JAMES and Saya have a big height difference. Speaking to Love Don't Judge, Saya admitted, "I was terrified when I first met him. He's a foot and ten inches taller than me." Their contrasting heights mean that the couple are often judged online. "People think that I'm a child and he's weird for wanting to be with someone so small," Saya explained. The pair also caused a stir when they got married out of the blue. James said, "We got married at a young age, so lots of judgement on that part." In this episode, they will be having a discussion with James' friend, Tyshaun, to find out how he felt when their pair tied the knot. Tyshaun told James, "Yo, you're a trash friend. I can't sit here and say I was happy!"
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00:00I'm 6'11".
00:01I'm 5'1 1ā2".
00:03People think that I'm a child and that he's weird
00:06for wanting to be with somebody who's so small.
00:08I got married at a young age,
00:10so lots of judgment on that part.
00:12Yo, you a trash friend.
00:14I can't sit here and say I was happy.
00:18Let's get started.
00:19I'm Sia, and this is my husband, James,
00:22and I was terrified when I first met him.
00:24He is a foot and 10 inches taller than me.
00:27Can you get the plates if I break them?
00:33I got you.
00:37My pleasure.
00:38We met online on Discord.
00:40I joined the server.
00:41I had no friends, but I wanted to make friends
00:43that were 18 and older like me.
00:45We just kind of started, you know, talking from there.
00:48If I'm in the laundry room and I'm trying to get the detergent
00:50and it's on the top shelf,
00:52James, come help me.
00:54He's like, okay, yeah.
00:56Or like having to get any plates or anything or cereal.
01:00Yeah, he'll help me out.
01:01They should just put things lower,
01:03but it's okay, though.
01:04It's okay.
01:05I'm sorry. It's just instinct.
01:06I grew up in a tall household.
01:08Everybody could reach everything.
01:10It's been about like three to four years since we met.
01:14We got married six months ago.
01:17We got married at a young age.
01:18I'm 23. She's 22.
01:20We got a lot of eyes on the fact that we got married as early as we did.
01:24So lots of, lots of judgment on that part.
01:27We also received judgment for the way that we got married.
01:31You know, it's understandable.
01:32It was meant to just be a little bit of like a private thing.
01:36My friend Tyshawn, he will be coming on over today.
01:39I think you've done a pretty good job, you know, making this spread right here.
01:42I know he likes his chicken, but we don't got that.
01:45He'll live.
01:46We vegetarians.
01:47He won't have to take what we got right now.
01:49Plus, he's almost here.
01:50So I don't, I can't really do too much in such short time.
01:53You will be expressing his opinions and will not be holding back as he normally does.
01:58That's just completely in his character.
02:00He's been very transparent when it comes to our relationship.
02:04Hello, Ty.
02:05Yo.
02:06I know we've touched on this a little bit before.
02:08Like, what was your genuine feelings when I called you up and I just told you, you know,
02:13that I got married after we haven't been talking for like months?
02:16Yo, you a trash friend.
02:18Um, to be real with you, bro.
02:22I can't sit here and say I was happy.
02:24I mean, I was happy for you.
02:26Most definitely.
02:27I'll never sit there and deny your success or deny your happiness.
02:30But we hadn't talked till like 12 months at that point, bro.
02:33And you was ghost.
02:34You was off the face of the earth.
02:36And I get a call at like 7 PM.
02:39The last time we talked, me and Sam was in a rough spot.
02:42Yeah, we married now.
02:44What am I supposed to say?
02:45And I heard you guys had the ceremony and I wasn't even invited.
02:49So, I give it to you, bro.
02:52I'm so happy for you.
02:53I'm so happy that you guys is bonded strong, but.
02:55Bruh.
02:58I'm sorry.
02:59It was an intense training arc.
03:02That's the best thing I could say.
03:04The income from most people was bittersweet.
03:08Feelings about not being there and then congratulations with being married.
03:13A lot of people felt hurt.
03:15It comes with the turf, bro.
03:17What you guys, you know, did, is a very bold move.
03:21I could wear it as a dress.
03:23Yes.
03:24Like, I don't know, pantsuit or something.
03:26When we first met, I didn't even know how he looked.
03:29He didn't know how I looked.
03:30I'm 6'11".
03:31I'm 5'1 and a half, but.
03:33She's 5'1".
03:34I'll say 5'2".
03:35I'll say 5'2".
03:365'1".
03:37These are so small.
03:38I'm sorry.
03:40I'm sorry.
03:41I'm sorry.
03:42At first when he told me over a discord, I thought he was insane.
03:45I was just like, okay, whatever.
03:46Sure.
03:47You're 6'11".
03:48Sure.
03:49If you want to be that, you're that.
03:50I didn't really care.
03:51Honestly.
03:52I didn't think about it until I met him in person for the first time.
03:54And I was like, is that him?
03:56Of course that's him.
03:57But like, what the heck?
03:58I was baffled.
03:59I was terrified.
04:00I was terrified.
04:01Yes.
04:02All right, James, go change into your outfit.
04:05It's missing a belt, but.
04:07That's okay.
04:08Make it work.
04:09Make it work.
04:10When I first met James, I felt like his style was, it wasn't bad.
04:15It was just lacking a little.
04:16He was wearing all kinds of colors.
04:17He didn't really know how to match, which is fine.
04:20But after I've met him and like, we've been together and everything, he's better at,
04:24you know, color coordinating and everything.
04:26Yes.
04:27Bah, bah, boom.
04:29Oh, you look so cute.
04:32I'll take it.
04:33Cause I didn't know that you could put flannels and hoodies together until you told me.
