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00:00There are a lot of things like that.

00:02Sometimes,

00:04that's why it's so difficult.

00:06He said that the answer for him

00:08is his answer.

00:10He just thought,

00:12okay, I'll just give you the answer you want.

00:14Not the real answer.

00:16Because,

00:18don't you trust what I'm saying?

00:20Do you want me to say it over and over again?

00:22Something like that.

00:24You know, there's something called

00:26it has something to do with

00:28the abandonment issue.

00:30There are people

00:32who have abandonment issues.

00:34Then, there's something called

00:36the attachment style.

00:38For you,

00:40that's the anxious

00:44anxious attachment style.

00:48You keep asking

00:50for validation

00:52and reassurance.

00:54Even if he told you

00:56that he loves you,

00:58you'll still ask,

01:00do you still love me?

01:02Then, he'll say it over and over again.

01:04That's the anxious attachment style.

01:08Then,

01:10you'll be separated

01:12but that's not what you really want.

01:14You'll be separated to prove

01:16that he won't separate you.

01:18That he really loves you.

01:20Do you do that?

01:22Yes.

01:24It's not to separate you.

01:26It's to chase you because it will make you feel good

01:28if he chases you.

01:30You'll get angry

01:32even if you're not angry

01:34because you'll be reassured

01:36that he loves you

01:38if he's the one who pushed you.

01:40Because you're too anxious.

01:42Anxious attachment.

01:44And the other one,

01:46when it comes to him,

01:48do you suspect that I'm doing something

01:50that's why you're asking if I love you?

01:52Why are you like that?

01:54Because people aren't always like that.

01:56There's a tendency

01:58that they have a red flag here.

02:00They have an abandonment issue.

02:04Why is their attachment style like that?

02:06Because there's also

02:08a dismissive-avoidant

02:10attachment style.

02:12The dismissive-avoidant.

02:14The dismissive-avoidant

02:16is when people like you

02:18but when they like you,

02:20it's like a barrier.

02:22I don't want to fall for him.

02:24You don't want to give everything.

02:26Yes.

02:28We love each other,

02:30but let's stop here.

02:32He doesn't want to fall.

02:34He has a fear

02:36of why he doesn't want to.

02:38He doesn't want to because he's afraid.

02:40Maybe because when he agreed,

02:42when he gave his heart,

02:44he was betrayed.

02:46He was fooled.

02:48It's like he's protecting himself

02:50because maybe his feelings

02:52were betrayed.

02:54Why are you like that?

02:56Why do you want to reassure

02:58and validate that he loves you

03:00and that it's still you?

03:02At first,

03:04I broke up with him.

03:06Then he chased me away

03:08and said,

03:10let's go out and eat.

03:12Our relationship worked out.

03:14Then the last time,

03:16I felt like

03:18it was over.

03:20I felt like our connection

03:22was just a motor.

03:24Then I told him,

03:26let's stop.

03:28Let's do something

03:30that won't work anymore.

03:32Then,

03:34he didn't chase me away.

03:36He really didn't want to.

03:38He was just waiting

03:40for me to break up.

03:42How did that happen?

03:44Did he lose his time

03:46because he was busy?

03:48Or did you see something?

03:50I didn't feel anything.

03:52I just felt that

03:54he doesn't love me anymore.

03:56No, because he lost his time

03:58because he works at night.

04:00His trips are just

04:02motor trips.

04:04He doesn't work anymore.

04:06The equivalent to him

04:08is that he doesn't love me anymore.

04:10Is that right?

04:12Sometimes,

04:14when we go out,

04:16he doesn't want to be with me.

04:18Because?

04:20He might be tired from work.

04:22Because he's tired.

04:30It's painful to say.

04:32But in a relationship,

04:34you need to understand.

04:36Especially if you're

04:38husband and wife,

04:40you need to understand each other.

04:42Imagine the truck drivers

04:44who drive so far

04:46from Manila to Bicol.

04:48They can't make it home.

04:52What if you always

04:54miss your husband?

04:56It's hard to balance that.

04:58That's why

05:00you need to balance

05:02your understanding.

05:04As a husband,

05:06we always fight.

05:08We always say painful words.

05:10Because?

05:12We always fight.

05:14What do you fight about?

05:16About time.

05:20About time.

05:22You can't accept that

05:24he needs to work

05:26and that time

05:28will be taken away from you.

05:30I can accept that.

05:32He works.

05:34But I feel like

05:36I don't feel love for him anymore.

05:38I feel like

05:40I don't have him anymore.

05:42Because you need to make up for it.

05:44I can understand that

05:46your time will be taken away.

05:48But let's make sure

05:50that even if the time is taken away,

05:52we still have time to spend together.

05:54At least quality time.

05:56Even if the quantity is taken away.

05:58The quality.

06:00If it's your day off,

06:02you can make up for it.

06:04Don't you make up for it?

06:06Yes, but I still go to school.

06:10I go to school in the morning.

06:12And when it's afternoon,

06:14I go straight to work.

06:16Oh, you study at the same time.

06:18Yes.

06:20Yes.

06:22Well, your boyfriend

06:24prioritizes a lot of things.

06:26Which is not bad.

06:28It's good to see

06:30that your boyfriend continues to study.

06:32He studies even if it's hard.

06:34And then he goes to work.

06:36But that's it.

06:38He has little time for you.

07:02you

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