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00:00in an Australian first eight singles have agreed to meet their partner specifically
00:11chosen for them by experts are you crazy what are you doing at the altar after four emotional
00:28weddings she's making me feel good with myself I just feel like myself now I'd like to think that
00:36love at first sight does exist the couples got to know each other on their honeymoons for me that
00:43was almost like the final piece of the puzzle but cracks started to show why don't you ask me what
00:50I'm doing when the couples moved in together I wanted Carrie for someone in life tonight the
00:56experiment enters its next phase hi when the couples meet each other I'm Claire at a dinner
01:02party that's gonna keep you together forever I struggled with that comment and the pressure
01:08of married life becomes too much I've been married before I'm sorry I'm invested it's not a big deal
01:18the experiment has almost hit the halfway mark and after 12 tumultuous days the couples are settling
01:39into their daily routines as husband and wife this is why we're gonna get along I think his mother has
01:52been taking care of him maybe a bit too much maybe she's spoiled him and it's time for a reality check
02:00how often do you do it Alex how often do I do my washing yeah because there are seriously about
02:07maybe 20 pairs of jocks in here yeah well I have this philosophy if if you buy a lot of underwear then
02:14if you've got 21 pairs of underwear then you wear them for 21 days you only need to do washing once or
02:19if you've got three pairs you need to wash every three days you know what I mean that's a good idea it is a good idea I don't think my mum should be doing our washing I mean I think the fact that we're both living together we should sort of
02:28do it we should do it yeah absolutely but obviously you do the first load and I'll do the next one all right so the next one will be in 21 days
02:39I've got to do 21 days worth of laundry there's something real hot about this I'm finding this really attractive when he's like oh we'll take turns like when guys say that they usually just mean you do it until you ask me to do it and then you'll be nagging me to do it and then you'll stop the
02:57nagging me to do it because you don't want to be nagging me and then you'll just do it and then I'll be the little laundry mat that could
03:04make no mistake this experiment is a real pressure cooker for our couples they're doing things that
03:10typically might take years for them to do like moving in together
03:17because this experiment is so accelerated the day-to-day domestic routine has kicked in early
03:22which some couples are bound to struggle with more than others
03:33your boys doing it tonight?
03:35I do yes I'll be going straight from work pretty much so I won't come home
03:39so I won't see you?
03:41well I won't know what to do it myself
03:46you'll survive
03:48yeah it's I don't know I sometimes feel a bit awkward I'm not too sure
03:54it's like we've just jumped into the straight boring married couple routine
03:58despite an instant connection at their wedding
04:03have you met my husband?
04:05Ronnie and Michael's relationship has been the slowest to develop
04:09I'm in a bit of limbo I think at the moment when it comes to me and Ronnie
04:13good night Michael
04:19alrighty
04:20have fun tonight
04:21yeah see how about you too
04:22bye
04:26yeah
04:27gut feeling
04:28I kind of do think maybe I do like him a little bit more maybe than he likes me
04:33I'm not too sure
04:35while Ronnie and Michael are at risk of drifting apart
04:38Claire's making sure that she and Lachlan stay glued together
04:44that's got a couple of them
04:46yours is good too so
04:49we're going to a 60s party which is why I'm dressed like this
04:54yeah it's my friend Donna
04:59I'll take a key
05:01going into another person's world is part of the whole relationship process
05:04you know sometimes a good thing that the other person wants to do
05:07and outside your comfort zone
05:09so
05:10I've been gathering points for a good while
05:12so
05:13I should have a decent tally
05:15isn't it
05:16this party here we come
05:19with the laundry out of the way
05:21Zoe's taken the opportunity to visit her husband and his plumbing company
05:26I want to get into his world and see what makes him passionate
05:29and I really want to know more
05:30and I think it's important
05:32for you to show an interest in what your partner does
05:35especially if it's different to what you do
05:37you alright?
05:38yeah
05:40not sure heels is exactly the right thing to be wearing
05:43that's fine
05:44I'm not sure what is appropriate
05:45I think there's a lot of people here wearing fluro
05:48but fluro is not really in this winter
05:51you alright over here?
