#467. Who are you when no one is watching?

Name: #467. Who are you when no one is watching?
Uploaded: 2025-08-08T23:58:19+00:00
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Channel: Alesha Peterson

Alesha Peterson

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Originally uploaded: October 29th, 2023

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Who are you when no one is watching?

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00:00Hi, my name is Alicia and if this is your first time visiting my channel, welcome!

00:19So this video is called, Who are you when nobody is watching?

00:24And this is kind of a spin-off of my protective bubble series.

00:28I didn't want to keep making a part 4 and a part 5, so I sort of made a whole new video.

00:35Hey Cicada, how you doing?

00:37Who are you when nobody is watching?

00:39In fact, I'm going to pull the B. Mark Fit quote again, so you can remember.

00:49Everyone sees the Lambeau, the mansion, but what you don't see is the 3am wake up times,

00:5512 to 15 hour work days, 5 days in a row for 5 years straight.

00:59It's the work behind the scenes that puts him in the spotlight.

01:02A real champion puts in the work when the lights are off.

01:06And I know they say you want to be successful, but one question, who are you when no one is watching?

01:12So, I've been to a couple of events, like I volunteered at Indiana Fashion Week and volunteer different places, go different places.

01:23And people always ask me, how did I get my numbers on YouTube?

01:27And I keep telling people I struggled for 10 years, I wasn't getting views for a long time, and I kept posting content, right?

01:40Now, I do a lot of things behind closed doors, and I have always done a lot of things behind closed doors.

01:46And it's the work that you do behind the scenes, you know, nobody's giving you accolades, nobody's giving you attention, nobody's giving you credit.

01:54That's where it really counts, like how disciplined are you to keep up your work, even when you're not seeing results,

02:00even when you're not getting anywhere, even when your friends and family and everyone is bashing you and talking about you can't do it.

02:07How much are you willing to still stick with it, even if it's not working out?

02:14Like for instance, for fitness, I've been working out for over 20 years.

02:20And of course, I've had to doing this, I had to start doing this start, stop, start, stop, start, stop thing,

02:27because health issues technically started at 15, didn't realize I had health issues at 15, had to start having surgeries at 25.

02:36So it gets a little complicated, but again, as much as I can, I have a consistent workout plan.

02:44And the question is, will you work out regardless of how you feel?

02:50So when you set your alarm, do you sleep through your alarm or do you get up?

02:55When it's raining outside, would you rather stay in your blanket, in your heated blanket, or would you get up and go work out?

03:05I work out even when I don't feel like it. I don't do it on surgery days, of course, but there's days where, no, I don't want to work out,

03:13but I make myself work out because it's a part of my routine. I feel weird when I don't work out.

03:20Hey buddy, how are you?

03:22Hey baby, somebody needs to kiss you on your hip.

03:26And somebody needs to hit back.

03:28But anyways, will you work out even if you don't have somebody telling you to?

03:33The bigger question is, can you discipline yourself?

03:36I can't emphasize that enough.

03:39And integrity is what you do when nobody is watching.

03:46How many people out here, you know, talk shit behind somebody's back, but then when they get in their face, they're all like, hey, fake, right?

03:56I have always wanted someone to trust growing up and someone to talk to without somebody talking shit behind my back and I quite never had that safety.

04:09So I've always made a promise that I will never talk shit behind somebody's back.

04:15If I have something to say to somebody, I will go to them directly.

04:18And so that's my way of holding myself to that standard.

04:22If I can't go to that person, I'm not going to tell A, B, C, D.

04:26I'm going to go directly to E and say, hey, we need to talk.

04:29So who are you when nobody is watching?

04:32Dr. Phil said a quote, you know, past behavior predicts future behavior.

04:39Hey doggy, how you doing?

04:42Hello.

04:43As you can tell, I'm a huge animal person.

04:46Anyways, um, past behavior predicts future behavior.

04:53If you're gossiping about people, you're going to continue to gossip about people.

04:59You're going to continue to talk about people behind your back.

