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Beyond The Limits Of Love Season 1 Episode 2 - Full
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00:00Every time you go on a date with me, you talk to me about my boobs.
00:11Smaller boobs is normally my thing.
00:13So what you're saying is you're curious.
00:17Just two days ago, I was in a very committed relationship,
00:20and now I am very much dating.
00:22I still feel good about wanting marriage,
00:24but I definitely haven't been thinking about the ultimatum as much.
00:31Like, I'm starting to think more about my dates
00:33than I am about the fact that I asked her to marry me.
00:37I think I feel a little overwhelmed.
00:39Like, your ex-girlfriend that you've been with for three years is over here,
00:43and all these, like, new ladies are over here,
00:45and my ex is my competition, which is very weird.
00:50So you were issued the ultimatum.
00:51Yes, it's weird, because you gave an ultimatum, and I got an ultimatum.
00:55And we're, like, so far apart and so together with it.
00:59We know the three options that you leave with
01:01are marriage to the person you came with,
01:04break up, or fall in love with someone new.
01:07At the end of this week, I'll be making a choice,
01:10not just a trial marriage wife, but a life partner.
01:13Just, like, let that one sink in for a second,
01:15because that is where I'm at right now.
01:17I had been with Xander for four years.
01:19I lost a spark, and as much as I loved her,
01:21like, she was more my best friend, my roommate,
01:24versus, like, this thrilling relationship.
01:26If your ex came up to you, like, right now,
01:29and proposed to you,
01:31do you, like, have any idea what you'd do?
01:34I would say no.
01:35I would not be comfortable marrying her right now.
01:39No, because I'm connecting with you,
01:41and with some other people, no big deal.
01:43Is it my ex-woman?
01:44I feel like I can see the devil in your face right now.
01:49What?
01:50And I could be totally wrong,
01:51but I don't think my ex is going through
01:54what I am going through currently.
01:56That's funny,
01:57because I feel like you know how I feel about you.
01:59I didn't think I was going to connect with anyone.
02:03I feel so confused about the potential of developing,
02:08like, an actual, some form of a relationship with you,
02:10and then we're both going to go move back in with our exes,
02:13and then it's like, what the fuck just happened?
02:15Our lives are going to blow up?
02:16Yeah, absolutely.
02:18You're going to be my atomic bomb?
02:20Duh.
02:20If anybody's going to fuck this shit up,
02:26I feel like it's the two of us.
02:27Oh, I thought you were just stopping at fuck.
02:30And I was like, ah!
02:33You want to sit on my face?
02:35I didn't say it.
02:36You did.
02:44Give me a hug and say goodbye?
02:45I am more confused since I gave the ultimatum.
02:48I was ready to get down on one knee,
02:51would have done it on the last night,
02:52and now I'm like, what's happening to me?
02:55Vanessa is full in a china shop.
02:57She's wildly inappropriate and slightly offensive,
03:00but it's fun and it's flirty.
03:02Like, there's obviously an attraction there,
03:04but she probably could kill me in my sleep.
03:06So...
03:07All right.
03:08This is nice.
03:09This is very nice.
03:10It's that, like, lovely little campfire mood that I like.
03:13Mal is, like, wholesome, love,
03:16a warm cup of tea.
03:19I'm trying to find a wife,
03:21trying to find a person I want to spend
03:22the rest of my life with.
03:23I'm not sure if I need something more challenging
03:26or more uncomfortable for that trial marriage.
03:29I've dated quite a bit.
03:30I'm sure you've dated.
03:31Like, I could...
03:32We could physically do all the things.
03:34That's fine.
03:35We'd figure our bodies out.
03:36What, like...
03:37No problems.
03:38Easy.
03:38We're both assertive.
03:39It'd be great.
03:40But my parents are best friends.
03:42My father has always been, like,
03:44you have to be friends first.
03:45I have to be, like, emotionally in line
03:47before I can even explore anything
03:50physically romantic, if you will.
03:51The person you're with should be your best friend.
03:53I feel like we're building the bricks really well.
03:57Yeah.
03:58I do feel that with you.
03:59Yeah.
04:00But have you ever dated anybody that looks like me?
04:04Like, a black person?
04:06No, I haven't.
04:09The first thing that I noticed
04:11was that, like, you were more mask presenting.
04:13Yeah.
04:14It didn't even occur to me
04:15that I also had not been with somebody who's black.
04:18I was more, oh, my God,
04:19I just have never found myself attracted
04:20to someone who's masked first.
04:23That was the first thing I thought of.
04:25Dating Ray, who was Chinese,
04:27that was really the first experience I'd had
04:29outside of dating a white person.
04:30Yeah.
04:31I will not lie, that was a learning curve.
04:33And I don't want to say
04:35that I know enough or anything.
04:38I'm not afraid of the learning in that.
04:40I don't want to avoid that.
04:42That's enough.
04:43That's enough for me.
04:44Your race doesn't matter to me.
04:45I've dated across the board,
04:47so I'm good with that.
04:48Um, but yeah.
04:49Have you dated Jewish before?
04:51I have not.
04:52Ah-ha!
04:53So I do bring something different.
04:55I can show you how to make matzo ball soup.
04:58I actually can.
04:59I would need to bring my mom for that,
05:00but she can teach you how to make good matzo ball soup.
05:03Yes.
05:03Yes, yes, yes, yes.
05:04Ha-ha!
05:05Ha-ha!
05:06You and I have built, like, our connection
05:08genuinely off of honesty.
05:10I felt, like, coming into this experience,
05:13I didn't know if the person I was with
05:14would say yes to me.
05:15And that lack of assurance,
05:17the lack of safety in terms of, like,
05:19not knowing when we could take the next step.
05:20If we were together, you would always show up.
05:23I just know that about you.
05:25Nothing against my ex,
05:26but I had that.
05:27I don't know.
05:28What if she just walks away one day?
05:30You issued the ultimatum.
05:31Mm-hmm.
05:32But, like, maybe that changes.
05:33Maybe you do just want to date somebody
05:35for a little while
05:35that just shows up for you consistently,
05:37and that's enough.
05:37You're just trying to convince me
05:38to be able to date you
05:39and not get engaged.
05:40Absolutely not.
05:41I think we should...
05:42Like, let's just...
05:43If I could do it today...
05:45Yeah.
05:45...in this, like, right now,
05:46I'd be like, let's just do it.
05:47Yeah.
05:47I mean, I got issued the ultimatum,
05:49which is wild,
05:52that I'm showing up so sure.
05:54Like, I'm like, oh, yeah, I know.
05:55Mm-hmm, right.
05:56Easy, no questions, I know.
05:58I'm gonna have to, like, deal with
05:59maybe you snore at night.
06:00I don't snore.
06:01Perfect.
06:02I don't snore.
06:04Maybe you eat really sloppy or loud.
06:06No.
06:08See?
06:08I don't do that either.
06:09I don't know if I pick Mal over Vanessa
06:11or Vanessa over Mal.
06:13I just, like, can see so clearly
06:14that one is, like, just cozy
06:16and, like, easy.
06:18And the other one is, like, way over here
06:19and, like, the lightning
06:20and the thunderstorms.
06:22I know a choice is coming up.
06:23I don't know what I'm gonna do.
06:25It's weird to be hearing somebody
06:28that, like, I trust saying that...
06:32They're sure?
06:33They're sure and they're in.
06:34Yeah.
06:35I know what I want.
06:35I know what I need.
06:37With you, I've been very sure.
06:40Yeah.
