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00:00What's the real reason why they haven't came down here?
00:05When my parents met Jay, they didn't know that Jay was transgender.
00:10If I was just a boring male, like everything would probably be fine.
00:13I think it's me too.
00:15I always felt like a burden growing up.
00:17So maybe they're kind of like, oh, we finally got rid of her.
00:20My parents, neither one of them are talking to me.
00:23But I do hope that they come to the wedding.
00:26Holy sweet pooh.
00:28We got the keys!
00:30We're doing weddings, we're doing moving, we're doing everything.
00:34How are you gonna tell your parents?
00:36How am I gonna? We're telling them together.
00:38It's your parents.
00:40Okay, as you all know, we've been looking at places.
00:46And we found a place.
00:49Really?
00:56So now I'm supposed to believe that y'all are actually moving?
01:15Yes.
01:16When it happens, I will believe it.
01:20We got the keys.
01:22You got keys?
01:23We got keys, baby.
01:24Yup, I do too.
01:25Yup.
01:26What?
01:29I felt a certain way about them showing up with the keys,
01:32and we didn't get to see the place first, but that's just me.
01:36Where is this place?
01:39Well, it's about 20 minutes away.
01:4120 minutes away from us?
01:43Mm-hmm.
01:44Really?
01:45Mm-hmm.
01:46I don't want Jay and Pamela's situation to come across as if
01:51they're always gonna have to be parented.
01:55But Jay and Pamela have a physical condition
01:58that can turn their world upside down any given day.
02:02It is very much a concern for us.
02:07It's got two beds, two beds, and then all the accommodations,
02:11we actually have to send them a list over,
02:13but they're going to install everything that...
02:16So the shower bench?
02:17Yes.
02:18We're in the process of that.
02:20We're in the process.
02:21When would those be...
02:23So, I guess, let me back up.
02:25Now, you're going on a good path.
02:26Go ahead.
02:27Well, when would your modifications be installed?
02:32More to the point, when are y'all moving out?
02:34Well, we're looking at either the 30th or the 1st.
02:39The 30th of this month or the 1st?
02:41Mm-hmm.
02:42What?
02:44Jay and Pamela are getting married in a week.
02:47And now, moving out?
02:49It's Jay's motto.
02:50Go big or go home.
02:51Yes.
02:52They have a way of attacking a lot of things in one fell swoop,
02:58as if there's no room to spread it out.
03:02How y'all going to move your stuff?
03:04We're going to get out, movers.
03:05Mm-hmm.
03:06We're just going to book it.
03:07Somebody else is moving you?
03:08Oh, hell yeah.
03:09Leave tonight if y'all want.
03:10What?
03:12What?
03:13We could put a door coming into your area.
03:15Remember we talked about that?
03:16And rent it out.
03:17Well, y'all could have had a door there the whole time?
03:19Yes.
03:20The way y'all tear up the house?
03:21Have y'all not noticed?
03:22Propel, you ain't had a dragon like that.
03:24Okay, hold on.
03:25Hold on.
03:26Hold on.
03:27Hold on.
03:28You tore up the frame to the door coming into your area.
03:30Oh, I know what happened.
03:31It wasn't me though.
03:32Sorry.
03:33Oh.
03:34Whoa.
03:35Wait a minute.
03:36I hope that they move out as soon as they have the opportunity to move out safely, securely,
03:43and financially stable.
03:45That way they don't have to do a return visit because they didn't plan well.
03:50That is the truth.
03:52You two are hurricane level when it comes to-
03:55You two are hurricane?
03:56Which level?
03:57Four.
03:58Wait doing mini golf?
04:22Yeah.
04:23Yeah.
