Forced to get married? || Acharya Prashant, with DU (2022)

Acharya Prashant

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00:00Sir, my question is how to maintain consistency towards my goal while I am living in a patriarchal society where girls are forced to get married.

00:11Nobody can force you into submission. You are not a kid. You are not uneducated.

00:18The days of physical compulsion, those days are behind us. That does not happen anymore.

00:25You are not being defeated. You are surrendering to something.

00:30The tall knight with the shining armor to take me away to the fabled land.

00:36Look at the kind of propaganda and hideous lies embedded in our language.

00:44So that's what you need to fight against. Your illusions.

00:48Living independently is bliss. You will manage a living.

00:55Namaskar, Acharya Ji.

00:59Namaste.

00:59Sir, my question is how to maintain consistency towards my goal while I am living in a patriarchal society where girls are forced to get married.

01:12Like I am currently preparing for government examinations. Same thing happening with me also.

01:19And I am disturbed. Not able to give 100% towards my studies and all.

01:24And not able to focus properly. Please help me out.

01:28See, first thing, nobody can force you into anything if you have no greed towards something.

01:42Because the days of physical compulsion are well behind us.

01:56Women are physically a bit weaker.

02:01So it used to happen in times when we were not very civilized that men could coerce them using sheer muscle power.

02:15Those days are behind us. That does not happen anymore. That cannot happen anymore.

02:20You have institutions. You have the law. You have the police. And you have the gun.

02:28Right? And the gun does not listen to muscles.

02:35So how is it possible that one human being is able to coerce another human being into something she does not want to do at all?

02:44How is it possible? Have I framed the question rightly?

02:50Physical compulsion is ruled out?

02:54Then how is one human being who happens to be a man

02:57is able to

03:00brobeat

03:01another human being?

03:06Something is going on, right?

03:08What is going on?

03:10I always try to tell

03:12my

03:15women listeners

03:18you are not being defeated.

03:26You are surrendering to something.

03:29That is the difference.

03:32You cannot be defeated without

03:35your consent.

03:37And when

03:40defeat

03:41comes with

03:43your consent

03:44do not call it defeat.

03:47Honestly

03:47just call it

03:48willful surrender.

03:51And if you want to be

03:52even

03:53more blunt

03:54then call it a deal.

03:58It is not even surrender.

03:59It is a deal.

04:00I will bow down to your wish

04:05Mr. Patriarch

04:07and in exchange

04:10I will avail

04:12such and such benefits

04:13Mr. Patriarch.

04:16That is the deal.

04:18Now why do you call it

04:19exploitation at all then?

04:22Please

04:22if you

04:25are cutting

04:25a deal

04:26if you are signing

04:27an agreement

04:28not on paper

04:32mutual

04:33understanding

04:34why do you say

04:37that the woman

04:38is being coerced?

04:39nobody

04:46can

04:48force you

04:49into submission.

04:51You are not a kid.

04:52You are not uneducated.

04:55And we are not

04:56living in the dark ages.

05:00There is something

05:01in you

05:01that agrees

05:03to the demands

05:04being made

05:05by

05:06the patriarchal system.

05:09question that

05:10do not just

05:12keep

05:12blaming

05:13patriarchy.