06:40In my heart, my heart, my heart
06:44My heart, my heart
06:45My favorite thing I love cooking
06:53is actually Thai food.
06:54I love cooking Thai food.
06:55Okay.
06:56Do you enjoy cooking with your partner
06:58or do you normally just cook four?
06:59So, I kind of want my partner
07:01to get the fuck out of the way
07:02when I cook.
07:03Okay.
07:03Um, just because, like,
07:06I'm sorry, I'm running the show.
07:07Yeah.
07:07So I'll, like, prep everything, right?
07:09Like, I'll get all the veggies,
07:09like, da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da.
07:11Like, maybe I'll be like,
07:12oh, can you, like, cut the carrot
07:13or something like that?
07:14I don't know.
07:14But don't get in my bowl room.
07:16I don't really mind
07:18if my partner likes to just do their own thing.
07:20What actually makes you mad?
07:21Actually, that's what I'm curious about.
07:22What does make me mad?
07:23Because you seem, like, so nice.
07:25I like to say I'm very low maintenance.
07:26My last relationship,
07:28I felt like there was a lot
07:29of passive-aggressiveness.
07:30You were the passive-aggressive one?
07:32No, no, no, no, no.
07:33They were.
07:34Oh, got it.
07:35Yeah.
07:35Got it.
07:36Like, how do you solve anything
07:37when you're taking the steps
07:38to ask what's wrong
07:40and you get nothing?
07:41You're like, no, I'm good.
07:42And then you're like,
07:43wait, I can't read your mind.
07:44Until the next blow up.
07:46Yeah, yeah, yeah.
07:47It's been hard, you know?
07:48And I just don't,
07:50I just, sometimes I feel like I don't,
07:52like, I'm here, I'm tearing up.
07:53Because it's like, sometimes I feel like I don't,
07:54I try, I try my best,
07:56and I feel like I, like, I'm not understood.
07:58God damn it, I'm crying like a little bitch.
08:00I hate that.
08:01No, but it's fine.
08:02Like, for me, that relates to healthy communication
08:06with my partner.
08:08Yeah.
08:08If we were in this marriage together,
08:11you can feel like I would support you.
08:13There's obviously, there's a spark there, right?
08:17I'm open to it.
08:18Take it a step further.
08:20So two days ago, Mildred gave me an ultimatum,
08:23and from what I'm hearing,
08:24Sam can bring something to the table
08:26that actually Mildred could not,
08:28and that is Sam's communication.
08:31There's this sweetness to it.
08:33I was not expecting that, actually.
08:35My dream is, um, in five years,
08:49I see myself married in a home with my family,
08:54just my partner, my son, all my animals.
08:57And when you mention marriage,
08:58I do want to get married.
09:01Wow!
09:01I just, I discovered...
09:02Oh, my God, Azzy, every time I talk to you...
09:04I know, it's like...
09:05Tell me.
09:06I surprise myself.
09:07I do want, you know, long-term commitment
09:09in a, you know, happy home
09:11and creating a life together,
09:14celebrating love,
09:15celebrating each other
09:16for the rest of our lives.
09:18Oh!
09:19Hold on.
09:20I gotta be like, yay!
09:22Yay!
09:23Azzy!
09:24Yay!
09:24You've come a long ways.
09:26I know, in two days?
09:27You look so much happier right now.
09:29Thank you for saying that.
09:30I do feel a lot more myself.
09:33I also think that's part of my journey,
09:35is speaking my truth.
09:36It's kind of scary.
09:37It's almost like,
09:38first, when you come out,
09:39that's one thing,
09:40when you're like,
09:41oh, I am gay, you know,
09:42or I like the same sex.
09:46And now it's like another discovery of,
09:49like, okay,
09:50do I identify as male, female?
09:54You know, what does that look like?
09:55Am I trans?
09:57It's scary, but at the same time,
09:58I'm excited.
10:00I think I'm at the precipice
10:01of discovering what my calling is,
10:04why I was born at this time.
10:07I didn't have representation
10:08when I was growing up, you know?
10:11And I think that's something
10:12that I'm really passionate about,
10:13is to help the kids.
10:16I want to be part of your journey.
10:18I think that discovering yourself
10:19and, like, just finding who you are,
10:21I think it's so beautiful.
10:23I feel comfortable talking to you.
10:25Like, you make me laugh,
10:26and we just have, like,
10:27this little cute chemistry going on.
10:28And I do also feel safe talking to you.
10:30And I'm there 100% to support you.
10:35You deserve to be happy.
10:37Yeah.
10:37Like, we all deserve to be happy.
10:39I want marriage, you want marriage, you know?
10:41I discovered I want marriage.
10:43You did!
10:44It must be, you know, our talks,
10:46because I've been just getting
10:48a bit clearer every day.
10:49What does falling in love
10:54feel like for you?
10:57I think falling in love for me
11:00is, like, realizing
11:02that the person I'm with,
11:05I, like, can't breathe without them.
11:07Knowing that no one's perfect
11:09and loving them unconditionally.
11:11Yeah.
11:12Perfectly imperfect.
11:13It's making me emotional
11:15because just to sit in a date
11:18with somebody
11:18and see that it can happen so fast,
11:20I just don't understand
11:21how it just has taken this long
11:25for Tiff not to connect with me.
11:30I'm just feeling really confused.
11:32I love single Vanessa.
11:49I think single Vanessa is very fun.
11:51It's exciting to date.
11:52It's exciting to be looking at someone else
11:54and thinking,
11:55whoa, what are you thinking of me right now?
11:56You have blankets?
11:57I do have blankets.
11:59Typically in life,
12:00I'm someone who wants
12:01to keep my options open,
12:02but I'm getting much closer
12:04to narrowing it down
12:05to just my two favorite people.
12:08Definitely Lexi,
12:09but I'm also really into
12:10her ex-girlfriend, Rae.
12:14It's a shit show.
12:17It's a shit show.
12:21Okay, I have a question
12:23that I want to ask you,
12:24and I really look forward
12:26to your answer.
12:27What are three things
12:28that you love about yourself?
12:30Um...
12:31I don't know.
12:36If you can't name
12:37three things you love about yourself,
12:38I think I can name
12:39three things I love about you.
12:40Oh, no, I don't want that.
12:42Cool.
12:42Then you better name
12:42three things you love about yourself.
12:44Okay.
12:44Um...
12:45I love that when you're nervous,
12:48you start shaking your foot.
12:52Um...
12:53I think I really, really care
12:57about the people
12:57that I'm close to,
12:58and I think that's why
12:59it takes me a long time
13:01to, like, get there.
13:02Because if you are in my life,
13:03like, I love you.
13:05You put a lot of effort in.
13:06And I'm gonna, like, worry about you.
13:07Yeah, yeah.
13:07So I think that's something
13:09I like about myself.
13:10I like that I'm athletic.
13:12It makes, uh,
13:13doing things fun.
13:17All right, I don't have a third one.
13:18You can give me one.
13:18I love how I can't figure you out.
13:22I feel like I know people
13:24pretty easily, pretty quickly.
13:25Like, I think I'm
13:26a pretty good judge of character,
13:28and I don't understand you
13:30at all.
13:30We're giving you a second one.
13:33And I like that.
13:35I like that you're unpredictable to me,
13:37and I...
13:38Like, I'm...
13:39I don't know.
13:40I'm just so lost with you.
13:41Like, you are so not someone
13:42that I feel like I understand easily.
13:46Why do you need to understand someone?
13:47Like...
13:48Isn't there a good nervousness?
