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If You Feel Invisible, Like Nobody Cares, STOP and Watch This Video. This powerful advice from Casey Zeman may just change your life.

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00:00And my life right then and there, I just felt like sort of invisible.

00:04When I was a kid, I was probably eight or something like that.

00:09We had a couple of friends who were very cool.

00:11I had a friend named Aaron.

00:13That kid was like the culmination of cool.

00:16He had this tanning cream that his mom, you know, his mom used, and we were like so mesmerized

00:22by it.

00:23I remember one time I was riding my bike outside of Aaron's house.

00:27I was gonna go in just to ask him about trying on some tanning cream, but he wasn't there.

00:33So I actually just walked right in.

00:36I went upstairs to where his mom kept the tanning cream, and I started to put it on,

00:41you know.

00:42I don't know what it was.

00:43I was obsessed with tanning cream.

00:44It was like my visibility paint, right?

00:47I was like finally seeing.

00:49I didn't have a barrier.

00:51I didn't see that I shouldn't be breaking into this house.

00:55While I was putting it on, Aaron's mom came home with their daughters, and they started

01:01coming up the stairs, and I was still in the bathroom when they were coming up the stairs.

01:05And suddenly, the daughters come into their room, and I'm standing in the doorway, and

01:09I'm looking.

01:10I see them, and they're sitting on the bed.

01:13They're all talking about the party that's gonna be happening for Aaron, and I'm just

01:16looking right at them.

01:17I'm like, they don't even see me right now, and it's just this weird thing, like how do

01:21they not see me that I'm right here?

01:25There were those moments where I felt like I didn't really feel like I was visible.

01:30I still did stupid stuff every now and then.

01:33I would do things that were fringe, you know, do things that were acting out, but I didn't

01:38because I had this need for being seen.

01:43I was the guy that would climb the tree, a stupid idea to climb the tree.

01:47I would always do stupid things, or I would like balance myself on the balcony, and I

01:51think all that came to a head when I was at a national park with my friends.

01:58We went into this area of the national park, and they had these rock faces that would slide

02:02down, right?

02:03They had these natural springs at the bottom of different rock faces, and there was one

02:08particular one that I wasn't supposed to go out on, and everyone was like, Casey, don't

02:11go out on it.

02:12Don't go out on it.

02:13And I went out on it, and I stood there, and I was like testing out how I could balance

02:19on this rock, when suddenly I lost my balance, and I started sliding down this big rock face.

02:27At the bottom of the end of the rock face, we didn't know it was there, but this was

02:31all off boundaries, and probably due to the fact that below me was a 200-foot gorge with

02:37stone.

02:38And so as soon as I slid down, I was like, maybe I'll be okay if I just let myself fall

02:44over the edge.

02:45Maybe it's water, right?

02:47I've been so lucky with every stupid thing I've ever done that maybe there's a big body

02:51of water that's going to catch me.

02:54But while I was sliding down, this realization, this fear that this could be my last breath,

02:59this could be it, started overpowering me, and I remember yelling out, help me, help

03:04me, help me, save me.

03:05My wife remembers hearing it, my brother remembers hearing it.

03:08I grabbed like a tuft of grass, and my legs were dangling over.

03:11Somehow, some way, I stopped myself from falling over the edge.

03:15Once I stopped myself, I realized that I would have died, for sure I would have died.

03:21My wife, after it was all done, she was crying, she was scared, and she hit me on the shoulder.

03:28I understood at that point, it was like, my actions matter, my actions can cause a terrible

03:34effect on somebody, that I need to be accountable for every action I take.

03:39And so why don't I make my actions positive and not negative?

03:44And at that moment, I started to try to live a life where I was doing more service than taking.

03:53My wife had always wanted to adopt, and I finally saw myself actually being able to adopt.

03:59The adoption process took a long, long time, it took like three and a half years.

04:02We would go, and we'd have this little apartment that we'd stay in on this big campus where

04:09kids are running around, and it's like, there's no grass, it's dirt and concrete everywhere.

04:13We met our sons for the first time.

04:16They didn't speak any English, this is in Haiti, so they speak Haitian Creole.

04:21When I first met them, they were like two and three, and they were scared, and they

04:26were like, who are these people that are, you know, I mean, they didn't know who we were.

04:31They were just told that we were, that I was their papa.

04:34And so that first moment, I remember just like connecting with them, and the apartment

04:39had a back patio that had bars all around it.

04:43We would just bring food every day to the orphanage, feed our kids, but the sad, super

04:48sad thing was like, our kids, you know, we would have sandwiches, and we'd be in that

04:53back patio, and we'd be eating those sandwiches.

04:56And all the other kids in the orphanage would come to the bars, and they'd put their hands

05:00through the bar wanting the food, because they just didn't get enough food.

05:04So they all put their hands in the bar wanting more food, more food, more food.

05:09I could tell how powerful my kids were going to be, like, it was just an amazing thing.

05:14Like, our sons wanted to share the food with the kids.

05:19Every small action we take has a ripple, right, and it has an effect on people.

05:23If I had just not stopped myself from going over that edge, I would have died.

05:27And that's the strongest experience of realizing that our actions matter, that you can ever

05:33have, right?

05:34If you can stop yourself from death, or stop somebody else from suffering, those are strong,

05:39powerful things that change your perspective on life.

05:43You're going to feel moments where you are misunderstood or not seen at all, and the

05:50thing that you need to understand is that every action, every minute thing you do has

05:54a cause and effect.

05:56And so why don't I make my actions positive and not negative?

06:05I'm not a negative person.

06:08I'm a positive person.

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