04:38And I like opened like a whole new world to my style.
04:41You did a great job picking on my outfit.
04:43Oh.
04:44Oh.
04:46Oh, you're welcome.
04:47Oh, I will be back.
04:49I can't put a name on her style because it is her style.
04:54She always looks good in whatever she puts on, even if it's a super casual fit.
04:59I just don't understand how she does it.
05:02You look great with me.
05:03It's giving.
05:04It's giving.
05:05It's giving.
05:06It's giving.
05:08I was not at all expecting to be with somebody so tall.
05:10At all.
05:11Dun, dun, dun, dun, dun, dun, dun, dun, dun, dun, dun, dun.
05:14I'll spin you now.
05:15Me?
05:16Fit.
05:18Yes.
05:19Yes.
05:20And people say a lot of stuff, a lot of crazy stuff.
05:23Not the peace sign.
05:25Not the peace sign.
05:26Yes.
05:27And we're outside and we do our little videos.
05:30No, not the dance.
05:31Not the dance either.
05:32Just normal.
05:33Just normal.
05:34Having to see you can F that little dog all the time in the comment sections on the growth
05:41of our journey.
05:43And even now, it's insane.
05:48I thought that was her dad.
05:50Nah, that's crazy.
05:52Why would you do that to someone that's a child?
05:55How about a child?
05:56Uncle, why are you dressed as a woman?
05:59That's a boy and a boy.
06:00This is a little illegal.
06:02My fault.
06:03I didn't know that I couldn't pursue romance legally.
06:07People think that I'm a child and that he's weird for wanting to be with somebody who's
06:12so small and clearly something's wrong with him because he wants to be with someone who's
06:16not his own size.
06:17That's right there.
06:18It sucks, but it's like, you know, people are going to have their opinions and I just
06:23felt they're very close minded.
06:24If you asked me the same question, like maybe two years ago, I would have been like, oh my
06:28gosh, like I'm just so tired of people commenting.
06:31No, but I'm very used to it at this point.
06:33So it is what it is.
06:34They just kind of give us more engagement, which is okay.
06:37There's been some times where, you know, I've had to come support you because of the comments
06:41and stuff like that nature.
06:42So it's definitely aided to us becoming stronger.
06:46What did you think of, you know, when me and Sam first got together?
06:51I thought you was going to mess it up.
06:52I don't think you should ever open up with you a 6 out of 10 to any woman or man.
06:57I don't think that's going to continue off as a beautiful relationship.
07:01But you guys, with the will of God, surprised through everything that I personally thought
07:05was going to happen for your relationship.
07:07And you truly have gotten stronger together.
07:09I personally thought it was going to be just another couple months of happy, sweet romance
07:15then you guys was going to send it or you guys would just go with it.
07:21But neither of that happened.
07:22You guys truly got way stronger than I could ever think and got married.
07:27So that's a different thing in itself.
07:30We appreciate that.
07:31I feel like we should sit here and mention the fact that me, you weren't exactly Christian
07:37when we first met bro.
07:38So how was your conversion to Christianity?
07:41Oh, when I first met James, the first thing I told him was, I will never date you.
07:47I know that sounds horrible.
07:49Okay, wait.
07:50I just said, I don't date people who aren't Christian.
07:54And I said, my beliefs are my beliefs, yours are yours.
07:58All we do is play games together and have fun.
08:00One day I decided to kind of ask her, hey, are you trying to play some games?
08:04It was a Saturday and she told me that she couldn't.
08:09She explained to me that it was her Sabbath day.
08:11You know, she couldn't play because it didn't honor or glorify God in any way.
08:15So I decided I was going to join her.
08:17From there, everything just kind of like spiraled into me just kind of learning more about Christianity.
08:24That's really like the best reason as to why I decided Christianity was the way to go.
08:31My friends, you know, they were also cool with it, too.
08:35But, you know, they were just kind of a little resistant to some of my changes that I had going on, you know,
08:40which made sense because I wouldn't do certain things that I used to do.
08:43My family, they were a little skeptical, but they've been more than supportive.
08:48You remember when I was first going through those changes and the first thing you said to me is that you didn't like it.
08:55You didn't like how I was changing.
08:58You felt like I was becoming a different person.
09:00And I was becoming a different person.
09:02I didn't like the fact that you was changing.
09:05And that was mostly because there was a fear in me, a very real fear in me that I was going to lose my best friend.
09:12But slowly I realized that that fear wasn't me losing you.
09:17That fear was me losing out on growing.
09:22What do you think about our relationship now?
09:24I got more faith in you, bro.
09:28I truly don't believe that there's any chance you guys are going to separate.
09:32I don't.
09:33You guys are truly, truly better off now than I've ever seen before.
09:37And I've seen James go through many relationships.
09:42Thank you for coming through.
09:43And next up, I'm going to take you guys out to dinner.
09:46All right.
09:47I appreciate it.
09:48That would be nice.
09:49That would be nice.
09:50Love you.
09:51Love you.
09:53Have a good one, man.
09:54You too, bro.
09:55Bye.
09:58It was nice to see him.
09:59It was nice.
10:00Yes.
10:01Your personality is original.
10:03The best way I can always say is you are authentically yourself.
10:07That's why I love you.
10:08I never felt so safe in a relationship ever.
10:11I'm just very thankful to have you in my life.
10:13I would say personally to those who judge us, that's okay.
10:16That's your opinion.
10:17That's not going to change the way we love each other.
10:20Thank you for the support.
10:22Even though you're judging, it's still a form of support because you bring more views.
10:26So thank you.
10:31Thank you, everyone.
10:33All right.