04:24for my uh membership at the country club have my pinky up our wedding is in a week and then we're
04:33supposed to be packing and moving a couple days after that all this life changes still you know
04:38it can be stressful it's just nice to take a little breather okay a little no part of eternity
04:46i'm gonna just have fun i know you you're planning to get the win
04:51pomelo is super competitive and don't let her tell you any different she is a very competitive
04:57person she probably feels like she's a better sleeper you know so oh yeah babe when you were
05:04getting ready before we left i tried to give puan pablo a call oh because like i'm really excited
05:13for him to come but he's working so i'm like oh yeah i forgot so my brother juan pablo is
05:20coming in a couple of days and i haven't seen him in the last five years i don't think i've already
05:27told him that we're going to we're going to be wearing like mexican attire and stuff like that
05:35how does he feel about the wedding and stuff oh he's really excited like he's really really excited
05:41because he's been very supportive and who knows if my other family is going to come around so far
05:50no one in my family including my brother juan pablo can give me a straight answer if my parents are
05:57coming or not for the wedding i probably know what the answer is but i'm still holding on hope because
06:05if i was a parent and if my child was getting married i would scramble any penny i could to go
06:14see my kid you know for him to be like no i want to be there for my sister that's actually a good thing
06:20yeah because and a brave thing to do because remember he's been living with my parents yeah
06:26i think pomela's family won't give a straight answer if they're coming or not because it sounds
06:33bad to say they don't support their daughter it's hard to see pomela hope for it and then get
06:41disappointed and let down living in the unknown is actually just worse than getting a definite answer
06:48of yes or no this is so cool hello hey how's it going you got two for mini golf yes please well choose
07:02your putter and then hold one straight ahead after you my king
07:09babe come on hold on i gotta warm up you know this is not a warm-up type of thing yes all right okay
07:15okay get it oh my god helpless let's go come on hold on we're not gonna do it until tomorrow
07:27well no like this is serious business oh my gosh this is serious business okay go ahead
07:34i'm very competitive keep up or are you gonna be left behind you got it oh shoot it keeps going
07:45okay look at you all right all right all right okay i feel like we're dancing
07:57that was so careful baby don't back up please i'm not gonna get off the edge into the water
08:01i don't know how to swim i don't be like that guy right there
08:08i have never done mini golfing before in my life i don't want to hit your bone i'm over here having to
08:13bend it over with the club and like try to get the angle right and i'm trash i mean i'm awful at this
08:26between you and i i'm a little bit more coordinated
08:32okay so you're saying definitely beating me
08:36pretty much it was fun it really was but uh stand in chili i want some goodies all right how do you get out of here
08:57yeah you can do a little spin okay spinning i'm gonna be ready to dance at the wedding
09:03yes this was a great idea that you thought of this good job date night i'm on the moon
09:10listen i got great ideas speaking ideas the wedding
09:17i'm thinking about asking my brother shake me down the aisle
09:22i'm having some mixed feelings about Juan Pablo right now because i'm just not sure if he's actually
09:28going to show up or not because when there has been an opportunity for him to be here he didn't show
09:35up so now especially because when Pablo told Pamela that he's coming if he didn't come through with that
09:43she'd be devastated you know just like as a backup in case my parents don't come to the wedding
09:50well i guess we'll have to see if anyone shows up yeah
09:59yeah i mean your dad for him to not even have the guts to talk to you like i feel like he's being a
10:05weak man right now as a partner you want to fight everybody you want to go to kansas city and be like
10:11hey get over here but he wants to question someone else's manhood that that's that's ironic yeah
10:20it's such a beautiful spot so obviously your food is good you look like you really
10:34threw it down yeah i might have to take home yeah i'm gonna box some stuff up after the mini
10:39call we weren't ready to head home yet i'm still getting dessert i don't care oh what you're gonna get
10:44cut your delicious cake our wedding is coming up there's people from out of town that are about
10:50to come in so we want to really enjoy this time with just the two of us thank you oh thanks
10:58how did you feel talking to your parents i was very nervous giving them the news that we're moving out
11:03you just never know how it goes especially my dad like it can go either way
11:11i'm caught up in the jet street you know who forgot their glasses i asked you if you needed your
11:17glasses i literally said you do you need your glasses it's a big week coming up for us jay and
