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00:00namaste sir uh my question is again kind of related in the context of suffering
00:07you just said that tension shouldn't percolate beyond a point and here i'm in the united states
00:14i live in virginia and here i see many kids uh teenagers 12 years 13 years 15 year olds
00:21um they have anxiety issues and i see them popping anti-anxiety pills like anything and
00:28even the doctors uh who they have consulted they prescribe these pills openly uh now i understand
00:35that mental health is a spectrum and there are different kinds of health that a person might need
00:40therapy or medication uh but here i see that problem as growing by leaps and bounds like even even
00:48because of work stress say i i consult a therapist the first thing that they would say is yeah pop a
00:53pill take take this pill take that pill it will help you sleep well so now these kids do that
00:58because their suffering feels very real to them so how would you explain even begin to explain such
01:04kids that you know it's not real and they have a point within them within them that's untouched when
01:10they're clearly not in the state to they feel that they can't go on without these pills so just wanted
01:17to understand if we can help such people and there's a growing number here yes it's not very complicated
01:24it's all actually quite simple to understand you see you don't really have to convince them in the
01:35affirmative you don't have to tell them that there exists a point within that the world cannot touch
01:44you just have to stop educating them in the inverse kind of doctrines
01:58see the kid at 12 or 13 is yielding to anxiety and other sicknesses
02:13because for all these 13 years he has been conditioned into believing that the world is everything
02:26right that's not that's not knowledge that comes with birth that's something that the environment
02:41imposes on that kid the world is everything the world is everything and if the kid has come to believe
02:49that the world is everything how will they remain an untouched point within since the world is everything
02:57therefore even the insides will be ruled by the world right
03:02and the world as we know is quite fickle and our real nature is stability or permanence
03:16if you allow the world to rule here then there arises a bewildering dichotomy
03:26your heart must be a place of serenity and stability whereas if the world manages to penetrate your heart
03:38your heart becomes a place of all kinds of fickleness mobility
03:45unpredictability unpredictability unpredictability nothing trustworthy or dependable
03:53it is this dichotomy that pushes you into stress tension anxiety and other related stuff
04:05that constitute the entire spectrum
04:07it's not something that has happened at the age of 13
04:15continuously the kid was being told
04:20in ways
04:22direct indirect subtle gross
04:24that the world means so much
04:27the world means so much
04:28are you kidding it
04:32the dad
04:34was
04:36was
04:36fulminating over
04:39some lost opportunity
04:44and licking his
04:49boss's boots
04:52and the kid
04:55was observing all that
04:58what does that
05:01tell the kid
05:03the world is everything
05:04just now
05:06just now i found
05:07dad
05:09shouting at mom
05:10and i found dad
05:16trying to
05:18somehow
05:19appease his boss
05:20the dad is nobody
05:24dad is nobody
05:27the world rules
05:28the father
05:29so the world is everything
05:30same with the mother
05:35same everywhere
05:37and same kind of content
05:40on the tv
05:42and on the internet
05:43the world is everything
05:45the world is everything
05:46the kid enters
05:49the shopping mall
05:50or the supermarket
05:52and he finds that the whole
05:58spectacle
05:59is just so overwhelming
06:01that he is left with no space
06:07of his own
06:09every bit of his
06:12insights
06:13is occupied by the world
06:15the world
06:17the world
06:18starts getting just too much respect
06:22from the kid
06:22too much value
06:24you know
06:29i have
06:30i have come to
06:32my teenage now
06:34i am 13
06:35and the world is everything
06:37so i must
06:41get
06:41a certain
06:42respect
06:43value
06:45regards
06:45from my peers
06:4713
06:4912
06:5014
06:50these are inflection points
06:53the psyche changes
06:55because of hormonal
06:56stuff
06:57and the kid is saying
06:59you know
06:59i must be appreciated
07:00by my peers
07:01because the peers
07:02are
07:02everything
07:04and not everybody
07:06would be appreciated
