- 4/22/2025
Therapy Thursday: Why Did The Bucs Sign Baker Mayfield?
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00:00All right, Therapy Thursday is here. It's for you to use this service. We fractured a few laws, so we got to do this for our penance.
00:07All right, so 888-429-0941, you can pull up and text us or call. All right, Meredith, you on?
00:14Yes, I am.
00:15Dr. Dabi, you on duty?
00:17Moderately. One foot in, one foot out.
00:19Usually you're so aggressive, you're like, I'm on it.
00:22Yeah, today?
00:23Not today.
00:24All I could go wrong.
00:24No sleeping.
00:25Real quick.
00:25The lab coat is open.
00:27All right, let's see here. What we got?
00:30This has one that just came in and out of 561. That's a little long.
00:35I have one.
00:35What do we got?
00:36It says, I have a friend who's starting to act strange with me.
00:39We've been close girlfriends for years with her coming over for pool parties and other fun family events,
00:44but recently I just made a new girlfriend and she's gotten extremely jealous.
00:48I went out with my new girlfriend last week for a couple of hours and posted a few photos on socials,
00:53and now she isn't even speaking to me.
00:55I've called and texted, but she hasn't hit me back yet.
00:59I love her.
00:59I want to fix the situation, but I don't want to feed into her issue.
01:03I mean, that's just, that's, it's a tribute to somebody, you know, being insecure, but also being a good friend of yours.
01:10They feel like you're trading them out.
01:12Yeah.
01:12And, you know, so if you really care about the friend, you probably want to just clear it up and make sure they understand it.
01:17Just because you got a new friend doesn't mean that you don't want your old ones.
01:21Right.
01:22And it's just an insecurity.
01:23It's just somebody who's been hurt or treated badly by another friend and you catching the brunt of what they did.
01:29She's getting a little territorial.
01:31Yes.
01:31It's low-key kind of cute.
01:33But invite, I think the three of you guys should try to do something.
01:37Introduce your new friend with your old friend.
01:40You'll probably have, you know, similar tastes in people.
01:44They'll probably get along well.
01:45Maybe.
01:45Listen, if they, if they, if you have them, if they have you in common, I should say, then they probably have a good chance of, of hanging out just as long as neither one of them try and get territorial.
01:56Right.
01:57So everybody get together.
01:58This one out of the 813 says, my dad is about to be homeless.
02:01We have a very strained relationship and I just don't have it in me to let him move in with me.
02:07Am I wrong for this or is my sanity something that needs to be protected?
02:14That's a tough situation.
02:15You don't want your parents out on the street.
02:18If somebody has to, I mean, it's your parents.
02:20So they did everything for you.
02:22Usually when you're growing up, I mean, the least you can do is try to help out their situation.
02:26In the meantime, you can't, if, if they're having like mental health issues or something, you can also put them on the right path.
02:32It's just got a strained relationship.
02:34It says, yeah, it, you know, that's hard, but you don't want your parent out on the street.
02:38You don't want your parent out on the street.
02:39I think it's about coming up with a plan.
02:42Yeah.
02:42Your involvement in the plan is going to be very unique to the situation and just how strange, strained the relationship is.
02:49But helping them, okay, this is, we need X amount of money for you to get first, last security so you're not homeless.
02:56This is how much you make.
02:57This is how long it'll take.
02:58Put it on paper and try to take steps towards that.
03:02All right.
03:02I like that.
03:03We have one out of the 863.
03:06Davi, you might have to lead this one.
03:08Okay.
03:08Meredith, you can feel free to.
03:10Okay.
03:10But I'm going to read it and I'm going to watch you roll your eyes.
03:13All right.
03:14It says, good morning, freak show.
03:15My question is for therapy Thursday.
03:17Why did the Buccaneers sign Baker Mayfield?
03:19Explain that to me.
03:21That's a good question because I don't really understand why either.
03:25Wow.
03:25We're in need of a quarterback.
03:27I mean, we needed a quarterback.
03:28Okay.
03:28That's point one.
03:29Point one.
03:30We have a budget.
03:31Okay.
03:32That's a very point to a lot of the players that were at the top of the list.
03:37Probably would have put us over budget.