05:54oh I wouldn't step there
05:56those heels are going to need dry cleaning
05:58I'm here because I want to see why he wakes up so early and go somewhere
06:02and I'm assuming this is where he goes
06:04yeah
06:05unless he's got a mistress
06:06so these are sewer pipes
06:07yeah
06:08so they take out all the poo
06:09they take all the poo away to a better place
06:11they go to poo heaven
06:13we just provide the gate
06:15I'm interested as well in some of these
06:17some of these
06:21some of these
06:22these
06:23machines
06:24machines
06:26there's something about a guy being
06:28in a huge
06:30big
06:31you know
06:32piece of machinery like that
06:35that's a bit
06:37sexy you know
06:38maybe you can send me more videos of you doing that during the day
06:42I think that will keep our relationship spicy
06:44it's very important to communicate about sex early in a relationship
06:49because mismatched libidos are typical in many many relationships
06:55so what's key here is the ability to talk to each other
06:59how many times do you think a couple should have sex a week
07:05if they're in a long term relationship
07:08I think it's healthy to at least have four to five times a week
07:13four to five times a week
07:14yep
07:16wow
07:17I was hovering around the two to three
07:21didn't know I was married to a hornbag
07:26didn't realise I was married to an old man
07:29I mean if you can't handle it
07:32dang him
07:33serious
07:34if you're tired
07:36and your job is too demanding
07:39I can up my ante you know
07:40alright
07:41I'm going to put out
07:42I recommend that you do
07:44serious
07:50Michael's left Ronnie home alone for the first time since the wedding
07:54giving him his first chance to reconnect with his close mates
08:01she's moved in and now we're living together
08:05how is it?
08:07when you first meet your wife
08:09sorry your girlfriend
08:11you have like this couple of months where you don't see them that much
08:13you probably see them once a week
08:15you've got this excitement to see them like I met this girl
08:17can't wait to see her next weekend
08:19we've skipped that
08:20there's none of that
08:21the best bit
08:22you need some time apart for the heart to grow a bit fonder sometimes
08:25you know
08:26I'm definitely open to having a committed relationship with someone
08:29that's what I came into this for
08:30that's what I want out of this
08:32um
08:34but just because I committed to that
08:35doesn't mean that Ronnie's the perfect girl for me
08:37I'm worried the spark
08:39isn't there
08:40100%
08:42and um
08:43yeah I don't really know why
08:44you can't describe those sort of things sometimes
08:45it's just if it's not right it's not right
08:47you haven't written this off have you?
08:49you haven't written this off
08:54back at the apartment
08:56Ronnie's anxious to find out what Michael might have said to his friends
09:00I suppose the main concern is
09:03how real are the feelings on both ends
09:08try some chocolate
09:10oh yeah
09:12the dangers of one person not being honest early on in the relationship
09:14is that it can send mixed messages
09:17and this can create anxiety
09:19and sometimes conflict
09:23how'd you go tonight?
09:24we had quite a bit of time apart tonight
09:26yeah and it was
09:28quite nice
09:29no it was good to chat to the guys
09:31and chat about you know
09:33us and our situation
09:35and where we're at and how it's all going
09:36they had some good advice
09:37did they?
09:38yeah
09:39no they were good
09:40what did they tell you?
09:42between me and them
09:43are you not going to share?
09:44no
09:45oh really?
09:46no
09:47you don't share mine
09:48oh well that's all
09:49it might help though
09:50do you think it would help?
09:51no
09:52I'm an open book
09:53I'll share things quite openly
09:55and hopefully Michael will do the same
09:58oh I'd like to know what your concerns are
10:00if you needed advice
10:02um
10:03no
10:04that's alright they gave me the advice
10:06don't you think if you've got concerns
10:07you need to share them with me?
10:09the concerns aren't
10:10anything you can help me with at the moment
10:12okay
10:14it's a little bit hard to be
10:15100% honest at this point
10:18I think it's important that we share this little stuff
10:22it is a tough
10:23bit of a tough one for me
10:24because
10:25I do
10:26I do really enjoy Ronnie's company
10:28and I don't want to hurt her feelings
10:30and I don't want to make this hard for her
10:32if
10:33if um
10:35do you want to be in a relationship?
10:42it's almost two weeks since the experiment began
10:46and Ronnie's worried Michael's already having doubts about their future together
10:51if um
10:52do you want to be in a relationship?
10:57yeah of course I do
10:59I'm not the type of person that uh
11:01they can
11:03I've never been the type of person that can jump into a relationship in
11:06quickly
11:08and uh
11:09jumped in this one pretty quickly
11:10so why'd you do this for?
11:12well I'm trying to push my boundaries a little bit and see how I go
11:14I guess
11:15I guess me in the past with relationships is that you know maybe I have walked away from things
11:19quick before I've given anyone a real chance
11:22I'm at that point maybe now with Ronnie that I need to work a little harder and
11:25you know I'm committed to giving it a real crack and trying to make it work
11:29I do enjoy your company I like being with you and it's fun I enjoy having you be at home with me and sit on the couch and cuddle with me and cook dinner for me was awesome and all those things are great and there's you know fantastic things about you that you know I'm enjoying and I enjoy spending time with you
11:45feeling a sense of relief
11:47I think he struggles more than I do with the communication
11:51I see a lot of potential for me and Michael
11:54I am feeling a lot more hopeful about that potential tonight
11:58it's good though this I feel I'm already feeling a lot better
12:01just hearing what you've said to me tonight
12:03I don't like to get my hopes up too high
12:07um well you know we'll just see how it goes
12:09the experiment has reached its halfway point and it's now time for the next phase
12:20tonight the couples will all get together for the very first time
12:30up until now all four couples have been living in their own little bubbles
12:34oh hello
12:37they don't know anything about each other
12:40so we've organised for them to meet at a dinner party
12:45the dinner party is a key component of our experiment
12:50because it allows us to observe how these couples operate in the presence of others
12:55and we have an opportunity for our couples to self compare
12:58what is it like in our relationship and how does that compare to the relationships around us
13:07today we're off to Sydney
13:11so we're going to fly up there and have dinner with some of the other couples in the experiment
13:18which is really going to be interesting
13:20I'm really looking forward to seeing the other couples and how well they're all getting along
13:26and to see whether the experts got all the matches as right as they did for us
13:32it's going to be uh...
