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Getting comfortable with anxiety
chrisworfolkfoundation
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16/06/2024
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00:00
Anxiety often feels completely overwhelming, completely intolerable, it really hurts.
00:06
And so of course we feel like we have to do something, we have to try and make it go away.
00:11
The anxiety feels so bad that we're like, there must be a way to get rid of this,
00:16
because I just can't live like this.
00:19
But the paradox of anxiety is actually if we can stop ourselves from trying to make it go away,
00:26
from trying to control the worry, it often loses some of its power.
00:30
Not all of it, but a lot of it.
00:33
And so what we're talking about here is this idea of acceptance.
00:37
It's not quite simple, of course, of saying, OK, well, I won't worry about it.
00:42
But it can be really useful to remind ourselves, actually, we can tolerate this.
00:47
And if you've had loads of panic attacks over the years,
00:51
it's really useful to remind yourself that you've had all of these panic attacks
00:55
and you've been able to tolerate it and keep going and you've somehow got through it.
00:59
And it was horrible, but you actually did get through it.
01:03
Now, as I've said, this is a model of acceptance used in ACT or acceptance and commitment therapy.
01:09
And ACT says that basically when we fight the anxiety,
01:13
then we're not only having to deal with the anxiety, which we call the clean pain in ACT,
01:20
we've also got an extra layer of pain because we're exhausted from constantly trying to control these feelings,
01:26
to suppress these feelings, to keep these feelings locked down,
01:30
to protect ourselves from the really painful sensations of it.
01:35
But actually, if we can let some of those in, which feels like the scariest thing in the world to do,
01:42
but if we can do that, then actually we start to realise,
01:47
actually, as horrible as this is, I actually can get through this.
01:52
And if I can allow myself to just get through it rather than adding all this extra worry on the top,
01:57
it's actually much more tolerable than when I was trying to block out and control all these feelings
02:03
and telling myself that I couldn't possibly tolerate all of this.
02:08
Now, acceptance is a great route to go down, but it is really hard
02:12
because we've spent so many years trying to suppress all of these horrible feelings,
02:17
so it absolutely takes a lot of practice and ideally the support of a good therapist to go down this route.
02:24
But there is a real power if you are able to develop some acceptance of anxiety,
02:30
then that's ultimately the way to rob it of its power.
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