How to live as Brahm, while being in worldly relations? || Acharya Prashant, on Ribhu Gita (2018)

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00:00So, what is Parameswari saying?

00:21She is saying, Dear Acharyaji, all differences we perceive and all concepts are only thought

00:28forms which is the cause of our sorrow.

00:32To be free, we need to abide in the firm conviction of I am Brahmaself.

00:38This is the only sadhana and meditation prescribed by Ribhu.

00:44I am in family and relationships.

00:45I have my daily routines.

00:47Ribhu has mentioned in one verse about practice of faith.

00:52Kindly tell me with day-to-day simple examples of incidents on how a person who dwells in

00:59the bhavana of I am Brahmaself will respond.

01:03Kindly tell me what is the best sadhana and meditation I can do so that my illusions will

01:08dissolve and I establish in my true nature with love and gratitude, Parameswari.

01:15Very good question, Parameswari and very useful to all the listeners.

01:29Parameswari is saying that she is a householder.

01:33She is in relationships.

01:36She has a family.

01:37She is a worldly woman with a sincere heart.

01:45She is saying, how do I remain in sadhana?

01:52How do I practice my meditation?

01:54Because what Ribhu is saying is that the only meditation is I am Brahmaself.

02:00Parameswari, listen carefully.

02:06I am Brahmaself means I am not limited, right?

02:11I am not limited.

02:12I am not in need.

02:15Because whatsoever is limited would always be in need.

02:17If it is limited, it can be enhanced, increased.

02:22It can be added to.

02:24Are you getting it?

02:30If you are the Brahmaself, then you are not someone who can be enhanced or diminished.

02:40Go into the implications of this.

02:44If you are the Brahmaself, then you don't have to worry about your well-being.

02:52Neither can you be harmed, nor can you be benefited, which means that in your relationships

03:03and in your day-to-day dealings, you will not act as if your own interests are at stake.

03:14That is the implication of living as the Brahmaself in the middle of the world.

03:24You are asking how to be the Brahmaself and still be a worldly woman who has her family,

03:34her relationships and her house to take care of.

03:39We don't take care of our family or relationships.

03:42Ordinarily, we just keep taking care of ourselves.

03:47We may act as if we are very worried about our husband or our son, but are we ever worried

03:52about anybody other than ourselves?

03:57That is because you do not abide as Brahm.

04:02You abide as someone very limited and hence someone very vulnerable.

04:08You never take care of your daughter or your son.

04:11You only have your own personal and petty interests in your mind.

04:17And to make matters worse, you act as if you are talking of others' welfare.

04:23The one who will abide as Brahmaself will only take care of the genuine interests of

04:31the other.

04:33She will not act to fulfill her own little insecurities.

04:45A mother who abides as Brahm will be really a divine mother.

04:52Now the daughter will truly prosper.

04:58And a father who does not abide as the Brahmaself will be a very dangerous father because he

05:05will ask his son to do things that the father likes, not things that are really good for

05:13the son.

05:18Do you now see why there is so much conflict in the world and why relationships are a hell?

05:26Because we are related to the other as incomplete people, not as Brahm.

05:35We go to the other to latch on to the other.

05:38We go to the other to be dependent on the other or to make the other dependent on ourselves.

05:44We go to the other so that some of our expectations can be fulfilled.

05:51If you abide in the Brahmaself, can you ever use the other to fulfill your personal desires?

05:58Please tell me.

06:00If you abide as Brahma, would you ever use your husband or your father or your daughter

06:07or your son to fulfill your personal expectations?

06:10No, you will not do that.

06:12Then you will genuinely ask, what is really in the interest of the other person?

06:18What is really in my wife's or husband's or son's interest?

06:23And you will do only that.

06:24And do you know what is the only welfare that you can bring to the ones related to you?

06:32Bring them unconditional freedom.

06:35That is the only duty of husband, wife, father or mother or a friend or a neighbor or anybody.

06:45That is the only way you can be truly related to the other.

06:50Bring freedom to the other.

06:51Bring joy to the other.

06:53And that is also the only definition of love.

06:55When you are concerned not about yourself but about the welfare of the other, only then

07:01you can say that you love.

07:03Otherwise you are just a parasite.

07:05Otherwise you are just trying to extract your pound of flesh.

07:13Brahma does not extract any flesh from anybody.

07:17Brahma does not say, I gave you birth, so now you do what I am asking you to do.

07:23Brahma says, to really give birth is to give freedom.

07:28And if I cannot give you freedom, then I am very dangerous for you.

07:36That is why abiding as Brahma is even more necessary in a family.

07:44Someone who is living in isolation, if at all he can live in isolation, is at least

07:50not dangerous for many people.

07:52Why?

07:53Because he is in isolation.

07:55But if you are in a family, then you are related to 10 people.

07:59And those 10 people include many vulnerable ones also.

08:03A little kid is there, an old parent is there, a diseased neighbour is there, or someone

08:12who is emotionally attached to you is there.

