These people are single ... by choice

Brut America

They are single and happy. Here's why more and more people are choosing not to date...

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00:00Can we normalize being single?

00:02You single? That don't make no sense.

00:04If I do end up alone with a bunch of cats, then okay.

00:15I am single. I don't have any kids. I'm very happy. I don't ever plan on dating again.

00:20I don't want your f***ing walnuts. I love being alone. I love my own company.

00:25Why can't you get it through your skull that women are happy being alone?

00:29I am single by choice because the dating pool is contaminated.

00:33It got a bunch of like nasty s*** in it.

00:36Whenever the pool people come and they clean out the dating pool, then maybe I'll try again.

00:41You single? That don't make no sense.

00:43Has it occurred to y'all that I'm single for a reason?

00:46See, I'm not gonna get in a relationship with a man until I'm fully over my last one.

00:50I'd be rotting for a man right now.

00:52When I say I'm single, they're like, nah, you single because don't nobody want you.

00:56Have you seen me? I mean, makeup or not, weave or not, I'm still a beautiful woman.

01:14I'm not single by choice. I'm single because I'm choosing not to settle.

01:20Which is a choice.

01:23Holy s***, I'm single by choice.

01:25I've been single for five years.

01:27I've really found myself.

01:29I've discovered like what I'm capable of, what I can handle on my own.

01:34Sometimes people choose to be single so that they can work on themselves and heal themselves

01:38rather than rushing into another relationship that's just gonna end up damaging them more.

01:43I've had a place in my life where I know that I'm not ready to date.

01:46Even if a good man did come along, I would probably mess it up

01:49because I'm still working on my triggers and healing myself.

01:52And if I do end up alone with a bunch of cats, then okay.

01:56Can we create a world where it's completely acceptable to be single by choice?

02:03To be single on purpose?

02:05To be single with a purpose?

02:07Can we normalize taking a break after a relationship

02:11so that we can heal the wounds that were created by our choices

02:14and the choices of others that hurt us?

02:16Stop thinking that everybody like feel like a relationship is the end all be all

02:21because it ain't.

02:22It's a whole lot more to life than relationships, marriages, and having newborns.

02:25It really is.

02:26And the quicker that y'all see that, the less y'all put people in this box

02:30because they choose to be single.

02:31What goes on in the mind of people who think women are lying

02:35when we say we want to be single and we're choosing to be single?

02:39It's absolutely a choice.

02:41Our value systems are different.

02:43Just because you value your proximity to another person doesn't mean I have to.

02:48I value my freedom, my space, and my peace.

02:51When I tell people that I'm looking for fun with a man, I don't know.

02:55They don't really care because I enjoy my own company.

02:57I have my own house.

02:58I'm really enjoying my time.

03:00They're just like, oh, you'll change your mind or you'll find someone.

03:03I can find people.

03:05I'm good.

03:06I'm fine.

03:08I just don't want someone in my space.

03:11I don't want someone bothering me.

03:13Is that not reasonable?

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