03:40Also, a lot of the players that were at the top of the list weren't necessarily looking at us as one of the places that they would like to land because we're in a bit of a rebuilding process.
03:53Also, you'd be following Tom Brady at the same time.
03:56And that's not a bad thing.
03:57But, yeah, that's a part of it, too.
03:59You'd be following Tom Brady, so that comparison would be a lot for some people.
04:02Yep.
04:03On the other side of it, Baker Mayfield isn't a horrible quarterback.
04:07He made some horrible decisions when he was young.
04:10He got drafted when he was, like, 21, 22.
04:12Wow.
04:12So you could be dumb at 21, 22.
04:14Now he's a married guy, so I would have been worried about bringing him to Tampa if he was single.
04:19Okay.
04:19He's been married for four years to his wife and whatever.
04:24So I think that this is a good opportunity because he got enough chip on his shoulder to try his best.
04:30You saw him at the Rams, and he didn't play terribly.
04:33Okay.
04:33Like, they actually, he won.
04:35I think he got there Thursday or Tuesday.
04:38He got there Tuesday and played Sunday, and they won.
04:41And so they were like, yo, that's fast.
04:43That's a fast study.
04:44So if he's that kind of guy, and he's going to compete because you got Kyle Trask still there, you know, they're going to let him compete.
04:51I think it's a good look because he's young enough to have that swag to be able to still play.
04:56Right.
04:57And at the moment, the Bucs aren't necessarily looked at as a contender, and most of those top-tier quarterbacks want to go to a contender.
05:05For sure.
05:05They do.
05:06I mean, you couldn't get Lamar Jackson.
05:08Nah.
05:08Because we ain't had the money for him.
05:09We ain't had the money.
05:09You know, yeah.
05:10We ain't got the line for him.
05:11Hell, we ain't had the money for Garoppolo.
05:14So I think that's where you get Shake and Bake.
05:15That's his new nickname, by the way.
05:17Shake and Bake for you?
05:17Shake and Bake.
05:18All right.
05:18I like it.
05:19Shake and Bake.
05:19Or either Bake Six, but a lot of people don't know Take Six.
05:22Bake Six.
05:22Yeah, Bake Six.
05:23Yeah, I don't know.
05:24Well, because he wears the number six, and his name is Baker.
05:26We don't like it.
05:27So Bake Six is like, because it's like Take Six.
05:31Never mind.
05:31All right.
05:32So, yeah.
05:32So Shake and Bake is what I'm going with.
05:34All right?
05:34Shake and Bake is the nickname.
05:36Use that.
05:36What else we got?
05:38We got one out to 813.
05:39It says, my wife suggested that she wants to go to a swingers party, but just to watch.
05:44She was invited by a friend she knows who goes with her husband.
05:48I'm not totally against it, but I'm a little taken back that she would bring this up.
05:53It feels dirty, but probably a really fun experience.
05:56Any ideas?
05:57It's dirty.
05:57You got to be on the same page about this.
06:00Okay?
06:00You guys got to have a full-blown conversation.
06:02This is a lifestyle change.
06:04You're a little dibble and dabble in, and you just start to dip your toes in.
06:08Yeah, that's very close into leaning on into another lifestyle completely.
06:14So, you know what?
06:14Don't be afraid to—it's okay, but at least talk about it.
06:17Make sure if anybody feels uncomfortable and has any boundaries, you bring those up as well.
06:22I will tell you, I have a good friend of mine who is recently married, maybe two, three years into marriage,
06:27and they go to all of those spots.
06:30Interesting.
06:31Like, I get a text maybe once every three, four weeks, like, hey, so what's a good space tonight?
06:36But it's just like, because I want to go treat my man to a strip club.
06:40Like, he's had a great week, and I want to go, you know, take him out.
06:44But they've also always started it at that eyes-wide-shut spot where they go watch people and get that whole thing going.
06:51They started there.
06:52Yeah, like, they start the night there and go gravitate towards, like, another spot.
06:57And I'm like—
06:57Usually you end the night there.
06:58Right?
06:58I mean, listen.
06:59That's what I thought the older operation was.
07:01They definitely know their way around some places.
07:04So anytime I see something promoted, I'll send it to them and say, hey, have y'all tried this?
07:08They're like, oh, yeah, we know those people.