08:16And you are not abiding as Brahma, so who are you?

08:19Someone who is afraid and someone who must first take care of his own insecurities and

08:24interests.

08:26So what will you do then?

08:28What will you do to these 10 people?

08:29How will you use them?

08:31If you are internally insecure and there are 10 people around you, what will you do with

08:35them?

08:36Tell me, what will you do with them?

08:40You will just use them for your own selfish interests.

08:44And that is what 99.9% of parents do, and husbands do, and people do, and wives do.

08:54Because they are not complete within themselves.

08:56And this completeness is called the Brahmabhau.

08:59Because they do not abide as Brahm.

09:01So they just use anybody they come upon or come across to fill their internal hollow.

09:10Get a husband so that he can be exploited.

09:12Get a wife so that she can be consumed.

09:17Have sons so that later on you can pile upon them.

09:24Have daughters so that later on you can tell them that you get married as per our choice

09:31and you live a life of our decision.

09:39You know who does all these things?

09:41Such things are done only by those who have not lived spiritual lives.

09:48People who are averse to spirituality will be very exploitative, violent, and dangerous

10:01for everybody including themselves.

10:08Unless a wife lives as the Brahma self, the husband's life will be hellish.

10:20Unless the father lives as the Brahma self, he will keep torturing the son.

10:38Look at your lives, honestly, and ask yourself, do you really want the other's welfare?

10:48Or is it just that whenever you are talking of the other's welfare, you are only looking

10:55to extend your own desires through the other?

11:00Through the other.

11:01The other is just a means, the other is just a medium.

11:05And what are your own desires?

11:06Are they pure desires?

11:07Are they desires for liberation?

11:10No.

11:11Your own desires are very corrupted desires.

11:14And now you want to load your son with the same desires.

11:18Do you call this love?

11:23Are you a loving parent?

11:24Are you a loving husband?

11:25Are you a loving uncle?

11:27No.

11:28But you still have the mouth and the balls to keep talking.

11:31And not only keep talking, keep claiming loudly that my son is not listening to me

11:37or my husband is not listening to me.

11:40Why should they listen to you?

11:41To get exploited?

11:42To become a victim of your own securities?

11:49Are you really giving them sagely advice?

11:53And if you are giving them sagely advice, why would they not listen?

12:00And if they still do not listen, in spite of your advice being sagely, then leave them.

12:05Maybe their time has not arrived.

12:08One day they will return to you.

12:11Are you getting it?

12:16Parameshwari, living as Brahm self does not mean that you just drop the world, renounce

12:26everything, recede to a corner and keep chanting.

12:31Drop all those images.

12:33Living as Brahm self means living with fullness in this world that seeks to make you feel

12:47little mean, petty and incomplete all the time.

12:57The society, prakriti, religion, education, the bombardment of the media, they all can

13:10potentially make you feel so small.

13:19Living as Brahm means living in the middle of all that bombardment and yet retaining

13:26one's inherent fullness.

13:29You cannot make me feel little.

13:34You cannot make me feel complexed.

13:43I am neither inferior nor superior.

13:49You cannot turn me neurotic.

13:54You cannot pass on your own insecurities to me.

14:00You cannot make me inherit your rotten life.

14:06That is what it means to live as Brahm.

14:12I will not be belittled and because I am not belittled, now I am so much and so big that

14:26I will give.

14:29The one who lives as Brahm gives, gives abundantly and gives unconditionally.

14:39What else will you do when you have so much?

14:41You can only distribute and distribute without expectations.

14:46One mark of the person who is petty and mean and not spiritual is that he keeps expecting,

14:52please do this, please do that.

14:56He feels that the entire world is there just to fulfill his expectations.

15:00Of course he has no handle, no control on the entire world.

15:04So he wants to control those who are dependent on him.

15:07You are my wife, you do what I say.

15:09You are my daughter, you must follow my instructions.

15:13You are my son, you must do my bidding.

15:20When you abide as the Brahma self, you have no expectations left for yourself because

15:26you are already supreme, already at the peak.

15:31Now you can only give.

15:36Now even if you have expectations, those expectations are for the other's welfare, not your own.

15:43You say I have arrived, I have retired, I am peaceful and complete.

15:47My story has ended.

15:50If I am alive now, my only objective is that your story too must end.

15:56I am now not breathing for my personal pleasure.

16:00Now I am breathing so that your breath does not go waste.

16:11If you want to be a good wife, be a Brahma wife.

16:15If you want to be a good lover, be a Brahma lover.

16:19If you want to be a good husband, be a Brahma husband.

16:27Brahma husband is called a Bhasband.

16:36No more hubby, call him bhabhi.

16:41Only then would there be peace in the family.

16:43If he is hubby, then there would only be quarrels.

16:48He must be bhabhi.

16:52Now peace.

16:55No more lover, lover.

17:04And baby should be baby, Brahma baby.

17:09Now it's all right, otherwise baby is very dangerous.

17:17Getting hit.

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