39:53You need to get your GED first.
00:39:55I mean, it's okay to take some time off, but then they start to-
00:39:58Did you hear me?
00:39:58I don't want to know.
00:40:00I want you to know.
00:40:03His name is David.
00:40:04We always start at the beginning every time.
00:40:06If we're not going to get anywhere different, let's just not go there.
00:40:09When I'm with him, it feels so good.
00:40:12David, he treats me well, he's funny, and he's smart.
00:40:17Bobby, I mean it.
00:40:18I don't want to hear it.
00:40:19You know I don't.
00:40:20I've spent the last year listening to you, and you're going to listen to me for once.
00:40:24It feels good when I'm with David, but if he touches me in public, or God forbid,
00:40:29kisses me, I pull away.
00:40:34I feel ashamed.
00:40:35Because you know it's wrong.
00:40:36Because you told me it's wrong.
00:40:38It's not me.
00:40:39It's the Bible.
00:40:40It's not the Bible.
00:40:41It's you.
00:40:41Why can't you admit that?
00:40:44Why can't you admit that you can't stand what I am?
00:40:47What you've become.
00:40:48What I am.
00:40:51I'm sorry.
00:40:52I'm not the perfect little Bobby you always wanted.
00:40:54But I can't keep apologizing for it, Mom.
00:40:57Accept me as I am.
00:40:58Well, forget it.
00:40:59I won't have a gay son.
00:41:03Then, Mom, you don't have a son.
00:41:05Bye.
00:41:11Do you really think she'd change Bobby?
00:41:29She meant it.
00:41:34She meant that.
00:41:42I really want you to be happy.
00:41:46I'm sure that guy's really nice.
00:41:48No matter what, she'll never accept it.
00:41:54It's going to be a lonely life, because he will never be welcome here.
00:41:58And for Christmas, Thanksgiving, anything.
00:42:00Don't worry about Mom too much.
00:42:12She'll come around.
00:42:14You're not going to hold my breath.
00:42:18Here you go.
00:42:21Your parachute pants.
00:42:23Thanks.
00:42:30I'll send you my first novel when I write it.
00:42:36Bye, Bucktooth.
00:42:39Take care, okay?
00:42:42Drive safe.
00:42:43Drive safe.
00:42:43I'll send you my first novel when I write it.
00:43:13And to study the reflexes of disease, more and more victims appear.
00:43:39Most of the new cases, up to five a day, seem to be centered in the homosexual community.
00:43:45And AIDS is becoming known as the gay disease.
00:43:48Well, your mom went a lot for your birthday.
00:44:07No card, a sweater, and AIDS, the wrath of God.
00:44:12Wow.
00:44:12Happy birthday.
00:44:15You can't expect anything different from her, Bobby.
00:44:19She's not going to change.
00:44:20Birthdays were always a big deal for all of us.
00:44:24There's just not an all of us anymore.
00:44:27Can't get that through my head.
00:44:33There's David.
00:44:35Talk to you later.
00:44:36You sure this is okay?
00:44:49They're going to love you.
00:44:54Let's go.
00:44:56Dad, did you have to tell that story?
00:44:58Hey, I felt I had to.
00:45:00Yes.
00:45:01And I've got about a dozen more where that came from, if you're interested, Bobby.
00:45:05Oh, no thanks.
00:45:06No.
00:45:06Sure.
00:45:08So, Bobby, tell us more about you.
00:45:10You grew up in Walnut Creek, right?
00:45:12David says you're very close to your family.
00:45:14Yeah.
00:45:15So, how are your parents with you being gay?
00:45:19Not good.
00:45:20Well, maybe it's just hard for them at first.
00:45:23They'll come around.
00:45:24You seem like such a wonderful young man.
00:45:27I'm sure they love you.
00:45:29Hey, cheers to that.
00:45:31Cheers to that.
00:45:32It's great to meet you, Bobby.
00:45:35So, how did you guys meet Eddie?
00:45:37You know what your dad said?
00:45:38Yeah.
00:45:39Okay.
00:45:43It's a sin.
00:45:44It's not an all of you.
00:45:47They'll come around and ruin your life.
00:45:49It's a sin.
00:45:49You will never be welcome here.
00:45:51Why do you keep choosing this?
00:45:53Sometimes I hurt so bad.
00:45:55I'm scared and alone.
