Benito Skinner swears he’s pretty decent at relationship advice—always championing the person who needs it most. In this episode of “If It Were Me,” the ‘Overcompensating’ creator and star tackles real Cosmo confessays, from letting your freak flag fly during dirty talk to deciding whether a partner who only wants to hook up in their car is a literal driving red flag. Benny shares his hot takes on cheaters (having an ex counts!), offers hope to anyone still waiting to make their partner’s IG grid, and when it’s time to confess your love to your best friend—he’ll be right there next to you for emotional support.
Watch ‘Overcompensating’ on Prime Video May 15th.
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Watch ‘Overcompensating’ on Prime Video May 15th.
#BenitoSkinner #BennyDrama #Overcompensating #IfItWereMe #Cosmopolitan
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00:00This, ugh, don't let Gracie Abrams hear this,
00:02she will write a hit song.
00:04Promise me.
00:05Don't give her this, she will write a hit.
00:07Hi, I'm Benito Skinner and this is If It Were Me.
00:12Today I'm going through real life confesses,
00:15that's a word, from real Cosmo readers
00:18and telling you how I would handle the situation.
00:20As far as relationship advice, I think I'm pretty decent
00:23because I really champion the person.
00:26I'm just like, it shouldn't be that hard.
00:29And if it is, I think that's a red flag.
00:31Breathe with me.
00:35Here we go.
00:36Last from the past.
00:38When helping my girlfriend move out of her old place,
00:40I discovered a box of mementos from her ex under her bed.
00:45Oh, this, I could answer now, but I'll finish,
00:47I'll let him finish.
00:48Okay, love letters, jewelry, ticket stubs?
00:55When I asked about it, she brushed me off.
00:58Whoa, am I wrong to be bothered by this?
01:01Hey, darling, no.
01:02I kind of think plenty of things are cheating.
01:04Like, I think my boyfriend having any exes is cheating on me.
01:07I think him talking to any of them, cheating.
01:09I think him following any of them, cheating.
01:12Like, all of that is disgusting
01:13and you should have known I was gonna come around.
01:15To me, this is one of those things,
01:16if I found that box, I'd burn it.
01:19I'd say, yeah, your ticket stubs are gone.
01:21This is crazy.
01:22Why is she holding onto ticket stubs?
01:24That's like, that's hoarding.
01:26And there's a whole other problem there,
01:28but jewelry?
01:30Love letters?
01:31That means she wants to go through that again.
01:33There's unfinished business.
01:35If you're that hung up on an ex,
01:37you gotta live in the now with me.
01:39You know what I mean?
01:41Failure to launch.
01:43My girlfriend of a year posts on TikTok
01:45and Instagram for a living.
01:48But she never, and I mean never,
01:50posts me on her socials.
01:51Did I write this?
01:53This is, how do I let her know this bothers me
01:55without pushing her away?
01:57This is tricky because I think it could be
02:00just a privacy thing.
02:01Like, especially if this is what they do for a living,
02:03maybe they don't wanna bring you into the lore
02:05of their followers and are like,
02:06you're not ready yet for that.
02:08And they know best, I would say.
02:10But you could be like,
02:12hey, are you proud of me?
02:13This kinda hurts my feelings.
02:15But I wouldn't make too much of a deal about it
02:16because I think, you know,
02:18it's gonna happen in time.
02:19If they posted a lot of their exes but not you yet,
02:22you gotta step your game up.
02:24And I know you can.
02:25And I have so much faith.
02:27But you're gonna make it to grid.
02:29But it's gonna be hard.
02:30It's a journey.
02:30And you can't just expect that to happen like that.
02:33You have to earn that spot.
02:35You know, a grid post?
02:37In this algorithm?
02:39The Filthy Talker.
02:41I asked this girl to talk dirty to me,
02:42and she went full throttle.
02:44Okay, I love her.
02:46Diva.
02:47Okay, saying things I've never heard in my life.
02:50It's throwing me off,
02:51but I don't wanna embarrass her since I asked for it.
02:53How do I keep the vibe going without losing my cool?
02:56This?
02:57You know what?
02:58I don't wanna assume gender here,
03:00but this sounds like a straight dude wrote this.
03:02And I feel like there's always this, you know,
03:04they want the virgin, but then they want the nasty girl.
