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  • 05/07/2025
AN INTERABLED couple have hit back at online trolls who have criticised them for their decision to start a family. Alyssa and Jimmy, both 30, from New York, USA, met online in the summer of 2013, and soon fell in love, tying the knot in June 2019 - six years to the day from their first date. But the couple has sadly had to deal with some judgement, due to the fact that Alyssa is disabled.

"My disability is a C1 C2 spinal cord injury," she explained. "There's a lot of assumptions that I get - not [just about] me, [but about] people in general with disabilities. "[People think] they're not capable of doing anything, they just sit at home and mope, they're not able to fall in love. There's just so many." Jimmy added: "Sometimes, a question we get would be like, 'Oh, am I with her because I have some sort of fetish for people in wheelchairs?'" Thankfully the pair also have a lot of online support and try to focus on the positives. But when Alyssa began documenting her pregnancy with their first baby, Luke, who was born in May, on Instagram, where she has 112,000 followers, she was sadly met with some criticism, with strangers calling her "irresponsible". Jimmy said: "They don’t know our situation and how much she is capable of. She's an amazing girlfriend, fiancé, now wife and mother and I just can't wait to keep growing as a family together."

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00:00My disability is a C1, C2 spinal cord injury incomplete.
00:04Incomplete means that I gained some movement back.
00:07A doctor that used forceps when he was delivering me, that's what broke my spine.
00:12My right side is a lot stronger than my left side, but I'm able to just do as much as I can.
00:19Now she's about to be a mother.
00:21Some of the comments, I find them nasty.
00:23It's pretty irresponsible to have a baby when you're crippled.
00:27She needs help, but we're going to do whatever it takes.
00:29I'm just excited, just in general, just to have a baby.
00:31I just can't wait until we keep growing as a family.
00:35Jim, can you come help me?
00:37Sure.
00:38What are you doing?
00:39Open it, and then we can put them in.
00:44My disability is a C1, C2 spinal cord injury incomplete.
00:48So that means the very top of the spine that kind of connects to the neck.
00:52Incomplete means that I gained some movement back, feeling some of my diaphragm back,
00:58my right side is a lot stronger than my left side.
01:02But I'm able to just do as much as I can.
01:05It occurred because of a doctor that used forceps when he was delivering me.
01:10That's what broke my spine, unfortunately.
01:13Jimmy helps me a lot, mentally, physically.
01:17The great thing about Alyssa is she's very independent.
01:19She's able to use the restroom on her own.
01:21I work full time, and so she's home on her own when I'm at work.
01:25I just have to help her in the morning with getting ready, getting out of bed,
01:29help her get dressed really fast.
01:31Especially right now.
01:32Yeah.
01:33She was going to meet a girlfriend, a fiance and a wife, and now she's about to be a mother.
01:38I'm just excited just in general just to have a baby.
01:40My Instagram has helped me meet other people that have similar disabilities, other disabilities,
01:48just anyone.
01:50Also, moms now are following me because they want to see my journey of what's going to happen, how the baby is going.
02:02Some of the comments that I have, I read them and I find them nasty.
02:07There was one recently that said,
02:10Pretty irresponsible to have a baby when you're crippled.
02:14First, I don't even like the word crippled.
02:16Second of all, it's not even irresponsible.
02:18It's just me being a parent soon.
02:21And I mean, it's irresponsible to have a baby when you're doing other things you shouldn't be doing.
02:27That's what gets me just because I'm in a chair.
02:30I just laugh it off and then I block it.
02:33I don't let it affect me.
02:35Just the fact that we'll be two parents, attentive parents, good parents, like,
02:39you can't judge based off her physical limitations.
02:41No matter what, we're going to love the child, so we're going to do whatever it takes to care for it.
02:45Like, obviously, if she needs help, we're going to find a way to do it.
02:48You can't...
02:49It's just...
02:50You're not just going to be like, oh, she can't get him out of the crib or whatever?
02:53I guess we'll just leave him in the crib and let him keep crying.
02:55Yeah, it's just...
02:56Like, what do they think we're going to do?
02:57Like, just ignore the child?
02:58Like, oh, I forgot the baby needs to be fed.
03:00There's a lot of assumptions that I think I get, not even me, just people in general with disabilities.
03:05They're either not capable of doing anything.
03:08They sit at home and mope and just, like, feel sorry for themselves.
03:14They're not able to fall in love.
03:16They can't find someone.
03:18What I say to people who are judging are just, like, shove it.
03:22I love it.
03:23I don't take judgment to heart.
03:24Like, I just laugh sometimes because it's like, you're just going to sit there and judge.
03:28For what?
03:29Why does that make you feel any better?
03:31I'm very grateful for Alyssa.
03:32Just the fact that I met her and got to experience, like, these things I never would have experienced.
03:38And I just can't wait to keep growing as a family together.
03:52I'm sorry.
03:53Right.
03:54I didn't get me, I'm not sure.
03:55It just passed away.
03:56Right.
03:57There's a lot of things in the past.
03:58I didn't get me.
03:59I wasn't actually.
04:00I wouldn't go too early on because I'm going to go too late at all.
04:01I didn't get me.
04:02I don't think that even when I get that moment, I don't know what happened.
04:04I need to go too early on.
04:05Let's go.
04:06That's what you want.
04:07I wish I got a moment.
04:08It's a moment.
04:09I can't wait.
04:11You, I wish I got a moment.
04:14I'm going to show you.
04:15I'm going to show you.
04:16So, be careful.
04:18I can't wait.
04:19What's going to happen with you?
04:20I love you.

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