Stay Calm Mom: Body Changes - Vidéo Dailymotion

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18/07/2024

For Tiffany Small and many expecting mothers, dealing with a changing body can be a challenge. Tiffany speaks to wellness expert Rachel Goldman about gaining weight and the struggle of body issues. In this video, you'll learn about how pregnancy can trigger eating disorder issues. Goldman suggests positive self-talk, which helps combat feelings of insecurity and negativity. With her helpful tips and advice, you'll navigate this tricky time with ease. There is no perfect moment, it requires some internal work, and adjusting expectations.

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00:00Okidoki, this one is kind of cute, this comes with a couture mold, there is like a remote

00:10control car in the front, this is for a sassy new mom, hopefully this gets easier.

00:19Fun fact, my mother told me that I absolutely needed to go bra shopping that second.

00:26I went and got sized, I went up two cup sizes in three months, like within the first

00:32three months of me being pregnant.

00:34So now I'm a C cup, and I might potentially need to move up to a D cup, and I have no

00:40idea how to feel about that, because I've never had boobs before, in my life.

00:46It's a whole new adventure for me.

00:53I think it's so interesting that it's women in particular that carry babies, because

00:57I feel like there's such a stigma with women in society and how we look and how we present

01:02ourselves and with weight and body image issues, outside of the fact that now you're creating

01:09a life, and how complicated of a relationship that can be.

01:12Right, yeah.

01:13We shouldn't be gaining weight, and now all of a sudden we're pregnant, we're gaining

01:17weight, maybe other people don't know that we're pregnant yet, so there's this internal

01:22struggle that a lot of people have, and unfortunately I think it can also bring back some triggers

01:28of perhaps some previous disordered eating behaviors, if people were struggling in the

01:33past with that as well.

01:35What's a way that you sort of help talk through some of your patients who are maybe experiencing

01:40not wanting to eat, or not wanting to gain weight, or feeling a way about gaining weight?

01:45In my practice I do cognitive behavioral therapy.

01:48I can go through so much when they're pregnant, because of all of these societal pressures,

01:54but then also what we're feeling and what we're going through as well.

01:57One of the best skills for that is self-talk, so I like to just remind people that they

02:03need to be gaining weight, but a healthy amount of weight, and that they are growing a baby

02:07inside of them, so we'll kind of examine the evidence of that, and that's kind of a skill

02:12that we do, and be like, okay, what's the facts right now?

02:14The fact is, you're pregnant, you need to be gaining weight, but then to remind yourself

02:18of that, and to use that self-talk whenever needed, so if somebody's thoughts are going

02:23in a place where like, I shouldn't be eating, or I don't want to gain weight, we can then

02:28say stop, take a breath, and then have that rational thought, the reminder of, oh right,

02:34I'm pregnant, I need to be gaining weight.

02:36Or, and I'm going to.

02:38Exactly, or I'm going to be gaining weight, and that's not a bad thing to a degree, of

02:43course, but that's healthy, and that means that I'm healthy.

02:46I know for me, one of the things that I kept looking for was like the moment when I would

02:52like achieve sort of this iconic pregnant woman look and feel.

02:59The perfect little bump, and it's all belly, and you know, I'm super stylish, and like

03:05I don't look tired at all, it's like what, can you talk a little bit about that image?

03:10You know, there is no perfect pregnancy, there's no perfect anything.

03:15We are all human, we're all individuals.

03:18You know, your perfect is going to happen, and that's when you feel, I think, healthy,

03:23and you're best while you're pregnant.

03:24You know, unfortunately, some people don't always feel great when they're pregnant, and

03:28maybe they won't, you know, feel that way, but everybody's unique in an individual,

03:34so I think if you can get that out of your head in the sense of, you know, I'm waiting

03:38for that perfect, it's really you finding it from within and being like, this is me.

03:44This is me pregnant.

03:45We are not going to look like anybody else that was pregnant, so compare a little less,

03:51or not to compare at all, ideally, and to remind ourselves that we are growing a human

03:57inside of us, which is an incredible thing, so to just be kind to yourself about that

04:02and remind yourself of that.

04:07Out of all of the changes that your body has gone through while being pregnant, what

04:11has been the most surprising?

04:13And the second time, you don't feel as, not horrible, but you don't feel as fat, because

04:25the first time, this is the first time seeing yourself in the mirror, and you're like, huge.

04:34You're huge, and I was like, above average huge, because my baby was big, my husband's

04:40super tall, I think I was six months pregnant, and everybody was like, oh, are you due soon?

04:46Like, is it happening this month?

04:48Or like, oh, do you have twins?

04:51Stuff like that.

04:52So it's like, my nipples have never been like, so huge, and it will probably never be the same.

05:01You don't think they'll like, go back down?

05:02I don't think so.

05:05And my boobs will just be kind of saggy.

05:08Yeah.

05:09Well, they're just going to be saggy, and my husband loves them no matter what, so it

05:16does not matter to me.

05:18But it's, you know, you really learn to just accept your body as it is, and then that actually

05:27builds your confidence at the same time, which is like, it's so weird, because you think

05:31you get pregnant, and you become this huge person, but for some reason, you are just

05:37more confident, because you just, you trust nature to do its thing, and you find that

05:45so much more beautiful than you've ever known.

06:00Yeah.

06:01Yeah.

06:02Yeah.

06:03Yeah.

06:04Yeah.

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