11:24pomelo are about to get married and wow i i can't believe it we would like to start out with some
11:31calamari calamari wonderful i got you thank you of course well jay and pomelo did drop some news on us
11:39they did but they've been dropping that news on us for some time this is just the first time they
11:45showed up with keys things just happen really fast we went from hey we just started looking for places
11:54didn't really have an idea of was it going to be city was it going to be the suburbs then all of a
12:00sudden bam there's there's some keys produced i don't know i i need some time to process just
12:10their logic when it comes to your dad yeah he likes it when people come with facts yes he's very
12:19a fact person he's very much a fact and we were kind of like oh we just got a place and we were kind
12:24of like we didn't really know how to answer certain things yeah he would have been like okay oh y'all not
12:29ready you're not ready or like they did yell dirty like the landlord but since we were very confident
12:35and prepared and everything he was actually shocked i mean he really touched his food he barely ate
12:43yeah so it was shocking yeah and going away from the conversation it felt like an actual family
12:51conversation and i was really nice because we don't really have a lot of those moments so
12:56it did make me feel at least hopeful for the future the conversation with you know my parents
13:03that was a huge step into the right direction thank you so much and maybe moving out will actually bring
13:11all of us closer as a family they say that our distance makes the heart grow fonder or something
13:16like that so we'll put that to the test hey come on over here i thought you would never ask i know you
13:24want to sneak a bite then she put two spoons oh we should feed our each other
13:30okay hold on okay now how are you going to get in my mouth yo
13:39gotcha psych maybe it's better if you put it in my mouth and i put it in your mouth
13:52no you man no i gotta be a gentleman you go first here
13:55there's a lot we don't know like if pamela's family is going to come around however the one
14:24thing that i do know is that pamela is the best thing that has ever happened to me what
14:39when is this move supposed to happen anywhere i thought it was next week next week yeah i thought
14:44it was next week the wedding's in a couple days i have a feeling with them getting married
14:51palmela wants to have them in their own place she had her own place before yeah i can see that
15:00i think jay is right there with her at this point my thing is always about safety so making sure
15:05wherever it is that they pick it's a safe space you know the different incidents that they have had
15:12and i'm talking odd
15:14so let me tell you a story we were out of town we get a call from jay saying we're stuck in the bathroom
15:26so jay explains i was in the bathroom and i couldn't reach something so palmela comes in
15:35and based on how their chairs are set up the on off switch is on the front of her chair so she pulled up
15:42just right to hit the wheel mechanism of jay's chair and it turned off her chair it's not like you can
15:50turn it on from above there's a little one off switch so she had no power to her chair so they're
15:57lined up in a narrow bathroom stuck probably pretty embarrassing so i called our next door neighbor
16:11um he's drunk and he said oh it's no big deal i'm happy to help and eventually he gets to the point
16:20where he turns on their chair they back out i mean it definitely wasn't the ideal situation and it just
16:26spoke to the fact that things you don't expect or would never imagine happening like her switch to
16:33be hit by his wheel setup who accounts for that how safe can two people with oi be i think they are
16:41about to find out living under our roof is a hell of a lot different than life living under whatever roof
16:47you paying for well i don't think about they're paying for the wedding okay speaking of wedding do we
16:54even know if palmela's parents are showing up no i do find it it's a it's a bit interesting that
17:02all this time that she's been here and her family just then mia yeah i just really have a hard time
17:14with palmela's parents and even her brother not coming to visit her and all the time that she's been here
17:21here they are a very confusing relationship so as parents caring parents like we are for jay we try
17:30to support her as much as we can without knowing a thing honestly palmela's relationship with her
17:36family i don't know i can't call it i can't call it either
17:42planning the reception is kind of like bittersweet i wouldn't be part of mexican heritage if it wasn't
17:54for my family oh you know what we could do mocktails and name them after like stuff about a
18:11relationship hot wheels hot wheels that's actually a real good one actually
18:20and obviously mexican themed also yeah for sure um the last time i celebrated my heritage like this
18:27it was from my quinceanera did you have a mariachi brand no we didn't have a mariachi brand no it wasn't
