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00:00Pranam Acharya Ji
00:02Sir my question is
00:05related to attachment
00:07Sir like I find
00:09myself sometime dwelling
00:11on to dearment
00:13or attachment towards
00:15people like important people
00:17in my life and then
00:19there is a constant war inside me
00:21with my emotion
00:23and logic so my logic says that no
00:25this is not the way
00:26it should function and then
00:29sometimes even
00:30if I am watching a video
00:34your video if I am reading
00:35I am not able to focus and I am not able
00:38to grasp what it is
00:40trying to say so how to
00:42come out of this zone I mean
00:43sometimes it happens quite frequently
00:46and then I
00:48just remind myself that no no
00:49I don't have to do like that
00:51but then it doesn't help sometimes
00:54let's say
00:56there is a kid in the family right
00:57and the kid
01:00the entire year is
01:03showing up
01:04with a report card
01:07from the school
01:07and the report card
01:11continuously says
01:12A A plus
01:12A A plus
01:13every two months
01:16there is an assessment
01:17and the kid comes up
01:19and shows the card
01:20and the card
01:21looks just glorious
01:23and so you have a certain
01:27attitude towards the kid
01:28right
01:29you give importance to that kid
01:32then
01:32correct
01:33right
01:35and then
01:38when the final exams
01:45are over
01:50you in your exuberance
01:53in anticipation that the result
01:55will again be great
01:56you decide not to wait for the report card
01:59you decide to go to the school yourself
02:03and meet the class teacher
02:05and get the report card personally
02:08and you go to the school
02:12and you meet the
02:13meet the class teacher
02:15and you say
02:17well I am
02:18let's name the kid
02:20let's name the kid
02:23something
02:24the kid's name is
02:27why don't I get random names
02:33all randomness has gone
02:35you know
02:35Geetha is in front of you
02:36name the kid
02:38Mukhiya
02:40so the kid is
02:42that's a strange name for a kid
02:44give me
02:46give me a tolerable name
02:49Champak
02:51so
02:54so you
02:55you go to the class teacher
02:56and you say
02:57I am Champak's
02:59Didi
02:59and
03:02I have come to personally
03:03collect the card
03:04and the class teacher says
03:08are you sure you are
03:10his Didi
03:11the elder sister
03:13because
03:14till this day
03:15he was
03:16displaying somebody else
03:18as his
03:19Didi
03:19because we used to
03:24ask him every month
03:26to bring his parents
03:28and elders to us
03:29and every month
03:32he would bring people to us
03:33the entire family
03:34and the entire family
03:35would consist of a lady
03:36he would introduce to us
03:38as his Didi
03:38and that's not you
03:39who are you
03:40and somehow you convince them
03:43that you are in fact
03:44the certified Didi
03:46and he hands over the card to you
03:51and the card
03:54somehow is all
03:55in red ink
03:57from the first place
04:00till the last
04:01C-D
04:04D-
04:05Z-
04:06you collect the card
04:12and you go back
04:13and the kid
04:15and the kid
04:15Champak
04:17is sitting there
04:20all puffed up
04:20because he is the
04:22apple of the family's eye
04:25everybody
04:27gives great importance
04:29to whatever he says
04:30because he is not just
04:32the class topper
04:33he is the school topper
04:34he is the galaxy topper
04:35he is everything
04:36that a kid can be
04:38you give him great importance
04:39if he says
04:41I want a
04:42new geometry box
04:44you get him
04:44five boxes
04:45imported boxes
04:47he says
04:50I want
04:52a pair of
04:53socks
04:54you get him
04:56five pair of shoes
04:57that's the kind of
04:59importance
04:59you give to Champak
05:00and now you go back
05:03with that
05:04red thing
05:06in your hands
05:06what is the importance
05:08that you now give to Champak
05:09very less importance
05:16no there
05:18was a
05:19wise woman
05:19in the neighborhood
05:20who was cautioning you
05:22since an entire year
05:23you know
05:24this Champak fellow
