WHAT IS SEX BY DR. TAHIRA RUBAB CONSULTANT CLINICAL PSYCHOLOGIST (SEX _ COUPLE THERAPIST)(360P)

Kashif Mag

THIS LECTURE IS ABOUT WHAT IS SEX.             BY       KASHIF MAG.

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00:00Sex, which we all know very well, means that it is very different for every human being.

00:15And its purpose is also very different for every human being.

00:18In today's video, we will discuss what sex actually means for different people and what its purpose is.

00:25Assalam-o-Alaikum, I am Dr. Tahira Rubab. I am a Psychologist, Relationship Therapist and Sex Therapist.

00:32Viewers, we often hear that sexual activity is a normal activity and every human being knows about it,

00:44has all the information about it and there is a way to do it.

00:47But let me tell you a very interesting thing.

00:49Actually, the meaning of sex is different for every human being.

00:54For some people, it is a pleasure, for some people it is just necessary and for some people it is intimate.

01:02And different people experience it in different ways.

01:08And the way people experience it, the same kind of impact and image remains on their mind.

01:15And they remember the experience or they are not able to remember it and never remember it.

01:22As I told you, the meaning of sex is for every human being.

01:26For some people, it is a pleasure, for some people it is necessary and for some people it is intimate.

01:31In the same way, every human being's experience, sexual experience is also very different.

01:38For example, some people experience sex on a very emotional level.

01:44They get emotionally involved, they connect with emotional things and do sex.

01:51And in the same way, we see that some people just do sex and that is it.

01:56And they do sex only on a physical level to fulfill their needs.

02:02There is no string attached, no pleasure, nothing at all.

02:06And then there are a third kind of people who do sex as a duty.

02:12They themselves are not interested in it, nor are they able to connect anywhere.

02:18In fact, they are just trying to do sex as a duty.

02:23In the same way, for some people, sex is an extreme pleasure.

02:29And they try to connect with their partner through this activity.

02:36And for some people, sex is the way of expression of their love.

02:42That is, they express their love through sex with their partner, with their husband, with their wife.

02:51Let's see how these things happen between men and women.

02:57As I said, different people experience it in a different way.

03:02And the more you experience it, the more you register it in your brain.

03:10Like, it is generally said that sex should be experienced and done only to the extent of physical need.

03:21But let me tell you, as I said, different people experience it in a different way.

03:25And for different people, it means different.

03:28So, some people experience it on an emotional level.

03:32In which we see a lot of women.

03:35And there are some men who experience it with a lot of emotional involvement.

03:43That is, when you are emotionally involved and try to get intimate with a person or get close to him.

03:49In that case, your body, your mind and your emotions, all three things are completely involved.

03:57The more you are involved, the more enriched your experience is.

04:02Enriched experience means that the more good your relationship is, the better the activity is for you.

04:11And this kind of intimacy, this kind of sexual contact with anyone, is always going to be there.

04:19That is, it affects your brain through different sensors.

04:23And it triggers your emotions, it triggers your mind, it triggers your body.

04:32So, the print on your brain is a very strong print that you can never get rid of.

04:40And every time you demand that pleasure from your partner.

04:45Which you have collected all the emotions, that is, the mind, the body, and the emotions.

04:52You start demanding the same thing from your partner.

04:57Similarly, we see some people for whom sex is just a physical activity.

05:03And in this category, we usually see them.

05:07Our men are seen more in this category.

05:12Not 100%, but they are seen more.

05:15Because their physical structure is like this.

05:17For them, sex is more of a physical need and physical urge.

05:23And they try to fulfill it.

05:27Now, those who experience it on a physical level.

05:31And those who experience sex only on a physical level, this activity is only a physical activity for them.

05:37And this activity is not imprinted on their brain.

05:40They come and do this activity, and that is it.

05:44That is, things are finished immediately.

05:48It is said that it should be kept as a physical activity.

05:51So that a lot of connections cannot be made with it.

05:55And you can't experience it so much.

05:58And then we see some people who are in need.

06:03That is, because he is a partner, he is a wife, he has to go to him.

06:07Similarly, the wife has to fulfill the needs of her husband.

06:10So for them, this activity is only one such activity.

06:15In which only each other's needs have to be fulfilled.

06:18And that activity, they feel that it is not for them.

06:21And in that, neither does it create experience.

06:25Because emotionality is not involved.

06:27Nor does it fulfill the physical need.

06:30Because you have gone to a person for your need.

06:32You are present for the need of another person.

06:35That you have to fulfill his need.

06:37I come to many clients and see that the wife needs it too.

06:42Then you have to take care of it too.

06:43Similarly, women come and say that the husband needs it.

06:46So we see this behavior especially in wives.

06:49That they take that way.

06:51That they have to do this activity only for their husband.

06:55For some people, this is a very immense pleasure.

07:00They go into this activity to get their maximum pleasure.

07:09And then they experience a lot of kinky things to do it.

07:14Because their level of pleasure may be very different.

07:19Which is not only sexually involved.

07:22There are many other things in it.

07:24There are many other behaviors that are sexual practices.

07:26People are also using it.

07:30Sometimes it has been seen that those people who sexually fulfill each other's needs.

07:37Or only keep things on physical need.

07:40For them, it is very easy to shift relationships from one person to another.

07:45But those people who are on the emotional level.

07:48Those who want to make the right connection and experience things.

07:52Because sex is an emotional activity for them.

07:55It is an intimate activity.

07:57For them, let's say that if there is a problem in life.

08:01Then coming and moving is a big problem.

08:05They are not able to move.

08:07And then if there is a problem with their partner.

08:10Something like a medical illness.

08:13Because sexual activity is associated in their brain.

08:18Then they try to do it in the same way.

08:21And then if they have to move on in life.

08:26If there is a divorce.

08:27If there is a death of a partner.

08:29And some people, as I said, it becomes very difficult for them to move.

08:34And sometimes because of this, their relationship also gets bad.

08:38In the same way, for some people, this sexual activity is very.

08:43In which they want to get rid of themselves.

08:46They don't want to do it.

08:47They do it as a responsibility.

08:50Sometimes this activity is very painful for them.

08:54Because they are taking it as a duty.

08:57Secondly, they have a very negative association.

09:00Maybe they are afraid of going into this activity.

09:03Or they don't enjoy things that way.

09:06So for some people, sexual activity is a duty.

09:09For some people, it is an emotional attachment.

09:12For some people, it is just a physical need.

09:14What is this for you?

09:16Do tell us in the comments of the video.

09:18Take care of yourself.

09:19See you again with a new topic in a new video.

09:23Allah Hafiz.

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