00:45:59I'm sure we love you.
00:46:02I am damned.
00:46:07I'm slowly sinking in a vast lake of quicksand.
00:46:11A bottomless pool.
00:46:13I wish I could crawl under a rock and sleep forever.
00:46:23You've reached David.
00:46:30I'm not here right now, but if you leave a message after the beep, I'll get right back to you.
00:46:35Have a good one.
00:46:37Hey, David.
00:46:38It's Bobby.
00:46:41I thought you'd be there.
00:46:42Look, I really need someone to talk to you when I was hoping you'd be there.
00:46:55And please, dear Lord, continue to convict Bobby's heart of sin.
00:47:04Oh, man.
00:47:05Oh, my God.
00:47:08Oh, my God.
00:47:08Oh, my God.
00:47:09Oh, my God.
00:47:11Oh, my God.
00:47:19That he may find his way, the way of purity, the way of the righteous.
00:47:23Yes.
00:47:53It's a sin. It's not natural.
00:48:23It's a sin.
00:48:39It's a sin.
00:48:44It's a sin.
00:49:01I won't have a gay son.
00:49:13You're gonna be late for school.
00:49:14You're the one who slept in.
00:49:16Okay, well then we're both gonna be late for school.
00:49:19Meet you in the car.
00:49:20Okay.
00:49:21Hello?
00:49:23Jeanette, what's wrong?
00:49:28What's wrong?
00:49:33No.
00:49:35What's wrong?
00:49:36Nancy, get out of here!
00:49:38Dad!
00:49:41Hey!
00:49:42What's going on?
00:49:45Hello.
00:49:46Yeah, hi.
00:49:47Hi, Jeanette.
00:49:48Mary, you're being called out front and is set to break your purse.
00:49:54Probably one of the kids needs money again.
00:49:57I need a break anyway.
00:49:59Bye.
00:50:00I need a break anyway.
00:50:01Bye.
00:50:06Bye.
00:50:07Bye.
00:50:09Bye!
00:50:10Bye, Amn.
00:50:13Come back.
00:50:15Come back.
00:50:17What is that?
00:50:19Bobby killed himself.
00:50:25I heard Bobby killed himself.
00:50:34He jumped off a bridge.
00:50:37He's gone.
00:50:44Help me.
00:50:50Help me.
00:50:52Mike, let me stand.
00:50:53Let me out.
00:50:54Let me out.
00:50:57Mike, let me stand.
00:50:58Let me out.
00:51:10Joy, slow down.
00:51:11What's wrong?
00:51:12We go.
00:51:27Oh, my God.
00:51:57Oh, my God.
00:52:27Oh, my God.
00:52:29Death of a loved one is always tragic, but the death of a young person can be particularly painful because that person had his whole life ahead of him.
00:52:39Bobby was only 20 years old.
00:52:42We'll never know who he could have been or what he could have accomplished.
00:52:46Bobby was a good young man, but he was lost.
00:52:50By giving in to temptation, he strayed.
00:52:53Bobby, then disillusioned, he chose to end his life, and we know to condemn the sin, not the sinner.
00:53:05It was this sin that Bobby succumbed to.
00:53:10It led to his unhappiness, and it led him to take his own life.
00:53:16As goodness begets goodness, so does sin beget sin.
00:53:24They're okay with this.
00:53:25You're running low.
00:53:43You're running low.
00:53:55I'm sorry.
00:53:55Mom, do you think Bobby got salvation?
00:53:59I don't know.
00:54:00Suicide is a sin, but maybe God knew that Bobby wasn't in his right mind.
00:54:06I mean, why would God allow Bobby to go to hell if it was in his power to cure him?
00:54:11I don't know, Mary.
00:54:13Pull yourself together.
00:54:15People are uncomfortable enough.
00:54:17Thanks for coming home.
00:54:27I'm sorry for your loss.
00:54:28I'm so sorry for your loss.
00:54:30Yes.
00:54:37Mrs. Griffith.
00:54:38Mr. Griffith.
00:54:40I'm David.
00:54:42I was a friend of Bobby's.
00:54:44I wanted to offer my condolences.
00:55:05He was an amazing young man.
00:55:14I'm so sorry.
00:55:16I'm so sorry.
00:55:39Aunt Mary?
00:55:41David is a good person.
00:55:43All of Bobby's friends were.