05:25is no good
05:25you drill some sense
05:29into him
05:29all the time
05:31he is chasing
05:31all the kids around
05:32especially girls
05:33and
05:33still your family
05:35just patronizes him
05:38all the time
05:39and were you listening
05:40to the aunt
05:41from the neighborhood
05:42no
05:44right
05:45even if
05:47the lady would give
05:48logic
05:48your emotions
05:49would quarrel
05:50with her logic
05:51correct
05:51even if she would
05:52present some proof
05:53still your emotions
05:55for Champak
05:56will not accept
05:58the proof
05:58correct
05:58because you were
06:01according a certain
06:02importance
06:03to Champak
06:04based on
06:05your assessment
06:08of his reality
06:09and your assessment
06:13was based on the
06:14proof he was
06:14furnishing you
06:15and he very well
06:19knew that
06:19your assessment
06:20of who Champak
06:21is depends on
06:22the proof
06:22that he himself
06:23furnishes you
06:24so is the problem
06:27about the clash
06:30between emotion
06:31and logic
06:33or is the problem
06:35about the very
06:36fundamentals
06:37of assessment
06:38of importance
06:38fundamentals
06:42we do not know
06:44who to accord
06:45importance to
06:46correct
06:47and importance
06:48is being
06:49accorded
06:49totally on
06:50forged documents
06:51the moment
06:54you know
06:55his reality
06:56the importance
06:56is gone
06:57and the inner
06:58clash
06:58should I be
07:00attached to
07:00this person
07:01should I not
07:01be attached
07:01to this person
07:02all that inner
07:03conflict is resolved
07:04immediately
07:04right
07:05so the real
07:06problem is not
07:07attachment
07:08the real problem
07:10is
07:11accordance
07:13of importance
07:14if you can
07:17know what is
07:18infinitely
07:19important
07:20I say please
07:21be attached
07:22to that
07:22attachment
07:24is not a
07:24problem
07:25the problem
07:26is being
07:27attached
07:27to something
07:28totally unworthy
07:28and worth
07:31is something
07:31that has to
07:32be assessed
07:33through facts
07:34because you
07:36went to the
07:37class teacher
07:38therefore the
07:39worth was
07:39revealed to
07:40you
07:40and facts
07:42will never
07:43be revealed
07:44if you live
07:45in belief
07:45if you continue
07:47to believe
07:48champak
07:48you will never
07:49know facts
07:50that's the
07:50problem with
07:51belief
07:51don't believe
07:55check out
07:55the facts
07:56if you are
07:58attached to
07:58someone check
07:59out the facts
08:00of their
08:01importance
08:02do they
08:03really deserve
08:04that kind of
08:04importance
08:05check out the
08:06facts go to
08:07their school
08:07talk to their
08:08class teacher
08:08you know what
08:09I mean right
08:10I am dealing
08:10in symbols
08:11yes do they
08:15really deserve
08:16the position
08:16you are giving
08:17him just think
08:18of how you
08:18used to think
08:19of champak
08:20and now that
08:21you have seen
08:22his report
08:25how do you
08:26now look at
08:27him now has
08:28not the entire
08:28face changed
08:29have not the
08:32entire face
08:33changed
08:33earlier if
08:37no sound was
08:37coming from
08:38champak's room
08:38what would
08:40you imagine
08:40that he is
08:44studying
08:44that he is
08:45studying now
08:46upon the same
08:49occurrence you
08:50would immediately
08:50know that the
08:51fellow is up to
08:52some mischief
08:53so even your
08:56experience
08:57depends on
08:59your assumption
09:00earlier when
09:03no sound
09:03used to come
09:04from champak's
09:05room your
09:05experience used
09:06to be great
09:07oh my god
09:08such a great
09:09kid brother I
09:10have he is
09:10studying even
09:11at midnight
09:13that's why there
09:14is no sound
09:15and he has
09:16bolted the
09:17door from
09:18inside
09:18now having
09:20seen his
09:21report card
09:21you know he
09:22is cooking
09:23something fishy
09:24inside
09:24and that's
09:26why the
09:26room is
09:27locked from
09:27inside
09:28now you
09:30will rather
09:30call the
09:30fire brigade
09:31and break
09:31open