07:10I'm like, damn.
07:10Like, so they really into the life.
07:12Yeah.
07:13And I didn't know this about her before, and maybe it was because it wasn't, like, presented,
07:18but they are equally yoked and out there getting it.
07:21I think that's the key right there because it seems like she's a lot more gung-hoed in
07:26the email than he is.
07:28So, like, when one person is all about it and the other person is, like, basically doing
07:33it to make you happy, I think that's where it goes wrong.
07:36That's where it gets a little left right there.
07:37All right.
07:37We'll squeeze in a few more.
07:39Therapy Thursday part dos.
07:41Dos?
07:42Do?
07:42Yeah.
07:42Do.
07:43All right.
07:43Part do.
07:44Do.
07:44All right.
07:44We got your dolls and texts coming in.
07:48Let's see here.
07:49We have went on a first date at a coffee shop.
07:53This is out of the 850.
07:54All right.
07:55Went on a coffee, the first date at the coffee shop, and the guy is cute and accomplished,
08:00but our conversation seemed to only be about games and Zodiac, just light conversation,
08:05no matter how I tried to shift the conversation.
08:08I was over it, but he thought it went well, and he has asked me to go out for a second date.
08:15I don't really care about all of the stuff he was talking about.
08:18How do I approach this, and why do people care about Zodiac stuff so much?
08:23We're in our 30s.
08:24We're not kids.
08:25Okay.
08:26Take a step back.
08:27Everybody has their hobbies and things that they like.
08:29You don't have to be on the same page and, like, I mean, 100% of the stuff is your partner.
08:34I'm married to somebody that is addicted to sports 24-7.
08:38You think I'm going to sit down and watch all the games?
08:40No, but he's into it, and you've got to respect that.
08:42I would definitely give this guy a second chance to see if the conversation can shift to other areas
08:47and see if it's going to be too much for you to handle, but I think that you can deal with it.
08:51I think you should tell him, listen, bro, I don't care.
08:54It's early enough.
08:56You're on date two.
08:57Put all your cards on the table and be like, listen, I don't care about your silly Zodiac games.
09:01Silly?
09:02Call it what you will.
09:03You can't say silly.
09:04Yes, you can.
09:05That's highly disrespectful.
09:07Yeah, it is.
09:07But I think when you said it, you knew it was disrespectful.
09:10Right, because you know what?
09:11If the shoe was on the other foot, I would want to know if I'm absolutely boring you with my conversation.
09:17Maybe sugarcoat it a little bit more than what I said.
09:20But let it be known that, like, okay, what else can we talk about?
09:24Because if there isn't too much else, there might not be too much there, and it might not be the one for you.
09:29If you are with somebody on a first date, it's almost like an interview.
09:33You're trying to get them into what you're into.
09:35You don't have to bring them over to your side, but you do want to kind of introduce something that you're into.
09:40They don't have to love what you love, but if I'm giving you my best interview conversation, I'm telling you what I'm into.
09:47You're probably going to talk to them about, hey, your business or your whatever, and give them some sort of 411 there.
09:53And they're like, ah, I don't care.
09:55That would hurt your heart.
09:56It would, but it might also show you that you two aren't compatible.
10:00Because if you can't have just regular basic conversation, and he can't switch the subject to something else, then, like, you know, do you want to work on this for years until you realize that this ain't the guy for me?
10:11No, but that's why having a second date, you'll figure it out.
10:13Maybe your Zodiac would have told you that.
10:16If you actually read it.
10:18Look at your Zodiac sign.
10:19We got one out the 727.
10:21It says, at what point can I discipline my girlfriend's son?
10:25He's nine years old, and he's just bad.
10:27Dad isn't around at all.
10:29We've been together since he was five.
10:31We live in separate houses, but we see each other almost every day, if not every other day.
10:37She says she trusts my judgment, but I do kind of feel strange about it.
10:40Okay.
10:41She's going to trust your judgment until you put your hands on her child.
10:43Right.
10:43Talk about it.
10:44Because you don't live in that house.
10:45Yes, and when you live in the house and y'all are together, y'all been together for four years, but you still aren't, like, an authority figure to that kid.
10:54So leave that to the mama.
