What is the method of expressing love_ _ Dr Tahira Rubab(360P)

Kashif Mag

This lecture is about the method of expressing love.             By             Kashif Mag.

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00:00Love and expressing love is a big challenge.

00:03People love people but other people feel that they are not being loved.

00:08They are not able to feel their love.

00:10They feel that they are not being expressed the way they should be.

00:14What is the story? What is the matter? We will talk about this.

00:16Assalamualaikum. I am Dr. Tahira Rubab.

00:18I am a Psychiatrist, Relationship Therapist and Sex Therapist.

00:22We all want to love. We want to be loved.

00:27And we want other people to love us.

00:30Even after having so much love,

00:32even after expressing love,

00:34why don't other people feel that you really love them a lot?

00:39You really consider them very important.

00:41Or your role is very important in your life.

00:46Why does this happen?

00:47These questions come often.

00:49And we all feel that we don't have that value in other people's life.

00:54There are 3-4 reasons for this.

00:56First of all, when we love another person

01:01or when we develop feelings for another person,

01:04we try to express them the way we want.

01:10This is how love is.

01:12This is how love is expressed.

01:14The way we like, we express our love for the other person.

01:20And we handle it in our own way.

01:23For example, if we feel that we are doing something for that person,

01:27we are helping that person,

01:29we have shared some of their responsibilities,

01:32or we are saying I love you or I miss you,

01:35that's how the love is expressed.

01:37This is how your love is expressed.

01:40And you like it this way.

01:42It's like when people give gifts to other people to show their love.

01:49Which is right.

01:50It's a very good thing to express your love in different ways.

01:53It's very important.

01:54And these are the things that tell the other person that

01:57basically you are meaningful to someone.

02:00But when we see people say that

02:04I never felt that way,

02:07that I've been loved or something like that happened to me,

02:10that person really loves me so much.

02:12The reason for that is

02:14that normally we are not able to assess the needs of that person.

02:18We are not able to assess the needs of that person.

02:21We are not able to see that person's way of love

02:24which makes him feel that if this thing exists,

02:28then it means that it is love.

02:30We spend our whole life loving others in our own way.

02:34I see a lot of people say that

02:37when they see a needy person,

02:39instead of giving them money,

02:42you give them things.

02:44You are entertaining them in your own way.

02:47So it's possible that they may need things sometimes

02:49and sometimes they may not.

02:51But you are giving them money in your own way.

02:54So it's possible that ultimately the thing you are giving them

02:58may not be as meaningful for them.

03:00The food you are giving them may not be as meaningful for them.

03:03Because maybe they need money

03:05with which they can buy something of their own will.

03:07But your partner's way of love

03:11or the way of expressing love

03:13is something else which is very important to understand.

03:15It's possible that,

03:17like in our society, men say that

03:19they love their wives a lot

03:21but they never express it.

03:23They never say it out loud.

03:25Similarly, women love their partners a lot

03:30and they keep telling them again and again.

03:32Both of them love each other in their own way.

03:36For men, actions are very important

03:39and for women, words are very important.

03:41Words are not shoes.

03:43Of course, if there are only words

03:45and your actions are not with them,

03:47they start seeing that it is not going where they want.

03:52So it is very important for us to understand

03:54how my partner expresses his love.

03:59If you want to express your love in the right way,

04:03according to his needs,

04:05then it is important for you to understand

04:07how your partner expresses his love to you.

04:11The way he is expressing his love to you,

04:14in the same way, he wants you to express your love to him.

04:18And try to focus the need of your partner.

04:21You love your partner a lot.

04:23People love you a lot.

04:24They are very loyal.

04:25There is no doubt in love.

04:27But if it is not expressed appropriately,

04:30if it is not fulfilling according to your partner's needs,

04:34then people do not feel that love.

04:36And we often see that relationships end very quickly.

04:39We often see this.

04:40Love marriages start having a lot of problems.

04:44Just try to understand what is the need of your partner.

04:48And if you treat him accordingly,

04:52I am sure your love will be felt.

04:55It will be acknowledged.

04:57And along with that,

04:58the positivity that you want to create in your relationship,

05:02that will also be possible.

05:04I hope this video will help you

05:06to improve your love relationship.

05:09And how you should improve your expression.

05:13Take care of yourself.

05:14I will meet you again in a new video.

05:16Until then, Allah Hafiz.

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