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WHEN Nicole and Anthony met aged 13, they had no idea how their lives were about to change. Speaking to Love Don't Judge, Nicole said, "We got disowned at 14 by getting pregnant." The young couple decided to have their baby - and it's something that they faced some tough criticism over. "The way people reacted when they first found out I was pregnant... They were very judgemental and they just stopped talking to us. I felt very isolated," Nicole explained. Agreeing, Anthony added, "A lot of friends stopped talking to me. Like you really messed up your whole life." In this episode of Love Don't Judge, the pair will be reading a letter from Nicole's sister, who will be candidly revealing how she felt when the teens had their daughter, Mina. Reflecting, Nicole said, "We cannot imagine our life without Mina, because Mina is just, Mina!"

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00:00People judge us because we had a baby at 14.

00:05Say hi.

00:06What's your name?

00:07Nina.

00:08I'm?

00:09Hi.

00:10Nina.

00:11Nina.

00:12What is this?

00:13What is that?

00:14Did you know what that is?

00:15Me.

00:16I never thought I had a kid at 14.

00:21I feel very isolated, like I had nobody.

00:24When I told my sister, she looked at me in my eyes and she said,

00:27are you kidding me?

00:28My body, like, it dropped.

00:33My name is Nicole and this is my partner, Anthony,

00:35and we got disowned at 14 by getting pregnant.

00:38When we first met, we were 13 years old.

00:41And we started texting on Instagram and I would ghost him a lot

00:45because I wouldn't want to text him.

00:48We hung out for the first time and we clicked.

00:52To me, when I first seen her, I liked her.

00:55She was cute and funny and stuff.

00:58Should I take some of the water out?

01:00No.

01:01The way people reacted when they first found that I was pregnant,

01:04they were very judgmental and they just stopped talking to us.

01:07I feel very isolated, like I had nobody but my sister and my boyfriend.

01:11When we had our daughter, Nina, we were 15 years old.

01:14It was barely our first year of high school and we got pregnant.

01:16This isn't the same forever.

01:18That's enough.

01:19We currently don't live together, but we see each other like every single day.

01:23Or every other day.

01:24Yeah.

01:25Or we spend the night with each other and Nina.

01:27Basically, it feels like I live there because-

01:28He's there all the time.

01:29I'm there all the time.

01:30Can I drink coffee and bulldog noodles?

01:32Cheers.

01:33Cheers.

01:36It's spicy.

01:37I found out I was pregnant on May 9, 2022.

01:41I bought a pregnancy test.

01:42I was embarrassed to buy it for myself at the cashier.

01:45And I actually pretended to call my sister on the phone.

01:48And I was like, oh, is this a pregnancy test?

01:50Because they're probably like, why is this little girl buying a pregnancy test?

01:54And I had my school backpack on, so like people were looking at me.

01:57My stomach dropped, like if I was on a roller coaster.

02:00And I was scared.

02:02She told me that she was pregnant and that she took three pregnancy tests.

02:07I was nervous.

02:08I didn't know like what to do, how to prepare myself to be a dad.

02:13My brother, he has eight kids.

02:15So my mom, she kind of already had a feeling that something was going to happen like that.

02:19She was kind of like in shock, like, okay.

02:21She was mad at the same time.

02:23She didn't talk to me for like two or three days.

02:25But then she just forgot about it.

02:27She said, okay.

02:28And she started buying baby clothes and stuff.

02:29So I live with my sister.

02:30And I was scared my sister was going to find the pregnancy test in my backpack.

02:35When I told my sister, she looked at me in my eyes and she said, are you kidding me?

02:40My body like dropped and like, I just started crying.

02:44Like I just started crying so much.

02:47She was like, what are you going to do?

02:48We can't raise a baby in this house.

02:50And after she was like yelling at me, she was trying to like comfort me.

02:54She said everything was going to be fine.

02:56But at that moment to me, it felt like nothing was going to be fine.

02:59I felt like I was already growing up quick living with my mom because my mom was sick.

03:05She had diabetes.

03:06I wouldn't go to school sometimes because I would get anxiety that like something would

03:10happen to her.

03:11And then she passed away.

03:13I think that's what made me grow up fast too.

03:16So we are going to read a letter from my sister about how she felt when she found out I was

03:21pregnant at 14.

03:22It's been a while since we spoke to my sister about that subject.

03:26I was truly in shock and thought my sister was playing a prank on me.

03:33There were many thoughts racing through my head and a lot of confusion.

03:37My expression was, you got to be effing kidding me.

03:41Of course, I was angry as we had already been through a lot, losing our mom.

03:47Initially, I had reservations about their ability to raise a child as teen parents.

03:51They have persevered and proven they are capable.

03:54They are loving parents to me and it shows greatly.

03:56We weathered the storm and now we have this amazing ray of sunshine in our lives.

04:00That was heartwarming.

04:02I thought it was going to be something bad, but the way she explained it all is how she felt.

04:10And this is me and Mina when she was born.

04:13She was hairy.

04:14Look how small she was.

04:15You could barely tell she was in there.

04:17And then this one of me and Anthony.

04:21When I first held Mina, I felt happy and emotional because I heard her first cry.

