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MyShish London Walthamstow abusive behaviour towards me 31/12/2024 has left me scarred and deeply shocked. http://www.MidnightNotebook.com
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00:00My Shish London Restaurant June 25, 2025. This is a declaration of war. The establishment called
00:07My Shish, in Walthamstow, has allowed, and indeed encouraged, their member of staff to abuse me.
00:14On the 31st of December, 2024, I made my way to their venue, as per booked in writing,
00:21by their office. I was exhausted. After four hours of sleep, a gig on the same day,
00:27and severe abdominal pains due to fibromyalgia complications, I forced myself to attend,
00:34because of duty. Indeed they had booked me at the very last minute, presumably because some other
00:39dancer dropped off, but being a professional, I honored the gig. I zigzagged from King's Cross,
00:46to Kensington for my props, to my home in South London, then to their restaurant in Walthamstow.
00:52I walked 15 minutes from the station, including 5 horrifying minutes in darkest woods with no
00:58lights. After dancing 5 minutes dancing, a young waitress with false lashes desperately glued to
01:04her face came to instruct me to stop. Upon request from her boss, as I waited in the kitchen area,
01:11the manager came out of the DJ booth. As soon as he approached me, he started shouting at me,
01:17what was that? He went on to berate me and tell me off like a 10-year-old without their exercise book,
01:23calling me the worst dancer on the planet, and also a scammer and a thief. About 5 or 6 times,
01:30he told me that anyone on the planet could do this better than, me. In my opinion, and according to my
01:37observations, the man's a recurrent abuser. He was vile, demeaning, insisted on belittling me,
01:44whilst I was begging him to listen to me. I tried many times to tell him that I was promised payment
01:50in writing. I tried to explain that I had walked and walked, and spent money on the train. He refused
01:56to pay me, over and over again. The agreed fee was 200 British pounds, half the price for the specific
02:03date. He cut me off whilst speaking, over and over. When I finally told him to shut up,
02:09so I could finish a sentence. He erupted into a dark rage. He obviously could not believe that I
02:16had dared to order him about. That man displayed some clear sadistic and narcissist tendencies,
02:22and it is my opinion that he should not be exposed to the great public, which would include vulnerable
02:27people. There are incidentally, a few reviews complaining about his aggressive demeanor towards
02:33customers who had complained about the food or service. The young millennial staff member with the
02:38large fake lashes kept waving her hand in front of my face, ordering me to leave it, as as I were her
02:44subordinate. I dare say, she is half my age. She shouldn't feel so emboldened to act like this towards
02:51me, not in a healthy, non-racially biased environment. I have done this job for over 20 years.
02:58I have trained for my craft, made, bought and repaired my costumes. I have had glowing reviews from previous
03:04clients. I have tried long and hard to put this unpleasant incident behind me. I have never been
03:10treated in that fashion, nor have I ever heard of any performer being so personally berated by a client
03:17or employer. The very fact that the company themselves, my shish, justified their employee's
03:23behavior, instead of retracting his statements. After my written complaints to them, after my written
03:29reviews about them, to me signals quite clearly that they should be out of business. It is also my
03:35impression that they have never hired any black dancers, for the venue, before me. As per their
03:41social media, I believe I was the first dark-skinned dancer to grace the venue, even for their tropical
03:47night. They had European dancers, in feather costumes, cosplaying Caribbean or Brazilian dancers.
03:54I know the business far too well, to know that dark-skinned dancers are often shunned. I also
04:00too often hear from clients who do not want anyone too tanned. I run a small dancers agency. I have been
04:07offered my travel money back, by my shish. After my formal complaint to them, if the manager in question
04:14had not so vehemently accused me of being a criminal, if he had not been so hostile, so personal in his
04:21verbal attacks, if he had just given me 20 British pounds for my travel, right there and then, I would
04:27not still be complaining about the enterprise as a whole. I would not even complain about the man
04:33himself. There were many opportunities to send me a written apology. Now six months later, I am still
04:39chasing my money, via an employment tribunal. There is a preliminary hearing at the end of July,
04:46next month. Every day is a reiteration of that awful series of statements on my person,
04:52my skills, my alleged criminal behavior. Every day is a refusal to pay me. As the new year 2025
04:59started, and celebrations exploded around me, I was walking back to the station, in tears,
05:05questioning my self-worth. I did not sleep a wink for the next 24 hours. This was abusive,
05:12thoroughly unnecessary, and unacceptable attitude from a manager who represents an enterprise.
05:18It will never leave me. All I did was show up for a job, an honest job. I was treated as would be a
05:24criminal, with absolutely no retraction. So go ahead, my shish, sue me for defamation. I shall be
05:32waiting. Go ahead and spend some money on me, for once in your life. As clearly stated above,
05:38IT's war. Sandrine Anterian.

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