Meet the co-parents who go on holiday together with their kids, text all day but don't touch
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Meet the co-parents who go on holiday together with their kids, text all day and have an “open policy” at each other’s homes - but don't touch.
Kodye Elyse, 35, and her former partner, Brian, 38, split in August 2018 after their marriage “turned into roommates”.
The pair have two daughters – aged eight and 10 – and a six-year-old son and were both dedicated to giving their children an “easy transition” following their divorce.
Kodye said it took her and Brian, a national sales director, time to gain their “respect” back for each other.
But they are now “close” and spend Christmas, birthdays and family holidays together.
They will take day trips as a family such as going to the ‘pumpkin patch’ and have dinner all together.
The parents live separately but have an “open policy” at each other’s homes – but say they would always give each other a text to say they were coming over.
Kodye and Brian still set boundaries – such as not sleeping over at each other’s house unless in an emergency – and are both not currently dating.
The mum-of-three still wants her ex to find someone knew and says the “right person will fit into our family”.
Kodye, a content creator, from Los Angeles, California, US, said: “We’re both focused on raising our kids.
“Our friendship is the number one thing in their lives – it comes before dating.
“Vacations are core memories for our kids, so we want to be there together with them.
“We get an Airbnb so we can have separate rooms.
“We have an open-door policy – he’s always welcome here.
“But I don’t just hang out with him – I hang out with him and the kids.
“People online think we must still be hooking up.
“People don’t believe men and women can just be friends.
“None of that is true – we’re just good friends.”
Kodye and Brian hit it off when they met in 2006 and tied the knot in June 2011 before starting a family.
But the couple grew apart and decided to split in August 2018.
Kodye said: “We had a lot of common young couple issues.
“You turn into a different person.
“We turned into roommates.”
The couple made ground rules straight away after separating.
Kodye said: “We said no introducing other partners to kids before partner – and not until you’ve been seeing a long time.
“No talking badly about the other in front of the kids and no fighting in front of them.
“We wanted the kids to have an easy transition.”
Kodye said her and Brian have been “slowly progressing” their co-parenting but both felt it was important the kids got to still go on their annual holiday.
She said: “We never saw why the kids should miss out on that just because we are not married.
“We go to the mountains and to the beach in the summer.”
They have an “open policy” at each other’s houses but say they don’t just “hang out” without the kids.
Kodye said: “We have our individual lives."
“We’re still divorced.
Kodye Elyse, 35, and her former partner, Brian, 38, split in August 2018 after their marriage “turned into roommates”.
The pair have two daughters – aged eight and 10 – and a six-year-old son and were both dedicated to giving their children an “easy transition” following their divorce.
Kodye said it took her and Brian, a national sales director, time to gain their “respect” back for each other.
But they are now “close” and spend Christmas, birthdays and family holidays together.
They will take day trips as a family such as going to the ‘pumpkin patch’ and have dinner all together.
The parents live separately but have an “open policy” at each other’s homes – but say they would always give each other a text to say they were coming over.
Kodye and Brian still set boundaries – such as not sleeping over at each other’s house unless in an emergency – and are both not currently dating.
The mum-of-three still wants her ex to find someone knew and says the “right person will fit into our family”.
Kodye, a content creator, from Los Angeles, California, US, said: “We’re both focused on raising our kids.
“Our friendship is the number one thing in their lives – it comes before dating.
“Vacations are core memories for our kids, so we want to be there together with them.
“We get an Airbnb so we can have separate rooms.
“We have an open-door policy – he’s always welcome here.
“But I don’t just hang out with him – I hang out with him and the kids.
“People online think we must still be hooking up.
“People don’t believe men and women can just be friends.
“None of that is true – we’re just good friends.”
Kodye and Brian hit it off when they met in 2006 and tied the knot in June 2011 before starting a family.
But the couple grew apart and decided to split in August 2018.
Kodye said: “We had a lot of common young couple issues.
“You turn into a different person.
“We turned into roommates.”
The couple made ground rules straight away after separating.
Kodye said: “We said no introducing other partners to kids before partner – and not until you’ve been seeing a long time.
“No talking badly about the other in front of the kids and no fighting in front of them.
“We wanted the kids to have an easy transition.”
Kodye said her and Brian have been “slowly progressing” their co-parenting but both felt it was important the kids got to still go on their annual holiday.
She said: “We never saw why the kids should miss out on that just because we are not married.
“We go to the mountains and to the beach in the summer.”
They have an “open policy” at each other’s houses but say they don’t just “hang out” without the kids.
Kodye said: “We have our individual lives."
“We’re still divorced.