13:34fun I guess
13:35we're going to meet the other couples which will be pretty interesting to see how they're going
13:38how they're experienced
13:39I'm really looking forward to meeting them
13:41I think we'd be a lot further advanced than what other couples are
13:45that's what I'm thinking, who knows
13:47I want to stir the pot a bit actually to be honest with you
13:50I want to sort of like say, I'm going to ask like have you guys done it yet?
13:55like how long did it take or have you had sex?
13:58yeah it's going to be like the Hunger Games
14:00yeah
14:02only two people can come out
14:03it's the last couple standing
14:05we're going to make them cry
14:07yeah we're going to set them on fire
14:08yeah
14:14have you got the key?
14:16I've got the key
14:18by bringing all the couples together at the dinner party
14:21we're going to see vulnerabilities and questions arise for them
14:25thanks darling
14:27they're developing a new relationship
14:29and when we do that we look externally to see
14:32is where we're going working?
14:34is where we're going what's expected of us?
14:35but yeah it's going to be cool to meet you know
14:38no one else has gone through this experience
14:41like we just feel like we're alone
14:43so I'm going to, I've got heaps of questions I want to ask them
14:45I wonder if everybody is together
14:49I don't think any couple would have hit it off as quickly as we did
14:52there's no way in the world
14:56well I'm thinking like three whites and three reds
14:59it should be plenty shouldn't it with that
15:01yeah yeah we're not having a bender, we're having dinner so
15:03Michael and I had a bit of a chat last night just about where we're at
15:08and we both agreed that we like each other and there's good chemistry
15:13and we're progressing quite well
15:16Michael, Mick, Michael revealed to me that he doesn't jump into relationships so quickly so
15:24um
15:29what have I got?
15:31I can't wait just to talk to see how easy it's been flowing for them compared to me
15:36are we done?
15:38we're done selecting yeah
15:39at this first meeting the couples will be put under the microscope as experts John and Sabina observe their every move
15:54here they come
15:56I'll be looking for three things when it comes to this dinner party
16:00one how they communicate to each other and about each other to the group
16:05two whether there's any physical affection there
16:09and three how they side with each other particularly if there are any arguments or disagreements during the dinner party
16:16okay so Ronnie and Michael
16:18I mean this would be really freaky for them wouldn't it?
16:20they're all in this experiment meeting each other for the first time
16:24I want them to hurry up and come
16:25yeah I do too
16:26I just want to meet them
16:27yeah I do too
16:28see what they're like
16:29because we're the only eight people in the whole of Australia that's going through this
16:33extremely unique
16:34a little bit nervous there's that element of unknown I'm looking forward to seeing the dynamic with the other couples
16:56okay let's look after each other let's have a good time let's go home happy
16:59I hope that Claire and myself have the deepest connection, deepest love
17:11hi
17:12hi
17:24the anticipation of meeting everybody that's been going through the same process
17:27it's pretty high
17:29Michelle said she was she was a little bit more nervous tonight than she was on the wedding day
17:37hello
17:38hi
17:39hi I'm Michelle
17:40hi Michelle I'm Ronnie
17:41Ronnie
17:42yeah nice to meet you
17:43nice to meet you
17:44hello
17:45hello
17:46I'm James
17:47I'm Lachie
17:48nice to meet you
17:49hi James I'm Claire
17:50hey here we go
17:51hi
17:52hi
17:53Alex nice to meet you
17:55Lachie
17:56I mean this would be really freaky for them wouldn't it
17:59they've just laid eyes on each other for the first time
18:02drink
18:03yeah absolutely I'd love a beer
18:05where are we at
18:06it's almost a certainty that these couples are going to compare their relationship to the other couples in the room
18:11back into our married life in Melbourne
18:14yeah
18:15yeah
18:16how's that going
18:17yeah it's going alright
18:18it's different
18:19yeah
18:20yeah
18:21you guys going alright
18:22yeah really well
18:23yeah
18:24I'm looking forward to getting to know a little bit more about each of their positions
18:29yeah
18:30to pick up the different dynamics from each of the couples as well
18:33yeah
18:34so where did you guys get off to Huntington
18:35uh
18:36NZ
18:37New Zealand
18:38the dinner party is a really great opportunity for us to gauge where these couples are currently
18:43at and whether they've got a future together