10:56You have to be in that house and every day and earn the right to step to that kid with some sort of authority.
11:03You can't just put your hands on somebody because you're smashing their mom.
11:06Right, but I also, you don't have to put your hands on them to help with child rearing.
11:11Sometimes you got to.
11:12Right.
11:12Sometimes you got to get your kids and hold them married.
11:14You got to smush them in the mouth.
11:17Listen, listen, listen.
11:18You want to make it to six?
11:20Like, you got to let them know sometime.
11:22It sounds like this child could use a little bit of guidance as well.
11:25And child rearing in the right way by talking to the mom, I think, could be done.
11:30It's not your job.
11:31You're not the daddy.
11:32I get that, but he needs a male figure in his life as well.
11:35He does.
11:36But mama is the only parent on duty right now.
11:40You're just smashing moms.
11:42But they've known each other for, he's known the kid for four or five years.
11:45But you still can't step to that kid until mom gives you the pass.
11:50For sure.
11:50So you need to have a conversation with mama and see what her expectations are on your participation.
11:54Was that pass given when she said, I trust your judgment?
11:57I think so.
11:58Was that like a cry for help?
12:00Please.
12:01Help me.
12:02My hands aren't big enough.
12:04Get your belt.
12:05She's like, can't you take him like this?
12:06No, I mean, realistically, though, like mom is saying, I trust your judgment in the space
12:11I gave you.
12:11Right.
12:12I gave you a certain space and I trust you totally in that space.
12:16But don't overstep your boundaries just because you think something physical gives you the
12:20right.
12:21That's true.
12:21Don't overdo it.
12:23Yeah.
12:23Don't play yourself like that.
12:23Talk with her first.
12:24That kid going to grow up and punch you back.
12:27So now's your time.
12:28You're bigger than him.
12:29All right.
12:31We got one more.
12:32This is out of the 941.
12:33It says, my wife started the year on her annual I'm a do better plan.
12:37New year, new me, baby.
12:38New year, new me.
12:39That's right.
12:40She said, new workout outfits.
12:42Okay.
12:43Re-upped her gym membership.
12:45Don't forget to stretch.
12:45And now the third week in March, she's over it again.
12:50This has been the fifth year in a row that we've supported it, changed everyone in the
12:55household's schedule around it, and now it's over again.
12:58And yes, again, she has gained more weight when it's said and done.
13:03Next year, when this happens again, am I the a-hole for not playing this game again?
13:08No, you're not at all.
13:10You're just, I mean, how many times you need to be told something and it's a complete lie.
13:13Although it sounds like she could use a little bit more motivation right around the time when
13:16she's going to fall off.
13:17And you know when she's going to fall off.
13:19Why don't you help out or go to the gym with her or buy her another outfit?
13:22This is not this guy's fault.
13:24You are not going to spin this into making this on him.
13:27And that's when you need to step up your motivation, buddy.
13:33A new outfit needs to be ordered expeditiously.
13:37You can go to Lululemon.
13:39They have so many options.
13:40You can be better.
13:41Like, you was about to flip it on him.
13:43I was not.
13:44I was trying to see if he could maybe help her, push her in the right direction.
13:47We know people that are like this.
13:50Every year, they say they're going to lose weight.
13:52And then after a few months, it's done and over with.
13:54But why does he have to play along?
13:57I wouldn't anymore.
13:58Five years in a row, he's done this, bought the outfits, moved everybody around.
14:02He's like, next year when it happens, can't I just be like, all right, go ahead, do your thing?
14:07I agree.
14:07Yes, 100%.
14:08Because you haven't earned their help this time.
14:10She likes lying to herself, but he's done with the lies between the two of them.
14:15Right.
14:15And I think that's healthy for their relationship.
14:17I agree.
14:18You need to be like, listen here.
14:19Uh-huh.
14:20Like, you quit smoking, but I smell you.
14:22You smell like smoke.
14:23Right, right.
14:23Like, you know what I mean?
14:24Like, you got to call them out.
14:25If you're a real partner, call out your partner.
14:27Right.
14:28I tried to just get her a new outfit.
14:29Maybe that would inspire her.
14:30Yeah, never mind.
14:31You always want to shop.
14:33All right, man?
14:33Therapy Thursday is over.
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