05:18What is it

05:19in you

05:20that

05:21yields

05:22surrenders

05:24and

05:28that thing

05:28is called

05:28greed

05:29that thing

05:29is called

05:30ignorance

05:30that thing

05:31is called

05:31fear

05:32illusion

05:35if I bow

05:40down

05:41if I sell

05:42myself out

05:42I will get

05:44a happy life

05:45illusion

05:46so that's

05:51what you need

05:51to fight

05:52against

05:52your illusions

05:54and women

05:57let's accept

05:59it

05:59live more

06:04in dreams

06:05compared to

06:05men

06:06don't they

06:06being of

06:08emotional

06:08disposition

06:10in a

06:11biological way

06:12it's so

06:14easy

06:14rather

06:15comparatively

06:16easier

06:16to sell

06:17dreams

06:18to them

06:18and they

06:19buy those

06:19dreams

06:19why do

06:22you buy

06:22those

06:22dreams

06:22the tall

06:32knight

06:32with the

06:33shining

06:33armor

06:34on the

06:37white horse

06:38with wings

06:38he'll

06:41come

06:42to take

06:45me away

06:46to the

06:46fabled

06:47land

06:48of

06:50infinite

06:50promises

06:51an

06:55immeasurable

06:56love

06:56why do

07:01I need

07:01to strengthen

07:02my muscles

07:03why do

07:04I need

07:04to fight

07:05it out

07:05my knight

07:12is almost

07:13ready with

07:14his horse

07:14and my

07:16job in

07:16life

07:17is to

07:18locate

07:18my knight

07:19and give

07:21myself to

07:22him

07:22I know

07:25I am

07:25generalizing

07:26but just

07:28try to

07:29see whether

07:29there is

07:30some fact

07:31in what

07:32I am

07:32saying

07:32and then

07:36when

07:37the

07:39promised

07:39land

07:40doesn't

07:41show up

07:41when the

07:43dream doesn't

07:43materialize

07:44then we

07:44say oh

07:45we have

07:45been

07:46exploited

07:46you must

07:56be like

07:5718

07:5820

07:5922

07:5924

08:0026

08:00right

08:01you must

08:03be in that

08:03age bracket

08:04in that

08:06age bracket

08:07you are

08:07physically

08:08the strongest

08:10this is

08:12the period

08:13in your

08:13life when

08:14you are

08:14at your

08:15physical

08:15peak

08:15don't you

08:21have muscles

08:21don't you

08:22have lugs

08:22to run

08:23away

08:23you have

08:28legs

08:29you can

08:29run away

08:30you have

08:32muscles here

08:32you can

08:34slap

08:34somebody

08:34and your

08:36brain here

08:36you can

08:37think

08:37how do

08:41you say

08:41you are

08:42being

08:42exploited

08:42and you

08:48are educated

08:49right

08:49so wherever

08:50you are

08:51you will

08:53manage a

08:54living

08:54won't you

08:57be able

08:57to earn

08:58even

08:588 or

09:0010,000

09:00for yourself

09:01please

09:02but then

09:06why take

09:07the pains

09:07to earn

09:09money

09:09when money

09:13can be

09:13had for

09:14free

09:15I am

09:20Mr.

09:20John's

09:21better

09:22half

09:22look at

09:24the kind

09:24of

09:25kind

09:26of

09:26propaganda

09:27and

09:28hideous

09:29lies

09:30embedded

09:31in our

09:32language

09:32Mr.

09:35John's

09:36better

09:36half

09:36I am

09:39Mr.

09:40John's

09:40better

09:40half

09:40I lay

09:43claim

09:44to

09:44half

09:44his

09:44property

09:45why do

09:47you need

09:47to earn

09:48then

09:48you just

09:52need to

09:52have a

09:53certain

09:53Mr.

09:53John

09:53in your

09:54life

09:54so then

09:58somebody

09:58can

09:59definitely

09:59force you

10:00into

10:00submission

10:01by

10:02offering

10:02you

10:02Mr.

10:03John

10:03or

10:08by

10:08threatening

10:08that

10:10your

10:10prospects

10:11of

10:11having

10:11Mr.

10:12John

10:12would

10:16be

10:16reduced

10:16if you

10:17don't

10:17yield

10:18and

10:19then

10:19you

10:19say

10:20oh

10:20right

10:21let me

10:22agree

10:22to

10:22whatever

10:23Papa

10:23is

10:23saying

10:23because

10:24Papa

10:25is

10:25going

10:25to

10:25have

10:26a

10:26great

10:26role

10:26in

10:27fetching

10:27me

10:28my

10:28Mr.

10:29John

10:29that's

10:34what

10:34you

10:34talked

10:35of

10:35government

10:35job

10:36right

10:36it's

10:39great

10:39that

10:39you

10:40as a

10:40woman

10:41are

10:41preparing

10:41for

10:42that

10:43kind

10:44of

10:44a

10:44competitive

10:45examination

10:46but

10:47don't

10:48you

10:48know

10:48the

10:48ugly

10:49facts

10:50on

10:50the

10:50ground

10:50all

10:54across

10:54the

10:55country

10:55especially

10:55in

10:55North

10:56India

10:56parents

10:57of

10:58girls

10:58are

10:59so

11:00eager

11:00to

11:01marry

11:02them

11:02off

11:03to

11:03somebody

11:04with

11:04some

11:05kind

11:05any

11:06kind

11:06of

11:06a

11:06government

11:06job

11:07and

11:11the

11:11girl

11:11too

11:12is

11:12equally

11:12eager

11:12and

11:14who

11:14will

11:14fetch

11:15that

11:15government

11:15job

11:16groom

11:17papa

11:19will

11:19fetch

11:19that

11:19groom

11:20so

11:21how

11:22dare

11:22then

11:23you

11:23resist

11:25papa

11:25how

11:29dare

11:29you

11:29do

11:29that

11:29because

11:31all

11:32that

11:32I

11:32want

11:32to

11:32have

11:32is

11:33comfort

11:33and

11:35I

11:35also

11:35don't

11:37want

11:37to

11:37run

11:37the

11:38risks

11:38of

11:39living

11:39independently

11:40living

11:41independently

11:42is

11:42bliss

11:43but

11:44it

11:44comes

11:44with

11:44a

11:44price

11:45I

11:45don't

11:45want

11:46to

11:46pay

11:46the

11:46price

11:46I

11:47want

11:48to

11:48take

11:48the

11:48easier

11:48option

11:49am I

11:55exaggerating

11:55probably

11:56I

11:56am

11:56just

11:57for

11:58the

11:58sake

11:58of

11:59effect

11:59so

12:05keep

12:05the

12:05keep

12:06the

12:06exaggeration

12:07aside

12:07and

12:08see

12:09whether

12:09there

12:09is

12:09some

12:10truth

12:10in

12:10what

12:11I

12:11am

12:11saying

12:11thank

12:18you

12:18sir

12:19I

12:19am

12:19really

12:20satisfied

12:20with

12:20your

12:20answer

12:21I

12:22am

12:23surprised

12:23thank

12:24you

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