18:47already we've got several couples that are quite comfortable being affectionate in front of the other couples
18:54Lachlan and Claire also Michelle and James
18:57and the proximity
18:58very close
18:59not just touch but the personal space
19:01next time you're at a dinner party just take a moment and have a look around
19:07there's so much gold that you can pick up from couples and how they interact
19:12they'll be looking at body language
19:15the levels of affection and touch
19:18how comfortable they seem to be physically in front of the other couples
19:22are they supportive do they build each other up
19:26yeah
19:27well she did actually did well
19:28yeah
19:29yeah
19:30I'd be worried if people made silly jokes or sarcastic throw away comments
19:35that kind of make their partner feel unsure
19:39do you guys cook much or
19:41I'm not I'm not a big cook
19:42Ronnie Ronnie's not a bad cook
19:44I um
19:45not a bad cook
19:46yeah
19:47not a bad cook
19:48whoa
19:49not a bad cook
19:50what does that mean not good
19:51well set her down guys she's cooked me one meal so far
19:53sorry I can't I can't make a judgment
19:54I cooked you two
19:55chicken curry and apple crumble
19:57it was the one
19:58and I did his laundry
19:59you did his laundry
20:00that should just be great
20:01that's because I've allowed her to be a lady of leisure and she no longer works
20:03okay and she stays at home
20:05the sarcasm is starting to come out there
20:07yeah
20:08he's only cooked me one meal
20:09yes
20:10uh she's a lady of leisure
20:11and it always worries me when you start to see comments you know in a couple where they're not building
20:18each other up
20:19mm-hmm
20:20and he's not building her up there
20:24that's our test one
20:25the one that's a little bit open
20:26yeah put it on
20:27Claire and Lachlan are teaming up to take charge of the food
20:30while the others begin comparing wedding experiences
20:34how did you all go with uh
20:37with the kissing situation
20:38did you uh
20:39get straight into it on the wedding
20:41obviously there was wedding day kisses
20:42yeah
20:43how awkward is that
20:44like on the
20:45you've just met
20:46and then they're like
20:47okay so we'll just get you to sneak a little one on the lips
20:49yeah
20:50the photos
20:51that was really awkward
20:52so awkward
20:53I must not be normal
20:55because it came natural to me
20:56it did she
20:57Ronnie
20:58Ronnie made it really easy
20:59they were like
21:00just put your hands on my head
21:01just get in there
21:02yeah
21:03we might as well just pass you get this over and done with
21:05because like
21:06there's awkwardness
21:08finally there's like a little bit of tongue in like one of the photos
21:10and like
21:11yeah
21:12like a tiny bit
21:13like a tiny bit
21:14like
21:17it is a touch rich that we're here cooking food while everyone's in there drinking and enjoying themselves
21:22but
21:23I didn't know how to react when she was going to come down the aisle
21:25I was thinking am I going to go French like major French
21:27and I just
21:28I ended up just shaking
21:29I ended up just shaking
21:30so they were your options
21:31French or major French
21:33wow
21:35fuck
21:36yeah that's not pretty
21:38who's in charge of that
21:41R out
21:44clear of space
21:45that's burning
21:47alright
21:48well no one can eat that
21:49but it's probably not too bad
21:51they don't have to know
21:53it's a beautiful display of teamwork
21:56they're working together aren't they
21:58they're showing themselves to be a unit
22:00no one has to know
22:02they certainly seem like they've got plenty of physical attraction towards each other
22:08yeah good chemistry
22:09yeah good chemistry
22:16I'm looking after you
22:17why not
22:18I am
22:19we've got each other's back
22:20good
22:22we're nice
22:23our thing is like
22:24I'm like a cuddler
22:25like a snuggle
22:26I'm like a little koala on a tree
22:29we've got a king size bed
22:30it's about this big
22:31and she is there
22:32and I'm there
22:33and like I like to move around
22:34but now I'm just like a spit
22:35I have to rotate on the spot
22:38and she just like I rotate
22:39and then she clams onto me
22:40yeah
22:41rotate and then clamps
22:42but it's so nice
22:43I do like it now
22:44I'll get used to it
22:45yeah
22:46he better like it
22:47I've gone from one to two hours
22:48Alex and Zoe
22:49they're such a lovely couple
22:50with so much lightness
22:52and joy and humour
22:54the fondness is there between them
22:56and there's a lot of positivity
22:58and affection and warmth
23:00yes
23:01which is so good to see
23:02yeah alright well
23:03I'll be back in a tick
23:04thanks mate
23:05I'll try not to get too much gossip about you
23:06when you're gone
23:07let it all out
23:08wow
23:09so how is he?