13:51I feel like...
13:51That's what I...
13:52I mean, I hate...
13:53I don't like being nervous, but...
13:54That's my number three
13:55thing about you.
13:56Mm-hmm.
13:56And I don't get that a lot.
13:59Okay.
14:01I'm not gonna respond to that.
14:02I didn't think you would.
14:06You're also beautiful.
14:08I think that's what I was thinking,
14:09looking at you.
14:12So you don't take compliments
14:14well, either?
14:14Nope.
14:15Yeah.
14:15Okay.
14:16I was given an ultimatum,
14:18and I was given that ultimatum
14:22because I didn't know
14:24if I ever wanted to get married.
14:25Right now, I'm dating Lexi and Ray.
14:28They came in here as a couple,
14:30and it's very strange.
14:34They both know that I'm going on dates
14:36with each other,
14:37and I...
14:38I feel kind of weird about, like,
14:40feeling like a homewrecker,
14:42where they feel like one of them
14:43got chosen over the other.
14:44But at the end of this week,
14:47I'm going to have to make
14:48a really important choice
14:50about who I see
14:52as someone I could potentially marry.
14:54And a choice does need to be made.
14:56I'm just so good at being bad
15:00and everything you wish you had.
15:04We've had long-term relationships,
15:07and, like, obviously,
15:07I think that we both want to get married,
15:09like, since we were the ones
15:10that gave the ultimatum.
15:11I want to know about,
15:12a little bit more about, like, children.
15:14Oh, yeah.
15:14I think that you mentioned
15:15that you would carry a child.
15:17I want to if I can, absolutely.
15:18Yeah, same.
15:18I don't know 100% if I can,
15:20but, like, if I can,
15:21then I do want to.
15:22Long-term-wise,
15:23how would that look for you?
15:24If we were, like, married,
15:26would your child be your child
15:27and mine would be mine,
15:28or would it be, like, our children?
15:30Definitely ours.
15:31I think it's weird.
15:32I could fucking adopt
15:34and still be like, that's our kid.
15:35You know, like, it's just, like,
15:36family's what you make of it,
15:37so no, it wouldn't be,
15:39this is my kid
15:40because I technically worsted it.
15:42That's just so weird.
15:43You're in this journey together.
15:44I'm sorry if someone's, like,
15:45said something opposite.
15:46Like, that sucks.
15:47Like, that's not a cool place to be at.
15:51My ex would have her own kids,
15:53and then I would have my own kids.
15:57It's so strange.
15:58Yeah, I think so, too.
16:00I feel like the reason,
16:02one of the reasons
16:03why I want to get married
16:04in the first place
16:04is to have this, like, one unit,
16:06like, one family.
16:07Yeah.
16:07I want, like, our kid to feel
16:09loved by both of us evenly.
16:11Like, it doesn't matter
16:11who's going to pick who up from school.
16:13Like, they're going to feel
16:14loved and supported
16:16and, like, yeah.
16:17Totally, in totality.
16:18Like, absolutely.
16:20You are such a lover.
16:22Yeah.
16:22Is that true?
16:23Yeah.
16:23You're, like, very much, like, a...
16:24I am, like, a lover.
16:25I am going to be there
16:27for my partner, like, no matter what.
16:28I love doing romantic gestures
16:31and things like that.
16:32Most of the time,
16:33I'm, like, pretty ready.
16:36Yeah, and, like...
16:36Like, ready to...
16:37Yeah.
16:39I'm a pretty sexual person.
16:41Sometimes it's just, like,
16:42lay me down, shut me up,
16:43and, like,
16:43I am a fucking angel after sex.
16:46So I'm always, like,
16:47then why aren't we doing this more often?
16:49With my ex,
16:50there was not enough sex.
16:52Once a week
16:53is just perfect maintenance for me.
16:55Twice a week
16:55would probably make me a nicer person.
16:57But it's not just having sex.
16:59So it goes back to the commitment.
17:00With Xander,
17:01not only does she want to be married
17:02and have children,
17:04but vibe-wise,
17:05like, she feels really sensual.
17:07So that's why I think
17:07maybe it's worth exploring it.
17:13Yeah.
17:14Thunderstorm time
17:16is very sexy to me.
17:17Yeah, there's, like,
17:18a lot of emotion
17:19and senses to it.
17:21And electricity,
17:22literally, is what I feel.
17:22I feel like this, like,
17:23turmoil kind of...
17:24Yeah.
17:25I wish I could dance
17:26because then we could go dance
17:27in the rain, but...
17:28You don't dance?
17:29I can't dance.
17:30Can you?
17:31I've lost it.
17:32Yes.
17:33And, um,
17:34I'm trying to get it back.
17:35I have it in me.
17:36So you, like,
17:37sometimes initiate,
17:38you sometimes don't.
17:39What's...
17:39Yeah, it's like,
17:40there's nothing that's, like,
17:41off boundaries for me.
17:43Like, I think it would be good
17:44for you to, like,
17:45pace me a little bit
17:46because I do think
17:47it's fun, too.
17:48You'd go right at it?
17:49No, not right at it.
17:50But, like, kind of?
17:51I think that I would
17:52definitely, like,
17:54pass a little move.
17:56Like what?
17:57Like this.
17:58Oh, okay.
18:00I mean, I would definitely,
18:01like, want to be closer.
18:02Uh-huh.
18:02And I hope you're okay with this.
18:08I feel this, like,
18:08connection with you
18:09and it feels really good.
18:11Yeah.
18:11I don't really know
18:12how to describe it,
18:13but it's, like,
18:14I'm trying to, like,
18:15keep myself from smiling.
18:16I think that we were
18:24meant to be here.
18:34I want to show you
18:35one of my secret skills
18:36that's probably going to be
18:37very underwhelming.
18:39Oh, no.
18:41So I can't breakdance,
18:43but I can look like
18:44I'm about to breakdance.
18:45You ready?
18:45Yeah.
18:47Oh, wow.
18:49That was equally impressive.
18:51It's night four
18:52and I don't have
18:53a lot of time left to date.
18:54I can see myself
18:56with Mal and Vanessa.
18:57I can see it
18:58in the way Mal looks at me.
18:59She, like,
19:01has no problem
19:02telling me
19:03how sure she is of me.
19:04I don't have anything
19:05to follow that up with.
19:06I'm so sorry.
19:06Come on.
19:07You've got to.
19:09When it comes to my dates
19:10with Vanessa,
19:11we have a really good banter.
19:13There's an attraction there.
19:15Well, I don't have
19:16the props for it,
19:17but I can tie a cherry stem
19:19into a knot
19:20with my tongue.
19:22Oh, my God.
19:24But Vanessa
19:25makes me uncomfortable.
19:27I want to get married.
19:28I came here to get married,
19:29and I just don't know
19:30if she's ready
19:31to get married
19:32or if she even wants that.
19:34She talks about kids
19:35and the motions,
19:36but not about
19:37the marriage part of it.
19:38There's just something
19:39about her
19:39that I can't seem
19:40to figure out.
19:41I am damn confused.
19:43I do not know
19:44who to pick.
19:45And for somebody
19:46that likes control
19:47and, like, answers,
19:49that's extremely unnerving.
19:51What do you think
19:52our relationship
19:52would look like
19:53in five years?
19:54We would be having fun.
19:56We wouldn't be
19:56buying a house yet.
19:57Like, maybe, like,
19:58I would to, like,
19:58invest, but, like,
19:59we wouldn't be doing,
20:00like, that shit.
20:01You're such an adult.