18:33in the budget my mexican heritage is something very special to me while planning the reception i
18:42wanted to honor my heritage because it shaped me who i am today so we've already bought a bunch of
18:49decorations thank you for having us to be part of your big day a couple weeks ago we met the caterer
18:55for the food that we went hosted at our wedding oh yes so today we're stopping by the restaurant we have
19:01to finalize the menu so you have chicken your steak and your fish something for everyone movie
19:08now okay you're probably like a true mexican yeah put me in yeah you're gonna remember a lot of
19:15things about the wedding however if your food sucks people will talk about it forever yeah they're
19:21gonna talk about it and you're always gonna remember like dang my food was sub part maybe at
19:26the reception they can throw you in the air but what what excuse me yeah i know what you're talking
19:34about yeah no i don't know where they lift you up and all your groomsmen like they spin me around
19:40no baby no that's the way you did it okay you know how like in the bar miss bus no one is lifting you
19:47okay okay no one i'll just say no that'll be fun you know first of all fun fact we have a bit of
19:53own condition i was saying it'll be a designated person there's gonna be one little slip up and now
19:58we've designated to the nearest hospital so no i'm not doing that for the reception it's going to be
20:05my dream come true wait hold up we're doing a switcheroo you can you just can't skip over that
20:10we're gonna do a switch up we're gonna have a traditional wear in the beginning and then we're gonna
20:15make an appearance with the traditional western oh traditional western wear i'm gonna be looking
20:21good for this wedding my friend lauren is coming with me because jay is working i still got to make
20:43money to pay for it my name is pamela hola ke tal pamela alejandro we're doing some wedding
20:50shopping retail therapy okay congratulations
21:02basically a mexican charro is a cowboy that people in the wedding are dressed up
21:11yes okay let's go make it okay yeah it's kind of tight yeah yeah i unfortunately had to just meant to
21:30prepare myself when i were going out in public because a lot of places they don't have it designed
21:36for uh people in wheelchairs let's maybe come this way oh my everything's so tight
21:47maybe we'll go another way okay good thank you yeah yeah yeah
21:51okay
21:59only thing with that white one is you won't necessarily see his back a lot and that's where
22:03yeah because he's he's saying yeah and that's where i like that
22:20planning the reception like with my mexican heritage is kind of like bittersweet
22:27because i'm excited to share that with my soon-to-be husband but then i mean i wouldn't be part of
22:35mexican heritage if it wasn't for my family
22:41paint the picture for me of the reception like what is it going to look like where you know what's
22:46the whole what's the scene yeah so the style is like mexican tradition style okay and then we're
22:53hoping to have a marachi band there oh wow yeah like just a mexican culture in general we are taught
23:00to honor our parents and respect their wishes whatever they are and i feel like i'm being disrespectful
23:08because they don't prove the marriage because i still have a lot of love for them even
23:14and they always have complications like i do need them
23:32any minute now my brother juan pablo will be arriving and i'm super excited it's a good thing that i need to
23:39be packing because that way i can stay chill
23:52i haven't packed like this in so long are you excited about moving yeah absolutely how do you feel
23:58though because your brother is on his way here i can't believe he landed in georgia like he's four
24:05years like when he met you he was my boyfriend yeah and now you're my fiance so he's like reintroducing
24:13you all over again yeah how do you feel about having a brother-in-law like that's like the big
24:19deal i feel good about it i'm looking forward to getting to know him though but i don't want to
24:23bombard him with like questions about not visiting for the past five years yeah listen i want to ask
24:30Juan Pablo why he hasn't come to visit however i promise i'm gonna be on my best behavior thank you
24:38yeah i definitely want to hear what he's gonna say
24:45so i don't know i guess we'll see what he says
24:47but uh i want him to say something
25:02chatter silencio
25:17oh my god she is crazy what's up
25:35so my little brother Juan Pablo comes in and of course cheddar just keeps barking and barking
25:43i get it she doesn't know him so she's like who the hell is he
25:49let me sit down maybe if i sit down
25:53cheddar he's okay
25:57cheddar come here okay yeah yeah yeah okay
26:03are you ready for your wedding
26:06uh it hasn't really kicked in yet it's crazy because i haven't seen you in so long
26:09it's been a long time coming so
26:15it's been a while since i've seen my sister and i've really missed her i know that um i've been
26:21able to get out here um it's been a little bit crazy back home okay this must be the food okay yeah sure
26:29sure thank you i'm excited i can be here at a time where she's uh essentially reaching a milestone for