23:11he's nice
23:12how do you get along well?
23:13yeah
23:14how old is he?
23:15he's two years younger
23:16how you going?
23:17you said there was going to be a kick up
23:18we were talking about there would be a kick up
23:19that's just two years
23:21and how are you guys going with it all?
23:23we're going really well I think
23:25well I think we're going really well
23:27you can tell me
23:28we're going really well
23:29oh that's good
23:30it's really like
23:31we're really different
23:32we come from different worlds
23:34yeah
23:35but we make sense to each other
23:36good
23:37so the worlds not colliding
23:39you know one thing that I just noticed then with Alex
23:41is that he
23:42he put it out there straight away
23:43you know
23:44and he said we're going really well
23:45yeah
23:46you know it's really a public
23:47declaration
23:48and declaration
23:49that you know
23:50we're handling this well
23:51and yet that created some vulnerability
23:53from Ronnie
23:54exactly
23:55we were talking on the plane about how
23:56the chances of us meeting
23:58are almost impossible
23:59right
24:00in the real like
24:01we were not what we would pick
24:02so this whole experiment
24:03yeah
24:04bringing us together
24:05is sort of proving the fact that
24:06you know
24:07you don't always know what you want
24:08yeah
24:09right on
24:10what do you have in common
24:12what's your like
24:13he pulls tomatoes out of his sandwiches
24:15which I've been known to do that
24:16that's going to keep you together forever
24:18yeah
24:19a lot of the couples look like they're quite
24:22head over heels for each other
24:24and things are going quite well for them all
24:26um
24:27which is great
24:28it's good to see
24:29it's good to see
24:30yeah
24:31how about we raise our glasses to uh
24:34to married life guys
24:35cheers
24:36cheers
24:37cheers
24:41it's nice to know that we're not in this alone
24:43the couples are getting along really well
24:45I'm actually amazed at how right the experts have got it
24:48the beef that you'll sample tonight is from the farm
24:51oh it works
24:52and it was
24:53yeah
24:54cooked by Claire
24:55so a bit of a combination there
24:56and if you don't enjoy it
24:58at least pretend to
25:00naively maybe I thought that
25:02wow Lachie and I were a bit unique
25:03in that we hit it off straight away
25:05and um
25:06you know we had this connection and chemistry
25:08because that's quite rare
25:09but everybody has it
25:12so
25:13I don't know
25:14kudos to the matchmakers
25:15coming up
25:19after a friendly start
25:21the night takes an unexpected turn
25:25I've been married
25:26it's not a big deal
25:27I'm invested
25:28right
25:29right
25:30I'm sorry
25:31no let me talk
25:39it's the halfway mark of the social experiment
25:42and the couples are meeting for the first time
25:45how was the wedding
25:47how was the wedding
25:48because I was really nervous
25:49were you girls really nervous
25:50no
25:51I was like ripping my flowers
25:52no
25:53I was
25:54I was
25:55I think the stem of my bouquet was going to snap in half
25:58I was clenching it for dear life
26:00I think it's good to be
26:01it's good to be nervous
26:02because it means you're invested
26:03you know you're emotionally there
26:04definitely
26:05you're
26:06you're
26:07you know you're actually
26:08you're putting
26:09well then
26:10it goes me
26:11yeah
26:12I must have been super calm
26:13I was really calm
26:14what am I going to get worked up about
26:16like I knew what I was getting into
26:18I was so calm
26:19putting the couples together for the dinner party
26:22from a psychological perspective
26:24this dynamic could be explosive
26:26as we start to see
26:28certain couples question
26:30the stability of the relationship they've created
26:33has there been any
26:35interesting or annoying habits that your
26:38you know partners have
26:40I don't know if we've had enough time together to
26:42to annoy each other that much
26:43yet
26:44with our habits
26:45like no anyways
26:46trying to say that we're perfect
26:47and nothing's wrong with us
26:48and we're the glamour couple
26:49and everything's
26:50clunky dory
26:51but we are really easy going people
26:53I don't know if I can pinpoint
26:54an annoying habit from you
26:55just yet
26:56any annoying habits here from Mick
26:58um
26:59I can't like
27:00I can't pinpoint anything
27:01but if you want me to pick something
27:03Mick is a talker
27:04where sometimes I can't get a word in
27:06really?