20:02It's disgusting.
20:03We'd be somewhere
20:04doing something crazy.
20:05I'd be working
20:06from wherever.
20:07Can you work
20:08from anywhere?
20:09Yeah.
20:09Anywhere.
20:10I don't know
20:11where that would be.
20:12I kind of like
20:12that with you.
20:13Obviously,
20:14I am attracted to you.
20:15I feel like
20:16I'm growing to trust you.
20:18I don't know.
20:19Yeah, I'm going
20:20to drink about it,
20:20but I could imagine,
20:23like, growing closer to you,
20:25and that's obviously
20:26very scary for me.
20:27Being aware of that
20:28while, like,
20:29having an ex here.
20:31That you want
20:31to marry?
20:33That I came here
20:34with the intention
20:36of marrying,
20:37which is a mindfuck.
20:39Woo!
20:40I don't want to leave here
20:41wishing I did anything
20:42differently,
20:42and obviously,
20:43there's a part of that
20:44where, like,
20:44this is a two-person decision.
20:46At the end of our date here,
20:48how do you feel
20:49about marrying me?
20:50Do I feel about
20:51marrying you?
20:52Yeah.
20:53I think it would be fun.
20:54What do you think
20:56marrying me would be like?
20:58It's hard for me
20:59to imagine marrying anyone.
21:01I think that today
21:03I'm realizing, like,
21:04I don't want to grow
21:05closer to someone else.
21:07Like, I don't feel like
21:07I'm at that point at all.
21:09Like, I'm so not ready
21:10for that.
21:11You have so much stability
21:12in your life.
21:13I feel like I've never had.
21:15I don't have any desire
21:15to have.
21:16Do you think you want
21:17to be with somebody
21:18who has stability?
21:21Um,
21:22like, I'm up for
21:23a trial marriage,
21:24and I want to see
21:25what it's like
21:25to live with someone
21:26who I've never lived
21:27with before.
21:27Like, I'm excited
21:29about that,
21:30but I think, for me,
21:32I can't go into it
21:34thinking,
21:35I'm going to go
21:36get fucking married.
21:37Yeah, right.
21:38And my ex,
21:39she was the closest
21:40to marriage,
21:41I feel like I could get.
21:42But I just feel like
21:43when I get bored,
21:44I'm like,
21:45okay, I'm bored.
21:48Do you feel like
21:49there was, like,
21:49an actual chance
21:50that Xander could
21:51find someone else?
21:53Uh, no.
21:55I'm beautiful.
21:58Right?
21:59You said it,
22:00not me.
22:00Xander has been saying
22:02she might be asexual
22:03and that I'm the only one
22:05that she could have
22:05feelings for.
22:06She would be asexual
22:07if not for me.
22:10What exactly did you think
22:12you were going to get
22:14out of this process
22:14if there was no chance
22:16for Xander
22:17to be with other people
22:18and, like,
22:19you're sitting over here
22:20and I don't want
22:21to get married.
22:22What the fuck
22:23did you come here for?
22:24I think I don't understand.
22:26Why is that upsetting you?
22:28The experience
22:28was 10 people
22:29coming here,
22:31open,
22:32and ready to accept
22:34not just the possibility
22:37of a marriage proposal
22:38and what that commitment
22:39might mean,
22:39but also to the possibility
22:41of meeting other people here
22:43who you could find
22:45something with.
22:45You were legitimately
22:47the person I was, like,
22:48strongly considering,
22:49but, like,
22:50that growth that I thought
22:51I was going to be able
22:52to have in three weeks
22:53with you
22:53doesn't seem humanly possible.
22:56Your brain,
22:57your heart,
22:58your mind
22:58seem very shut off
23:00to this process.
23:02Why is that?
23:03You're not risking anything.
23:07I don't know, Lex.
23:08You didn't think
23:08she could be attracted
23:09to anyone else.
23:10I just can't see
23:12how it's genuine.
23:13There's a part of me
23:14that's almost like
23:15somebody should tell you
23:16where the door is.
23:17This isn't for you.
23:20Trust,
23:21completely broken.
23:22Faith,
23:23misplaced as hell.
23:24I thought I was attracted to her.
23:25I thought there was
23:26something there.
23:26I wanted to explore that
23:27and risk it.
23:28But, like,
23:28it's a lie world.
23:30Vanessa's a fake person.
23:31I don't know what else
23:32to tell you.
23:32I'm like,
23:33she's fake?
23:34I don't even want
23:35to say her name anymore.
23:36She's like,
23:36Voldemort to me.
23:37If you do get rejected
23:39by me,
23:39and please know
23:40that if it is,
23:41it's...
23:42So you can go live
23:42with my ex?
23:49This was a terrible
23:50end to a date,
23:51like, objectively.
23:52Yeah, I'm just so confused
23:53how it got that way.
23:55I think we pack it up.
23:56Yeah.
23:57I will never have to
23:58look that girl in the face,
23:59but somebody else
23:59will have to
24:00for the next three weeks.
24:01Likely,
24:02my ex-girlfriend.
24:03And I'm angry about that.
24:06I wish Rae would know
24:08that this girl
24:08is not here
24:09for the right stuff.
24:12I don't want
24:12to see her again.
24:27Here's to a laugh
24:28for you guys.
24:29Cheers.
24:29And happiness.
24:30New beginnings.
24:32Got me.
24:32I love these diamonds
24:35you got going on
24:35over here.
24:36Diamonds on my neck.
24:37Diamonds on my neck.
24:37Diamonds on my neck.
24:38That's some Beyonce shit
24:39right there.
24:40Oh, but you wouldn't
24:41fuck Beyonce.
24:43Oh, my God.
24:44Did you guys talk about that?
24:45Yes.
24:45So I was saying,
24:47do you think
24:47Beyonce would be good
24:49in bed
24:49versus Rihanna?
24:51Do you think
24:52Beyonce would be good?
24:52Okay, okay.
24:53You put it on like this.
24:54You put it on like this.
24:55Right.
24:56I'm like,
24:57Beyonce's not...
24:58I mean,
24:58I think she'd be great.
24:59She'd be like,
24:59one, two, three, four.
25:00But she knows
25:02what to do.
25:03But I don't think
25:04she would be...
25:06Whereas Rihanna
25:06would just be like...
25:07Oh, fuck yeah.
25:08Hold on.
25:09Let me mind fuck you.
25:10What would Cardi B like?
25:12That's another one.
25:15That's not tequila,
25:16is it?
25:17Oh, can we do tequila?
25:19Yes.
25:19Oh, it's so rough.
25:22Smells like laxie to me.
25:25You should tell her.
25:27Tequila will never
25:28not remind me of laxie.
25:30You're my ex.
25:31I forgot.
25:31Yeah, I'm not
25:32holding your hand.
25:33I'm just gonna
25:34order my drink.
25:35You can order yours.
25:36Excuse you?
25:39I'm joking.
25:40I'm joking.
25:41A couple of days ago,
25:43I was given
25:43the ultimatum,
25:44and now
25:45I feel like
25:46I'm ready
25:47to grasp it.
25:49This whole week
25:50of dating
25:51has helped me
25:52discover myself.
25:54I didn't even know
25:54that it was possible
25:56for me to feel this way,
25:57but...
25:58Oh, I'm just...
26:00Emotional.
26:02Yeah.
26:05I don't think
26:06gin and tonic
26:07is tonight.
26:08I think it's
26:08when we live together.
26:09I think this is...
26:10When you guys
26:11live together?
26:12When?