00:55:44When Bobby was here, it was under control.
00:55:47Then he moves to Portland,
00:55:49and someone puts all these ideas into his head.
00:55:51It wasn't like that. David cared for Bobby.
00:55:53We're his family. We knew how to help him.
00:55:56He wanted to change, to be closer to God.
00:55:58To be closer to you.
00:56:00Then he just got further and further into that lifestyle,
00:56:02and then he couldn't get out.
00:56:04Do you believe everything they tell you in church?
00:56:06I know you and Uncle Bob meant well, but that sermon...
00:56:09Bobby knew the repercussions of a homosexual lifestyle.
00:56:12Bobby was good and decent and kind.
00:56:16Someone who didn't even know Bobby stood up there
00:56:18and condemned him, and you let him.
00:56:21Bobby did everything he could to make himself acceptable to you.
00:56:24He was so good and bright and funny.
00:56:27He should be praised.
00:56:29I'm sorry you can't see it that way.
00:56:32Maybe you should go.
00:56:35Fine.
00:56:37I left Bobby's things in his room.
00:56:42I don't know why.
00:56:45I didn't see him, but he wanted to eat.
00:56:47I knew he was an alien.
00:56:49I knew he was the one who was the one for us.
00:56:52I bet I might be the one for him.
00:56:54Maybe he was the one for us.
00:56:55Good?
00:56:56No, he didn't have to stop all.
00:57:00He was an alien.
00:57:03I've never seen him on his front floor before.
00:57:05He was a вас waiting for him.
00:57:06I've never seen him.
00:57:07I've never seen him.
00:57:09Bobby.
00:57:30Hey, Mom.
00:57:33Don't you ever do that again.
00:57:35God, I knew it wasn't true.
00:57:37I knew God would bring you back to me.
00:57:40Mom, you worry too much.
00:57:42No.
00:57:46No.
00:58:09I'm slowly sinking in a vast lake of quicksand, a bottomless pool.
00:58:24I wish I could crawl under a rock and sleep forever.
00:58:27No one understands me.
00:58:30No one in this house can accept my side of the story.
00:58:32I can feel God's eyes looking down on me with pity.
00:58:35I can't ever let anyone find out I'm not straight.
00:58:38It would be so humiliating.
00:58:40My friends would hate me.
00:58:42And my family.
00:58:43Mom.
00:58:44I've overheard them.
00:58:45Oh, thank you.
00:58:47They've said that they hate gays.
00:58:49And even God hates gays.
00:58:52It really scares me when they talk that way because now they are talking about me.
00:58:56I don't want to choose sin.
00:58:58I don't.
00:58:59I am so mad and frustrated, God.
00:59:02I seem to be at the end of the road.
00:59:05Why do you remain silent?
00:59:09May 30th.
00:59:10Memorial Day barbecue.
00:59:11I had fun.
00:59:14Mom was her sweet and funny self.
00:59:16Like the old mom.
00:59:18For a second it felt like the old days.
00:59:21She smiled at something I said.
00:59:23And I saw in her eyes that for a second she forgot what she really thinks of me.
00:59:28The anger never erupts.
00:59:31My timid nature would never allow a full-fledged thunderstorm to occur.
00:59:35But it's there on the horizon.
00:59:38I can feel God's eyes looking down on me with such pity.
00:59:41He can't help me though.
00:59:44Because I've chosen sin over righteousness.
00:59:49Things will get better.
00:59:52Just give it time.
00:59:57Give it time.
01:00:03But it ain't easy.
01:00:04Excuse me.
01:00:15You alright, Ed?
01:00:17Oh, yeah.
01:00:18I'm fantastic.
01:00:18I think we all are.
01:00:19Isn't that obvious?
01:00:20Ed, we have to deal with this as a family.
01:00:24That was your answer for Bobby too, but it didn't work.
01:00:27Damn it.
01:00:27Okay.
01:00:29Oh, go.
01:00:30Oh, oh.
01:00:31Excuse me.
01:00:32Alright.
01:00:36Come here, Nancy.
01:00:43Oh.
01:00:43You want to get out of here?
01:01:08Maybe go for a beer?
01:01:13Did he even think about what it would do to us?
01:01:21I mean, he could have called or something, but it would just screw us, right?
01:01:29Yeah.
01:01:30Nothing.