27:08because Ronnie doesn't talk much at all
27:10it's not really annoying like
27:15but um
27:16but I actually
27:18I actually like that about him
27:21I did notice that some other couples
27:23were not
27:24not as comfortable
27:26with each other
27:27I feel that Ronnie
27:29is not being honest
27:31with herself
27:33I can't find an annoying habit
27:35for God sakes
27:37no no seriously maybe
27:38let's just be honest
27:39let's just be honest
27:40let's just be honest
27:41I love that though
27:42good
27:43good
27:44we haven't spent enough time together
27:45we spent the same amount of time as all of us
27:48you can't say that
27:49but I think it's healthy to be like to be able to say
27:52oh that annoys me
27:53not necessarily
27:54everyone's different though
27:55you can't judge
27:56everyone's different
27:57every couple
27:58every dynamic of relationship is different
28:00but if you think it's going to be perfect
28:01you can't say that
28:02you can't say that
28:03no I'm not saying that though
28:04but you guys might have differences
28:06these guys might not
28:07yeah yeah yeah
28:08no it might be good for you
28:09it might not be good for them
28:10so you can't go judging
28:11I'm not judging
28:12I'm just saying
28:13you just can't though
28:15everyone's different
28:16it's always
28:17no it's always
28:18you're just different people
28:19it's good to have differences
28:20but not for everybody
28:21no
28:22everybody's different
28:23so you guys are exactly the same
28:24we don't have differences at the moment
28:25you're exactly the same
28:26we may do
28:27okay
28:28we may do
28:29but there's a few things you've said tonight
28:30that I don't agree with
28:31like what?
28:32because everyone's different
28:33like what?
28:34the fact that I wasn't nervous on my date
28:35on my wedding date
28:36yeah
28:37and that means I'm not invested
28:39I'm really invested
28:41I've been married before
28:42I know the hard work
28:44that's involved
28:45well maybe because you've been married
28:46you've walked down the aisle before
28:47no
28:48I've never walked down an aisle before
28:49exactly
28:50so I was invested
28:51so don't tell me because I wasn't nervous
28:52I don't think she was
28:53it was in a different way
28:54but no she did say that
28:55yeah but that's just how they're attacking you right?
28:56no she did say that
28:57but I'm sorry
28:58no let me talk
28:59let me talk
29:00I'm just saying
29:01I'm just saying
29:02I'm just saying as well
29:03you can't judge that
29:04you're not invested
29:05I don't think it's a judgement
29:06I think we're just sharing our experiences
29:07fine
29:08yeah I think that too Ron
29:09fine
29:12how's everybody steak?
29:17because it's a little overcooked but you know
29:25what do you think is creating this attack from Ronnie?
29:29I think she's feeling insecure about the relationship she's in with Michael
29:33and the sense of attachment that she has with him
29:36yeah
29:37and that's coming out in kind of an angry outburst
29:40as a reflection to the sense of attachment that she's seeing and hearing about in the couples around her
29:46and it's so much what Ronnie wants isn't it?
29:53I had a surrender date before
29:59Michael hasn't leaned into support either has he?
30:02these little moments of trust
30:04these little moments of trust
30:05have you got my back or not
30:06this is one of those situations where Michael
30:09hasn't followed through
30:10oh it's getting warm in here
30:15she's just so young
30:19oh my god
30:21she's doing my eating
30:22what the
30:25what the
30:28that was like
30:29mental
30:30yeah she was out of line
30:32absolutely out of line
30:33I struggled with Zoe's comment about
30:36I think it's good to be nervous because it means you're invested
30:39I struggled with that comment
30:41because I'm invested
30:43I'm so invested in this
30:45and I feel
30:46and I
30:47and I am
30:48and I struggle with that
30:49I just feel like she's got such a young view
30:51it's like
30:52excuse me
30:53like just because it's not my second time down the island
30:56now me and Michael
30:58we have a couple of issues there
31:01I think we're not as well
31:03we're not jelling as well as the rest of the couples
31:05and I have been
31:06it's flaming in my head but I feel like
31:08we're getting judged a little bit
31:15I'm really proud
31:24of me
31:34and I'm really proud
31:36of how far I've come
31:40and
31:42and everyone here
31:44I think I'm willing to put my heart
31:47on the line
31:48the most
31:49even though it's been shattered
31:59I have faith that
32:01he will suit me on my feet
32:05and I'm willing to put it on the line
32:08more than
32:09anyone I know
32:14that's it
32:17I don't have to blame
32:19Ronnie has taken time out after a clash with Zoe over her commitment to the experiment
32:37one of the really key indicators of a couple doing well at a dinner party is how they side with each other when things go wrong
32:48for instance if there's an argument or a major falling out you want to be supporting your partner
32:53you want to side with them and be saying I've got your back
32:57Zoe is a kind hearted person she didn't mean anything by it and I'll protect Zoe like that
33:04I just stayed out of it
33:16you know I think she's a little bit out of line I think she should have you know chose her battle a little bit better that it wasn't really the time and the place to sort of be that aggressive towards Zoe because I don't think Zoe meant any harm by what she was saying
33:27it's not about the cinema we've got here