26:12You guys are expecting
26:13to live together?
26:14Yeah, I think
26:15it's when
26:15we live together
26:17is the gin and tonic
26:18time.
26:19Yeah, exactly.
26:20I don't...
26:21Okay.
26:22Hello.
26:22Hello.
26:23We can talk.
26:24It's okay.
26:25We can talk.
26:30Yep.
26:32How are you feeling?
26:34Uh, I have feelings.
26:36I do want to talk
26:38to you.
26:38I do, too.
26:39Let's go.
26:40Come on.
26:42Okay.
26:44Talk to me.
26:45Um, coming into this,
26:48I think we both
26:48talked very openly
26:49about, like,
26:50if you did have, like,
26:52like, an attraction
26:53to someone.
26:54So you have that?
26:56I do have that.
26:57I think I have
26:58a physical attraction
26:59to Vanessa.
27:00Right.
27:00Like, three weeks
27:01would be fun.
27:02I'm a little stressed,
27:04um, about that.
27:05Mm-hmm.
27:05Um, I think Vanessa
27:07is, like, a song and
27:09dance in this experience.
27:11I'm also strongly concerned
27:13about, like, motives
27:15for being here.
27:16I think I've been
27:17stressed because, like,
27:18my gut's been saying,
27:19like, something's gonna,
27:21like, blow our shit up.
27:23And this, like, feels like it.
27:25Um, if I can say
27:28that at this point
27:29I've gained anything
27:30from this process,
27:31it's that I know
27:32so definitively
27:34the things that I deserve
27:36in this,
27:36like, very surely.
27:39And I'm not gonna
27:40hold anything against you,
27:41like, in the past
27:42from our relationship,
27:43but I know what I need
27:44by the end of this,
27:46like, thoroughly.
27:47I know what I need.
27:48And listening to people
27:51who value the love I bring
27:53and the maturity I bring
27:54and the, like,
27:56goodness I bring,
27:58you know?
27:58Like, those are things
28:00that I need to, like,
28:02I needed to remind myself
28:03of in this process
28:04that, like, I am good.
28:06I do bring a lot
28:07to the table.
28:08I help people realize
28:09why marriage is something
28:11they can be ready for,
28:12whether it's with me
28:13or with someone else.
28:14But your time here
28:16seems to have encompassed,
28:17like, a good bit of,
28:19like,
28:20do I want to just
28:22fuck around with someone
28:23and that could be fun.
28:25I get it.
28:25Vanessa is attractive.
28:27She's fun.
28:27She's, like,
28:28all of the fun parts of me,
28:29but she's not me.
28:31And I feel like,
28:32should I have brought
28:32right here?
28:34And that fucking sucks.
28:37I know,
28:38and you gave me one week
28:39to figure it out.
28:40Like, you're, like,
28:40giving me a second
28:41ultimatum here.
28:42I'm not asking you that.
28:43I'm asking you if you feel
28:44like you're doing
28:45any work towards that.
28:46I think I'm having
28:46really interesting conversations,
28:48like, literally
28:49with the same people you are.
28:50I just am thinking,
28:51like, do I deserve you?
28:53And sometimes I feel like
28:54I don't because you're,
28:55like, this,
28:56like, imagine,
28:57like, a glass this big.
28:58Yours is full.
28:59You have this capacity in you
29:00and you're this type of person
29:01and, like, I'm this.
29:03And, like, I'm scared
29:04that I'll never feel
29:05like that.
29:08I'll never, like,
29:09feel what you need.
29:10Without feeling like
29:11you can definitively say
29:12that it's me,
29:13like, that part
29:14will always be empty.
29:15I didn't expect her
29:18to find so much validation.
29:20And maybe Lexi needs
29:22a different person.
29:23But I want Lexi to know
29:24that I love her.
29:25I have been envisioning
29:26a future with her
29:27for, like, three years now.
29:30And I'm trying to get there.
29:31I don't know if I will get there.
29:33And, like, I really
29:34wouldn't be doing this
29:35if it wasn't for her
29:36because this is, like,
29:38super out of my comfort zone.
29:39And, like, this is hard.
29:42Wait, am I at the table
29:43with all the ones
29:44that were given the ultimatum?
29:46Oh, no.
29:46Yeah, you are.
29:47This is a setup.
29:48This is a setup.
29:49I'm out.
29:50Did the movie naturally
29:51just gravitate to this table?
29:52So, you guys are the receivers.
29:54We're the bottoms
29:55of the ultimatum.
29:58But either way,
29:59it's very, like,
30:00submissive sounding.
30:01It is.
30:01It is.
30:02It is.
30:02I am not a bottom.
30:03Okay, so...
30:05Well, depending on the situation,
30:06I don't know.
30:07Okay.
30:07We can get into that more.
30:10We should have been
30:11on a day three.
30:12We should have been on a day three.
30:13Who have your dates been with?
30:15Tiff and Sander.
30:17Sander was very just...
30:19I was like,
30:19oh, I didn't think
30:20this would happen.
30:21But, like, okay.
30:22Hi.
30:23You can take my spot.
30:25What?
30:25And I'm gonna go over there.
30:27Oh.
30:28Yeah.
30:29Bye, Sam.
30:30Bye.
30:30I'm a lover.
30:32Hi.
30:33Hi.
30:35So, I'll be
30:36very transparent with you.
30:37This experience...
30:39Fucking crazy, right?
30:42Nuts.
30:43This shit is crazy.
30:44Mm-hmm.
30:44Um, but...
30:46I have had really awesome dates.
30:48And...
30:49Do you want to tell me who?
30:51Yeah.
30:51I'm fine.
30:52If you're okay with it,
30:53I'm fine with that.
30:55Um, Lexi?
30:57I did feel a little bit of a way
31:05when I...
31:06I unfortunately saw you
31:07and Sander on a date
31:08and was like...
31:09I feel like Sander
31:11is like my direct insecurity
31:13of what your type is
31:14and what your type has been.
31:16Mm-hmm.
31:16With dating white women
31:18in the past.
31:19Yeah.
31:20And I'm like,
31:21you have my blessings, right?
31:22To...
31:23To explore
31:24whatever you want to explore.
31:26Mm-hmm.
31:27But of course,
31:27my ego,
31:28like my own self,
31:29my own ego,
31:30my own insecurities,
31:31and I'm like...
31:31It feels very like...
31:34Yep.
31:35Mm-hmm.
31:36Of course.
31:38And there's nothing...
31:39I'm not asking for reassurances.
31:40That's not what I'm asking for.
31:41There's nothing you can do
31:42about that.
31:43Let's join some people.
31:45Why?
31:45Because I want to.
31:51Who are you?
31:52Mm-hmm.
31:54Okay?
31:54Like in between.
31:56Do you want me here?
31:57Because I feel like...
31:58Of course I want.
31:59Of course I want you here.
32:00Okay.
32:01I've been thinking a lot
32:02about just us
32:04and how we've been navigating
32:06our relationship
32:07for the past two years.
32:08Mm-hmm.
32:09And this experience
32:10has, like,
32:11really changed me.
32:12I'm in shock.
32:15There's so much
32:16that I need to learn.
32:17And there's people here
32:18that I can learn from.
32:21What?
32:21Come here.
32:22Come here.
32:28Um...
32:28I just, like...
32:32I realize so much,
32:34you know, like...
32:35This experience
32:36has made me, like,
32:37realize we're not connected
32:38and, like,
32:39how apart we actually are.