01:01:31No goodbye.
01:01:32No note.
01:01:33Nothing.
01:01:34I'm sorry.
01:01:41Are you happy now?
01:01:44I'm sorry, Bobby!
01:01:47Are you happy now?
01:01:49Yeah.
01:01:50It's not your fault.
01:01:55There must be other Bobbies out there.
01:02:10Other young gay people who may be thinking of taking their lives.
01:02:16Does the church reach out to them?
01:02:23There are other churches that do that.
01:02:26Reverend Joseph asked us to tell you how sorry he is for your loss.
01:02:31We could come back in a couple of weeks and check in on your family.
01:02:35You don't understand.
01:02:36I don't know what to do.
01:02:42I need to make peace with this and I can't.
01:02:49The Lord says the impure will be thrown into the lake of fire.
01:02:55Bobby sinned, but he was pure of heart.
01:03:00He'd never knowingly hurt anyone.
01:03:05Is that enough?
01:03:09Is it?
01:03:19Dear God, my relationship to you leaves something to be desired.
01:03:25I have never asked of you, only given as I was told.
01:03:29Your Holy Spirit has taught me so much.
01:03:32But now there's more I need to know.
01:03:42Hey.
01:03:48I can't.
01:03:50why?
01:03:51Why?
01:03:53Okay.
01:04:03I think I can sleep in my living room.
01:04:50No, no. No, no. You're right.
01:04:53Reverend?
01:04:54Mary Griffin.
01:04:56Nice to have you with us, Mary.
01:04:57The Bible.
01:04:59It says that homosexuality is a sin punishable by death.
01:05:03Do you believe that?
01:05:04There are other interpretations of the Bible, Mrs. Griffin.
01:05:07My son was gay, and he killed himself.
01:05:12Is there another interpretation of that?
01:05:17I'm sorry.
01:05:20What was his name?
01:05:26Bobby.
01:05:28Bobby Griffith.
01:05:32I saw him here a couple of times.
01:05:34My Bobby.
01:05:36He always sat way in the back.
01:05:39They stopped coming.
01:05:41I am so sorry.
01:05:43You must be.
01:05:44I need answers.
01:05:46I need to know where he is.
01:05:49Is homosexuality an unforgivable sin?
01:05:52Leviticus 18.22 says, if a man lies with another man, it is an abomination.
01:05:58An abomination in that time didn't mean sin.
01:06:01It meant unclean.
01:06:03Leviticus also goes on to, say, eating shellfish is an abomination, or mixing fabrics.
01:06:08Leviticus 20.13, if a man lies with another man, they both shall be put to death.
01:06:13And then he says the same thing about an adulterer or a child that disobeys their parents.
01:06:19And we certainly don't interpret that scripture literally.
01:06:22In Deuteronomy 22, if a woman is not a virgin on her wedding day, she shall be taken to her father's house and stoned to death.
01:06:29So what do you tell people who come here, gay people, that homosexuality is okay, that it is permissible in God's eyes?
01:06:41I tell them what I believe to be the truth, that God loves them as they are.
01:06:46God's vengeance is great.
01:06:48So is his compassion.
01:06:49You shouldn't teach them that homosexuality is okay.
01:06:53That's not what the Bible says.
01:06:55It just confuses them more.
01:06:57Mrs. Griffith, if you would like to come back during the week and talk, my door is open, but not to be blamed.
01:07:04Okay?
01:07:27Well, I think we've got a pretty good one.
01:07:45It's nice and full.
01:07:48A couple of ball spots, kind of like your dear old dad.
01:07:50Or grandma.
01:07:55Yeah.
01:07:56Mom, can we hang this one on the tree?
01:08:01We should.
01:08:03I remember when he made this.
01:08:06Second grade.
01:08:08Mrs. Tom's class, I think.
01:08:11He was so proud of himself.
01:08:12Where do you want to put it?
01:08:17Um, up high.
01:08:19So he can look out.
01:08:28Hey, they work.
01:08:34I'm gonna go check on the cookies.
01:08:35Okay.
01:08:35Okay.
01:08:35Okay.
01:08:42I found the passage you talked about.
01:09:03About stoning to death.
01:09:04Deuteronomy 22.
01:09:06But what about Sodom and Gomorrah?
01:09:08Uh, God punished the sin of homosexuality.
01:09:11How do you explain that?