05:03And so people like that, I don't trust.

05:05So that's integrity.

05:07And that's a point that I always bring up.

05:11Who are you when nobody's watching?

05:14Can you go to that person and talk to them about the problem?

05:18Or do you go to everybody else?

05:20Who are you when nobody's watching?

05:23So, so far, that's all I have to say.

05:27I wasn't going to make this video super over long.

05:31But I feel like people have been asking me how I'm doing, how have I done this and how I've done that.

05:38It basically boils down to a couple of things.

05:41Being disciplined, not letting people talk me out of it.

05:46Because you have to remember, what people see in you, and they don't have it, they hate.

05:55So, if you find yourself around people that are kind of trying to talk you out of your dreams or being haters, cut them out as quickly as you can.

06:04Because remember, what they see in you is what they hate.

06:10And they wish they had.

06:12And what basically jealousy is, in some sense, is wishing they could be more like you.

06:17So just keep that in mind.

06:19So, discipline, ignoring the haters, keep putting in the work even when it's not working out, and doing the work even when no one is watching.

06:33And I'm back.

06:34I lied.

06:35So, this is kind of like a couple of bonus things that popped up in my mind.

06:48Delayed gratification.

06:50Like, can you resist the impulse to accept a current reward and hold yourself until you can get a later reward?

06:59And I'm going to give you a couple of examples.

07:02So, until I reached my goals, I decided to stop posting on Facebook and Snapchat.

07:08And I love my friends, but when I was seeing all these posts on Facebook, I would be spending hours, right?

07:15I'm like, the hours that I spend liking photos and viewing Snapchat stories, I could build a business and I could make my YouTube channels grow.

07:26And to me, social media is like a highlight reel of everybody's best.

07:31And I'm not saying air your dirty laundry, but a lot of people just want to put their best out there, but they don't really show the reality behind their life.

07:39And so, that's why I'm not really into comparing and trying to keep up with people because that's just the highlight reel.

07:47They're not posting real life stuff on there unless they're just for real type people.

07:54I have friends who post their vacations.

07:57They post where they're checking in.

07:59And a lot of my friends and family will notice that I don't post on Facebook all the time.

08:05And this is a way of disciplining myself because I feel like, hey, if I could discipline myself in this area, it'll be easy for me to discipline myself in multiple areas.

08:15So that's one thing I personally do is I will not do something until I do something else first.

08:23So, for instance, I decided to miss a couple events and work on YouTube instead because I have procedures coming up and so I wanted to work on a bunch of YouTube videos and prepare my channels.

08:39And some people might say, you know, Alicia, you give yourself a break.

08:42I'm like, no, I will feel a peace of mind knowing that my content is being published despite how I feel because I've told you all this in multiple videos.

08:54I can't trust people.

08:56I would I would never ask anybody else to try to do this for me.

09:00So I spend my weekend sometime recording multiple videos to post on my various channels.

09:09So my YouTubes are straight.

09:11So I don't have to worry about anything.

09:14I may or may not post a screenshot of one of my YouTube channels.

09:19I don't know.

09:20I haven't decided.

09:21If you see the screenshot, you'll see it.

09:23If you don't, you don't.

09:24So.

09:25Delayed gratification, having discipline, and work ethic.

09:42And just keep on keeping on.

09:52Yeah.

09:53And remember to like with the keep on keeping on.

09:59What people hate you is missing in them.

10:04I said something about that in the first clip.

10:08But you have to almost think the more haters you attract, the better off you are.

10:19You know you're going places if you have a lot of haters.

10:24You will probably get on this journey and think, well, damn, like you want because it's human nature to want to be liked and want to have support.

10:32And I felt that at different periods.

10:34But then when I realized I was on a different wavelength, a different page than most of my peers, I just got used to it.

10:43I got used to people not showing up, not being there.

10:46And so it's kind of like my default mode now.

10:49It's like, hey, listen, I would love support, but I'm not going to make, I'm not going to make people be in my life.

