Scott Wolf Spoke About Family 'Challenges' Before Kelley Wolf Divorce
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00:00How do you keep it fun and fresh 20 years later?
00:03I mean, you know, you pick the right person to begin with, and obviously that's the whole thing.
00:09But it's not the whole thing.
00:10You know, I used to say that was the whole thing and believe it was the whole thing.
00:12But no, now, you know, we've lived life.
00:15You know, we've been through a lot.
00:17And we've been very blessed, and most of it has just been incredible.
00:22We've been through challenging things.
00:24And, you know, there's no one I want to talk to more.
00:30There's no one I want to share my experience with more.
00:34She's an incredible mother and human being.
00:38And so because it's all driven by such a fundamental sense of, like, I just like her so much.
00:45And I think she likes me, too, most days.
00:49And we communicate well.
00:51So she's a, you know, a light coach.
00:54And I mean, she is of the highest order.
00:57So she is like a seer and a holder of light and love.
01:03And she's incredible.
01:04So she's always known when we need to talk, you know, when we need to clear something.
01:11And I think for a lot of people, you know, if that communication is tricky or hard or just isn't maintained, you know, then things can just become something, even though they don't necessarily deserve to be something.
01:26You know, you hear so many people talk about, like, how even people who are divorced and, like, I could have made any of those relationships work if I knew what I knew now.
01:34And so I feel like I'm lucky to know with a person who knows now.
01:40And, yeah, I mean, we've got, we're very lucky.
01:44We've got three healthy, beautiful kids, resilient kids.
01:48And, yeah, we've got a lot to, still a lot to do and say.
01:53And we've got, you know, we started, I started late.
01:55So, you know, we've still got a lot of, I've got 15, 12, and 10.
01:58So we're still in it.
02:00You're in it.
02:00You're in.
02:01And you're in.
02:02How do you find happiness?
02:03What is your kind of your definition of happiness?
02:05Oh, man.
02:07Whew.
02:08That's, how would I, I mean, I think, look, like I said, the last few years have presented life in a way that we hadn't experienced before.
02:21And, again, everyone's health is okay.
02:23And we're, you know, these are not life and death issues, but reframing issues, things that have kind of challenges.
02:34And watching, you know, our family go through things that have presented challenges and things to sort of find our way through in ways that have changed the way I see happiness.
02:47And, you know, I think I would have answered this, you know, five years ago, obviously, the health and well-being of my family and, you know, having everyone sort of pursuing things that they enjoy and me doing this work that I love and my wife pursuing the work that she does and is incredible at.
03:06But a lot of it was sort of circumstantial, you know, it was based on, like, how are things going?
03:13And what I've learned is that, you know, if you have the desire to be happy with any consistency, then you'd be better off not having it tied to any house, car, location, circumstance.
03:32And, you know, I think my real happiness these days comes when I'm most grateful, you know, when I'm, you know, where we put our attention, how we put it there in terms of our perspective is everything.
03:50And I used to, I think, be a person who let circumstances dictate where my attention went and how I chose to see things.
03:56And that's changed. And so my happiness today comes from choosing to point my attention at the things that I'm blessed with, the things that I have, not things that I don't or want to be different.
04:12And, you know, the center of that is still the health and well-being of my wife and kids and my family and people I care about.
04:20But in every way, I see the choice to be happy.
04:28Yeah.
04:28And, you know, I've been making that choice lately and that's a new experience for me, but it feels way more sustainable.
04:38Yeah.