01:09:13It's nice to see you too, Mary.
01:09:16What's this for?
01:09:17It's a rummage sale.
01:09:20Oh, gay people have rummage too.
01:09:23So, what about Sodom and Gomorrah?
01:09:26Many scholars think the sin was greed and not homosexuality.
01:09:30And it wasn't labeled homosexuality until years after it was written.
01:09:34Do you have answers for all these things just to justify being that way?
01:09:39Your answer is to justify that it's wrong.
01:09:41I guess we're at an impasse here.
01:09:45So you think it's okay to interpret the Bible any way you want?
01:09:49No, of course not.
01:09:50But the Bible was written and interpreted by mortal men.
01:09:54And many of those interpretations were reflections of the time in which they lived.
01:09:59So you feel completely free to question it?
01:10:02Because I think it's blasphemous.
01:10:06I don't think God minds questions.
01:10:09He might not be thrilled with all of our answers.
01:10:12I think blind faith is just as dangerous as none at all.
01:10:16Well, I've never questioned my faith.
01:10:18I've never had reason to.
01:10:20Sometimes to question it helps you find a deeper faith.
01:10:23Bobby stopped coming here.
01:10:30I think the reason was he could never allow himself to feel worthy of God's love.
01:10:40And we didn't help.
01:10:41Mary, have you ever heard about P-Flag?
01:10:47It's a national organization.
01:10:48It's Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays.
01:10:51That's not for me.
01:10:52It could help.
01:10:53You'd be able to see you're not so alone in this.
01:10:56Bye, Reverend.
01:10:57Now, there is a woman in Concord, Betty Lambert.
01:11:00You'll love her.
01:11:01She has a gay son in his 30s.
01:11:03I just had a few questions.
01:11:05I don't need anything else.
01:11:07Just in case.
01:11:11Pope Hill's famous pocket fisherman.
01:11:14Over two million...
01:11:15It's true.
01:11:15There's a passage that says if children are disobedient, they should be put to death.
01:11:20And I mean, no one interprets that literally.
01:11:22Mm-hmm.
01:11:23What I'm saying is, if the church no longer interprets that literally,
01:11:29maybe homosexuality is also on that list.
01:11:32Maybe.
01:11:34Well, don't you think that's important?
01:11:37Mary, I wasn't all that keen on the first interpretation of the Bible.
01:11:40Well, it could mean that Bobby's in heaven.
01:11:43Yeah, well, he's not here, all right?
01:11:45Why isn't that enough for you?
01:11:47Is it enough for you?
01:11:51Does it make it any better, everything you're doing?
01:11:54Well, what do you want me to do?
01:11:55Just forget about him?
01:11:57I can't do that.
01:11:58Maybe you can.
01:11:59I don't want to forget about him, Mary.
01:12:00I want to remember him, and then I want to move on.
01:12:02But I can't.
01:12:03Nobody can.
01:12:04Just walk away, you know, like you always do.
01:12:07You never deal with anything.
01:12:09Oh, I see.
01:12:09Maybe, maybe if I did, Bobby would still be alive today.
01:12:13Is that what you're saying, Mary?
01:12:13Is that what you think?
01:12:14You're going to answer me?
01:12:25Listen, Mary.
01:12:27We both made mistakes.
01:12:28We all made mistakes.
01:12:29But it's done.
01:12:29He's gone.
01:12:30We're not going to bring him back!
01:12:33I know that!
01:12:35Don't you know I know that?
01:12:36Mary, I'm Betty.
01:13:01Hello.
01:13:02Betty Lambert.
01:13:03I'm so glad you called.
01:13:05Please, come in.
01:13:07Reverend Witzel told me what happened to Bobby.
01:13:10I can't imagine what it must feel like to lose a child like that.
01:13:15How long has it been?
01:13:18Um, six months.
01:13:21Six months and a few days.
01:13:23Our son was 14 when he came out to us.
01:13:29Isn't that a little young?
01:13:30Oh.
01:13:32No.
01:13:32I knew before then.
01:13:35We mothers, we always know, don't we?
01:13:39And you were okay with it?
01:13:41Oh, God, no.
01:13:41I don't think any parent hears the news and thinks, oh, Goody.
01:13:50Goody wasn't the first word that came to my mind.
01:13:56Mary, why don't you come to a PFLAG meeting with me?