10:55I'm not going to make people come.

10:56I'm not going to force people onto my businesses or products or my music.

11:02Whatever is meant for me is going to be meant for me and it's going to come easily and naturally.

11:08And that's how I approach it.

11:10So those are just a couple of other things I thought of as I was getting ready to put up my camera and actually edit the video.

11:21I was like, maybe those are a couple of other tidbits that I could add in there.

11:26So just additional thoughts.

11:29Mikaela might want to say something too.

11:32Cool.

11:37Another example in my old school circles, one of my nicknames and when I get around some of them sometime today is Tequila Alicia.

11:50I like tequila, but lately I haven't been drinking it because I just don't feel that good.

11:57And I don't drink it when I'm taking medications prescribed to me by doctors.

12:04And I just simply stopped drinking it for a couple of years because I just want to discipline myself.

12:10And the question is, I think I saw this on like a YouTube video.

12:16Could you give up something that you like, like a drink that you like, if it meant you getting financial freedom and successes that are beyond your dreams?

12:25I was like, heck yeah, it's no problem.

12:28And I have to be really honest.

12:31I love bars, but when I'm in my hometown of Indy, I really don't go to them anymore because I want to go with people I trust.

12:42And I think some of it is just me getting older, been there, done that, and you don't care anymore.

12:49But some of it is I just don't trust people.

12:53And I only want to go out with people that I trust.

12:58So I'm not saying I don't trust anyone, but it just takes me a long time and I don't trust easily.

13:06And so I'm just kind of at the point when I go out, I want to go and be with people I trust.

13:13And you know how you just don't care if you miss out, you know, you don't have FOMO, you can like other friends' photos on social media and not feel bad if you didn't get invited.

13:28I'm just at that point where it's like, I'm happy they got to go and they got to experience it, but I don't care if I experience it or not.

13:36And this is kind of like a different point that I'm bringing up in this video, but who are you when nobody's watching?

13:48But who are you when no one's around to?

13:54Two. So if no one is around you and you had to get the discipline to do things on your own and knowing that it's not going to get done unless you do it.

14:09Could you step it up and do it?

14:14Oh, hey boo.

14:24If you don't have anyone, you know, clapping for you and you don't have a little support group or anybody having your back, could you still rise to the occasion?

14:40And this is going to be the last example I come up with and I'm going to really turn this off.

14:48Okay, so if the dog makes any more noise, we're just going to go with it.

14:53My mom is on several boards and she said she worked with this lady who really didn't trust people because she really didn't tell any of them what was going on because she saw how bad it was.

15:05Long story cut short. And my mom was like, oh, she probably could have trusted people.

15:11I get where that lady is coming from because I've been on a couple organizations and their boards and I also don't trust people because people say they're going to help you, but they might see you as weak and talk about you and talk about your incompetent because I actually had that happen to me.

15:32And after those experiences, I said, you know what, since asking for help made me and makes me look weak, stupid, incompetent, how about I just don't do as much of it and just be even more careful about who I trust and open up to?

15:52Because I'm just going to be honest and I'm not trying to make this a race thing, but being a black woman in the United States of America, there is just so much more of a higher standard put on you.

16:05And if you make a mistake, you'll be punished, you know, way more for it and being on the receiving end of that many times in my life.

16:16I just think it makes me more self disciplined to do stuff on my own without seeking outside help.

16:26And I know that can be bad in some instances, but it's to me of my life experiences just tells me I can't trust people.

16:34And so I'm going to have to do this myself.

16:36So as far as I'm concerned, who am I when nobody is watching?

16:41I'm somebody who is self motivated, self disciplined.

16:45I keep my work ethic in check.

16:47I really felt like at a lot of periods of my life, I couldn't trust people.

16:54And to a certain extent, to this day, as I make this video, I still don't trust a lot of people like I trust my mom.

17:00But other than that, like, I'm not going to go out and ask for help.

17:05Like I probably should be able to, but I won't.

17:08I'm just being here for real.