09:32you know
09:34having known
09:35now what
09:36kind of
09:36a disease
09:38you are
09:38I just
09:40cannot trust
09:41you
09:41that's what
09:44we don't
09:45know the
09:45facts
09:46we live in
09:46fancies
09:47in relationship
09:50that's a
09:52major problem
09:52once you
09:53are related
09:54to someone
09:54you totally
09:55lose sight
09:56of their
09:56reality
09:57and losing
10:01sight reminds
10:03me of
10:03Dhritarashtra
10:04what to do
10:07his blindness
10:09is not just
10:10symbolic
10:10being attached
10:12to Duryodhana
10:13he totally
10:14lost sight
10:15of the facts
10:16of Duryodhana
10:17totally
10:17just lost
10:18it
10:19it doesn't
10:22matter
10:22whether you
10:22are attached
10:23to a son
10:24a daughter
10:25father
10:26mother
10:27friend
10:28or a husband
10:30or a wife
10:31or a lover
10:31it doesn't
10:32matter
10:32or a dog
10:33doesn't matter
10:34it's just
10:37coincidental
10:38that I
10:38placed
10:39lover
10:39very
10:40proximate
10:40to the
10:40dog
10:41I don't
10:41mean
10:41anything
10:42I mean
10:47people
10:47will
10:48unnecessarily
10:49accuse me
10:49of
10:50verbal
10:51insinuation
10:52things can
10:54happen
10:54randomly
10:55can't
10:55they
10:55so
10:56excuse
10:58me
10:58we totally
11:01lose sight
11:02of
11:03the kind
11:05of person
11:06the chap
11:06is
11:07what
11:10what
11:11exists
11:11is the
11:12relationship
11:12the person
11:13disappears
11:14from the
11:15inner radar
11:16we just
11:19never evaluate
11:20what kind
11:21of persons
11:22are we
11:23related to
11:23we simply
11:26say oh
11:26but he's
11:27my father
11:27hello
11:29that's okay
11:30that's okay
11:30we acknowledge
11:31that
11:31but can
11:33we evaluate
11:33the person
11:34he is
11:35objectively
11:36have you
11:39tried to
11:39look at
11:39his business
11:40transactions
11:40have you
11:41tried to
11:41talk to
11:42his colleagues
11:43have you
11:45tried to
11:45assess
11:46who he
11:47really is
11:48or the
11:50mother
11:50or the
11:51wife
11:51or anybody
11:52attachment
11:55is not
11:55a problem
11:55attachment
11:58involves
12:00one thing
12:01at least
12:02that is
12:02quite great
12:03which is
12:03proximity
12:04if you
12:06are attached
12:07to
12:07let's say
12:09the author
12:09of the
12:10Gita
12:10what can
12:11be more
12:12auspicious
12:12than that
12:13what can
12:16be more
12:17auspicious
12:17than that
12:17you get
12:19attached to
12:19him
12:19he will
12:20dissolve
12:20the
12:20attachment
12:20that's
12:23okay
12:23you are
12:25getting
12:25attached
12:25just to
12:26the right
12:26person
12:26you get
12:27attached
12:28he
12:29devours
12:29the
12:29attachment
12:30cool
12:30but we
12:31get
12:32attached
12:33specifically
12:33to people
12:34who will
12:34only
12:35strengthen
12:35the
12:36attachment
12:36and that's
12:38one of
12:39the very
12:40important
12:41proofs
12:42of the
12:42person
12:42being
12:43unworthy
12:44it's
12:47worth
12:48that is
12:48important
12:49assess
12:49the
12:49importance
12:50assess
12:52the
12:52importance
12:53and if
12:53you have
12:54been
12:54wise
12:54enough
12:55discreet
12:56enough
12:56or simply
12:58lucky
12:58enough
12:58to have
13:00the right
13:01person
13:01in your
13:01life
13:02then continue
13:04to remain
13:04attached
13:04but
13:08assess
13:08them
13:08and assess
13:09them
13:09well
13:09objectively
13:10with
13:12truth
13:12at your
13:13core
13:14you don't
13:16want to
13:16fight with
13:17the class
13:17teacher
13:17you don't
13:18want to
13:18tell them
13:18you have
13:19been
13:19lying
13:19Champak
13:20has been
13:21a topper
13:22throughout
13:22the class
13:24teacher is
13:24the class
13:25teacher
13:25if the
13:25class
13:25teacher
13:25says
13:26that
13:27Champak
13:28is the
13:29outstanding
13:29rascal
13:30of the
13:30class
13:30then you
13:32better
13:33trust the
13:33class
13:33teacher
13:34rather than
13:34Champak
13:35outstanding
13:41because
13:42he is
13:42always
13:42standing
13:43out
13:43getting it
13:53yes
13:55sir
13:55people
13:59often
14:00complain
14:01that
