00:00Acharya Ji, my whole life I treated sex as fun due to my early age experience.
00:07I would treat it as fun just to relax my body.
00:10But now, at my mature age, I feel that it's a responsibility to have a son or a daughter for humanity, to strengthen our world.
00:17I feel I must procreate for the welfare of humanity.
00:20And I realize that at the time of such creation, both the partners must be aware of what they are creating.
00:25It must be for the betterment of society and not only for fun.
00:28Only then will one be responsible.
00:30Otherwise, both I and the society will suffer.
00:33You are saying that...
00:39In your...
00:42Teenage...
00:47In your early youth, you had...
00:54Sex for...
00:57Fun.
01:00And now, you want to have sex in order to fulfill a social responsibility.
01:12It is far better to have sex for fun than to have sex to fulfill some social obligation.
01:32Sex is...
01:49Something...
01:52Very...
01:54Intimate.
01:56It cannot be driven by the dictates of others, it cannot be driven by social norms, it cannot
02:12be the method to fulfil a responsibility towards others.
02:27Having fun and then moving on is a far more innocent and spiritual thing.
02:47Because in having fun, you are not aiming for the future.
02:59In having fun, you are not expecting a reward after the action.
03:16In having fun, you will not try to hold the other captive, you will not say that you must
03:34now stay with me and fulfil your responsibilities and sign this contract with me that obliges
03:49you for such time into the future.
04:00Sex that is had for a purpose is anyway bad.
04:09Even if it is your own personal purpose.
04:15And sex that is had for a social purpose, even if that purpose is a high sounding and a lofty
04:29purpose like the welfare of mankind is worse.
04:40These so-called noble aphorisms and slogans are not going to save you.
04:57If one cannot be centred, be with himself, even in something as intimate as sex, I am calling
05:19it intimate because of all the human actions, sex has the potential to engage one most fully.
05:34Man is anyway always distracted but the possibility of distraction is lowered in the sexual activity.
05:46It consumes one fully, it possesses, it dominates for the promise that it holds.
06:07When you are with your partner, there must be only the two of you.
06:16Only then total engagement and immersion is possible.
06:24Instead, if the entire society is present, then the act has been corrupted, the mind has been
06:40corrupted, the relationship has been corrupted.
06:43Do you like having sex when 100 people are watching you from the outside?
06:59How do you dare to have sex when a thousand people are watching you from the inside?
07:17If you are still thinking of the society, are you really with your partner?
07:33People often talk of fidelity, loyalty, people often talk of what it means to cheat on your partner.
07:45Do you know what is the real meaning of cheating?
07:49The real meaning of cheating is this.
07:57Your engagement with your partner is driven not by love for your partner but by some other consideration.
08:12That alone is the right definition of disloyalty or infidelity or cheating.
08:21If you go to your partner just to exploit him or her, extract something from her or to fulfill some responsibility,
08:41then it is cheating.
08:48Cheating is not about seeing another man or woman.
08:53Cheating is about having love that has been corrupted, diluted.
09:08And love is corrupted and diluted when the mind of the lover is a social mind.
09:15Even if offsprings are to be born, they must come just as fruits come to a tree.
09:33In their own time, in their own way, when the tree is mature, when the fruits come, the tree doesn't plant.
09:42The tree doesn't have fruits in order to please other human beings or other trees or anybody.
09:50Kids must come to you just as clouds come to the sky.
10:04When it is their season, then they come uninvited, unplanned.
10:13Kids must come to you just as butterflies come to a flower.
10:25When the flower is young, beautiful, ready, full of aroma.
10:36Then the butterflies come on their own.
10:43The flower does not make arrangements for the butterfly.
10:49Similarly, if to the two of you kids must come, it must be out of love.
11:06And even if you have to make mental considerations, even if you have to involve some planning, the planning must involve only the two of you.
11:25No third person, no third consideration, no law of religion, no force of the society must be allowed to intervene in this something that is so very individual.
11:45The entire life must be worshipped.
12:05And because for the normal human being, sex happens to be such a passionate part of life, sex must especially be worshipped.
12:19Worship is never social.
12:26Even when you are there in a temple along with hundreds of others, yet your relationship with God is purely intimate, individual and pure.
12:41No third party must interfere.
12:55You are talking about the welfare of humankind.
12:59What welfare would happen when you bring one more child to the world?
13:14The population of this planet is already 8 billion.
13:18Kindly explain to me how you are going to benefit the planet by adding one more to the population.
13:34The place that you are living in this country is already terribly overpopulated and you are saying you want to procreate for the benefit of mankind.
13:43How exactly?
13:44What are you thinking?
13:45What are you thinking?
13:50And if your own nest, your own house head appears a little vacant, then bring in an orphan.
14:03An orphan will cheer up your household.
14:16It is not for social responsibility or for social welfare or for the progress of humanity that you probably want to have a child.
14:30Ask yourself, is it not because of social pressure instead that you are feeling the need to conform?
14:41Surely somebody is pressurizing you.
14:47It is the prerogative of the Buddha and the saints to think of human welfare.
14:54And they go into human welfare only after they have done themselves a lot of good.
15:02Only after their own eyes have opened up do they start opening the eyes of the entire world.
15:12Have your own eyes opened up?
15:19Then how are you talking of the welfare of mankind?
15:25Have you been able to come to your own welfare?
15:31Don't you see it is such a bizarre situation?
15:35You do not know your own welfare but you are intending the welfare of the world and that too how?
15:41By having sex and getting a kid.
15:45What exactly is the thinking?
15:49What is the logic?
15:51What is the inner argument?
15:54Are we living in an age where populations have been wiped out by war or plague?
16:08Are we living in a country where the birth rates are so low that the government has to incentivize births?
16:19Are we living as tribes in a jungle that are in the danger of extinction due to their underpopulation?
16:33Are human beings the threatened species of this?
16:41Then how exactly are you thinking of social welfare through reproduction?
16:48Don't you see that it is just absurd?
16:54Instead the matter of fact might be that you are feeling pressurized by social norms or by somebody in particular.
17:05Maybe somebody of the household.
17:08Maybe neighbors, relatives, maybe one of the old ladies in the house who are constantly bugging you to become a father or a mother.
17:23Or maybe the movies that keep on telling you that unless you are a father there is something missing in your life.
17:35If you really intend anybody's welfare and welfare is wonderful.
17:41I love it and respect it when you talk of the welfare of others.
17:46Start with your own welfare.
17:53See what life is like.
17:58Understand what is sex.
18:00Understand what is procreation.
18:03Know what it means to bring a baby to this world.
18:08Know what is the human being and what is the relationship with society must be.
18:14Know what is birth.
18:16Know what is bad for a human being.
18:21Only then you will know that in which lies human welfare.
18:26But of one thing I can assure you.
18:33Social welfare in this time and age does not lie in producing babies.
18:41Not at all.
18:51If you really love kids.
18:52I repeat.
18:53Be a parent to an orphan.
18:58Don't add to this over burdened planet.
18:59It is already reeling under our collective weight.
19:01Don't add to this over burdened planet.
19:18It is already reeling under our collective weight.
19:27The earth does not have resources to feed even the existing population at the current consumption
19:41levels.
19:44From where will it get the resources to feed more people and that too at advanced consumption
19:49levels.
19:50No love.
19:51Be loving towards yourself.
19:52Be loving towards your wife.
20:07Your love will bear fruits of love.
20:19Debbie Gu narcissist WHO Then we will be inbatts with your joining the refugee
20:21family and that is going to save money for the home to your child.
20:22woman that is going to make it absolute peace with her daughter.