01:14:01No, I'm, um, I'm not good at talking in groups.
01:14:06So don't talk.
01:14:08No, just come and listen.
01:14:10Now, I think you'll be shocked at how many people think they were the all-American family.
01:14:18Now, think about it.
01:14:24Eric was taunted at school all the time.
01:14:28Then he got beat up.
01:14:29Mary, you came.
01:14:30I can't stay long.
01:14:31That's all right.
01:14:32Come on in.
01:14:33I'm so furious.
01:14:34I went to the principal.
01:14:35But he didn't do a thing to the boys who did it.
01:14:39I was shocked by that.
01:14:42I called them fruits and fairies.
01:14:45I didn't know.
01:14:47It took me a long time to accept my Sam.
01:14:51I think I always knew.
01:14:53I mean, he asked for a pink Lacoste shirt for his birthday.
01:14:58He is always different.
01:14:59So, he tells me he's gay.
01:15:02And what do I do?
01:15:04I take him hunting.
01:15:05There he is in his pink Lacoste shirt.
01:15:07He saw a deer and yelled, run, Bambi, run.
01:15:11I always knew I could love my son.
01:15:15I never thought I could accept him for who he is.
01:15:18Well, when Jill told me she was gay, I insisted she see a psychiatrist.
01:15:23But when that man suggested shock therapy, I looked at my baby and the hurt in her eyes.
01:15:33I thought, this is crazy.
01:15:35Oh, hello, Reverend.
01:15:36Please, come sit down.
01:15:38Hi, guys.
01:15:38Hi, Reverend.
01:15:39Nice to see all of you here tonight.
01:15:40As you may know, Reverend Witzel is pastor of the Metropolitan Community Church.
01:15:47And he's proposing a Gay Freedom Day to the Walnut Creek City Council.
01:15:52The City Council vote happens in about a month.
01:15:55And I would love all your support.
01:16:10I would love all your support.
01:16:40Mary, Mary, what are you doing out here?
01:16:57You're so come inside.
01:16:59I didn't know where else to go.
01:17:01I was sitting there, listening to all their stories about how they always just knew their kid was different.
01:17:21And then I had this dream tonight.
01:17:25Bobby was a baby.
01:17:26My son was always different.
01:17:39His difference began at conception.
01:17:44I knew that.
01:17:47I felt it.
01:17:48I know now why God didn't heal Bobby.
01:17:56He didn't heal him because there was nothing wrong with him.
01:18:05I did this.
01:18:09I killed my son.
01:18:11You did not kill your son.
01:18:12Bobby killed himself.
01:18:13How can God forgive me?
01:18:18How can Bobby forgive me?
01:18:20God has already done the forgiving.
01:18:23You have to forgive yourself.
01:18:24Oh.
01:18:27I'm so sorry.
01:18:31I'm so sorry.
01:18:33I'm so sorry.
01:18:33Dear God, give us something we can live with and pass on to others whose lives will never be the same because of a loved one's death.
01:18:51I did not decide on brown eyes for myself.
01:18:56And I now realize that Bobby did not decide to be gay.
01:18:59If you say in your word that it is evil and wicked to be born with no arms, and a child is born with no arms, what is that child to think?
01:19:10The key flag organization is born with no arms, and I hope she's happy.
01:19:17Our first order of business is a proposal for a gay freedom day in Walnut Creek.
01:19:23Attention, please.
01:19:24We have a select group to debate the issue.
01:19:27I don't see her.
01:19:28Next up is Reverend Witzel.
01:19:30For one day, for one day, people can celebrate their difference rather than feel shame.
01:19:36They should be ashamed.
01:19:38There are so many other people who need our time and our attention.
01:19:45Why are we wasting it on this?
01:19:47All right.
01:19:47All right.
01:19:48Let's have some order here, please.
01:19:50They spit in the face of decency and morality.
01:19:55We cannot allow the fabric of our society to be torn apart.
01:20:01Right?
01:20:02Right?
01:20:02I tried to run for the Human Relations Commission.
01:20:11They picked that limp-wristed Witzel instead.
01:20:14I sent them a letter.
01:20:16I said, we sing hymns at our church.
01:20:18What do you do with the hymns at your church?
01:20:20So unless anyone else has anything else to add, we'll adjourn to make our decision.
01:20:26Mary?
01:20:26Hey, Dad!
