How to Build “Good Enough” Friendships as an Adult!

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Feeling isolated or disconnected? You’re not alone. In today’s fast-paced world, many adults struggle to maintain meaningful friendships. This video explores the concept of the “Good Enough” friend—relationships that thrive on authenticity, consistency, and mutual imperfection. In this video, you’ll learn: • The importance of embracing imperfection in friendships.  • How perfectionism can hinder genuine connections.  • Practical tips to cultivate and maintain “good enough” friendships. Discover how letting go of unrealistic expectations can lead to deeper, more fulfilling relationships. Whether you’re navigating new social circles or rekindling old connections, embracing the “good enough” approach can make all the difference.  References: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/here-there-and-everywhere/202503/the-good-enough-friend

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00:00Welcome back Sunbro, we hope you all in great health and great money.

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00:09Alright, today we are going to talk about how to build good enough friendships as an adult.

00:15Feeling lonely, you're not alone, it's a real public health issue and many people want connection

00:19but aren't sure how to get it. Making friends used to be easy in school. As adults, it's harder to

00:25meet and stay close to people. We often blame ourselves or others when friendships feel hard.

00:30But maybe the real issue is our expectations. Instead of perfect friends, maybe we just need

00:35good enough ones. 1. What's a good enough friend? They might reply late, forget things, or cancel

00:41sometimes. But they care, they show up, and they let you be imperfect too. 2. Why perfection gets in the

00:47way. We often imagine a best friend who just gets us, always shows up, and never drops the ball.

00:52But life's messy, people have jobs, families, and struggles. Perfectionism sneaks in through little

00:58things. Expecting fast replies, feeling rejected if they don't reach out, thinking you must be

01:02emotionally available 24-7s, and avoiding people because you're tired. These patterns often come

01:08from past hurt or rejection. You might overcompensate by trying to be perfect, or shut down and stop

01:13trying. But friendship requires risk, not perfection. 3. Vulnerability is scary, but necessary.

01:19You might fear rejection, so you don't reach out, and then feel lonelier. It's okay to feel that way.

01:25But connection takes a small risk, send the text, ask to hang out, follow up. You don't need to be

01:30perfect, just present, real, and open. 4. How to build good enough friendships. Redefine quality

01:37time. A quick text, a walk, or a shared show still counts. Reach out first. Don't keep score. If things

01:43feel one-sided over time, then reassess. Create consistency. Monthly calls or group chats help

01:49friendships stick. Name imperfections. Say, I've been quiet, but I care. It keeps things honest. Focus on

01:55values. You don't have to agree on everything. Just feel safe, respected, and supported.

02:015. Friendship is fluid. It shifts. Distance doesn't mean someone doesn't care. Life gets

02:06busy, and that's normal. Let go of perfection. What we all really need is real, imperfect connection,

02:11and chances are, others feel the same way.

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