Doing This Will Change Your Life | Lisa Nichols - video Dailymotion

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Lisa Nichol's delivers a powerful speech about escaping from an abusive, broken relationship and finding wholeness within herself.

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00:00 In my perceivingly worst relationship

00:02 where my fiance picked me up and threw me three feet across the room

00:06 and choked me until I passed out.

00:07 When I can figure out the purpose of that relationship

00:11 now I can bring Lisa 100% fully forth

00:14 so that my next doesn't pay for my ex.

00:17 Because until you are complete and whole in some of those answers

00:21 you're trying to avoid them in the future.

00:24 Until you can be whole and complete with them.

00:26 It's purposeful.

00:28 Any relationship you're no longer in

00:30 is either purposeful or life-giving.

00:33 Figure out which one and figure out what it gave you.

00:35 What life did it give you?

00:36 What purpose did it fulfill?

00:37 And then move on into your breathtaking future.

00:39 That someone's gonna cross your path tomorrow,

00:42 next week,

00:44 next year

00:46 and they need the love that you have.

00:48 But in order for them to get it

00:50 you need to fill your cup up

00:52 and you need to be in overflow

00:54 because you can't love them from your cup.

00:56 You gotta always love them from your saucer.

00:58 Yes, because when you love them from your saucer

01:03 you never ever run out.

01:04 You never love on an empty tank.

01:06 Love never hurts.

01:08 A lot of times when love is hurting

01:09 it's because you haven't given you everything you need yet

01:12 and you're trying to give other people what you still need.

01:15 You're trying to give them your oxygen

01:17 which is why you're sitting around going

01:18 "Hurry up!"

01:22 "I never made it to Broadway so this is my best damn stage."

01:27 So, and so recognizing

01:29 that when you love from your overflow

01:32 that's the most responsible thing that you could do

01:36 and that the greatest love

01:39 that you can ever give the world

01:41 is the demonstration of what loving you looks like.

01:45 She can give herself a thousand second chances

01:47 and I can give myself one more

01:49 and if he can give himself another chance

01:51 if he can get up after that financial fall

01:53 if he can get up after that divorce

01:55 if she can get up after that breakup

01:56 if he can get back up after having to leave his children

01:59 if she can get back up after having that child

02:01 and she can define herself

02:02 then what can I do?

02:04 And so your demonstration of how madly in love with you you are

02:08 helps me to recognize how madly in love with me I get to be

02:13 and then when I love myself enough

02:14 then all my extra just oozes over onto you.

02:17 And when you let your light shine like that

02:22 because you've fallen in love with you

02:24 all of a sudden you get in the corner

02:26 and that light for a moment brightens up someone's momentary darkness

02:30 and then you've been a blessing to someone else.

02:32 Humanity starts with somebody.

02:34 Humanity is the sister at the grocery store.

02:38 Humanity is the black man that's walking down the street

02:41 who looks like he can use a hello and a smile.

02:43 Humanity is the Asian woman who's in the corner

02:46 who can use some love.

02:47 Humanity is the white man who's in the corner

02:50 who might not say hi to me

02:51 but if he sees love on my face

02:52 then he knows that I mean him no harm.

02:54 I'm his sister.

02:55 Humanity is each one of us.

02:57 I want to love the journey and I want to feel the journey

03:00 and in order for my yes to have value

03:02 my no needs to be said

03:04 and I want to exercise my no and my yes.

03:06 I want to dance until my knees hurt.

03:08 I want to stay awake until I doze off in the middle of a sentence

03:11 because the conversation is so good.

03:13 You know, I want to laugh until my belly aches.

03:16 I want to sleep until the sun wakes me up.

03:18 I want to find out what does my song sound like even off-key.

03:23 I want my heart to skip a beat

03:25 and I want my stomach to turn in knots

03:28 because he just took my breath away by the way he looked at me.

03:31 I don't want to miss a moment of this life called love

03:34 but every time I look in the mirror at Lisa

03:37 I want to look at her and I want to say

03:40 God, I love walking with you.

03:42 I love holding your hand.

03:44 I love this journey and I'm proud.

03:46 I'm proud of the way you wear imperfection.

03:50 And so I say that love starts with self-love.

03:55 [Music]

Doing This Will Change Your Life | Lisa Nichols

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