32:40Sometimes I'm in my room
32:45and I think of you,
32:46and I'm not wondering
32:47if you're thinking of me.
32:48Like, I've been going
32:49on all these dates,
32:50you know,
32:50and I don't feel nervous.
32:52I just feel hopeful.
33:01Oh, no.
33:04I know.
33:04I know.
33:05I understand that Mildred
33:09is taking this very seriously
33:10and that she has a right
33:12to connect with whoever she wants.
33:14But,
33:15fuck.
33:16She's slipping out of my fingertips
33:19and...
33:21I'm not ready to lose her.
33:25I've been wanting nothing
33:26but to connect with you.
33:28It's really hard for me
33:29because I've been connecting
33:31with everyone.
33:32And that's why I'm crying,
33:33because I feel like
33:34it's scary.
33:36Let me ask you something.
33:38Do you feel like
33:39we're connecting now?
33:43I don't want to love you.
33:45I don't want to hold you.
33:48I don't want to show you how.
33:52It's really hard for me to say,
33:54but the kisses...
33:56Tiff is trying to force
33:57connecting with me,
33:58but this happens all the time.
34:00We have sex,
34:02and it's good.
34:02And then,
34:03ignore all of our problems.
34:05I don't know what to do.
34:06I don't know what to feel.
34:08I'm not doing this anymore.
34:13Okay, one thing
34:14I just wanted to talk to you about.
34:15Oh, yeah.
34:16So, I'm in a very interesting predicament.
34:19It seems as though, right,
34:20is, like,
34:21interested in someone here.
34:24Yeah.
34:24Um, and it's not good.
34:26I feel sick to my stomach,
34:27and I have been referring to her
34:29as an atomic bomb.
34:30No one knows this.
34:30I'm actually an Instagram influencer.
34:32I, like, get paid
34:33to do content.
34:34Are you serious?
34:36So, yeah,
34:37I'm, like, an Instagram poet, basically.
34:38Okay.
34:39I don't trust her.
34:40She is a fake person.
34:42I don't know.
34:45I honestly,
34:46there's a big part of me
34:46that thinks that
34:47somebody feels like
34:48they have more leverage
34:49than they deserve
34:50in this situation,
34:51and I don't like
34:53that that person
34:54has that much power
34:54in their hands.
34:56I think Vanessa is...
34:58I'm just like,
34:58why are you here
34:59and what's up?
35:00I agree.
35:01I realized
35:02I was not the biggest fan
35:03of Vanessa
35:03right when I met her.
35:05Day one,
35:07like,
35:07Vanessa starts, like,
35:08hitting on my ex
35:09in front of me.
35:10So, I was like,
35:10all right,
35:11you're that girl.
35:12I don't fully trust her
35:15or her intentions.
35:16She just seems
35:17to be into herself
35:18and making everything
35:20about herself.
35:21It's as simple as that.
35:23If that's where
35:24her mindset is at...
35:25That scares me.
35:27She's like a narcissist
35:28with Jason Sander
35:29who felt a lot
35:30more, like,
35:31honest.
35:32It's like,
35:33they were me for a loop
35:33and I was like,
35:34okay.
35:34Do you feel like
35:35you're more secure
35:36about why Sander's here?
35:37Obviously,
35:38they're a couple.
35:40Sorry if I've...
35:41Yeah.
35:41Yeah.
35:42I really hope so.
35:44I would love a rundown.
35:46How are you doing?
35:47Who are you connecting with?
35:48I don't even know
35:49who you've been
35:50going on dates with.
35:51I think you're going
35:51to be, like,
35:52pretty surprised,
35:53like,
35:54it's Yoli.
35:57Um,
35:58really?
36:00Yeah.
36:01So, like,
36:02I think...
36:03Yeah, please,
36:06explain that.
36:06Yeah.
36:07So, like,
36:08I think that...
36:09I don't know.
36:10I mean,
36:11I'm definitely, like,
36:11getting confused.
36:12I think Yoli
36:12is a lot similar to you,
36:15to be honest.
36:15Like, I don't know
36:16that you guys
36:16are going to be friends
36:17in this experience,
36:19but, like,
36:19I think that you guys
36:20are pretty similar.
36:23Yeah.
36:24How are you...
36:24Are you okay?
36:25Yeah, she's just
36:25not very nice to me.
36:30Like a fucking idiot.
36:31Why?
36:32You should not.
36:35I don't want you
36:36to feel that way.
36:36I think I want
36:37to walk away.
36:38That's okay.
36:41I don't want you
36:42to do that.
36:43I think we shouldn't
36:48have talked.
36:54I really don't
36:55want to talk to you
36:56if you went up with her.
37:02I don't know
37:02if that's fair for me.
37:03It's just the whole thing
37:11that you know
37:12that she has not
37:12been nice to me
37:13and you're still...
37:14The only time
37:14I've witnessed it
37:15was at the last
37:15cocktail party,
37:16which is, like,
37:17so brief for me.
37:18Like, I don't...
37:20Yeah, but you noticed it.
37:24Yeah.
37:28Whatever.
37:30Baby, no.
37:30No.
37:30No.
37:31No.
37:31No.
37:31No.
37:31No.
37:31No.
37:31No.
37:31No.
37:31No.
37:31No.
37:31No.
37:31No.
37:32No.
37:33I hate that.
37:39I really wanted
37:40to see
37:41so much progress
37:43with Vanessa,
37:44and I don't feel
37:46like I'm receiving that.
37:47I feel like I'm still
37:48receiving
37:49what I would
37:51see as selfish
37:53with her seeing
37:55I shouldn't be
37:57with someone
37:57because of her
37:59or because of this.
38:01Like, it's not the fact
38:01that she's even thinking
38:02about, like,
38:03maybe you should be
38:04with this person
38:05because she wants
38:06to get married
38:07and because she wants
38:07to have kids
38:08and, like,
38:08she wants things
38:09that I want.
38:11It's not that.
38:12It's the fact
38:12that she's thinking
38:13about, like,
38:13I shouldn't be
38:14with that person
38:14because that's
38:15not someone
38:16that she gets
38:17along with.
38:18And I don't want that.
38:19Like, I want her
38:20to let me experience
38:22this experience
38:24for why I'm here.
38:26It's getting down
38:26to the way
38:27to jump into the space
38:31No time to touch the stage
38:34Xander came into this
38:36telling me I was the one.
38:38And I think tonight
38:39was the moment
38:39that I realized
38:40that I'm not the one
38:41for Xander.
38:42I am fucked.
38:44I cannot stop her.
38:44It's so hard
38:50to think about.
38:53It's so pathetic.
38:59I just want to be alone.
39:03I'm having a really
39:04hard time tonight
39:05and I'm not even drunk.
39:07Like, I wish I could be,
39:08like, I'm just a drunk mess,
39:10but I'm not.
39:10I'm just a fucking mess.
39:12I was given
39:15an ultimatum
39:15a week ago
39:16and as of tonight
39:19I'm sure it's enough.
39:24I'm sure it's enough.
39:42Everything's at stake
40:00when it comes
40:01to the choice.
40:02I gave Ray
40:02an ultimatum
40:03because I want
40:04a life partner
40:04and I want someone
40:05to commit to.
40:06So part of what
40:07I'm looking for
40:08in a trial life
40:09is somebody
40:10that's going
40:10to commit to me
40:11not just for
40:12this three weeks
40:13but as if it was
40:15the first day
40:15of the rest
40:15of our lives.
40:21I'm ready to discover.
40:23I'm ready to get answers.