33:31good set up
33:33bloody oath
33:34as the evening progresses the men and women separate to have a more intimate chat
33:40what do you reckon they're talking about
33:41I reckon they're awkwardly avoiding a little argument that might have happened
33:45Ronnie's definitely opinionated and but that's tonight was the first time I've seen her actually get very aggro about something and to be honest I didn't find that very attractive
34:02I think she could have handled that better
34:04yeah
34:05I think she was a bit out of line with the way she dealt with that upstairs
34:09yeah yeah true that
34:12Michael's not defended
34:13yeah
34:14Ronnie in that situation
34:15yeah
34:16uh and
34:17in fact he's
34:18he's criticised
34:19yeah he's embarrassed by it
34:20he's embarrassed by it
34:21I think there's a sense of shame
34:23yep
34:24um tonight was probably the most confronting thing for me
34:26that I've had so far in the relationship with the
34:28with with
34:29honestly
34:30honestly like
34:31I'm gonna let you over to my apartment
34:33or Claire's for five seconds mate
34:35that's nothing
34:36I don't judge the girl
34:37that's her personality and that's what I'm learning about her and I don't know everything about her
34:40we're all learning I think
34:41something new I learned about her tonight
34:42but I do
34:43I do like the girl and we are having fun
34:44but you know
34:45I haven't got a strong relationship history
34:47I've
34:48I've been a single guy for a long time
34:50and
34:51yeah this is a big step for me
34:52so he started to side more with her then
34:54yeah
34:55and uh soften it
34:56he softened
34:57I'm trying to learn about this
34:58as the tension following the argument slowly dissolves
35:03Lachlan has a delicate question for the other men
35:08in terms of where you're at
35:10in terms of intimacy
35:12how's everything like that travelling like a you know
35:16we had sex on the second night
35:18throw it out there
35:19just throw it out there
35:20throw it out there
35:21woo
35:22wow
35:23I wasn't mucking around
35:25yeah it's
35:27it's good
35:28it's really good
35:31and that's done
35:34and that's it
35:35and Alex is like
35:36thank you
35:37thank you girls line up
35:40yeah well
35:42I'm not the type of person to kiss and tell
35:44it's what we've got is amazing
35:46and I
35:47didn't prepare myself for things to be as good as they were going to be
35:51for someone that doesn't kiss and tell she's told
35:54let's just say that the bed is not cold
35:58for winter's night
36:01I can't believe you didn't consummate the marriage on the first night
36:04are you serious?
36:06first night
36:08okay what about you?
36:09for me it's not a topic I want to talk about
36:11not because of me and I'm worried about talking about it
36:14more respect out of Ronnie and her situation
36:18we're building our intimacy
36:21and I'm struggling with the fact that it's building
36:24yeah
36:25because I'm wanting instant intimacy
36:27instant fireworks
36:29and I'm
36:30I need to realise that it doesn't necessarily have to be that way
36:33exactly
36:34and with mine
36:35tonight's been a bit more difficult than I thought it would be
36:39um
36:41when I did see the other couples and their connection I was slightly disappointed
36:47I can see there's some pretty strong connections in the other couples and it makes me think a little about me and Ronnie
37:02it's a little bit disheartening
37:04I mean maybe later tonight we'll talk about it
37:07I went into the bathroom earlier today quite upset
37:14I know and I thought that you were a little bit aggressive there and a little bit too attacking towards her afterwards
37:21yeah I get like that
37:23I thought you were a little bit out of line with her and I thought that you didn't need to be that aggressive in that situation
37:29yeah but I did
37:30I don't know
37:31yeah at the time it made me feel uncomfortable because I thought
37:34I know I did you weren't very good with that
37:36no because I thought
37:37even when I got back you didn't even do the little check if I'm ok
37:40well I just felt that because I still feel I didn't I still felt that it was like that you shouldn't have blown up at her
37:47it doesn't matter though
37:48I'm your wife you should support me no matter what
37:50yeah I get that but no
37:51you should still have just done the you know to check that I'm ok
37:55I think some of the things I like about her also challenge me a little bit about her
37:58so she's got a big personality she's got a bubbly personality but her big personality also is a bit of confronting at times
38:05I hate their ears
38:08they're doing this
38:13entire time
38:14intense
38:19for me Michael to make it work I'm not too sure what we need
38:24my biggest fear
38:27Michael's admitted that he's quick to end a relationship
38:30over small reason
38:32I don't know what my gut feeling is about me and Michael.
38:51After the dramatic events of the dinner party,
38:54the couples return to their homes
38:56and attempt to settle back into their daily routines.
39:02Look, it's my fault I'm still single.
39:08I shouldn't have stuck around so much in my 20s.
39:13It's like I was in this awesome shoe shop,
39:16but I kept picking pairs that gave me blisters.
39:19I've been doing amateur theatre for the last five years.
39:22That's always been something that's been really important to me.
39:26It's ringing. It's ringing.
39:28Because Claire needs to be in town for rehearsals,
39:31Lachlan's trying to run his farm business from her apartment.