04:27And when I first heard her cry, it made me kind of like sad because at first,

04:31I thought something was wrong with her, but everything was fine with her.

04:33She was just crying.

04:34I held her hand and she kind of stopped crying.

04:36And then I carried her.

04:37Oh, so cute.

04:38My and Anthony's relationship was like rocky because we didn't know how to parent like together.

04:45I had a lot of anxiety because I didn't know how to change a baby's diaper.

04:49Anthony was teaching me actually when I was pregnant how to change a baby's diaper on a bear.

04:54Mina like coming into the world, it changed our relationship because in the beginning it was just us.

04:59I would try to go visit her, but at that time I didn't have like a job.

05:02I was working, but it was part time and it was part because of the school.

05:05So when the school ended, I didn't have the job.

05:08So it was kind of hard for me to get another job.

05:11Sometimes what I would do is I would get oranges and lemons and avocados.

05:16And I would go walking around trying to sell them like a dollar for five lemons or like 10 lemons for $20 or however.

05:23Yeah, because it was the big lemons.

05:25But I don't know because I was a kid. I didn't know what to do.

05:28It's really hard doing school with her, especially if she's home with me by myself because Mina, she constantly is doing something.

05:39She likes to use my keyboard.

05:40And it's hard to do my schoolwork because when I'm using it, she wants to like play with it.

05:45And I'm just like, you can't play with it.

05:47Say bye.

05:48Bye.

05:49Because we have different teachers, I'll watch the baby while she goes to her class.

05:53And then when she's done, I'll go to my class and then she'll watch the baby.

05:56It's giving me to go to work as a 17-year-old teen mom.

05:59It's hard for me too because I have to go to work and then I have to go to school.

06:02When I'm watching the baby, I can't really do homework.

06:05When I told my friends I was pregnant, they were like so supportive.

06:09And then as soon as I like stopped going to school, they stopped talking to me.

06:14Like they just stopped talking to me. They cut me off.

06:16Get that one.

06:18The bunny one.

06:20A lot of friends stopped talking to me.

06:22Some of them were supportive and some of them were not.

06:24Like you already messed up your whole life basically.

06:26You're not even finished with school.

06:28You only have a job.

06:29You only have a car.

06:30Or you could have had this many years to your life to do by yourself.

06:33Now you gotta support your child for 18 years and blah, blah, blah.

06:37No, not like that. More straight.

06:38Like this?

06:39Yeah.

06:40No more. Ew!

06:41Up.

06:42Like that.

06:43That's good.

06:45We get a lot of judgment on social media.

06:48I think our account blew up because I made a video.

06:51I think I was making spaghetti.

06:53People just think Anthony looks a lot older than me.

06:55So that was the automatic like, oh, he's weird.

06:58Why is he messing with like a little kid or something?

07:01And I'm just like, what?

07:02Like we're literally the same age.

07:05Girl, we know you boyfriend ain't your age.

07:08Laughing emoji.

07:09That's so dumb.

07:11That's facial hair.

07:12Yeah, I guess the girl doesn't know what puberty is.

07:14And hormones.

07:15People say that he'll probably leave me in like a couple years.

07:19And then we're gonna have a lot of problems in our life because we ended up having a child of 15 years old.

07:25Why do you both do this to yourself?

07:27Kids having kids.

07:28Bro, 14 is beyond crazy.

07:30In the beginning, it did affect me a lot.

07:33Like I would literally cry and I would like tell myself like, oh my God, just delete your account.

07:37But I'll be like, why?

07:38Hi.

07:39Hi.

07:40It doesn't affect me anymore either.

07:42I just go on with my day.

07:44Say hi.

07:45Hi.

07:46I'm.

07:47Our.

07:48Am.

07:49I'm.

07:50Mina.

07:51Mina.

07:52This is Mina and she's two years old.

07:53She's like our little mini twin.

07:55She looks like Anthony, the girl version.

07:57She does.

07:59Mina's very energetic and playful and a very happy baby.

08:03Happy baby.

08:04What I love most about Mina is I love waking up to her.

08:09And she loves to cuddle me.

08:12When she wakes up in the morning, she's always asking for breakfast.

08:16Yeah, she loves her dad.

08:18I'll probably start crying.

08:19She told me she was pregnant at 15.

08:21She's gonna suffer just like we did with our struggles.

08:24Me, I'll instantly pop out.

08:26I'll be mad because I don't want her going through the same situation as we are going

08:30now because it's hard.

08:31I hope she does not follow our footsteps because she has a good life ahead of her.

08:44Anthony changed my life for the better because he's really funny and he's brought a big spark

08:51into my world and he's an amazing dad to my daughter.

08:55What is that?

08:56Who is that?

08:57Fish.

08:58Fish.

08:59She's always encouraging me to not give up on things.

09:03So like if I would feel down, she's always bringing me back up.

09:06That's a baby.

09:07We cannot imagine our life without Mina because Mina is just Mina.

09:12I want Mina to have a successful life and I want Mina to go to a university.

09:17What we will say to the people that judge us is keep judging them.

09:21No, no, no, no, no.

09:23No.

09:42I want to know about whether we face them.

09:43How do we finish this?

09:44How do we finish this so long that it does not ordinarily?

09:45Do the things that we have given here so long we start with

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