40:24Yes, I'm missing my ex
40:26but I gave Tiff
40:27the ultimatum
40:28because I don't
40:30want to wait anymore
40:31for no matter
40:31what outcome.
40:32We're both going
40:33to be able to
40:34gain the clarity
40:35that we've been
40:36searching for.
40:37We are the best
40:39It is a lesbian
40:49urban legend
40:50that you move in
40:52with a new person
40:53right away
40:54but even in my
40:54most U-Haulist moments
40:56I have not moved in
40:57with somebody
40:57after only a week
40:58of being single
40:59ever at all
41:00but this experience
41:02is a wake-up call.
41:04There's a bunch
41:06of other people
41:07out in the world
41:07who want what I want
41:08so even though
41:10I gave Mal
41:11an ultimatum
41:12now I'm just like
41:13but what if
41:13but what if
41:14and it's just
41:14overwhelming.
41:17I have never told
41:18Yoli that I didn't
41:19want to marry her
41:20I just told her
41:21not right now.
41:22Walking into the choice
41:23I can definitely
41:24see Yoli falling
41:25for somebody
41:26and fully leaning in
41:27but I don't think
41:29Yoli understands
41:30the severity
41:31of the ultimatum
41:32she has placed on me
41:33how that might
41:34backfire on her
41:35because I know
41:36who I want to choose
41:37to be my trial wife.
41:38I'm not
41:39thinking about
41:41anybody else.
41:42Unfortunately
41:42not next to me.
41:43I know.
41:44I have no doubt
41:46at all.
41:51Going into the choice
41:52Xander is connecting
41:54with someone else here
41:55on you know
41:56more than a friendship
41:56level and
41:57breaks my heart
42:00to think about that
42:01but I'm not ready
42:03to say that
42:04I would marry her
42:05just to not lose her.
42:07Knowing that tonight
42:08I'm going to be
42:09choosing someone
42:10to be my trial
42:12marriage partner
42:13I miss those butterflies
42:14and like that new
42:15relationship excitement
42:16someone here
42:18could be a good
42:19fit for me
42:19and that's something
42:20that I should pursue.
42:21We are the right
42:23We are the right
42:28from what I hear
42:41it has been
42:42an incredibly
42:42emotional
42:43and intense week.
42:45Absolutely.
42:45Yes.
42:46I can see it
42:46on all your faces.
42:48In the best way.
42:51The idea of marriage
42:52was actually
42:53something I never
42:54actually deeply
42:56really thought of
42:57to be honest.
42:58It's crazy
42:59because it was never
43:00a possibility for me
43:02because it wasn't
43:03legal.
43:03It wasn't a thing.
43:04Yeah.
43:05And then I also learned
43:06what a power bottom was.
43:07I don't know if you know
43:07what a power bottom is.
43:07I know what a power bottom is.
43:09You do?
43:10Of course.
43:11What is a power bottom?
43:12Vildred, you're a power bottom.
43:13I'm just letting you know.
43:15What?
43:15You're on the bottom
43:16but you're calling the shots
43:17still.
43:17You're still like
43:18you know
43:18giving it
43:19lip as shit.
43:20All right.
43:26Okay.
43:27You arrived here
43:28as five couples.
43:30One of you
43:31was ready to get married
43:32and the other
43:33was not.
43:34You're here to answer
43:35one simple question.
43:38Did you come here
43:38with the person
43:39that you're going to spend
43:40the rest of your life with?
43:42Or
43:42will you find
43:44someone else
43:45who's a better fit?
43:46You're about to pick
43:48your new partner.
43:50If you choose someone
43:52who also chooses you
43:53you will move in together
43:55as a new couple
43:56in a trial marriage.
43:59So I just want to say
44:00before we begin
44:01pick someone
44:03who challenges you
44:04and don't make
44:06the safe choice.
44:09So Xander
44:10tell us a little bit
44:10about the people
44:12that you've spent
44:12time with this week.
44:13I feel
44:16like I initially
44:18was attracted to Ray
44:18because
44:19I've dated
44:20someone like Ray
44:21and
44:22you know
44:23she was fun
44:23and
44:24Who was that?
44:29What?
44:30Who is this?
44:30It's a Bumble person.
44:32Never knew about this.
44:33We've been together
44:34for four years.
44:35Never heard about this human.
44:36Learning this.
44:37About what?
44:37I've never heard
44:38about this ex.
44:39It wasn't an ex really.
44:41It was like
44:41very interesting.
44:42More like a
44:42in between stage.
44:48I feel like I knew
44:49most of Xander's
44:50ex love life
44:51and this
44:52I will clarify
44:54that it was
44:55an in between stage
44:56of a Bumble tender person.
44:58Is this like
44:58Traptor Girl?
45:00Okay.
45:01No.
45:01We're going to go back
45:02to you Xander.
45:03Okay great great.
45:03Can we ask you
45:11about Yoli?
45:13Yoli
45:14I appreciate
45:15your openness
45:17with me.
45:17I think that
45:18you have a very
45:19positive outlook
45:20on a lot of things.
45:22I believe that
45:23you're going to
45:24make a good wife
45:25because I think
45:25that you know
45:26what you want
45:26and I think
45:27you're not
45:27someone that is
45:29like selfish
45:29by any means
45:30like you're going
45:31to think about others
45:31and it's a great
45:32aspect to have.
45:39There's no right answer.
45:40Yeah okay cool.
45:44Xander
45:45are you ready
45:46to make your choice?
45:47I am.
45:55My heart is pounding.
46:00I choose Yoli
46:01because I think
46:02that you and I
46:04have the deepest
46:04conversations.
46:05I think that we
46:06can teach
46:07each other a lot
46:08and I think
46:08that we can
46:10figure some
46:11things out together.
46:13It would be great.
46:17That was deep.
46:20Xander you have
46:21a huge heart
46:22and you're so kind
46:24and so willing
46:25to give
46:26and I've shared
46:27with you
46:28that I get
46:28very protective
46:29of people
46:30with big hearts
46:30just because
46:32I can see
46:33people in the world
46:34like taking
46:35advantage of it
46:36or seeing
46:36as a weakness
46:37even and I get
46:38very protective
46:39of stuff like that.
46:40Appreciate that.
46:41I love that.
46:43Yoli.
46:45Are you ready
46:45to make your choice?
46:47Yes I am.
46:48I choose
46:55Xander.
46:57Through our
46:58conversations
46:58I've been really
47:00surprised to learn
47:01how much like
47:01similarities
47:02and common goals
47:04we have
47:05as far as like
47:06marriage and family
47:07and what married
47:08life would look like
47:09so I'd be
47:10really excited
47:11to explore
47:12that with you.
47:17Okay Ray
47:17we're headed your way.
47:19No!
47:20Um
47:21I think Vanessa
47:22and I had a very
47:23like physical
47:24interest in each other
47:26but she has this
47:28like very
47:28free spirit
47:29nature to her
47:31that like
47:31I don't really
47:32understand
47:33because I'm like
47:33a stability
47:34kind of woman
47:35and looking
47:36towards the future
47:37I think she'd be
47:38a good wife.
47:40I love.
47:41We had a great time
47:42and I feel like
47:42you calmed me down
47:43a lot
47:44and you've paid
47:44attention to me
47:45enough
47:45and I really
47:46appreciate that
47:47and I think
47:48you're wonderful.
47:52And Mal
47:53oh my gosh
47:53you've been in my
47:54top with you
47:54this whole time
47:55I'm really sad
47:55we have not
47:56had more time
47:56together.