14:04fellow
14:05changed
14:05after
14:09four years
14:10of
14:10relationship
14:10he didn't
14:12change
14:13he or she
14:17just
14:17revealed
14:18himself
14:19he didn't
14:23even reveal
14:23himself
14:23himself
14:23your eyes
14:26opened a
14:26little
14:26after four
14:27years
14:27the urge
14:33to be in a
14:33relationship
14:34often is so
14:35strong
14:35that we
14:39refuse to
14:40look at the
14:41reality
14:41something within
14:45us knows very
14:46well
14:46that if you
14:47come upon
14:49the fact
14:50then the
14:51relationship
14:52will become
14:52impossible
14:53so you
14:55want to
14:55keep the
14:56fact at
14:56bay
14:56keep the
14:58fact aside
14:58if the
14:59relationship
14:59is to
14:59continue
15:00I often
15:03ask people
15:03don't you
15:04know very
15:05well of
15:05the issues
15:06that you
15:06must not
15:07raise in
15:07your
15:07relationship
15:08don't you
15:09know very
15:10well of
15:10the questions
15:11you must
15:11not ask
15:12your partner
15:13if you
15:14know of
15:15these things
15:15then you
15:16very well
15:16know that
15:17your
15:17relationship
15:17is founded
15:18on something
15:19very weak
15:20we all
15:25very well
15:25know of
15:26the questions
15:27that would
15:29immediately
15:29spoil the
15:30relationship
15:30we all
15:34very well
15:34know of
15:35the issues
15:35we must
15:36never discuss
15:36with our
15:37family or
15:38spouse or
15:39somebody
15:40you raise
15:43those issues
15:43and magically
15:46that is called
15:47relationship
15:47management in
15:48today's time
15:48they say if
15:51you want to
15:51manage your
15:52relationship
15:52first of all
15:53you must know
15:54the things you
15:54should not
15:54discuss
15:55influencers
15:59you see
15:59Instagram
15:59they say
16:04that
16:05the best
16:07relationship
16:08managers
16:08are the ones
16:09who know
16:10what not to
16:10talk of
16:11so don't talk
16:12of these
16:12things and
16:13relationship
16:13will keep
16:13fine
16:14so assist the
16:26importance
16:27assess the
16:28importance
16:29ask if the
16:31truth is
16:32important
16:32does this
16:34person bring
16:34truth to my
16:35life
16:35how is he
16:36important
16:36right
16:40that's what
16:41the Gita
16:41teaches you
16:42that's what
16:42self-knowledge
16:43is about
16:44truth is
16:44important
16:45correct
16:45getting rid
16:47of bondages
16:47is important
16:48liberation is
16:49important
16:49is this
16:50person bringing
16:51liberation to
16:52me
16:52is he bringing
16:54light to
16:54me
16:54is he bringing
16:57fearlessness to
16:58me
16:58he she
17:00whatever
17:00because these
17:04are the
17:04things that
17:05are important
17:06so if this
17:08fellow is the
17:08harbinger for
17:09these things
17:10then and then
17:11only is he
17:12important
17:13otherwise how
17:14is he
17:14important
17:14flesh is not
17:20important
17:21you know
17:22you know
17:23you know
17:24the destiny
17:25of flesh
17:25I'm not
17:28talking of the
17:29ash it turns
17:30into
17:30there are
17:33apps
17:34on play
17:35store
17:35you feed
17:37your current
17:38photo
17:38and they
17:40will display
17:41how you
17:41look
17:42probably look
17:4340 years
17:44down the
17:44line
17:44that's the
17:47worth of
17:48flesh
17:48so if
17:50somebody is
17:51bringing only
17:51flesh to
17:52your life
17:52he is simply
17:53like a
17:53mutton seller
17:54even the
17:57mutton seller
17:57can provide
17:58you with
17:58some flesh
17:59is this
18:02fellow bringing
18:03consciousness
18:04into your
18:04life
18:05that is
18:06what will
18:06decide his
18:07or her
18:08importance
18:09so do not
18:12just say if
18:12somebody is
18:13important I get
18:14attached
18:14my question
18:15will be
18:15how did
18:16that fellow
18:17first of all
18:17manage to
18:18become
18:18important
18:20important how
18:22how
18:22randomly
18:28anything becomes
18:35important
18:35thank you sir
18:44thank you sir
18:44yes
18:44you
18:58you
18:59you
19:01you
19:05you
19:06you
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