07:08by the peers
07:08and not every time
07:11at least
07:11and when you are
07:15not appreciated
07:16then you lose
07:18not just
07:19your
07:21self worth
07:22but the self
07:23itself
07:24because the world
07:26had managed
07:26to occupy
07:27your
07:28heart
07:29your heart breaks
07:31the onus
07:34is on the parents
07:35and the teachers
07:36to never let the kid
07:38get indoctrinated
07:39in such a way
07:40there must always
07:43be a healthy
07:44contempt
07:44for the world
07:45i am not talking of
07:50turning the kid
07:52mannerless
07:53or free of
07:56all kind of
07:57etiquette
07:57no no
07:58i am talking of
08:00a healthy
08:01contempt
08:01the world
08:04should not
08:05allow to
08:06mean too much
08:07it must
08:11only have
08:12the kind of
08:15value that it
08:16deserves to have
08:17not beyond that
08:18the mother
08:23should never say
08:24i love you so
08:26much because
08:27you got the
08:28gold medal
08:28in athletics
08:29love is a
08:32thing of the
08:32heart
08:33it cannot be
08:34allowed to
08:35depend on a
08:36worldly event
08:37the kid the
08:39kid may or may
08:39not have
08:40come first in
08:44the race
08:45we know how
08:48athletics
08:48is
08:50it's a matter of
08:51a fraction of a
08:53second
08:53so is the
08:55mother implying
08:56that the silver
08:58medal
08:59would have meant
09:02less love for the
09:03kid
09:03the mother
09:06does not know
09:06because the
09:07mother herself
09:08is quite
09:08ignorant
09:08she does not
09:10know what
09:11she has
09:12educated the
09:12kid in
09:13she has told
09:14the kid
09:14that love
09:15is dependent
09:16on gold
09:17frankly that's
09:21the way the
09:21mother also
09:22thinks of
09:24gold
09:24when the
09:27husband gets
09:28her gold
09:29the mother
09:30serves him
09:31love
09:31whatever that
09:34love means
09:34so now the
09:37kid is being
09:38told you get
09:38the gold
09:39medal
09:39and I'll
09:41give you a
09:41special hug
09:42and a
09:43special dress
09:45or a new
09:46bicycle
09:46and the
09:49mother thinks
09:50that all this
09:50is motherly
09:52and loving
09:53not motherly
09:54not loving
09:55this is toxic
09:56and this was
09:58happening at the
09:58age of 7
09:59or 8
09:59the effects
10:01would show up
10:025 years later
10:03when the
10:03kid turns
10:0412 or 13
10:05nothing specific
10:06has happened
10:07at 12 or 13
10:08it was happening
10:09all the way
10:10are you getting
10:13it
10:13certain things
10:16are absolutes
10:17and they must
10:19remain absolute
10:20if I love you
10:21I love you
10:22that's not
10:22conditional
10:23obviously I want
10:27you to do
10:27well in
10:28athletics
10:28and in
10:29academics
10:29and in
10:29all other
10:30areas
10:30but I will
10:32not say
10:33that you
10:33know
10:33I love
10:36you only
10:37if you
10:38earn so
10:38much
10:39or your
10:41grades exceed
10:42this mark
10:43the
10:48fellow
10:49gains a lot
10:50of respect
10:50in the
10:51peer group
10:51because of
10:52the new
10:53pair of
10:53sneakers
10:53and you
10:55know
10:55these things
10:56mean a lot
10:57to teens
10:58and preteens
10:59I wanted
11:02a pair of
11:03slip-ons
11:03and I went
11:05to one of
11:06these stores
11:06and there
11:08was this
11:08group
11:09of the
11:12ones who
11:12were just
11:13growing their
11:14facial hair
11:1512-14
11:17something
11:17and the
11:20way they
11:20were making
11:22their decisions
11:22one would
11:24come wearing
11:25a particular
11:25pair
11:26and then
11:27there was a
11:28kind of
11:28plebiscite
11:29and the
11:32fellow
11:32was so
11:33concerned
11:34actually
11:36afraid
11:37he was
11:37looking into
11:38everybody's
11:38eyes
11:39do I have
11:39your approval
11:40and then
11:42one
11:43stud
11:44smarty
11:45would
11:47suddenly
11:47take over
11:49and say
11:49dude
11:50you look
11:51like something
11:52some fictional
11:53character I
11:54don't even
11:54know what
11:54they relate
11:55to
11:55you look
11:58like this
11:58and now
12:00the decision
12:00is made
12:01the deal
12:02is done
12:02so that's
12:05the way
12:06they are
12:08trained to
12:08mentally
12:09operate
12:10now tomorrow
12:14some other
12:15pair of
12:17shoes
12:17and he is
12:20ostracized by
12:21his community
12:22and he
12:23comes home
12:24totally
12:25crestfallen
12:26the parents
12:28won't even
12:29appreciate
12:29the magnitude
12:31of the
12:31havoc
12:32but his
12:33entire world
12:34has come
12:35crashing
12:35down
12:35and at
12:38that age
12:39girls also
12:40start meaning
12:41something
12:41to boys
12:42and to