39:35Being away from the farm throughout this process
39:38sort of has been restrictive.
39:41I'm running a business and it's in its growth phase
39:44and I've got 200 cows due to calves.
39:46They've already started, so...
39:48I've put a lot of that on hold
39:49and I'm sort of trying to manage around it the best I can.
39:52What time's your rehearsal?
39:53I'm helping out until 10.
39:56I won't be home until 5.
39:57Yeah, right.
39:59It is my nephew's birthday tomorrow
40:01and we were supposed to be heading out tonight
40:04and I think that's still on the card,
40:06so, you know, it'll be good to get out there
40:08and catch up with family as well, so...
40:13But Claire has other plans.
40:16OK, here we go.
40:18If there's any man's job, we've got a good man over here.
40:21Yep, right here.
40:22Today we are doing the obligatory paint day for the show.
40:28Let's see, I think, here.
40:30These are the hard bits.
40:31Today, it's a little bit frustrating, I suppose,
40:34because it's Lockie's nephew's birthday
40:36and, unfortunately, just how the schedule sort of worked out
40:39and actually that I have to be here to do this
40:42and here we are, but...
40:44I guess it's all compromise.
40:47It's just continual compromise.
40:49When one person has more control in a relationship than the other,
40:54it becomes very dangerous.
40:56The partner who tends to defer and give their power over
40:59loses their voice and starts to resent the relationship.
41:04I had a nephew's birthday.
41:05What's more important? Painting the set on nephew's birthday?
41:08Nephew's birthday.
41:10There comes a point where you sort of say,
41:12no, we'll hang on a tee.
41:13I've given up my whole life of the whole time we've been together.
41:21You've spent one day at the farm.
41:23I've spent virtually every other day here
41:26and that's a massive sacrifice on my part.
41:30If you were out living on the farm from day one
41:32and I'd spent one day here,
41:35would you feel the same way?
41:36Because it's, you know, like, it's a big, it's a big thing.
41:42It's a big thing.
41:43Like, I, you know, and I don't think, like,
41:46when you put yourself in somebody else's shoes,
41:49come the end of this week,
41:51it'll still be one day on the farm and...
41:54What would you like me to do?
41:57I would have cleared some of that schedule.
41:58I work in the city.
41:59What do you want me to do?
42:01What would make you happy?
42:02I really don't understand.
42:03Sorry for making you unhappy.
42:05No, no, it's not about you making me unhappy.
42:09I've moved location.
42:10I've moved in here.
42:11I've spent every...
42:12I've never questioned it.
42:14Okay, so what are you trying to say?
42:17That you've increasingly made commitments and I haven't?
42:19No.
42:20Don't actions speak louder than words?
42:21No, you're wrong.
42:23I don't care where we fucking live.
42:26I'm not going to sit here and justify...
42:27Just so happens to be that we've been here for the whole time,
42:30except for half a day on the farm.
42:32I don't care.
42:33Let's move to the fucking farm right now.
42:35You won't do it.
42:41After everything, and I think,
42:42well, if actions don't speak louder than words...
42:45I think that any other guy standing in front of me
42:47would go, wow.
42:49Wow.
42:50Like...
42:51I'm in your place.
42:53There's nowhere to go.
42:54Let's go to the farm.
42:55If that's going to make you happy.
42:56No, it won't.
42:57Because you should have said...
42:59No, it's not that easy.
43:00Easy, easy.
43:00Don't yell, don't yell, don't yell.
43:02Have I yelled?
43:03Say anything.
43:03Have I yelled?
43:05I can't finish a sentence.
43:08No, no, you can.
43:09Just don't yell.
43:11Arguing's fine for a couple.
43:12It's how you argue that's really important.
43:15Criticism, defensiveness, contempt,
43:18and shutting down and stonewalling your partner.
43:21If you're doing any of these,
43:23you're just going to be in gridlock.
43:26Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa.
43:27Actions speak louder than words.
43:28What actions am I...
43:30Hang on, don't interrupt me.
43:31No, you're right.
43:31If you've got a pet hate about it,
43:32just remain calm.
43:33You're right.
43:34I've moved in here.
43:35You've spent half a day...
43:36These are the facts.
43:37No, they are.
43:38They're right.
43:38You're right.
43:39So I'm not committed to you at all.
43:42You're right.
43:43It's not about you.
43:44It's not all about you.
43:47Motherfucker.
43:47I've put a massive amount on the line
43:53from the word go.
43:55What's Claire giving up?
43:56Nothing.
43:57Nothing.
43:57Absolutely nothing.
43:59I can't do any more than what I'm doing.
44:01Simple as that.
44:02I'm at my limits now.
44:05We need to take a breather.
44:07That's the plan of action
44:08because I can't do anything more than what I've done.
44:11I can't do anything more than what I've done.
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