26:36herself and to meet jay as well finally
26:40um
26:51yep pamela likes waffles over pancakes
26:56are you are you a waffles or a pancake guy
27:03definitely waffle so okay so it runs in the family
27:06okay
27:11cheddar sit sit you're supposed to say in spanish we're teaching her well i don't i don't want to
27:17mess up the pronouns and she's like what are you saying if i give her some bacon she'll love me
27:22cheddar
27:26she's mexican
27:27things haven't really changed you know she's still my big sister and i'm still happy to just
27:36to be here and celebrate her wedding yeah looking forward to meeting jay's family oh yeah definitely
27:43that'd be great honestly i'm just really glad you're here like i'm looking forward to like hanging out
27:48okay it's gonna be fun to party oh yeah definitely listen i still got it i still i still got it in me
27:59well i'm just glad y'all got to connect like that's really important
28:02she's been missing you specifically you know because y'all are really close
28:07do you think i should ask juan pablo about my parents you know i think just because that's such
28:15an important conversation to have like i think i would say to have that more so one-on-one when
28:20i'm not around you know okay i know you gotta check into your hotel but we'll see you at the bachelor
28:27bachelorette party awesome sounds good thank you can i give you a hug jay yeah you can give me a hug
28:37cheddar cheddar she said wait for my hug
28:40yeah cheddar it's being hard to get you'll see him again okay all right please be safe bye cheddar
28:49bye feels like yeah a lot of time has was lost but i know like wow there's a lot that we still the
28:59same we kind of like picked up where we left off well how do you feel wow it's so cool to finally see
29:07him again when it comes to the wedding process like things are now becoming complete like now my heart
29:13feels like really full that like people i love are going to be there you know i'm really happy for
29:19you i can't wait for y'all to go anymore ain't that right titties did you have fun with uncle pampalo
29:26you want to go for a walk before mommy and daddy have to go to the bachelor party
29:33oh thank you go pp go if you gotta do something go don't stress her out babe i'm not trying to
29:52good girl okay okay well so my brother opened up more i mean i definitely see him uh
30:02differently better now like i see him better now he wasn't really around in it i think he could
30:08have been a little bit more honest i felt like that was unfair i don't want my brother to feel
30:13like he's taking sides you know well he's here now i'm happy that juan pablo came through however with
30:20her parents i feel like it would be just easier if they just said no instead of beating around the bush
30:26because it doesn't do anybody any good and to be honest like for pamela she really just wants that
30:33honesty she just wants them to be up front and you know giving a yes or no i mean your dad no i'm just
30:40gonna say i feel like it's very weak as a man like if we're gonna talk about being a man like if we're
30:46if we're gonna go there like i feel like he's being a weak man right now and he should really
30:52reevaluate because as a man for him to not even have the guts to talk to you to his own daughter
31:00that says a lot about him as a man but he can't even do that but he wants to question someone else's
31:07manhood yeah that's that's ironic yeah as a partner you know you want to fight everybody
31:13you want to go to kansas city and be like hey get over here you know what are you doing it's hard to
31:19have respect for people who can't even show their own blood respect yeah and i know people always tell
31:25me like you can't talk because you don't have kids you will never know until you have kids but i will
31:31never abandon my child right like i don't care much how married an alien all right i'm gonna care a
31:39little baby they marry an alien i'll be a little just a tad like this is a little different but
31:46i still got your back but i'm gonna have some questions all right it's hard for me to see if
31:52i'm a little upset about her family at the end of the day like you hope that your parents are going to be
31:59the first people that you have in your life that really have your back when you don't have that
32:06like that really hurts as far as your parents go i i'm more so disappointed in the fact of like how
32:15this makes you feel more than anything if they choose to go the route of like not being in your life
32:22they're gonna suffer more than you are because what they don't realize is that their lives are better
32:28with you in it than the other way around pamela she's just a really special person and i i feel
32:35like her parents don't see that i hope i really do i hope that they can get it together before it's too
32:42late because i don't think about dying a lot but sometimes you don't know what the future is going to
32:49old and and no matter what happens in our lives at least i got to meet someone i really love you know
32:58and i'm just really grateful for that that's real that's real like yeah