03:06And I'm just like, you asked for this and she's given it.
03:09And I love that.
03:10I think let her freak flag fly.
03:13You asked for it.
03:14I need to know what she's saying though.
03:16I hope she's like, you're so pathetic.
03:18You know what I mean?
03:19Like I hope it's like so, God, I love her.
03:22I wanna cast her in my next project immediately.
03:24I'm like, that's a star.
03:25Maybe you're limiting yourself.
03:27Maybe you're like finding out something about her
03:29that you didn't know was there.
03:31Lean into it.
03:32You can surprise her too.
03:34I think you have to marry that girl.
03:35Good vibrations.
03:36Oh, this is, that is such a Cosmo.
03:38You know what I mean?
03:39That's so Cosmo.
03:41When my boyfriend and I were discussing ways
03:42to spice things up in our relationship,
03:45he suggested I wear vibrating panties while out at dinner
03:48and give him the remote.
03:50Am I crazy for considering it?
03:54We've all seen the ads, right?
03:56The TikTok ads of these?
03:57Or is my algorithm like you freak, enjoy?
04:00I don't think you're crazy for considering it.
04:02If you're comfortable with it, sure.
04:05Yeah, where are you going to dinner, I ask.
04:07That's, cause I can't answer until I know that.
04:10It just depends on the place.
04:11Sugarfish, I think could be great.
04:13No, I'm kidding.
04:15I think maybe try them before you go out
04:17and make sure you enjoy it
04:18so you're not in public having to do that.
04:21Cause if they're cranking it up to 10
04:23and your, your salmon roll just hit,
04:26you know, like, I don't want you to,
04:28I don't want you to have to be like,
04:30turn it the down.
04:32Like I'm trying to order a Diet Coke, you know?
04:34The friend zone.
04:36This is going to be tough.
04:38I am falling in love with my best friend of five years
04:40and don't know what to do.
04:42This is so sad.
04:44I can't stop thinking about her
04:45and wishing our relationship could be romantic,
04:47but she's dating someone else.
04:50Do I risk everything and tell her how I feel?
04:52Oh my God, this, don't let Gracie Abrams hear this.
04:57She will write a hit song.
04:58Promise me, don't give her this.
05:00She will write a hit.
05:02I think it's always great to share your feelings.
05:05They might just be like, oh my God,
05:06you've been in front of me the whole time.
05:08And you're like, yeah, you know what I mean?
05:10That could be such a great moment for you too,
05:12but I think you have to, or you have to make space.
05:15Cause you don't want to like,
05:16if they're in a relationship,
05:18you're really in a shitty situation
05:20and I feel for you and I love you.
05:22Um, but I think you have to tell her how you feel
05:25and I can be there.
05:27I should be there with you at a diner.
05:29I'm like, say it, you know what I mean?
05:31She's across the table, say it, tell her.
05:33But yeah, I think you gotta,
05:35you gotta get it out of your system
05:37because if not, it'll just feel like bigger
05:39and consume you more.
05:40And yeah, you gotta get it out there.
05:43Push to start.
05:44I've been seeing this guy for a few months
05:46and I'm really into him.
05:47The issue is he only ever wants to do the deed in his car.
05:50I've suggested going to his place,
05:52but he always has an excuse.
05:54Is this a major red flag?
05:56Um, yeah, that's a little,
06:02if it's only in the car, yeah.
06:04I think it can be fun to do it in a car.
06:06I don't think that's the only place you should.
06:09So maybe you just say that to him.
06:12Maybe he thinks you just really love it in the car.
06:14I think it's a major red flag though,
06:15to be perfectly honest.
06:16And I think you have to,
06:17you have to talk to him about it.
06:19And if he's like, sorry, I only f***ing cars.
06:22Like that, I'm just like, ugh, no.
06:24No thanks.
06:26Thank you so much for watching
06:27and make sure to check out
06:28Overcompensating on Prime Video.
06:30I'm sorry.
06:36I'm sorry.
06:38But yeah, I'm sorry.
06:40No WHATEذا?
06:42Yes, I remember.
06:44I wonder how long are you looking for thepiece of the Hgrade digger?
06:46It doesn't matter.
06:49Here's your degree
06:49but here on April.
06:52There's a bigger building
06:53which is pretty dramatic before I could.
06:55You