01:20:30Dad, get in here!
01:20:32Dad, hurry up!
01:20:33Mom's on TV!
01:20:35Homosexuality is a sin.
01:20:38Homosexuals are doomed to spend eternity in hell.
01:20:42If they wanted to change, they could be healed of their evil ways.
01:20:46If they would turn away from temptation, they could be normal again.
01:20:52If only they would try and try harder if it doesn't work.
01:20:57These are all the things I said to my son Bobby when I found out he was gay.
01:21:02When he told me he was homosexual, my world fell apart.
01:21:06I did everything I could to cure him of his sickness.
01:21:11Eight months ago, my son jumped off a bridge and killed himself.
01:21:15I deeply regret my lack of knowledge about gay and lesbian people.
01:21:22I see that everything I was taught and told was bigotry and dehumanizing slander.
01:21:28If I had investigated beyond what I was told, if I had just listened to my son when he poured
01:21:37his heart out to me, I would not be standing here today with you filled with regret.
01:21:43I believe that God was pleased with Bobby's kind and loving spirit.
01:21:49In God's eyes, kindness and love are what it's all about.
01:21:53I didn't know that each time I echoed eternal damnation for gay people,
01:21:59each time I referred to Bobby as sick and perverted and danger to our children,
01:22:04his self-esteem, his self-esteem, his sense of worth were being destroyed.
01:22:10And finally, his spirit broke beyond repair.
01:22:17It was not God's will that Bobby climbed over the side of a freeway overpass
01:22:23and jumped directly into the path of an 18-wheel truck which killed him instantly.
01:22:29Bobby's death was the direct result of his parents' ignorance and fear of the word gay.
01:22:40He wanted to be a writer.
01:22:44His hopes and dreams should not have been taken from him, but they were.
01:22:50There are children like Bobby sitting in your congregations.
01:22:55Unknown to you, they will be listening as you echo, Amen.
01:23:04And that will soon silence their prayers,
01:23:08their prayers to God for understanding and acceptance and for your love.
01:23:16But your hatred and fear and ignorance of the word gay will silence those prayers.
01:23:22So, before you echo, Amen, in your home and place of worship,
01:23:33think, think and remember, a child is listening.
01:23:44Go, Mom.
01:23:45She did good.
01:24:06We lost.
01:24:08They voted the ordinance down.
01:24:10Well, we'll try again next year, all right?
01:24:12So, we're really going to San Francisco, huh?
01:24:17I think we have to.
01:24:18I don't think it's a choice.
01:24:21Well, that's ironic.
01:24:26Okay.
01:24:33Are we late?
01:24:38Just in time.
01:24:39Just in time.
01:24:40Oh, Jackie, is this everyone?
01:24:42Oh, honey, no.
01:24:44Come with me.
01:24:45We have a special place for you.
01:24:46Okay.
01:24:47No, that's lovely.
01:25:02Gold, we have a special place.
01:25:08Here it go, man.
01:25:09Boom, boom, boom, boom, boom.
01:25:15To all the Bobbies and Janes out there, I say these words to you as I would my own precious
01:25:39children. Please don't give up hope on life for yourselves. You're very special to me and I'm
01:25:46working very hard to make this life a better and safer place for you to live in. Promise me you'll
01:25:52keep trying. Bobby gave up on love. I hope you won't. You were always in my thoughts.
01:26:02My name is Bobby Griffith. I write this in hopes that one day, many years from now,
01:26:09I will be able to go back and remember what my life was like when I was a young and confused
01:26:14adolescent, desperately trying to understand myself and the world I live in. Another reason
01:26:20I write this is so long after I die, others may have a chance to read about me and see
01:26:27what my life as a young person was like.
01:26:39This isn't a great time to get, I love you. Our life is so long, but I'm sending you
01:26:45out.
01:26:46I love you.
01:27:01This is a crazy world
01:27:11These can be lonely days
01:27:17It's hard to know who's on your side
01:27:22Most of the time
01:27:26Who can you really trust?
01:27:34Who do you really know?
01:27:40Is there anybody out there
01:27:44Who can make you feel less alone?
01:27:49Sometimes you just can make it on your own
01:27:54If you need a place where you can run
01:28:00If you need a shoulder to cry on
01:28:04Well, I'll always be your friend
01:28:10But I'll always be your friend