Two childless friends say they've been labelled "selfish" for not wanting kids

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Two childless best friends say they have been called "selfish" and made to feel guilty for not wanting children.  Erika Abdelatif, and Kristen Myers, both 37, met whilst studying theatre at Chapman University, California, US, in 2005.  Growing up both of the friends wanted children and it wasn't until they were in their late 20s and early 30s that they changed their minds.  Kristen said a big factor for her not to have children was the high cost of daycare and climate change anxieties.

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00:00If you're child-free, I want you to just watch this video and react in the comments.

00:04It seems that those who have kids early regret not being able to go wild in their early years,

00:10and those of us who wait until later, albeit are more stable financially,

00:15are then regretful because we tasted freedom and then we gave it all up.

00:19How's that feel?

00:20It's horrible.

00:22If you're child-free, then you have probably more than once heard somebody say,

00:26Oh, but if you don't have kids, you'll never know true love.

00:29If you've heard that, this is for you.

00:56I remember when that question was asked when I was 34,

01:08and it was the only time I thought to myself,

01:11I can't wait to be older to answer this question.

01:14I just know I'm going to be able to say that it's a bunch of bullshit.

01:17So now I'm telling you it's a bunch of bullshit.

01:20It's a bunch of bullshit.

01:24Me having friends with children and grandchildren,

01:29the sadness, the disappointments, the expectations not met.

01:37My dearest friend just died.

01:40I was with her for the last seven months.

01:42She's a mom of two.

01:44I think they visited once.

01:46They live in the neighborhood.

01:48It was her friends, her friends who fed her, who held her, who cried with her,

01:54who brought her food, who massaged her, who put a cream on her,

02:00who decorated the room.

02:02The nurses came in and said, this is hospice.

02:05We have never seen a room like this,

02:07and we have never seen so many people coming and going.

02:10Does she have a large family?

02:14No, she has friends.

02:17Make friends.

02:19They're the answer.

02:21And younger, too.

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