47:58You are
47:59enigmatic
48:01I believe
48:01that's a word
48:02I hope.
48:02Oh I love that word.
48:04Okay good
48:04so it is a word
48:05you can confirm
48:06yeah that's
48:07definitely you.
48:08We had just
48:09had a connection
48:10from the instant
48:11we met
48:12and I think
48:13you're a wonderful
48:14human
48:14I only had
48:16one interaction
48:17with you
48:18I know
48:19right
48:19I made a
48:20very quick
48:20decision
48:21just for reasons
48:23that I value
48:24that are just
48:25different
48:25you know
48:26sure
48:26I haven't always
48:28known what a
48:28hell yes is
48:29but I have
48:30known
48:30things that
48:32are a no
48:32for me
48:33and I think
48:34those things
48:34scare me
48:35and I think
48:35sometimes I lean
48:36into those
48:36things
48:37in the next
48:38life
48:39yeah
48:39um
48:41Lexi
48:42you were probably
48:43born to be
48:44someone's wife
48:45you're in a way
48:46a trophy wife
48:47but also like
48:48the person
48:49the breadwinner
48:50as well
48:50I don't know
48:51how that really
48:52happens
48:52but you are
48:53we notice
48:54immediately
48:55that we are
48:55pretty much
48:56equals in terms
48:57of our personalities
48:58but you are
49:00you're marriage
49:01driven
49:01like you're so
49:02young
49:02and you're so
49:03driven
49:03it bewilders me
49:05because this is
49:06not who I am
49:06at all
49:07like I'm six
49:07years older
49:08than you
49:08and I have
49:08none of the
49:10motivation
49:10that you do
49:11and I look
49:12forward to
49:13whatever your
49:15experience is
49:15and we'll
49:16chat about it
49:17so we came
49:21into this process
49:22right
49:22and you made
49:23me uncomfortable
49:24you know
49:25you're the loudest
49:25person in the room
49:26I'm sometimes
49:27the loudest
49:27person in the room
49:28and we bounced
49:30off of that
49:30and then things
49:32really changed
49:33for me
49:34part of me
49:34feels that
49:35the second
49:36you found out
49:37that Xander
49:38was really
49:38leaning into
49:39this process
49:40that that just
49:42soiled your
49:43experience
49:43I felt it
49:44on our date
49:45I felt the
49:46general shift
49:47and my concern
49:48for myself
49:49is that
49:50you going into
49:50this next process
49:51of this experience
49:52you only at a
49:54maximum saw it
49:55as a three week
49:5621 day thing
49:58and you're not
50:00going to be able
50:00to give anything
50:01to anyone
50:01in this process
50:02and beyond that
50:03to be completely
50:04candid with you
50:05I felt gaslit
50:07and because you
50:08went on a date
50:09with my ex-girlfriend
50:10regardless of the
50:11fact that we're
50:11calling each other
50:12exes in this moment
50:13my fear is that
50:15you have a power
50:18in your hands
50:18to blow up
50:20a portion of my life
50:22because you don't
50:23have anything to lose
50:24at this moment
50:24because I thoroughly
50:25feel the world
50:26just saw you
50:26for who you are
50:27I have concerns
50:29for my ex
50:30in this process
50:30I don't think
50:31you're here
50:31for the right reasons
50:32what reasons
50:33do you think
50:33I'm here for
50:34I think genuinely
50:35that you came
50:36into this process
50:37thinking that
50:38there was about
50:39a 0.001% chance
50:42that Xander
50:42would have any
50:43sort of connections
50:44with other people
50:45because a part of it
50:46is supposed to be
50:47the potential
50:47that we romantically
50:48connect with someone else
50:49and I want to add
50:55to that Lexi
50:55you've been telling
50:56Xander to fuck off
50:57all night
50:58and it's hurting
50:58all of us
50:59but you
50:59it is
51:00and that should
51:00just say so much
51:01it's hurting who
51:02everyone
51:03everyone's sitting
51:04at this table
51:04except for you
51:05I don't really
51:11want everyone
51:12to antagonize
51:14Vanessa
51:15because she's
51:16we understand
51:17because that's
51:18the person
51:18that you've been
51:19with for four years
51:19it doesn't matter
51:20if that's the person
51:21I've been with
51:21for four years
51:22or for ten years
51:24but she's someone
51:25that no one else
51:27understands
51:28except for me
51:29and like that's
51:29why I love her
51:30and I don't need
51:32you guys to understand
51:33that
51:34I wish that I could
51:35divide this whole
51:36situation
51:36but like I
51:37I cannot feel like
51:39you guys are
51:40protecting me
51:41we do care about you
51:42but at the same time
51:43we are looking out
51:44for everyone sitting
51:45in this experience
51:46because we're all
51:47in this together
51:48it's not
51:48just about
51:49Vanessa
51:50and Xander
51:51it's about
51:51the rest of the people
51:53sitting here
51:53and I think
51:54Lexi is also
51:54protecting her ex
51:55how do you know
51:56that
51:57her and Ray
51:59would not be able
52:00to figure out
52:01something together
52:02that could
52:03make
52:04our partners
52:05want to be with us
52:06like we're the ones
52:07that gave the ultimatum
52:08and I'm not trying
52:09to like
52:09ally in any means
52:10I'll interject on that
52:11so
52:12I don't know
52:13what you want
52:13out of this
52:14which is fine
52:14like you don't have
52:15to know what you want
52:16because like
52:16sometimes I don't
52:17know what I want
52:17and like
52:18I think one of the
52:19things we were
52:19talking about earlier
52:20was how
52:22there is someone
52:22who comes in here
52:23with an ultimatum
52:24and now they're like
52:25oh well I have feelings
52:26for someone else
52:26and
52:27you hearing that
52:29you're like
52:29wait
52:31you came in here
52:32with an ultimatum
52:33you knew what you wanted
52:34and now you don't
52:36and now you expect me
52:37to know
52:38what I want
52:39but you were the one
52:40that came in here
52:41with the ultimatum
52:41I do trust you
52:42I hope that you know that
52:44I do trust you
52:45I know you do
52:45you're not the person
52:46I don't trust in this scenario
52:47if it does get to the point
52:49where you do spend time
52:50with my ex
52:50I hope
52:51that you get
52:52what you need to
52:53out of it
52:53and I hope she gets
52:54what she needs to
52:55out of it
52:55because I think
52:56she and I
52:57have a lot to learn
52:58in this process
52:59things that we both
53:00came here to do
53:01our last date
53:02really just laid it
53:04all out for me
53:04about who you are
53:05I'm happy my gut
53:06speak so loud
53:07I'll remember to
53:08listen to that more
53:09because of that discomfort
53:10I had to go on
53:12that last date with you
53:12and I'm so freaking
53:13thankful I did
53:14I don't trust Vanessa
53:20Ray knows that
53:21it's not just a jealousy thing
53:23I don't think she's here
53:24for the right reasons
53:25I love the hell out of Ray
53:27when I think about her
53:28sleeping in bed
53:28with someone
53:29who really is
53:30only here
53:31because she wants
53:32to be famous
53:33my gut check
53:34is to protect her
53:35but I can't really say
53:36Ray
53:36don't choose Vanessa
53:37and if they choose
53:39each other
53:39it's fucking terrifying
53:41so
53:46I am ready
53:48to make my choice
53:49okay Ray
53:58who do you choose
54:13we're not turning back
54:16we're not turning back
54:18you
54:18you
54:20you
54:21you
54:21you
54:22you
54:22you
54:23you
54:23you