12:42girls
12:43boys start
12:44meaning
12:44something
12:44especially
12:45if a
12:46girl
12:46has thrown
12:48a wicked
12:48glance
12:49some kind
12:52of a
12:52snide one
12:54at the
12:55shoes
12:55the
12:58fellow
12:59would
12:59remain
12:59in
13:01depression
13:01for
13:02I am
13:03not
13:03trying
13:03to
13:03trivialize
13:04the
13:04whole
13:04thing
13:04but
13:06these
13:06things
13:07happen
13:07and they
13:08are very
13:08important
13:09they have
13:09to be
13:09addressed
13:10and the
13:11parents
13:12must address
13:12these
13:12things
13:13son your
13:14worth is
13:15not decided
13:16by a
13:16pair of
13:17shoes
13:17he has
13:19to be
13:20actively
13:20told that
13:21because
13:21the world
13:22and the
13:22advertisers
13:23and the
13:23shoemakers
13:24what are
13:24they trying
13:25to impress
13:25on the
13:26kid
13:26the more
13:29expensive
13:30your shoe
13:30the greater
13:32is your
13:33worth
13:33that's what
13:36the whole
13:36capitalist
13:37consumerist
13:38economy
13:38is trying
13:39to
13:41mold your
13:42kid into
13:43he will
13:43measure his
13:44self-worth
13:45by the
13:46price tag
13:46of the
13:47shirt
13:47and the
13:48shoe
13:48and the
13:49mug
13:49and whatever
13:50else he
13:50carries
13:51and uses
13:52so this
13:59is what
13:59is the
13:59essence
14:00of
14:01spirituality
14:02spirituality
14:03is not
14:04really
14:05about
14:06sacred
14:07verses
14:08and that
14:09and that
14:09it's not
14:11that
14:11it's not
14:11about that
14:12I'm saying
14:13it's beyond
14:14that
14:14it's about
14:15that
14:15and then
14:16it's
14:17something
14:17beyond
14:18the
14:18verses
14:18and this
14:21the heart
14:23that I'm
14:23referring to
14:24is the
14:25highest
14:26this is
14:27what is
14:27referred to
14:28in sacred
14:30literature
14:30as
14:31atma
14:31or
14:33the pure
14:35self
14:35but we
14:36need not
14:36use these
14:37terms
14:37what's the
14:39point in
14:39using specific
14:40words
14:41atma is
14:42just a
14:42word
14:42we need
14:45not use
14:45it
14:46the real
14:47point is
14:48to remain
14:48word
14:51proof
14:52and that
14:53does not
14:54mean becoming
14:55asocial
14:55or antisocial
14:56that only
14:58means having
14:58the right
14:59relationship
15:00with the
15:00society
15:01yes I
15:02value you
15:03you are
15:03society
15:04but that
15:04does not
15:05mean that
15:05I allow
15:06you to
15:06penetrate
15:06here
15:08you are
15:10you are
15:10you are
15:10dear ones
15:11you
15:13you have
15:13my regards
15:14and I
15:14care for
15:15you
15:15and I
15:16really want
15:17good things
15:18to happen
15:18to you
15:19all that
15:19is okay
15:20but that
15:21does not
15:21mean that
15:22I will
15:22allow you
15:23to rule
15:23me from
15:24within
15:24we
15:27unfortunately
15:28and mostly
15:30inadvertently
15:31educate our
15:33kids very
15:34wrongly
15:34we let
15:35the world
15:36become
15:37too
15:38meaningful
15:38to them
15:39don't let
15:40that
15:40happen
15:41my
15:43my hope
15:46is
15:46my hunch
15:47is
15:48that
15:49a
15:50significant
15:52proportion
15:53of the
15:55mental
15:56health
15:58problem
15:58can be
16:00addressed
16:01if we
16:03give the
16:05right kind
16:05of value
16:06system
16:06to the
16:07kid
16:09yeah
16:12thank you
16:14sir
16:14welcome
16:15I forgot
16:19to say
16:20something
16:20and let
16:22me just
16:22add that
16:22I hope
16:23the importance
16:26of the
16:27right kind
16:27of literature
16:2812 or
16:3014 is
16:31not really
16:32too small
16:34an age
16:35to
16:36the age
16:38of 5
16:39or 6
16:39there is
16:40beautiful
16:42and ample
16:44wisdom
16:44literature
16:44they must
16:45be introduced
16:46and by
16:47the time
16:47they come
16:48to 12
16:48or 14
16:49they should
16:50have read
16:51at least
16:5220 to
16:5330 books
16:54that
16:56serve
16:57as
16:58armors
16:59you know
17:01the right
17:02the right
17:03words
17:03the right
17:06message
17:07once you
17:08really get
17:09it
17:09it prevents
17:11a lot of
17:11nonsense from
17:12reaching you
17:13so that's
17:15very important
17:16the moment
17:17your kid
17:18crosses
17:204 or
17:215
17:22the right
17:23kind of
17:24literature
17:24should be
17:28brought
17:28to him
17:29or her
17:30if you
17:31can't
17:31read
17:32then
17:32in the
17:34beginning
17:35just
17:36through
17:37oral
17:38instruction
17:38and later
17:40on
17:40books can
17:41be
17:42given
17:43so that
17:45too is
17:46very important
17:46a well
17:47read kid
17:47will not
17:49fall prey
17:50to
17:51easy
17:52temptations
17:53or
17:54all
17:56kinds
17:57of
17:57griefs