TikTok dad calls out sexualization of girls

Brut America

This dad's response to the sexualization of girls is going viral. As many continue to question why kids clothes need two separate sections.

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00:00We got a onesie for our daughter that said,

00:01sorry boys, dad says no dating.

00:04Sized for a newborn.

00:06I guess I'm wondering who they thought

00:07is gonna date our zero-month-old daughter.

00:10But all the girl clothes are remarkably annoying

00:13for so many reasons.

00:18I'd want clothing that doesn't have sayings

00:20that sexualize children.

00:22I want clothing that comes in gender-neutral options

00:24for both color and fit as a standard.

00:27I want dinosaurs for her.

00:29I want functional pockets.

00:30She deserves dinosaurs and functional pockets.

00:32Those exist on boys' clothes.

00:34Why can't I have those for my daughter?

00:45Why does everything have ruffles?

00:46Why is everything hyper pink?

00:47Why is everything glittery?

00:48Why can't I just find a one-piece bathing suit

00:52for my daughter?

00:53Why are the girl clothes smaller than boy clothes

00:55when they're the same size?

00:56I don't have anything against clothes

00:59that are pink or glittery or ruffly,

01:01but those clothes also tend to have problematic issues

01:04when it relates to fit or sayings like daddy's princess,

01:08things that we find to be problematic in our family.

01:10One thing that I've been especially frustrated by

01:12is that girls' clothes tend to be much more form-fitting

01:15and revealing than boys' clothes,

01:16and they're also much less durable than boys' clothes.

01:19I can't see any good reason for that to happen.

01:21I think that reinforces this toxic mindset

01:24that girls' bodies are meant to be displayed,

01:26and I think it normalizes objectification.

01:28I don't wanna do either of those things with my daughter.

01:40The boys' clothes consistently fit better,

01:42and they're slightly larger,

01:43and they're just more comfortable.

01:46There were some commenters on the video who said,

01:48well, that's because boys are bigger than girls,

01:50and I think that's actually a myth.

01:52If you do look at birth weight,

01:54the difference is about four ounces.

01:55That's a deck of cards.

01:57And let's take that a step further

01:58and look at the CDC growth charts for boys and girls.

02:01If you compare a 36-month-old boy to a 36-month-old girl,

02:05let's pick someone in the 50th percentile

02:07for both height and weight,

02:09the difference between the boy and the girl

02:11is half an inch and half a pound.

02:13So if, on average, a three-year-old girl is a half inch,

02:17like a fingernail shorter than the average boy,

02:20why are the inseams shorter?

02:22Why are the sleeves shorter?

02:23Why are the hems shorter?

02:25♪♪

02:34One of the most common,

02:36and the ones that we're really uncomfortable with,

02:37are when people ship babies,

02:39like pretend that they're in relationships

02:41either with other babies or even adults.

02:43It just feels weird and uncomfortable,

02:46and, you know, it's a baby.

02:48Another thing that's happened is

02:49because we tend to pick more gender-neutral clothes

02:53or even buy boy clothes for our daughter,

02:55we've had people confuse her for a boy in public,

02:58and then they get upset with us for some reason.

03:00It's almost like they think we're trying to trick them.

03:02♪♪

03:08So the cool thing is you're the parent,

03:10which means you get to choose what they're exposed to,

03:13how they're exposed to that information,

03:15and you also get to help them learn

03:16how to process and challenge those influences.

03:19This also means you get to set an early standard

03:21about what matters when it comes to defining a person.

03:24So things like their actions,

03:26their talents, their interests.

03:27In other words, the things about them

03:29that make them a really cool, awesome person

03:31that don't involve their appearance.

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