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How to deal with toxic and abusive parent_ Nouman Ali Khan
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10/23/2024
How to deal with toxic and abusive parent_ Nouman Ali Khan
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Allah is not expecting everyone to be exactly the same with all of their parents.
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My parents are a blessing to me, Alhamdulillah.
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Somebody else's parents are a huge trial for them.
00:12
They're not the same.
00:13
It's not the same.
00:15
Somebody's siblings are the best thing that ever happened to them.
00:17
And somebody else's siblings is like habil and qabil.
00:20
It happens.
00:22
Not every family is the same.
00:23
Allah is not expecting the same exact behavior from everyone.
00:27
What Allah is expecting though is ihsan.
00:29
You know what that means?
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It means what's the very best you can do in your situation.
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I'll tell you something I may have mentioned before.
00:35
A friend of mine had a terrible relationship with his mother.
00:38
And you know in Islam how much Allah talks about the mother.
00:41
How good you have to be to your mother.
00:43
How we can never thank our mother.
00:44
How she gave us birth.
00:45
And how she almost died giving birth.
00:47
And the favors of her and the acknowledgement of her in the Qur'an is remarkable.
00:50
And in the sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, it's so remarkable the status
00:53
of the mother.
00:54
Everybody here knows.
00:56
And another thing also about Islam, you know how high up mom is.
00:59
You know that.
01:01
And then he had a terrible relationship with his mother.
01:04
Not because of him, because she was extremely abusive.
01:07
And she tortured him mentally, psychologically, even physically sometimes.
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To the point where he developed like a major anxiety and started having panic attacks and
01:16
even started developing seizures.
01:18
So when he would be in the company of his mom, he literally start foaming at the mouth
01:22
and pass out.
01:23
Like that happened multiple times to him.
01:25
Because of the things his mother says.
01:27
And the way she abuses him verbally.
01:29
And he feels that he has to keep going back to go talk to his mom because he doesn't want
01:35
to burn in hell.
01:37
Because if I don't go back to mom, then Allah will be angry at me because you don't have
01:41
to be the best to your mom.
01:44
And so what am I supposed to do?
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And I told him, and I say this with a clean conscience.
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In his case, the best he can do is stay away from his mom.
01:53
Take care of her rights.
01:55
Take care of her needs.
01:56
But you cannot do that at the expense of you being abused yourself.
02:00
If that was the case, Ibrahim a.s. is in an abusive environment where his father is committing
02:05
shirk.
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He's not there to just stay at home and I'm just going to be with you no matter what.
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When he kicks him out, he leaves.
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He's gone.
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Not everybody's circumstance is the same.
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But anyway, that's a side note.
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With your relatives, with the orphans, the needy, you do the very best that you can given
02:27
your circumstances.
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You have to do a full assessment of what your circumstance is.
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Maybe even get some outside help.
02:33
But to expect that we all have to be perfect in every relationship and everybody's expected
02:37
the same standard.
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That is just not our deen.
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That's just not Islam.
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Okay?
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