33:29so i'm hoping to have a good heart-to-heart conversation with my brother because there
33:34are unanswered questions that i have do you think our parents are coming to the wedding our parents are
33:40so i'm really conservative and religious
33:49hey put your hands up to the ceiling i'm in love with the feeling you can't stop if i want you to
34:01let's go congratulations it's lit up in here it's a bachelor slash bachelor party at the party is
34:10our groomsmen bridesmaids yeah so essentially our wedding party basically our wedding party yes thank
34:16you for coming this is jade i'm jade nice to meet you man you're a nice dresser hey you know how to
34:22pick them right yeah pamela and me we were probably about five or six when we met it's kind of crazy to
34:28see like our progression from like little kids to like middle schoolers to high schoolers to grown
34:34adults to be in this moment right now it's really nice hey okay hey hey hey hey she looks so happy
34:43i'm beyond excited for her yeah okay just his kindness and humor they're they're both just light up
34:52your life kind of people yo what did that guy teach us that move it's it's beautiful to see pamela and jade
35:01get married for us as handicapped people it's a big deal
35:20it's not just about our disabilities and stuff like that it's about being like people
35:31i know i'm probably about his girlfriend i know before i met isabella marriage wasn't something
35:48that i was seeing in my car per se did you ever feel like that at one point i just stopped popping
35:54maybe even for like two years because that's like i'm so fed up it's game time we've got blow up
35:59bananas we've got rings we've got blindfolds oh man what yes it's gonna get serious here banana in a hole
36:08you got bananas we'll catch up more later in marriage you have to work together me and my banana
36:16the purpose is to see if you can figure out
36:24where the hole is can she find her husband to be keep talking i'm always talking let's go you can do it
36:32oh my god you're warm now you're touching on it go away
36:46come on pop with Isabella oh oh my god okay go for it you're cheating
36:56i'm like ew like my little brother i'm meeting his girlfriend like oh it's kind of awkward i'd be
37:05fine without knowing if they're good at flying the hole or not yeah is it awkward or is it fun
37:16my brother and i juan pablo we have been really close throughout my life but you know like seeing him
37:23all grown at the party i realized we don't really know like the adult versions of each other i finally
37:31met his girlfriend you did okay good and like i don't want us to lose being so close
37:40things are going so well right now it makes me nervous thinking about talking to him tomorrow
37:45oh i can probably fix it it's okay thank you confrontation is pretty hard for me especially
37:55when it comes to family
38:08how are you doing good how are you doing all right yes i cannot express enough how much it means to me
38:24for my brother to support jay and i but at the same time he's not really giving me a straight answer if
38:32my parents are coming or not for the wedding thank you so is there anything else showing you with the
38:37oysters for now thank you thank you i don't know he just doesn't know how to have uh this type of
38:44conversation maybe he just genuinely doesn't know what's going on so this is a good time for us to
38:53talk on a much deeper level yeah oh it's hot yeah it's hot
38:57you're excited about the wedding like how does it feel that you like now here because you know
39:06it's been years it's a lot it's a lot it is a lot it is a lot too planning it for a while i already
39:14wrote my vows you know everything i've been practicing then i want to like stutter you're practicing in the
39:21mirror yeah practicing it's cool though because um we're just going to do like a courthouse
39:27wedding we're just okay with that and we're like wow like let's do something you know a little bit
39:34more than just a courthouse and so that's why it's really cool that you're here because it's like
39:40the wedding is also blending together the people in our lives that has got us to that moment so like
39:46you know especially when it comes to parents you know like you expect your parents to be there
39:52yeah at this point i have left an open invitation from my parents and knowing them i wouldn't be
40:02surprised if they just randomly showed up for the wedding but like do you think um
40:11our parents are coming to the wedding today's the day i can finally save my husband yeah you're gonna be
40:32that person oh yeah i can't wait to scream at the top of my lungs you're my husband hey hello you look
40:43amazing thank you there's two hours of toast ceremony and i'm so nervous before the wedding started
40:54it's a missed call from my dad do we even know if them parents are showing up i mean i don't know
41:04i saw him i thought i guess maybe a surprise visit
41:11please rise as we receive our bride i keep thinking about if my dad is going to be taking me down the aisle
41:19please rise as we receive our bride and we'll see you next time
41:30please rise as we receive our bride and we'll see you next time